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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/25/2006 8:29:54 PM | | Well I don't want to get "blasted" by saying I'm attracted to younger men....but I am. I have been told that I look 10 years younger than my age (39) and I'm finding the majority of men contacting me online are between 21 and 35. Not saying that this is a bad thing (keep them coming boys) but the men my age that do contact me really don't make me say "WOW". Maybe its just the "Hot older men" don't contact me because they are looking for the younger gals. So that is ok with me....as long as I am happy with how I look. Young ladies you can take our older men and we will take the younuns off your hands. Seems like a fair trade.....lmao See no need to fight! There is someone for everyone out there and age is just a number.....Stay fit, be healthy, and be happy! | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/25/2006 8:38:47 PM | If I could get up I'd smack you. Uh oh, I think I just had an accident - you know - in my pants. Darn it! Listen... you kids...who...who... | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/25/2006 8:46:33 PM | Who isn't attracted to younger people?
Maybe its just the "Hot older men" don't contact me because they are looking for the younger gals.
or maybe it's because you're settings prohibit my gender (male) AND age group (47)! I just tried emailing you! | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/25/2006 9:47:33 PM | | I hear you and am greatful knowing I'm not the only one who feels this way. Men in the past have had power positions that we "women" weren't allowed. They used that power to attract younger women. Well, how many of those younger women would have wanted them if they worked at McDonalds. I totally agree with you, I have no desire to be with a man who looks and acts old. Not to mention that any time spent in bed that isn't enjoyable or feels like work is a definate I'm outta here. Just because you're hangin doesn't mean we want it. Another favorite phrase of mine, is look at me, look at you...what on earth makes you think I would want you? It's just that finally we women have learned that we don't have to settle for anything less than they would. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/26/2006 1:02:06 AM | I think at sometime in all our lives we've felt that way a little. However the thread says, " I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age" Most people's responses dealt with wanting someone younger. When I was 18 I thought I was only attracted to older men, when I got a little older it was men closer to my age and when I got in my 40's it was men a little younger.
The fact is: I like what I like when It attracts me to it, whether he be young or old! When I was 40 I dated a guy who was 10 years older than me.It was his wit and intelligence that attracted me to him. When I was with him, I didn't feel like there was an age difference at all. Commonalities in other areas have a way of defying all age differences. When I was 45 (last year) My boyfriend was 27, an 18 year difference, but when I was with him I didn't feel old, I actually felt young again, especially when, not only could I keep up with him, often I was last one standing!
It just depends on what type of relationship you are looking for. When I met my young stud, I wasn't looking for a serious relationship, I was just looking for companionship, and got some fantastic sex as a bonus.
So in a nutshell, I believe in the old saying , age is just a state of mind. And I don't mind if I do whatever I darn well please with whoever I darn well please to do it with!
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/26/2006 4:26:59 AM | The fact is I've heard countless men my age rant that women our age don't take care of themselves physically, have too much baggage (kids), are tainted in some way because we've gone through a divorce...so what do they do. They zoom in on young 20 somethings who are impressed that they're more settled and have some money to burn on them. Since their ex wife is usually handling the majority of child rearing duties, they can go out and have a blast with these hot younger chicks.
BUT the minute women our age do this. We're condemned. I've been slammed so many times because I've said I've dated younger men. I've been told. They don't really like you...they're just doing it because of the sex (thanks for the compliments by the way). Even though I'm still friends with a lot of the younger men I've dated, and who knows where those few older ones have disappeared to. IT is NOT a preference for me, IT IS what has happened. These are the men presenting themselves to me as dates. Perhaps I should have just sat home alone, which is what I do a lot of now because I am trying to date more in my age range.
I'm trying guys I really am to find a man my age I'm attracted to. I've been talking to one guy who is 38 for a few weeks. When I was seeing someone else, he acted as if he wanted to meet me, and now that I'm not, he's avoiding the issue. He was calling me almost everyday last week, then weekend came and no word at all. Now I would expect behavior like this from a younger guy, not older. So what gives? I'm trying. I am not adverse to dating men my age or older. I just can't find one I'm attracted to who is also attracted to me. One who likes the things I like and has similar values. AND who lives near by. I see a lot of great ones in Orlando, but really i don't want to move there to get dates. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/26/2006 6:28:13 PM | ok...so that guy who is 38...here's the deal...
