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Posted: 10/4/2006 7:11:35 PM | So tell me steven491957,why don't you have a picture posted????? I'm 43 and don't have any of what you described as "Most" women having at your age. PLEASE.......just a little FYI
43 year old---mother of two grown sons
5'6 3/4" tall
114 lbs
size 3
36x24x35
hair--natural all the way---not short, puffy, or thinning
face--anything, but sagging....
I'm proud and confident enough to put my picture out there for all to see, something you can't say.
A "trophy man" you bet........ I deserve it.............. | |
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JWA
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 10/5/2006 3:43:13 AM |
So tell me steven491957,why don't you have a picture posted????? I'm 43 and don't have any of what you described as "Most" women having at your age. PLEASE.......just a little FYI
43 year old---mother of two grown sons
5'6 3/4" tall
114 lbs
size 3
36x24x35
hair--natural all the way---not short, puffy, or thinning
face--anything, but sagging....
I'm proud and confident enough to put my picture out there for all to see, something you can't say.
A "trophy man" you bet........ I deserve it..............
I LOVE "replies" like this to a worn-out totally ridiculous premise that should have died months ago! Because of a few physical attributes that are mostly genetic all of sudden a woman "deserves" something? LOL C'mon-----is that all a person has to offer? Maybe so if that's all they can or do put forth about themselves. "Look at me---I think I'm cute/attractive/sexy---don't you agree?" Don't women want to be thought of as more than "trophys" or are we going backwards in this equal rights thing? What happened to being appreciated for more than what's visible only to the eyes? Seems there might not be something deeper in such a person.
Sure those who complain about a persons appearance relating to age look foolish if they don't post a real photo of themselves but isn't that omission revealing about someone like that?
OP here is single like most everyone else here for a lot of reasons none of which really have to do with finding someone her age or younger or older or whatever she's supposedly seeking. To each their own--date who you want when you want and for the reasons you want! I don't think it's any more complicated than that? Bashing an age group here due a few unfortunate incidents in your own life is generalizing and it's just not accurate---that topic has also been done here over and over. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 10/5/2006 3:54:09 AM | I only like men my own age or even up to late 40's. There is just a lot more common ground.
Sure the physical aspects change.. mine have too...
I'd rather be with somone I can grow old with comfortably. Couldn't be with someone younger, doesn't feel right.
Yes we all made vows we'd stay in shape fight the aging thing.. We all have our images to up hold. We all have our own ideas of how we would like to live and look.
But when do we stop and say you know what.. if I gain ten pounds or start to wrinkle... when do we stop and say enough... I'm letting nature take over. But seriously..... We all have times when you take a break from all of that too. Its tiring and weighs heavy on us as we upkeep ourselves.
So I'd rather be with someone that's in the same boat. Guys have these feelings too... I've met many that see the changes and they feel at odds with it too. I'd rather be with someone that's going through the same as me and understands it. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 8:16:33 AM | I would have to agree with J though I hate singling people out
and sweets whatever battle you think you're waging with age
you are kicking butt sister good on you | |
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Joined: 7/2/2006
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 10/5/2006 9:28:46 AM | This is a funny thread.
Of course there is no longer any socially suppresive forces to date within your age range.
So now we can all date within our emotional and intelligence range, which negates age.
Thus if all you care about are the obvious qualities and characteristics of youth, you're all set. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 12:02:11 PM | | Hi, well i say everyone has their own opinion really, its all w ho they are and what they are attracted too. I'm 35 and i would not date anyone younger than myself, and think real hard if he is my age. Guess i just like them a little older than I. But that is me. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 12:36:08 PM |
43 year old---mother of two grown sons
5'6 3/4" tall
114 lbs
size 3
36x24x35
hair--natural all the way---not short, puffy, or thinning
face--anything, but sagging....
Perfect. If I could find the you from 20 years ago, I'd be a very happy guy. (Yet, it almost seems like I have to apologize on this site when I say that I'm looking for someone attractive.)
What happened to being appreciated for more than what's visible only to the eyes? Seems there might not be something deeper in such a person.
What happens is human nature. The first interaction you have with someone is visual. You've seen them long before you know anything about them as a person.
What bugs is when people say they're not attracted to people their own age. From my perspective, I'm in my 20's and have my WHOLE LIFE ahead of me. WHY on earth would I want someone twice my age? People that think in terms of attraction only aren't thinking logically and clearly aren't thinking for the future.
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Posted: 10/5/2006 1:09:55 PM | ^Actually, this isn't about you techguy. lol No one is telling you that you should date older women or even be attracted to them.
You are free to have your opinions. Just remember, they are only opinions. They are not truths. Your idea of what is attractive is unique to you. You may not find women in their 40's and 50's attractive, but that doesn't mean that they aren't attractive.
Further, you simply can't speak for all men. As evidenced by other men's posts on this thread and the collective experiences of the older women posting on it....many young men are interested in older women and do pursue them. (It's my belief that women have a bigger issue with dating much younger, then the young men do about dating much older.) | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 1:21:34 PM |
Actually, this isn't about you techguy. lol No one is telling you that you should date older women or even be attracted to them.
And if I am not mistaken, none of the older women in this thread has expressed any attraction to you.
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Posted: 10/5/2006 1:21:35 PM | | Well said ooli oop, its all what one wants. Everyone is different in their unique way with their own beliefs. good example. A member of my family is 39, seing someone that is 26, which i'm 35, and prefer 39-40. Just what you like better. So no insults should be going towards anyone, or taken as an insult. Not everyone thinks alike. And everyone has the right to their own opinion. Now when i was in my 20's i was married to someone my age, but now i think differently...LOL maybe it was because of the man i married, who knows..lmao | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 2:12:10 PM | | Well excuse me. I'm 38 and go to the gym 3-4 times a week. I shop at NEXT (semi-fashion shop in the UK). So I think you must be looking at the wrong guys. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 2:18:29 PM | I agree with you. I am still in very good shape but many of the people I went to school with have let themselves go. But you should also take care of yourself so you live longer.
