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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/12/2006 7:11:19 PM | | HI! Guess what? Sometimes you never stop loving that person and you may even love that person until the day you die. Hard to face the truth, but if you truely did love someone it will never go away. We go on with our live's and maybe just maybe we can get through a day with out thinking of him or her. It is called survival! Just venting! Thanks | |
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/12/2006 8:32:23 PM | I think the best way to stop loving someone who stopped loving you is...
to start loving yourself.
It sounds trite, I know. But you know what, YOU are the constant in your life and no one can give you what you need better than guess who? 
I read in a profile something that is so true and I discovered really helped me when I had my heart broken in the past: Do what you can control, you can't control other people's actions, you can only control your own.
I've also learned that you should focus on what you want, so take the great qualities that you miss and go cultivate that in yourself. That is something you can control, something solid that you can take away from the relationship knowing that you did everything you could to make yourself better for yourself and therefore the next person who really deserves your attention.
Good luck!
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/13/2006 10:14:12 PM | I agree with red hot mama.I to am starting to think its not possible.Every I go shes in my head.After eight years I never knew how much of her was in me till she was gone.I really hope
little feat was right.And that time is A hero.  | |
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/13/2006 11:37:58 PM | | The feelings you feel are special and as time passes you can put away the good memories, and start to move on. Finding someone new can really help, even if it's only someone to share time with, or have the odd heartfelt talk. I've found it a really good help get out and meet some new ladies, focus on making some friends first, find someone you can share with. Time heals all wounds as they say... | |
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/14/2006 12:42:41 AM | Dear Caseysdream
That is a question I've asked myself about a million times. My friends tell me the best thing is to go out and find someone else who does. That's easy for them to say I know. But for me, I try to think of the good times and what that person gave to me... if only for a short time. That perhaps it was just meant to be. Perhaps there is someone out there that I could love more. It's hard to believe right now I know. But your heart will heal and one day it will hurt less. I'm still going through it myself to a degree.
If you ever need to talk Caseydream. this is one women who will listen.
Warm Regards,
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/14/2006 12:46:11 AM | Love it Killerdogsmooch. Got to keep that sense of humour. Who was who said it is better to have loved and lost than never loved at all? I don't care who said it but to have loved and lost is a big pain in the a***.  | |
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/14/2006 5:47:38 AM | I'm currently going thru a similar situation, except she very well might have never loved me to begin with. [the fact that i cant say that she 100% never did kinda ****s with me a bit]
So far in my experience...Forcing yourself to hate the person by magnifying and focusing on and exagerating the things you hate about them..is a bad idea...because you will become an ***hole to said person. At least in my case thats what happened.
Forcing yourself to like other people? Well that was a dead end for me too cuz said people...well...they suck. Perhaps when i find a girl that will accept me for me and work with my flaws as opposed to hate me for them...maybe then perhaps it will be a lot easier for me :P
But hey, when i figure it out, I'll let you know. My best advice...try not to think about it too much, find a distraction, and find a lot of them. Dont let your mind wander to her and just try so very hard to forget about her as much as you need to without forgetting her completely or missing the lesson to be learned from it. | |
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/14/2006 10:28:54 AM | wake up every day... make your bed.. eat your cereal, go to work. talk to people, go to parties/outtings, meet people, spend time with your friends.... allow yourself to be sad when you need to be and then... go to bed, don't hold grudges or anger or anything that continues to bind them to you... let go and tell your self it's just 1 chapter in your life... sleep peacefully, get your beauty rest and in the morning to it all over again..
One day you'll stop being sad and you won't have to let go because it won't be there anymore to let go...
it's hard but it will be okay.
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/14/2006 11:06:05 AM | Love is tender and affection...recognize that they where never in love with U...they where in love with your capacity...to love...if only you would change this or that...
It is hard for men to realize that women love internally not externally...
U may see yourself as Mr Wonderful...what is required is your authentic self...
A male authentic lover will love the authentic female self...have you heard...It is not U ...it is me...
that is a female cue...I never listened and learned a valuable lesson...
