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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 9/27/2006 3:38:34 PM | yes there are some great looking older men out there...i'm trying to find one...that I'm attracted to on all levels...mentally and physically...a lot of the ones i'm finding on this site, live no where near me...what can i do?
i checked on gotnerves site...no photos yet he makes judgements about the way i look....and when i see what threads he is posting on...it all seems to be about the older woman/younger man thing...
what's up with that? | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 9/27/2006 5:24:21 PM | I agree with dancer's statement.
As we get older, if we are still attractive and want someone compatible, the picking gets slimmer. I have no issue with older woman/younger man. If she is hot enough to find and keep a hot boytoy .. all the more to her. It is also her choice if she wants to put out ... she probably can get cuter, younger boys than bald, big bellied guys with hair growing out of their ears and eyebrows that can be used for comb over to boink. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 9/27/2006 7:33:45 PM | | well i'm not about to become a nun just because I'm 41...these last few years have been crazy, but i feel like I've actually lived now...and experienced things...and learned more about people...I am a pretty shy person so it's helped out my confidence some, although it needs way more work...but i'm much happier now at 41...and much smarter...I look back and think about when I was 21 and miserable...31 and miserable....and think wow...I'm a completely different person, I like myself, and love my life...it's not perfect, but my job allows me to make a difference in the world...and my hobbies allow outlets for my creativity...the only thing missing is a quality man who is my match in every way...but i'll keep looking...and i'm not going to discriminate due to age | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 9/27/2006 7:55:25 PM | Chameleontat
You've hit the nail on the head. Exactly, my experience as well. In my opinion, the three most important things in life are attitude, attitude and attitude. I treat people (read men AND women here) with courtesy and respect while many younger men simply don't. I help the little old ladies and little old men and guess what! The good looking babes notice that. I also was surprised how many much younger women were interested in me..... but not any more. My personal experience is that class, treating a person (read woman here) with courtesy, dignity, respect and having fun with them seems to have an attraction all of its own. BTW, my last girlfriend was 22 years younger as well, most of the ladies I take out now are in their mid-late 40's although a few are in their late 50's.
Here's an idea people might consider trying! Try being a nice, respectful, fun to be with person who treats (all) people well, who tried to make the world a little better place, who respects the rights and feelings of others instead of being self-absorbed, ignorant and arrogant. You might be surprised the benefits you might reap. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2006 8:01:38 PM | and it seems like a double standard to me.
women are always complaining about how men are always looking at the younger, more fit girls and hate them for it.
so come on now hows it supposed to work? men arent supposed to look at younger women but its ok for women to?
wtf? | |
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Posted: 9/27/2006 8:26:10 PM | ^^^^^ Cab-it's called preferences and we all have them....age like size is just a number
I've dated older and younger and to be honest lately seem to get along better with those slightly younger. 
The last guy I was in a relationship with was younger than me and at first I was the one not comfortable with the age difference and he very politely told me, "it's your problem not mine, I didn't have a choice what year I was born in-no more than you did." That made perfect sense to me.
Now obviously I don't want to be dating someone young enough to be my child or my child's age; nor do I want to date someone my parents age; but friends come in all ages! | |
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Posted: 9/27/2006 9:17:28 PM | | I have the same problem. Here in central Texas there aren't a lot of women to begin with. I keep myself in shape and ask that a potential companion make an effort to do the same. I am not attracted to obesity, which a lot of women my age have become. I am fully interested in the maturity and wisdom a woman my age can offer, but for a real relationship, the physical attraction must be there as well. Is it too much to ask that someone try to keep themself in shape? | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 4:15:37 AM | Here goes that weight issue again. Yeah I'm overweight...I'm honest about it at least...I take dance class twice a week, teach dance twice a week...I can dance any skinny younger chick under the table...but its hard for me to lose weight...bad genetics maybe...at least it's all in the right places...I dress nice, keep my nails done, hair nice, etc...I have a job I love, and am a good, caring person....I couldn't be in the profession I'm in and deal with what I deal with if I wasn't filled with patience and a good heart..I too open doors for people, both young and old, it's common courtesy down south, not some weird thing out of the ordinary
I do not go out looking for these younger men...it's never my intentions to date younger men....I spent all of summer (which I have off) not going on any dates at all, because no one my age was contacting me...or approaching me...YES i'm very shy...so I don't meet men in person when I'm out and about...the men who do contact me or approach me, are not men I'm attracted to...I can't help that I have preferences as far as looks....and specific qualifications such as NO SMOKING that are important to me...
