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Posted: 10/3/2006 1:20:12 PM | For anyone who thinks the OP is bashing, she simply posted this to see a man's reaction since women have seen men post the same. Most men find women over 35 to be out of shape...and complain about it.
Even if she had written it because she meant it, she simply said she's not attracted to most men her age...not that ALL men over 35 are a mess. Just that it seems more under 35 keep themselves in shape than over 35.
I agree with the woman who posted that men don't have to stay in shape because a majority of women in society allow and expect that, and if we expected more, they might do more.
It's just that at 35, you have to step up your fitness, diet and other things to maintain the same body and stamina of someone under 35, and for those of us who do, the option of finding someone our age who does the same is a smaller group of people than those who are younger and more fit. I have met several men over 35 who are in great shape, look younger than they are, eat well, like to get out and do things and are adventureous. Those men are totally attractive to the women of the same ageg group here who are in the same situation.
Instead of calling the OP names, re-read her post. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 10/3/2006 1:24:29 PM | As long as I continue to look young, I'll probably continue to attract the younger set. I do prefer younger men, not a lot younger, but younger than me. I can't even fathom dating someone in their late thirties or early forties unless they looked a lot younger, it just wouldn't look right. I don't want to be dating someone that looks like he could be my father.
I have never actually dated someone my own age... at the same time, any huge difference in age (as in like 8 or more years) creates so many other issues. Generational issues, kids, ex wives, business and money issues, energy levels (this goes either way, not just older man, younger woman). However, I have a cousin who is married to a man that is the same age as her own father, but the guy has never looked or acted his age and so they fit well because of that.
I know a few couples where the woman is 10 years the senior to her husband and that is working for them pretty well too, it just depends on the people. Matching is based on more than a number, its about soooo much more then that. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2006 5:10:26 PM | Personally age doesn't mean anything to me, it's about the person.
My x-fiance was 9 years younger than me. A really sweet guy in every way. Only problem that eventually led to our break-up was his constant lying. It wasn't just to me but to everyone. He couldn't deal with conflict so he would just say what he thought would cause the least amount of pressure to himself.
We even went to a marriage counselor but he still did it.
Maybe he's changed, hope so, he's suppose to be getting married next year to another girl.
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Posted: 10/3/2006 5:31:18 PM | | I'm fit and look much 10 years or more younger than my age so I've been told. "Most" (not all) women my age have a gut, sagging face, short puffy hair to hide their hair thinning, bad dye job and only want a trophy (man). | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 10/3/2006 6:41:31 PM | | Here here, I hear what you are saying about older men wanting younger and in shape women and they are fat. I am 42 and stay in shape by daily workouts and eating in a reasonable manner. I have done this over twenty years. I am not totaly perfect, fit and doing ok. Is it unreasonable for me not to expect the same in return? I have never seen so many FAT men in all my life as I have here in so Ca. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2006 6:46:40 PM | | that's why god gave men all the muscle glockster....we got all the brains...heehee. the OP works out because she cares about what she looks like and feels good, feeling good. i don't see a darn thing wrong with that. by the way....the vietnam war...wasn't it men that started it in the first place?? why would you want to kill animals. beans, lentils, peanuts, seeds...fruit and veggies....i can live on them. life is what you make it. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2006 6:51:39 PM | an older man has what it takes to attract younger women. all the power toy you..feeling
hey wizard...no pun intended? lol | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 10/3/2006 6:52:55 PM | Experimentation is the spice of life. I'm a scientist by nature. There's never enough variation in nature (ask a scientist), after all we are nature.
The answer is there is no answer.
Adaptation works.
Being flexible helps.
Trust is good.
Commitment is a lie.
AGE IS.. undeniable.
If you have chemistry, and I know it's Undescribable.
There's the ticket! | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 10/4/2006 7:11:34 AM |
Your so-called brutual honesty has trash written all over it, not to mention screams of issues.
No, it's just the truth. Some people just can't handle the truth.
You're 28, but unfortunately, age is but a number. You're a kid when you act like some 18 yr old who just graduated. At your age, you ought to have learned that someone who takes care of themselves, physically, deserves respect for doing so.
From a glimpse of your pictures, I'd bet you're not going to be one of those people.
Nobody "deserves" respect just for how they look. It's how they act. She's been talking ad nauseum about why she can't find a guy. She can't find a guy because....
a) She's looking for younger men and they're looking for younger women.
b) She's not feminine looking. No guy wants a girlfriend that can pummel him.
Good, kid, you're not as old , and I'm sure she is glad to hear she won't be meeting someone like you.
But she wants to, that's the sad part.
How profound a statement, considering you're here now.
The dating problem you speak of is most likely not tied to where you might meet her, but what you might say to her when you DO finally meet her.
Most people just come here to be flirty and goof around. They're not serious about meeting anyone. That's why I said, my woman is out there... but she would probably get turned off this site quickly with all the people begging for sex.
How about just showin a little more respect for people and I won't criticize you or call you a kid, OK? Deal
I tell it like it is. You'll notice I don't have many favourites and no cushy testamonials. It's not a popularity contest and I'm not trying to impress people with how much a$$ I can kiss in the forums in the hopes of getting laid.
