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Posted: 9/17/2006 4:05:40 PM | | Just wanted to put my two cents in here... I have been attracted to younger guys for a few years now. 3 years ago I married a guy who was 16 years my junior, he was sweet, handsome, great body, and yes great in bed.. But he acted so childish, I felt more like his mother than his wife. He spent money like water and was not responsible at all. After my divorce I decided that I was done with young men, and that I would only date men my age or older.. Then I joined this site, and most of the men I have met are either rude or have all kinds of medical issues. One guy sent me an entire email about how disabled he was, diabetes, heart trouble, back trouble.. I wanted to tell him that I was not his doctor. Yes women do age, and I am the first to admit it... But these 40 and 50 something men who arent even attractive, talking about how theywould only date a 20 year old.... You better look in the mirror... BTW.. I applaud you Foxy for all your hard work.. You look great for any age! | |
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Posted: 9/17/2006 4:16:30 PM | This is for "dude" Im not the one that asked someone out....
only to decide "lets go to my house" The common factor
they all had is that they were men in their forties... I dont
have that problem younger men. | |
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Posted: 9/17/2006 4:18:21 PM | miss claudia ---> read your profile. I see you keep yourself in great shape as well and have a great positive outlook filled with experience and excitement. You look great yourself, I can understand why younger would romance you!
sunbirdus --> read your profile, I can see why younger fall into your lap. Keep on with that enlightened upbeat outlook and that killer raging hot body!
Peace | |
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Posted: 9/17/2006 4:23:15 PM | | People that have medical problems, does not make them a bad person. Some are beyond their control. I know of one friend that can't be over 25 and was just diagnosed with multiple scerosis. Of course its up to the person if they want to be in relationship like that. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2006 10:45:56 PM | I just think the pond grows smaller the older one gets, at least on this site.
We do tend to morph a bit as we get older. Believe me, if I were to reduce my weight to what I was when I was 35, I would look older.
Some people, as they age, obtain unwanted illnesses which often means medication which can cause changes to their body.
It is inevitable.
Although we are reminded that the true beauty is inside, it the outside packaging that makes us reach for the item on the top shelf.
An odd world we now live in, isn't it?
^^Batgirl^^ | |
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Posted: 9/18/2006 10:57:34 PM | OP: The most annoying thing I have found, is the guys that have let themselves 'go' are usually the same guys that want the younger, thinner, neat looking females. Makes me laugh when i come across this, it's so hypocritical. I'm almost 48, but can I found a guy MY age who wants me?   | |
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Posted: 9/18/2006 11:06:02 PM | What the Fox, you're my role model! And WHAT is the deal with all these otherwise- presentable men who set their mail to only accept females 20-0 years younger than themselves? Even if I'm still "allowed" to email them, I must avoid these guys on principle. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2006 10:41:28 PM | to lil blackmagic i know im fat and not in shap but if ppl would ask i would tell them i just had bariatric surgery
and im going to start working out with a friend that was in the navy i asked him to put me though what he whent though in bud's so im not going to be fat for much longer
ty  | |
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Posted: 9/24/2006 10:48:38 PM | | This is a piss me off thread. Just what I need to see before i crash. Im half way to 39 , I take huge pride in my appearance. Ask any one who has met me. Phack you women crack me up. Take a look at the profiles on here of your own gender. Why dont we just say some people not men and women. Did you know men age like fine wine and women age like fruit.Im in the best shape of my life. Im only getting better with age. Some people just give up and others dont. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/24/2006 10:59:44 PM | | Luckyone sorry to have to tell you,, you have that wrong the saying goes women age like fine wine.And maybe YOU should take a look at your own genders profiles. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2006 11:02:45 PM | LOL thanks for clearing that up for me. NOT! And I have. I said people not men or women is the way it should be said.
Luckyone sorry to have to tell you,, you have that wrong the saying goes women age like fine wine.And maybe YOU should take a look at your own genders profiles. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 1:28:54 AM | OP - I have to agree somewhat with what you say... In general I find that older women are trying harder these days to take care of themselves ... I typicly have dated older women most of my life.
I also agree that as men age, many just let "the beer happen". For myself... I dont want to be 45 and havent seen my shoe laces in 7 years... but Im only one person and just me.
Cheers to all the ladies that arent 21 anymore and still turn our heads.. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 4:19:37 AM | I have this problem too. But suffice to say men in my age range are not attracted to me either. The majority of mail i get on all dating sites i'm on is from men ages under 30 or over 50. If more 50 year olds look like Billy Idol (51) I'd date more of them, but they don't. Usually when men over 40 take care of themselves and look like I want them to look, they're dating much younger women.
I've tried to date men only 36-45, but they don't seem interested in me. In the past four years, I've dated two seriously. One dissappeared on me without any reasons (later told me he wasn't wanting a relationship, though in person he told me he was) and the other was an alcoholic (maybe the secret is to keep men drunk, then they'll be attracted to me)
so given this problem, what am I to do? I really want to find a man my age to date and have a relationship with. Are they all scared of relationships? Are they scared of independent women? Someone tell me what is up with these men....I know I'm not perfect, I don't look like a supermodel and not model thin, but have a lot to bring to the table nonetheless. I've got nothing but compliments from the people I have dated. But, I hear the same thing from them....I wish you were as young as me, so we could date more seriously. If I were older I'd hang on to you and never let go....I don't purposely go out looking for younger men, and try to discourage them, but they keep coming. And when it's a choice of sitting home alone or going out...well i'll go out with the younger guy and enjoy myself | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/25/2006 6:16:44 AM | ^^^Msg 289 (WOW--what a thread!!)