I don't think many of the older women here are out there prowling and actively looking for a younger man...I know that I am not...I"m looking for someone close to my age....but it's not happening...
I guess all you guys would have me sitting home alone every weekend and never going out on dates....I've done that a lot in the past two years...so when someone I think is attractive, both mentally and physically, asks me out, I'm gonna take them up on it...no matter their age... | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age EITHER
Posted: 9/28/2006 4:25:00 AM | but not for the same reasons as who_the_fox ... I don't care what they look like or how much iron they can pump, and sense of style? oh my, I'm a straight woman who isn't into gay men.
No, the reason I'm not attracted to men my age is they're all in their midlife crisis and trying to prove they are 20 years younger than everyone else can see they are. Once they round 55 or 60 they've abandoned that ridiculous quest and can just relax and be nice. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 5:11:43 AM | | Well perhaps most do but I am 6' all weight 190 lbs and have a 33 inch waist and a 44 inch chest I am anything but old, you're just not looking hard enough.... | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 6:41:55 AM | | I am only 26 and don't usually find guys my age attractive. Ok maybe at first, but the personality isn't attractive, too young?, immature? I am not sure what it is. Just don't like having to teach the guy everything. I have always been attractive to men older than me, within reason. No sugar Daddy's, old men, or men old enough to be my father. Generally if they are over 40 it is a no go also. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 7:26:12 AM | | polarexpression, I don't like to date men my age(49) for the exact opposite reason. They act too old. They act like they are 49 going on 100!!! If I am honest I will admit that in some ways I am very immature for my age. I seem to have more in common with men in the mid to late 30's than any other age group. As to younger than 30, sure some of them look good enough to eat, but I just couldn't date someone that young, as I would feel like a dirty old woman!!! | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 7:26:40 AM | | Sorry but you are wrong on so many levels its hard to find a place to start, I am 43 and am healthier then I have ever been, my daughter was born when I was 35 so your saying its past at 35 is wrong, whats with people generalizing so much, and yes I have hair growin from places that seams odd but you make it sound like we told it to grow there and I use a razor for those lost hairs so thats not an issue, from the looks of your pics your body seams to be in better shape then your mind, my 2 cents.. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 7:50:21 AM | | Dear, Who the Fox, yeah your right, I know you are, you've inspired me to get off my ass and get back to it, gota be sexy you know, gota be sexy, sexy, sexy, sexy.... lol, Mike | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 4:20:58 PM | I can understand the acting old...for both older women and men...
I happen to like rap and hip hop music, but not many people my age do...I love dancing so anything with a good beat is open game for me to get to dancing...
then there is the political thing too...most men my age tend to be republicans...and I've tried dating them and it has never worked out...for various reasons...