I sent him an offline message asking how he was doing, mentioning I hadn't seen him online in a few days...wanted to say hello...i even tried calling him last night...Now remember this is the same guy who has been talking to me for about two and a half weeks, online and on phone...acting as if he was interested
so he IMs me back and says ''hey i've been busy and i'm kind of seeing someone who i'm pursuing a relationship with, I'm good on my end, how are you?" well you can imagine how I was after hearing that....VERY ANGRY...these are the games I cannot deal with. Obviously he was talking to a few women at the same time, and found the one he was most intersted in to pursue further...so all those hours I spent talking to him on the phone were a grand waste of my time...of which I have little
LET THIS BE KNOWN. I date 1, count them ONE man at a time. I do not pursue more than one man at a time. I guess I"m picky, but men I'm interested in don't come along often, so I am able to focus on ONE and ONLY ONE that interests me...maybe this is the wrong approach...maybe I should be talking to about fifty men online all whom I"m interested in...I mean I"m sorry but I just don't get this kind of behavior | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 9/27/2006 12:31:24 AM | | well i think i actually did meet one who did...after I met him and fell for him, he rejected me because he thought I probably could not have babies because of my age and he forgot to tell me he already *had* a girlfriend in another state...nice, eh???Oh, BTW, he *was* *not* from POF, glad to say....:s | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 9/27/2006 12:46:53 AM | Maybe it isn't that they are sooooo unappealing in real life. What amazes me is how INCREDIBLY careless men over a certain age are about the pictures of themselves that they put on their profiles. I mean....what are they thinking?
"frightened deer in the headlights guy with no brain cells staring into camera from position showing every possible chin....probably wearing something unspeakable"
I mean, mine aren't perfect, but I am able to tell when I'm looking my worst for goodness sakes.
Men! No more sweat shirts with the sleeves cut out! No more wrinkled undershirts! And dammit, either smile or don't smile, but that startled mouth freeze business----you look like you are on novacaine! NO!
Maybe the youngies are better at this--they are blocked from emailing me so I never look at their profiles. But I would imagine they are a bit more savvy with the cam? | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/27/2006 1:02:42 AM | Hey, you are lucky; he at least replied Belly18dancer, I've been getting the disappearing men, one from here-one out of towner I really liked who last I heard was moving to Orlando, then nothing more...Another on a different web site seemed to be perfect for me but has claimed to be stranded overseas more than a week ago, then nothing for several days now, I would rather know he's either running a scam on me and will tell me or is seeing another woman than just not knowing. But I am still meeting men in the meantime anyway, just do not understand the disappearing men, one man from here claims they probably just met someone else, but still that strikes me as just plain odd,rude or both, the silence and no contact routine, I mean...As for the others, no matches yet, but still some possible friends... | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/27/2006 1:15:43 AM | I'm not attracted to women my age. I'm only 26...I go for slightly younger girls. Luckily for me most younger women aren't attracted to men their age 
Here's my theory. Women 18 - 30ish want an older, more experienced and mature man, not a "boy" like the males their age. Women older than say 35 start looking at the younger guys who are more fun, in better physical shape/more stamina etc. So a guy in his late 20's should be scoring left and right! Right?? Hmm well like I said, it's a theory lol. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/27/2006 3:57:37 AM | here's a few more theories
younger men especially ones in college, don't have a lot of money to spend on a younger girl's materialistic needs, therefore he goes for older women who might be more understanding because we realize money is not everything, because we are independent and have our own....also young girls are still trying to date the ''bad boys'' because they think they can change them...older women, for the most part are not that dumb anymore...therefore, there are a lot of sweet, younger men who are not getting dates...guess what, they're my favorite....most younger men complain, that girls their age wont do certain things in bed...in fact, a comedian who came through our town was talking of the benefits of an older woman, one of which...she's up for just about anything in bed...so if you want to try new things, get an older woman...also being with younger men in bed is more fun, because they're not set in their ways and don't mind if you tell them they're not doing something wrong because they want to please
they also claim younger girls just play around, and induce drama into all their relationships...and they don't need the stress
here's a funny note...I love dancing and there is one club I go to a lot because it plays a lot of old 80's music and I'm not bothered there and can feel safe(just there to dance not pick anyone up)....it is an older crowd but a lot of younger women hang out in there...why? because they can sit at the bar and get free drinks all night long....the older men spend tons to try and impress these young girls and their friends...all they have to do is bat their eyelashes and get flirty, the drinks start flowing...then they go home with their friends...leaving the dude with a very light wallet (and no i'm not jealous, I don't drink)
notice I said younger ''girls'' vs. older ''women" there is a difference... | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:07:46 AM |
so he IMs me back and says ''hey i've been busy and i'm kind of seeing someone who i'm pursuing a relationship with, I'm good on my end, how are you?" well you can imagine how I was after hearing that....VERY ANGRY...these are the games I cannot deal with. Obviously he was talking to a few women at the same time, and found the one he was most intersted in to pursue further...so all those hours I spent talking to him on the phone were a grand waste of my time...of which I have little
LET THIS BE KNOWN. I date 1, count them ONE man at a time. I do not pursue more than one man at a time. I guess I"m picky, but men I'm interested in don't come along often, so I am able to focus on ONE and ONLY ONE that interests me...maybe this is the wrong approach...maybe I should be talking to about fifty men online all whom I"m interested in...I mean I"m sorry but I just don't get this kind of behavior
Belly18dancer, you are certainly in the minority there - most people actually do talk to more than one and narrow it down. Nothing wrong with one at a time, it's just that the majority here talk to multiple people (it's the play your numbers type approach, which cuts down on time spent looking), especially men I think. They are less likely to get attached and focus on one woman in the beginning, and more likely to see the big picture throughout. That makes it frustrating for the ones who do focus on just one at a time. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:09:30 AM |
Maybe the youngies are better at this--they are blocked from emailing me so I never look at their profiles. But I would imagine they are a bit more savvy with the cam?
