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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 5/8/2006 4:27:31 PM | | I wouldn't have an issue with dating a man with kids. Is he going to spend more money and attention on them than me....he better. As long as he's a good man and a good father, I don't see the issue. I'm confident in myself and my abilities to gently but assertively handle an unruly ex. If the man's worth it, she'd just be another obstacle to overcome for an amazing reward. As far as imsneaky goes, anything you've posted that I've read in the past has been truly ignorant and immature, you need to grow up and seek help if you are going to contribute anything positive to this world. | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 5/8/2006 4:58:26 PM | Hey poncho.
To be completly honest I never thought I would date someone with a child. Don't think I ever wanted to be the "step mom" if it ever went anywhere.
Well that changed about 2 months ago when I met my knight in shining armour. He has a 5 your old little boy who is just amazing. Now I don't want anything else but the 2 of them.
As for my boyfriends ex-wife.. we have not personally met but she knows that I am in both their lives and seems okay with it. (she has a boyfriend also)
So I guess dating someone with a child is GREAT!!!!! | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 5:08:49 PM | | i really have no problem wit dating a man wit children as long as he takes care of them and isnt a farmer (u kno jus spreads his seed) then im cool wit it, i mean i dont have kids but im only 20 and about 90% of men my age that i kno have at least one child, my problem is if they dont take care of their child or children, then no i dont want to be wit him if he aint gonna take care of his responsibilities then i dont want to be around him but that goes wit any person i really dont want to be around irresponsible people. | |
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Saige
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 5:19:00 PM | Similiar threads have been done on this topic, but most men and women without kids prefer NOT to date someone who already has a child.But women who have kids , generally perfer guys with kids.Because people with kids, get the fact that a parent can not just pack up and go etc and that the kids will always come first. | |
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Joined: 9/30/2005
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:27:00 PM | and i'm getting tired of the phrase.......only a parent knows that you can't just pack up and go......thats one reason why some people WON"T date someone who has kids..because they know that.......
I do want kids......thats why I make sure that when I meet someone who already has kids; that they know I want a couple of my own.......meeting someone my age who doesn't have kids already, is pretty rare. | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:33:21 PM | | I would *love* to date a man with one or more children, all I got-elsewhere, was retired men with adult children, and did not want more...Argh, guess they can't read....I did post to at least one man here with children, but no response. Ah well,as the infamous *they* would say, his loss...:D | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:38:54 PM | Sure I'll date him if it were only for me...but my family would be really mad...so maybe I would not.But I don't know.I love kids....not newborn babies though, they are kind of annoying.....but anyway in general......I like kids and should not have a problem with it. | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:42:23 PM | | Princesssam is a perfect example of stupidity. Thinking that if you have a child..you are having problems with the ex!! What world are you living in? If you have a problem with a guy having a child..you are superficial. One day you will have a child..(maybe not) and you will know how special children are. They are not something to be looked down upon. | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:20:03 PM | angelgirl32: I have to admit to getting all misty reading your post. That is just wonderful, and congratulations. :)
As for dating men with kids, it always depends on the situation. I think how many kids each person has makes a huge difference. If I were to ever be single again and "in the dating pool" it would be difficult because I have 3, and it seems like a lot of men my age also have 2 or 3. That is a lot of kids! But, there is nothing saying it can't work if the 2 people are right for eachother. Many times if a man has sole custody of the children the mother isn't very involved, if at all. My husband and I have a friend who recently married a wonderful woman who just happened to love children but have none of her own. He has custody of his 4 very young boys. It was a perfect match. | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:32:24 PM | I'm cool with the kids, love them in fact
it's the psychotic exes that I don't want to deal with.
if the issues are all resolved and each one has moved on and isn't terribly bitter anymore , thats great, otherwise I dunno. | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:44:09 PM | Being as I have kids I wouldn't mind dating a guy with kids. Infact, I would really prefer it. Even if I didn't have my own kids I know I would date someone with kids..just more to love, right  | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:03:44 PM | As someone else mentioned - I have no interest in dealing with ex-wives and custody woes
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very surprized cool chick....number one selfish no, thats the lady below you thats talks about $ thats selfish...been ther done that...firsty of all i have 2 count them 2 wonderful beautifull daughters, and the are the most amazing thing thats ever happend to me in my life, and i can guarantee if i was blessed enough to have another, i would feel the same way, the childs mother is irrelevant on that point. a TRUE father loves his children, reguardless of who their mother may be. this is small minded. now yes youve had a couple bad experiences with ex wives i take it? well answer this how long were they married, and how long were they divorced before you started dating the man? this is the most relevant question there is. if the divorce was nasty and new, i could see how their would be probs. i know my ex would embrace any gf of mine. now let me tell you my preferences, i like to date a gal that dosnt have kids, and that dosnt need to be the center of attention when my kids are arround. the reason for this is simple...we can play with the kids on my weekend, and do our thing when they arent arround, scheds with other kids makes things very difficult for some alone time. | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:04:56 PM | | Been there done that and really don't want to again. Not that it was a bad experiance really. He and his ex got along well and that helped. But know that we are not together I find it hard due to the fact I am not in there lives and seeing them like I was. I love those kids and became attached to them and don't want to go through that again. | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:11:50 PM | its definatly something to be leary of....(for me..I have my own personal reasons on the subject)...however...every story is different..and every situations deserves a chance...if a woman likes a guy who has kids..then..go for it!
Its not like you have to marry the guy! | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:16:12 PM |
and should weed out those woman who make a big deal out of it.
Ah… So true. The kids have made for a wonderful dating filter. I’ve read so many tales of woe regarding the quality of people encountered on the Internet, but….. I have had very little trouble with it. I only attract ladies that have the capacity to be a part of something greater than themselves. While I obviously haven’t found the one I’m looking for, the Internet has been good to me and a positive experience overall. | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:24:15 PM | Well, I am a single father of 3.
The ex isn't a problem. She has her boyfriend and her freedom, I have my kids.
My problem is finding someone worthy of me and my kids.
To terminallycute, "Its not like you have to marry the guy! "
Does this mean you won't marry me? | |
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| what do girls think about dating a guy with a kid?
Posted: 6/4/2006 9:35:42 PM | It's nearly unanimous, folks. Women don't want a guy who's already got kids.
As a divorced father with joint custody, this makes me incredibly happy. It means the girl I do meet, and fall in love with, who falls in love with me in return, is gonna be awesome! Loving me in spite of all challenges, unconditionally, selflessly, and with much giving and sacrifice. Damn! How beautiful is that! I can't wait to meet her. She's a rare treasure and I'm gonna treat her like gold every minute we're together. 
Thanks for your honestly, ladies. Best of luck to you all.
-Kevin  | |
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