But about men..I also think women too need to take care of themselves and not get fat and balding. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 6:38:08 PM | No! Sweet Sensation don't let nature take over and gain 10 lbs or let that beautiful face get wrinkles. You look fabulous.    | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 6:57:52 PM |
It doesn't matter who you are attracted to. If you choose to have someone, you must settle for who you can get.
I have settled in the past, and it is about the worst thing any person can do. It isn't fair to you and it sure isn't fair to the person. Would you really want a woman of any age, that was with you because she was settling for what she could get, rather than because she was attracted to you?
It very much matters who you are attracted to. You might not get everyone you are attracted to, but in time you will find one. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 7:33:28 PM |
^Actually, this isn't about you techguy. lol No one is telling you that you should date older women or even be attracted to them.
Whew! 
You are free to have your opinions. Just remember, they are only opinions. They are not truths. Your idea of what is attractive is unique to you. You may not find women in their 40's and 50's attractive, but that doesn't mean that they aren't attractive.
It's not that I don't find some older women attractive. Canadians will know exactly what I'm talking about if I say Belinda Stronach. A female politician that is highly attractive... makes American politics look dull by comparison.
But the thing is, realistically it would never work out with a woman that age long term because we're at two different stages of our lives. People tend to think in the moment. I'm thinking about what person I could be with for the rest of my life. Do I want to be wheeling my wife into the nursing home before I go to work in the morning? Hmmmm.
Further, you simply can't speak for all men. As evidenced by other men's posts on this thread and the collective experiences of the older women posting on it....many young men are interested in older women and do pursue them. (It's my belief that women have a bigger issue with dating much younger, then the young men do about dating much older.)
I think there are valid reasons for men to date younger women. eg: The ability to have children... something older women cannot do. Older men are still capable of producing them. The "gun" is always "loaded"... it just takes more work setting it up to fire.
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Posted: 10/5/2006 8:10:11 PM |
Older men are still capable of producing them. The "gun" is always "loaded"... it just takes more work setting it up to fire (techguy)
Are you actually going to read what's being said here, or are you just going to be a seagull, and fly in every once in a while, squawk a lot, and fly out after sh*tting on the carpet? | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 11:22:48 PM | | I hate to sound bitter, but men left or we left them....they thought they would be forever young or appealing to the female eye. They are no longer, and then come on line pretending to be wonderful people. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 11:29:27 PM | | And what is it about the "older bullit filled men" that is so attractive that any woman would want them, besides money? | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 11:41:52 PM | | Men don't care. My best male friend is here, he willl attest to that. They will say or do whatever they feel makes you happy.......not what is the truth...They are naturally born scopers.... scopeing out new territory, then when they become" old" want to settle down and usually want to go back in time to the one they treated the worst and can't understand why the person of their past doesn't want them back. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 2:41:33 AM | God, I do love this thread. It started out as a rebuttal against one just like it written by a man and thus far, very few have understood that.
Why do we continue to bash the other gender?  Older, younger, keeping up, not keeping up, tall, short, average, bbw, thin, hair, no hair, sports, no sports, players, nice guys, active, inactive, educated, uneducated, rich or just financially stable, big boobs, no boobs --- who cares! Isn't it about what makes you and the object of your affection happy? | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 5:29:33 AM |
it would never work out with a woman that age long term because we're at two different stages of our lives
I think you really do need to consider generational differences and if they are an issue. There is nothing wrong with saying that you want to find someone who has the same long term goals as you. There is nothing wrong with your preferences. I, myself, don't want to date a man who wants children. I am not interested in walking down that road.
Do I want to be wheeling my wife into the nursing home before I go to work in the morning?
Hopefully you will never have to do this. Hopefully, the woman you end up with won't have an accident or an illness that will incapacitate her. This can happen with a younger woman, you know. ;-)
Also...it is a bit naive to think that a woman who is 10 or 15 years older than you will be wheelchair bound when you are in your sixties. Gah. That smacks of ageism. And, I hope you won't be wheelchair bound one day or that your spouse won't resent it if you are.
The ability to have children... something older women cannot do.
Not true. A woman can have a biological child up to a year after her last period. A post menopausal woman can carry a baby to term with certain hormone treatments. Surrogacy and adoption are options.
Lastly, youth does not guarantee fertility and many young women are choosing not to have children.
The "gun" is always "loaded"...
This is not true. Men begin to experience fertility issues even before andropause. Sperm does become less robust after a certain age, and often is destroyed by a healthy female's body. And, infertility in men is on the rise world-wide.
I guess the point that I'm trying to make is that youth does not guarantee fertility or that offspring will be forthcoming. And, there are many options available to those who want children, who find they cannot conceive naturally. So, if a younger man and an older woman find love, fertility issues shouldn't be an impediment to their finding happiness together. It's all a state of mind.
So, your gender, as a whole, doesn't need protecting on the whole older woman issue. lol Some men...and women...will have their cake and eat it, too. If the people involved are consenting adults and happy, why not follow their heart and not let age be an impediment to finding a loving partner! | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 5:56:42 AM |
Are you actually going to read what's being said here, or are you just going to be a seagull, and fly in every once in a while, squawk a lot, and fly out after sh*tting on the carpet?
OMG that bears repeating! in fact I think that post should go into the hall of fame for great lines on the forums. Too too funny....thanks for the laugh this morning Manerider. | |
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