I think the older you are, the more wise you are as to what works for you and what doesn't....what you are really looking for and what things you won't stand for...so in general being so well rounded as a person overall, just makes it hard to find someone that compliments you | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 4:28:00 PM | drumguy...i think you are a very attractive 46 yr old...but you are far from me...if u want to see slim pickens...look through the men in my city who are in their 40's...the few attractive ones i have contacted on this site or others and they were not interested apparently
but wow...i can kind of relate to the not emailing u when u mentioned the kids...that would be kind of scary to a lot of women....someone like me, my daughter is grown and pretty much on her own...that would be starting over in a big way...when i dated a guy with a four year old, i fell in love with his little boy...he was a great kid....but that was one, not four...your kids are young and they would adjust better to a new woman in your life than if they were in their teens...that's going to be difficult but i hope you find someone who can make both you and your kids very happy
course i'm a romantic at heart and wish everyone could find their perfect match...and experience happiness and lots of love | |
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Posted: 9/29/2006 2:03:49 PM | | I dont know what is wrong with the person or persons who have attacked you but I thinkthat you look fabulous and not at all too? sexy. I also have seen much more skin elsewhere. I am turning 45 in oct and I feel the same way, that you do. I have recently dated men anywhere from 36 to 43 . I have dated men my age but for the most part men my age are overweight,bald or balding and have let themselves go. These are the same men that a few years ago, before they lost their luster, felt they could do better than someone like me. So what comes around go's around. I do not appologize for how I feel I was on the other end too long! | |
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Posted: 9/29/2006 2:34:22 PM | mr fair play...yeah i agree with you...but the fact is we do judge on looks...i get discriminated against because of my weight...I dont like it, but I understand it, because I have preferences as well. I don't think all men over 35 give up and stop taking care of themselves...i think it can be said that a lot of men AND women do...I'm actually far more active now than when i was younger...and i'm more at ease with my body...and have come to accept that I won't be skinny...when i look at photos of me when i was 125 i looked horrible and flat chested..ugh...i love my curves...
i've seen plenty of men my age and older who look great...but they simply don't appear to be interested in me...when a man in his 40's and 50's looks great he is usually going for women under 35, maybe younger...and those women love it because they're getting a man with experience, maturity and money...
so where does that leave us women in our 40's and 50's who do still look decent...we take what's available and what presents itself to us...and that's what has happened in my case...on another site that i'm on, i got a list of the guys who want to meet me today...and probably 80% were all in the age range of 18-35...and the ones who were closer to my age were like bikers and rednecks, not my style at all... and first thing when I signed into POF today, i got an email from a 24 yr old and an IM from a 25 yr old...
I don't want this but it sure is tempting... | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 9/29/2006 2:42:40 PM | | Just remember she did say that there are some men who are ok, but they are usually too far away, I have got to agrre with her, I find there are a lot of men my age who look so old!!!, I also agree with her that some just do give up, I look at some of the pics and can't beleive some of them are younger than me! Yes it does matter what they are like on the inside, but if you don't like them on the outside, you are not going to hang around long enough to find out what they are like? | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 9/29/2006 2:50:00 PM | | Do you know I have spent a lifetime treating people with sensitivity, honesty courtesy and respect, and what do I get? nothing, that hurts, but like a fool I keep on doing it as that is the way I have been brought up, younger men to me are in their 30s and 40s old enough to have some of the right qualities, but sadly it doesn't seem to matter what age they are, a lot are still ignorant and arrogant, So where does that leave me? same place as the lady who started this thread!!! | |
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Posted: 9/29/2006 2:59:29 PM | Mr fair play......
Men have said those things for many years! My personal favorite is "I dont do fat chicks."
I wear a size 1 or 3 and weigh about 110 fully dressed. I get messages all the time from men my age that are overweight, balding, missing teeth etc etc, I do not respond to. There are a few that have taken care of themselves and those men I would go out with.
I had my only daughter at 37 and gained a lot of weight! I weighed 240 when she was born and I could not get below 170, I was ignored by men my age,younger than me and older than me. And some were just outright rude.
Now that I have lost 125lbs and dyed my hair. Its amazing the change in the way men act towards me and around me. I dont think that its ever acceptable to be rude to someone, I would never do that. But I do not wish to lead them on by responding either. My personal preference is just that, mine. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 9/29/2006 3:03:11 PM | hey let it be said...nice girls finish last too...
and I do find a lot of men in their 30's and 40's just playing games...sometimes it's easier to not get hurt with a much younger guy...if i'm dating someone in their 20"s I almost expect them to mess up or do something stupid...when they don't I'm pleasantly surprised...but men my age, should know better, they should know how to treat a woman with respect...they should be beyond playing games and lying...but i'm finding they are not...
it's very frustrating... | |
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