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Posted: 9/18/2006 10:03:28 AM | That's a reasonable list...but only if you can bring the same things to the table.
I read the 'lets you be a man' line to mean each sex has traits that are almost unescapable for most, don't really mean much in the big picture, but tend to annoy the opposite sex like crazy.
Letting you be a man (or woman) is your partner realizing this & just letting the annoyance go. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2006 10:43:17 AM | Great list but...... poking fun with the questions.....
#10 - She's independent----Q: Is it because he can not be depended on?
#9 - She's Intelligent---- Q: Is she expected to be ''speechless''?
#8 - She's Sexual-------- Q:What is wrong with him??
#7 - She's Beautiful------ Q: Is he a handsome dude?
#6 - She respects you----- Q:What is there not to respect about you? spit it out!:)
#5 - She lets you be a man--Q:Don't you know how to be a man? Do you have to ask permission to be a man?
#4 - She's nagless ---- Q: Is she stupid/ dumb? Are you a good listener?
#3 - She gets along with friends & family---Q:The friends & family are not insane, are they?:)
#2 - She loves you---Q:What is there not to love about you?? Are you not lovable?
#1 - She makes you want to be a better man-- well... not more Qs but comment..You better be a REAL man or be a better man, If you want to keep a woman with all the 10 traits!!!
The man must define himself and look closely at himself--Is he really a man? Or Are there any rooms for improvement willingly on his own to be a better man.
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Posted: 9/18/2006 11:36:15 AM | The number of women defending nagging made me arch an eyebrow.
I think most of you would have understood a similar list of requirements from a man if the list had included, "He lets you be a woman." It is entirely possible for a mate, a partner, a girlfriend or a boyfriend to undermine what it means to be a man, or a woman.
What the article is saying is that a good girlfriend doesn't do that.
I would think this would be self-evident, but I've certainly been wrong before. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2006 6:08:31 PM | You forgot one....she's witty! As Mr. Big says "after awhile you just want to be with the one that makes you laugh, know what I mean?" | |
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Posted: 9/18/2006 6:26:33 PM | i work in a male dominated industry,i don't ever recall anyone saying that they like to be 'nagged'.
i put guys(or gals)who like this kind of treatment as prime candidates for therapy.
fyi,blue collar guys discuss relationships quite a lot,most are more sensitive than many would think.
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Posted: 9/28/2006 6:03:37 AM | | No girls , take this list and aspire to be the kind of woman that makes your man well and truly happen and if you can bake him a cake too hell your prob the perfection. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 6:10:35 AM | I actually posted this same list in another thread last week. It had some descriptions which I think made the qualities even easier to understand. Here it is:
How do you know if she really is the right woman for you? If she possesses the following 10 traits, you better hold on to her...
10. She's independent
If she has her very own personality and opinions, can stand on her own two feet, both financially and emotionally.
9. She's intelligent
A woman who can meet you at an intellectual level is a total turn-on. An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes. She won't let you get bored of her. Besides, it's nice to have something to talk about between all that chandelier-hanging sex.
8. She's sexual
A great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible with you. This doesn't imply that she has to know all the right moves straight away; it simply means that you and she have an undeniable attraction towards each other, and are able to communicate your desires.
7. She's beautiful
A great girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself-- matching lingerie is a definite plus. Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
6. She respects you
This means that she listens to you, even if she doesn't necessarily agree with what you're saying. And, of course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in any way, shape, or form. A great girlfriend won't ever cause scenes in public or in front of your friends and family, and will always wait to discuss matters with you in private.
5. She lets you be a man
A good girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your glory, poker night and all. She understands that men and women are different and should allow you to be yourself. Just like you wouldn't deprive her of going shopping with her girlfriends, she shouldn't expect you to give up the guys for her.
4. She's nagless
A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to speak-up and when to let it slide. You don't want a girlfriend who will give you the heights of hell for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink occasionally. However, if you live together and you stay out all night without calling her, and she lets you have it, then you're setting yourself up for disaster. This is a situation that nobody would let slide -- not even a great girlfriend.
3. She gets along with friends & family
A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad's stories, and hang out with your friends, she will enjoy it. She'll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. Not only that, but your friends won't roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she'll be joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).
2. She loves you
If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. A woman who doesn't try to change you is hard to find. Of course, everyone has their slightly annoying habits that their mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these.
1. She makes you want to be a better man
Any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn't have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It could be love.
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Posted: 9/28/2006 6:18:07 AM |
A "good" girl friend does not do ''that'' to a "good" boy friend.
Then my question to the ladies is why are you with a "bad" boyfriend? | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 6:45:44 AM |
#10 - She's independent
#9 - She's Intelligent
#8 - She's Sexual
#7 - She's Beautiful
#6 - She respects you
#5 - She lets you be a man
#4 - She's nagless
#3 - She gets along with friends & family
#2 - She loves you
#1 - She makes you want to be a better man
Nice list but.....
Intelligence is a state of mind and some people are more book smart and some are more life smart.
Sexuality and Beauty are in the eye of the beholder.
Respect should be given to anyone.
You be the man? Well you would be but that doesn't mean that you don't make things equal or fair in the relationship and life.
You should want to be a better person yourself without needing her to want you to be. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 7:33:42 AM | msg 65,
That is why I don't have a boy friend just because I don't want to have any part to do with-- doing ''that'' to a boy friend. He ought to be a ''good" boy friend material with all the desirable good traits for me before I put my both feet in...
Have you not read all the horror stories on the forums about bad boy friends or bad girl friends?? Many bad boyfriends or bad girlfriends are dumped. That is why we are here and.... looking for....?????
Looking for a needle in the haystack?? | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 8:03:44 AM | | for the intelligent part...i dont know, i've known several men who just wnt barbie dolls to play with...the hell with the intelligent part... | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 12:59:48 PM | Those traits cut both ways irrespective of gender. Pretty good list for both men and women.
The only trait with which I have an issue is #4-nagging. I don't want to be nagged any more than a man wants to be nagged. Women tend to "nag" when there are problems and men tend to withdraw when there are problems. In either case, it's driven by the same core thing: there's some sort of an issue that's not being resolved. Over time, those things can wear one down...both the issues themselves AND the response (whether withdrawal or nagging) become tiresome.
In any event, it's precisely those little issues that make me wary of any type of long-term living together arrangement or marriage. I just want to be free to be me and live life the way I see it. I don't want to deal with anyone else's idea of how life should proceed (whether big or small day-to-day issues).
My paradigm is basically a result of, over the years, certain societal norms with which I was raised have seemed more and more silly, not applicable, etcetra. I now feel more comfortable in my own skin and more true to myself than I did in my 20's. It's been a great awakening with which I'm very happy. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 4:56:33 PM | My list in no particular order:
1. Looks Great (don't want my friends laughing at me)
2. Sense of Curiosity
3. Makes me wanna be a better person
4. Kind
5. Intelligent
6. Knows when to shut up
7 Great sense of humour
8. Financially Responsible
9. Supportive of my goals and I'll support hers
10. Physically Active | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 5:46:21 PM | "Southern men want a woman who does what shes told, no questions asked"...Hence the reason I left the South...My own father couldnt get me to do that | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 5:55:26 PM | this is all very well and good but how many of you ladies have seen guys go after the bombshell high maint. types even though they KNOW she's a pain in the a** and a major b****? i have seen it time and time again. i have watched many a guy friend hit the brick wall at full speed and get back up and go do it again... and again... and again...
i think beauty trumps any and all of the best qualities that a guy is supposedly looking for. however, he won't stick around after the pretty wears off...
just my two cents..
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