I think if there's a "problem" with your situation as you describe it has more to do with how someone looks instead of what they really have to offer. You state your appearance perferences and what you'll date BUT then tell us how you have more to offer than your looks alone. So which is it?
We don't have any idea what kind of guys you date or what causes you to eventually meet and date but is it always someone's "fault" if things don't last forever? The guys you've dated that are now gone might have not liked you for some reason other than looks alone.
Over and over here on POF we hear how one person or group of people don't suit us yet we're curious why the group we WOULD date aren't equally interested in us?? It's a vicious circle and I'd bet the "problem" lays more within ourselves than we realize or care to admit. If your goal is to go out and you're not attracting the men you want to date or meet then maybe you'll have to "settle" for the ones who do ask you.
I don't know there is a cure or fix for who we attract---but maybe that's where we should begin looking when faced with this "problem" !! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 1:17:42 PM | i just read your piece about men over 35 given up and i dont think that is fair i am 26 and i always go for the older man my last one was 46 and we were very happy i think older men has more respect for you they are more stable and knows where they are going so any guys who want a genuine female to look after and be treated well by me then send me a message!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 1:23:00 PM | | As one of the unattractive men my age I understand the problem completely. It sucks to be looking for someone when everyone I meet is looking for something I can't provide. It is like going to the store broke. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 1:36:41 PM | OP - I'm 53 and the prospects seem to be on the down slope for me also. Every time I find a woman that I want to talk to, she is half way across the world.
I have been to a few POF events and it is always better to meet the fish in person. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 1:43:37 PM | I am 51 and I have been proposed to more than you have fingers on one hand. Am I a movie
star or a weight lifter no. I am just average build, maybe alittle younger looking than my years. What I have is respect, class, and treat other like I would wish to be treated. Their is not age limit on that if you look there are just as many jerks or more that are 30 than 50.
Maybe your just looking at the outer surface to much and not seeing what in one's heart and
soul..I hope you don't sag if thats your plus point.. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 1:49:09 PM | You have a very limited view of life. Our lifespans are increasing. There is every likelihood that people can go into their 90's now and quite well-preserved. Ninety is the new seventy. But in your world, men are shot after 35? So that means they get these few tender years but half to two-thirds of their lives are crap?
The male equivalent of you are men who feel that once a woman has had a baby, she's damaged goods.
If you don't care for men over 35, why dont you just stick to 2-somethings and leave it at that, make it a personal preference, and not be insulting to men over 35? I could tell you stories about women's bodies over 40 that would make your toes curl, but I dont talk about such things, age and fitness hits us all differently. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 1:53:13 PM | I agree OP, all those broken down men.....I run rings round most of the ones 10 years younger than me. It's a good thing the younguns don't need a reason just a place huh?
Of course, MOST older women these days don't take the same care of themselves as you do either. Here in FAT City USA it's tough to find one who weighs less than I do regardless of age. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 5:31:45 PM | Looks? I do have preferences...everyone does...but the two men close to my age who I dated seriously were not ''perfect'' by any means...they were both chubby and neither worked out...but when I saw them I felt drawn to them...and when I got to know them, I was even more drawn to them...let's face it everyone has preferences on looks...I think mental and physical attraction are important...its a great combination when you can find it
I wasn't playing the blame game... people need to be honest in relationships..dating me a few months, showing me great date after great date, and then to disappear without warning or reason, is a bit crazy...and later tell me he doesn't want a relationship when at first he told me he did...but anyways...over and done with....the other guy was five years younger...the alcoholic...I did everything i could to save that relationship...i had planned on moving from my home of 41 years to be with him...i was nuts about him and his child...I still miss the good times we had...but it was not a good situation to be in...there is no one to blame, it was just a sad situation...trust me I could give you more horror stories...but thank God...i'm smart enough to run when i see red flags go flying around...
and why should I settle? no one should settle? that's what I did when i was younger...hell i'd rather be alone than be with the wrong person again and be miserable...frankly I don't have a lot in common with men my age...at least not the ones in my city...which is why those two i mentioned didn't live in my city
over the last four years, I've dated plenty of men...all shapes, sizes and ages..and looks...had some good dates, had some bad ones...but the majority of the men i had the best times with were WAY younger...I can't explain it...i'd love to find someone my age...but it's not happening, I even went through a period where i refused to date anyone under 37 and it was a lonely boring time...because most of the men i was meeting just wanted in my pants...they weren't interested in anything long term
just today on POF, i've gotten email from three guy all of whom were at least ten yrs younger....one older guy who was in texas...and no i didn't find him attractive...
hey if i'm doomed to be alone so be it...I'll just go out and have fun when i can...write my books, dance my butt off...and change the world, one student at a time | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 7:55:39 PM | | ^^^ If you read the thread and I know its now 12 pages long, you would have realised...that THAT was the point of the thread. It has already been said and this is a rebuttal. | |
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