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Posted: 10/4/2006 7:25:17 AM | Actually, I have no interest in dating anyone like you or anyone your age or close to it. You assume a great deal about me seemingly based on merely scanning the comments other people have made in this thread.
If you'd bothered actually READING what I had to say in this thread, you would realize it is a PARODY of a man's thread bashing older women. Maybe you should quit typing and start reading and maybe do a little thinking. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 7:32:57 AM | ^^^ ya know foxy, I think like some people have selective hearing...some people do selective reading. There have been several people who have actually READ the thread from the beginning and understand what you were getting at and repeatedly try to get some certain knuckleheads to "get it" but to no avail. I guess some people just don't get the nuances of parody...which in itself is just ironic. You just have to laugh about it. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 7:37:06 AM | | Ladies, you know children will be children...if they can't get positive attention, sometimes they will seek attention by being "bad" and causing a ruckus..... | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 8:45:39 AM | FOXY, allow me the honors, please
No, it's just the truth. Some people just can't handle the truth. (techguy)
You obviously can't even read your own writing. You seem to be mistaking her/me/us for someone who actually gives a sh!t what you think. Handle that truth, stud.
Nobody "deserves" respect just for how they look (techguy)
You've obviously misplaced your websters. Look up "imbecile". Last time I checked, people do deserve respect for looks (taking better care of their wellbeing), of which you're obviously lacking, which is why you're here posting. IF you haven't learned that people read through you, you SHOULD get it now.
It's how they act.
Here's the crux of my argument. She didn't post looking for "just" admirerers. However, she also didnt' post with the intent to illicit the ramblings of those seeking to find some self-assurance of themselves through critical observation of others. According to your OWN observations, you should put your money where your mouth is.
But she wants to, that's the sad part. (techguy)
I think in order to clear up any misconceptions here, allow me to copy WHO_THE_FOXY.
Actually, I have no interest in dating anyone like you or anyone your age or close to it. You assume a great deal about me seemingly based on merely scanning the comments other people have made in this thread (who_the_fox)
So, are we clear as bells, now? You can now take your diatribe, come down off your cross, and move on to the next forum.
You're going to get what you give, chief. If you come in here spewing all your "brutal honesty" around, Some of it is going to come back and smack you upside the face like a 2x4.
Most people just come here to be flirty and goof around.
I'm not disagreeing. You, however, seem "fixated" on being anything but flirty or goofy; more condescending, argumentative, attacking, and belittling, to be "brutally honest".
If you're above it all, then why are you still here, bozo?
In case you haven't noticed, people around here see through the thinly veiled mask you wear.
You're like a kid, alone in the forest, who keeps reminding himself there's nothing to be afraid of. Grow some Kahunas.
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Posted: 10/4/2006 11:56:14 AM | Whatever guy. Kiss some more derierre. You're good at it...
If people can't read and understand the point I'm making, I'm not going to sit around and try to educate anyone. Keep being stubborn, and keep doing what you're doing... and by all means, keep being single. I don't care.
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Posted: 10/4/2006 12:11:17 PM | Especially considering almost every guy wants a woman that is YOUNGER or the same age and that looks feminine.
You have no way of knowing that - some do, but if it was almost all then I wouldn't be getting hit on by so many younger men | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 1:44:46 PM | Now now.. not all men are that way!
I've dated guys from 27-50..................... I'll admit that I'm more attracted to the younger ones.... but it usually has to do with what they enjoy... they aren't as set in theri ways!
Hmmm I just dunno!!! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 1:50:01 PM | She's not feminine looking. No guy wants a girlfriend that can pummel him.
Guess I'm a bit different. I would just love to go out with who...
She's really cute, gotta a really keen sense of humor (I mean look at how this thread grew from something that started as a joke?). I think maybe she could even keep up with me on a bicycle... something no girlfriend I ever had could do....
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Posted: 10/4/2006 4:13:02 PM | Are we as shallow as all this ?
perhaps we are
for me there has got to be a happy medium
I would like to say that age doesn't mean anything to me
but is some way it does ,peripherally anyway
with age comes the sags and double chins and disappearing butts
but it doesn't have to be that way .I carry a few extra pounds
but I'm still physically fit to enjoy everything I want to without noontime naps
I don't need metamucil or oysters I can even carry my own clubs
around twenty seven holes if need be and still party all night
I like being with a younger girl if she can keep up with the conversation
and their are a lot of those I also like the company of some older females
if they can keep up physically and yes there are a lot of those too
the main ingredient for me is self worth if you like yourself it shows
Not a nonchalance for other opinions but confidence tempered with humility
that comes with age and if you got it you're probably already taken | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 10/4/2006 5:02:54 PM | | I have the opposite problem - the men my age seem to be too immature. I have my career set, my life is comfortable, own my own home, have a daughter, two dogs - things are good. However, I find most guys my age are only looking for flings - not settling down or at least being semi committed to one. And it amazes me how difficult it is to carry on a conversation with most that are under 40. That is concerning to me. | |
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