It is tough...make changes...your first 6 dates have to be with your inner self...
U stop...go no further....do not analzye...and do not ever reward bad behaviour
Heal first...each woman is different....is royal and deserves to be treated as a princess
Woman will teach U what U need to learn..open up...seek open dialogue...if it is not given move on... | |
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/14/2006 11:28:10 AM | So, caseysdream, it's been about 2 1/2 months since you originally posed this question. How do you feel now? Did you take anyone's advice? Did any of these suggestions work for you or did you come up with your own solution? I'm sure we would all like to know.....we may all be in the same situation some day.
Blessings. | |
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/14/2006 11:28:18 AM |
How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
...simply by taking it very slowly with someone new, whom you find intelligent, uplifting, mature, and quality life style. Find a woman who takes the time to take her daughters horse back riding weekly and her son's paint ball games, and likes to sit on the swings with you and swim in pools with you and just walk AND WHO WILL NOT ACCEPT any hanky panky but will be your smart friend with the potential of love some day. Than don't talk about your past relationship much. How much better advice can you get from a pro (wink) | |
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/14/2006 10:06:14 PM | | Thats a hard question to answer in any form. I still love my xwife as much as I ever did and shes been gone almost 3 years. My heart still aches every day and yes I still cry, not as often as I used to but its still thier. I tryed every thing to move on but every time I start doning good she always contacts me again. She will make me feel bad for her telling me how hard things are and it always comes down to money. I always give it to her because of how I still love her and she uses it against me. Once she has the money I want hear from her for another few months until she needs me again. How to you cut ths person you still love off even when you know they are just using you. what did I ever do to deserve to be punished over and over. I still let her keep me so messed up inside I can,t even talk to another woman as of yet. So what is the answer other than changing your name and moving away who knows that. My mother raised me ot not hurt others just because they hurt you,so I stay in this lose lose life also my man. Ray | |
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/14/2006 10:11:35 PM | That is a hard question. I think you just have to live your life the best you can and know that right now, it hurts like hell but it does get better. My lowest point came when my exhusband told me he fell in love with someone else, just after he had asked me to move back. I still love him, I always will. I will just never trust him again. Of course, it doesn't help he asked me to go back to him last week, after 5 years, because now he's lonely.
Honestly just do the best you can and live your life. It is one day at a time. | |
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/15/2006 1:39:53 AM | 
really depends
you'll have 2 search your conscience & ask why what happened happened then go from there
i block them & move on, look forward not behind
have a good one!
funny story, been blocking this bugger since he attacked me, with this stupid accusation, that the problem w/our relationship was he still loved me but i no longer loved him ..
true story .. however, he had gotten accustomed 2 taking himself out on dates & demanding i always stay hm. ..
i just wanted, hm, dating attention too
have a good one! | |
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/15/2006 5:30:24 AM | | Why would you want to stop loving someone in the first place? If a relationship didn't work out, for whatever reasons, is it so difficult to remain "friends" if it is a mutual choice. I wouldn't stop loving my ex-husband for anything. We are still friends. I think we all heal in our own way, in our own time. traveller05, I don't know the entire situation you are in, only your statement you posted here. We all have to do what we think is best for us. Has she been bothering you? Have you asked her to quit emailing you or such and continues? If she is harassing you in any way, then you can always block her. I think each "relationship" we become involved in, can teach us something. You also posted that she is seeing someone now. Do you feel as if she is hanging on to you, in case the current relationship doesn't work out? This has been known to happen. I hope it all works out for you. | |
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| How Do you Stop Loving someone who Stopped loving you?
Posted: 7/15/2006 6:36:50 AM | | u take every day as it comes and tell yourself this person doesn't love me and aren't sitting there hurting and questioning things it is time to move on let go the more u tell yourself and with that relaible thing ..time u will eventually move on. I did that with my ex and yes I still love him after everything bad that he put me through but I'm not in love with him and I don;t make excuses for his bad points u seem to see things more as a matter of fact. | |
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