May be time to unblock the younger ones or do a search and see what they've got for skills... | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 9/27/2006 1:13:55 PM | | oldschoolqueen i am looking for one and only one but when i find one and try to get to know them thay dont even email back so its not just the guys that play the dam games on here it is also some not all but some of the women to | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/27/2006 2:05:07 PM | | I don't see that after a man hits 35 just giving up...I see it more opposite they are trying to stay "up" with the times...I tend to date older guys as they are done with the games and the drama and not afraid to speak their mind on what it is that they what...don't get me wrong not all of them are like that...but I have found a majority are as such.... | |
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Joined: 4/11/2006
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/27/2006 2:14:37 PM | funny, but at 44 (people say I look very good for my age...esp when I finally drop my 15 lb, too) I don't look at women under 35...I appreciate dating well-kept women in my age bracket (actually 35-50ish)...so I have no problem dating older women who also take care of themselves......it really does come down to taking care of yourself (inside and outside) and radiating confidence and a zest for life...luckily for me there are PLENTY of babes like this in this more refined age range....lastly, their maturity, too (if they have grown inside) only makes them that much more attractive (purrrrrrrr).
As George Burns once sagaciously said:
"There is nothing wrong with getting older
...just don't let yourself GROW old''. | |
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| gotnerve
Posted: 9/27/2006 3:21:37 PM | For GotnerveWhy would you be so nasty to belly18dancer, I looked at her profile
she doesnt look like a slut...whats your problem?Real men want a lady
not a tramp, No....I think real men want a woman who acts like a lady in public and
acts like a tramp behind closed doors...how many men have you dated?
And the remark 47-50 completely washed up....Im 46 and least I have enough
guts to put my picture up...after having 3 children I dont think I look washed
up no matter what men like yourself say, lets see what you look like when
your my age or belly18dancer's age....Oh No we cant... you didnt post a
picture! | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/27/2006 3:25:49 PM | There are guys out there that are attracted to mature ladies. I am one of them. But it's really hard to find a mature lady that's looking for more than something short term. I find extremely hard to find an older woman that would take me seriously.
Most are just looking to have fun, they prefer the teasing to the doing. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 9/27/2006 3:32:23 PM | Extremely easy???? a tramp??? where are you getting this from??? yeah i've been told my photos are too sexy before but when i look around at other women on this site, and see them half naked, I'm thinking mine look pretty tame...now whether you realize it or not...older men and men my age do contact me...quite frequently here and on other sites...but usually I find I'm not attracted to them or think we're not a good match...so i guess if I'm a slut then your ideas are false, cuz the older men want me too
Until age 37 I never dated...i was a virgin when i met my ex and after my divorce dated a guy for four years...and was engaged for a year and a half to another one...i had long bouts of celibacy in between...then i hit 37 and decided maybe I should live a little and date...since i had been trying to get into serious relationships and being used, abused and my heart had been broken. So I put myself out to date and all that came were younger men, I would contact men my age and they didn't have anything to do with me...so i decided to go with it....that lasted for about two years, and then I wanted a serious relationship...so i made a conscience decision to look for a relationship with a man near my age....but as you can see I'm still single...the few I've met I were interested in, just didn't cut it...as someone who lived through an awful marriage, I wasn't going to just settle in order to be with someone....
I'm extremely picky...if I wanted to I could have sex almost every day of the week....i don't want that...most of the older men I go out with, don't ask me for a second date...is it because I don't sleep with them perhaps???? Did they expect me too???? Or maybe they just didn't like me, which is ok...because I too can figure out pretty quickly if something is going to go anywhere...and I don't wish to waste anyone's time
I have not been trying to insult older men....if an older man comes along who I am attracted to and interested in then by all means that is cool with me...but they are few and far between...men as a whole who I'm atttracted to are few and far between no matter what their age...
i've been through a lot...so i only choose the best...if that makes me a slut and whore...so be it....
I wouldn't date a man ho either...but then to call a man a ho, I might actually have to know them as a person rather than assume and speculate | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 9/27/2006 3:34:23 PM | men are like woman if you do not try to stay in shape .. well you have only yourself to blame
i go to the gym regularly and there are some older woman out there who are in good shape
gotta keeo looking | |
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