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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 10/7/2006 7:29:04 PM |
I think you really do need to consider generational differences and if they are an issue. There is nothing wrong with saying that you want to find someone who has the same long term goals as you. There is nothing wrong with your preferences. I, myself, don't want to date a man who wants children. I am not interested in walking down that road.
Well not just goals. Imagine the following scenario:
I marry some chick that is 38. (10 years older than me.) She retires at age 65. I'm still working of course for the next ten years until I turn 65. So what is she going to do all day? She probably wants to travel, take up new hobbies, etc. Will she feel comfortable doing it all alone while I'm working? 
Those are difficult issues that arise when a big age gap is present IMHO.
Hopefully you will never have to do this. Hopefully, the woman you end up with won't have an accident or an illness that will incapacitate her. This can happen with a younger woman, you know. ;-)
I hope not! 
Not true. A woman can have a biological child up to a year after her last period. A post menopausal woman can carry a baby to term with certain hormone treatments. Surrogacy and adoption are options.
This is not true. Men begin to experience fertility issues even before andropause. Sperm does become less robust after a certain age, and often is destroyed by a healthy female's body. And, infertility in men is on the rise world-wide.
Geez, I can't even get a woman to agree with me ONLINE. How bad is that??? 
So, your gender, as a whole, doesn't need protecting on the whole older woman issue. lol Some men...and women...will have their cake and eat it, too. If the people involved are consenting adults and happy, why not follow their heart and not let age be an impediment to finding a loving partner!
I don't think age is an issue unless the gap is really wide. Let's just say it becomes more and more difficult to make it work out with a big age gap. We can agree on that right?
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 10/7/2006 11:28:06 PM | Me too! Men go downhill fast after 28. But, I get more mail from 19 and up, than anywhere near my age. That's too young. My mom married a guy 20 years younger than herself, & he still died before her. Yet, when they're so much younger you have less in common. I have dated 30 yr olds ,and they were a pleasure but, if you didn't sleep with them on the 1st date, they were insulted. I wanted to just love 'em to death, but I believe in waiting to build a good bond & a strong friendship 1st. Values have changed, each year sex becomes first, then they try to build a relationship. Age is just a number, however, men peak at 18, & a woman just starts to peak going into her 40's. By then most men, not all men, but most of them are looking for a blue pill , have male menopause, or are looking for a young woman to buy so they can feel young. Demi Moore got it right!! | |
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Posted: 10/7/2006 11:32:16 PM | If you seek you shall find....lol There are some men my age who I find very attractive but then they look directly at my daughter when we are walking down the street lol. My daughter says to me...."when I am with Daddy and he looks at girls my age it makes me sick to my stomache and I ask him why he does it amd he says cause they look good".
The truth can be said about older women,finding younger men attractive. I wonder if there may be something wrong with me...to me its about the whole person, I have been with some really hot men and I have been with average men and its so much about what makes me click when I meet them, not how attractive they are....yeah yeah I know its the very first thing that may have you interested,but in most of my relationships it so wasnt. Im not saying I dont enjoy the company of good looking men...Im saying in the long run its more then that and you all know it.
I do have to admit and I have said this so many times on other threads, that some MEN on here took offense....and I saw what you did LOL.... but really Im confident enough to know that I wont take it personally LOL.....
WHY? OH WHY? DO MEN OVER 40....and I am not saying ALL but some, (so dont get all upset)...keep that ridiculous looking moustache from way back in the 80s and so much out dates them and is very unattractive and makes them look way older then they are....Also like women dye their hair to look younger....why do men hang on to the half points of their heads and not just shave it off....its so modern to have a bald head and so very sexy!!! Also do they not notice that those jeans that they are still wearing since the 80s dates them as well...
My ex is 52, he does weights and looks after himself, great body,shames some guys in their 20s, only thing hes got to do is shave that moustache and he will be a catch for any women his age..touche!
Ok I know what your going to do cause of my opinions....lol I can take it....
"Whatever people do, think, feel or say, dont take it personally. Others are going to have their own opinion according to their belief system, so whatever they think about you is not about YOU...but it is about them...Don Miguel Ruiz "The Four Agreements"
WE ALL HAVE OPINIONS ON WHAT WE ARE ATTRACTED TO...thats why a lot of times when we see a couple walking down the street we may think to ourselves...WHY THE HECK is he with her or vice versa...isnt life interesting!!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/7/2006 11:50:36 PM | | Actually I think you should go out and get yourself a young guy, lord knows you all deserve it. By god you had to put up with the young people BS once, I think you all should go out and get some more. Go on with your bad selves, get that guy with the perfect pecks and have wild animal sex for days on end. Scratch that itch, relive those youthfull days, if your lucky you might even get asked to have the girlfreind his age join you and get some pointers for when your at work. I mean after all, you older ladies are very able to have sex the four or five times a day the younger guys need it. Ah, what the heck, no need in setting examples for us young pups, our society is set up on the fast track to disaster anyway, why do things the way there suppose to be done. Nail that young pup and have good time... | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 12:39:07 AM | | I don't know about older men, but I find older women very attractive. I'm 19, so older means like 35+. I think a distinguished woman that has something to say is much more interesting and appealing, although I'm yet to hook up with one sexually, so it's possible that I'm totally wrong about my fetish. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 12:49:32 AM | | Dude, only so many reasons older ladies want us young ones, Our stamina, our looks, and it makes em feel young again. Its a one sided proposition dude, there is nothing in it for us. They tell you want you want to hear so they can get what they want and cover it up with they think there doing something right for the guy. Telling em things we can learn from books or our parents, probably giving em money for sex and covering it up thinking its like a mother son thing, this is so gross man, these ladies are sick. If I had known I was going to have to put up with this crap I would never have joined, now I am fighting for whats right. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 1:02:50 AM | | for the most part...whether it's because they are complacent, lazy or just don't give a damn any more, it doesn't matter! i know there isn't much that can be done about losing hair, but there is something that can be done about gaining a beer gut. i know that there are a lot of women out there who have lost the urge to make themselves look like they at least care about their physical attractiveness, and shame on them, but guys...puleez. if you don't care about the way you look, how would you expect a woman to care? | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 1:14:22 AM | | I have no objection to dating men my age; so show me a man who doesn't look 10 years older than he actually is, is still fit, healthy, trendy and attractive (and yes I do like a man with a great personality and SOH as well) and I'll date him. Sorry guys, you may take offence to some women preferring younger men but until you start making an effort about your appearance, it's just going to keep on happening! I refuse to go out with a man who looks, behaves and dresses like a man 10 years older than me! | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 1:30:40 AM | | See what I mean dude, these older ladies are telling us the way it is. That is so much BS man. I just cant see it, these chicks really dont care. These 40 and 50 somethings are going head to head with 20 and 30 something chicks, and dude, these young chicks are mean as hell, beautiful, sexual in ways I cannot even begin to imagine yet. They are going to lose on so many levels. No way you older ladies have it over the young ones, think twice and keep it locked up. You want to play in this field your going to have some serious competition. Your going to catch all the junk that comes along with it. Just as long as I am not involved, and I can gaurentee you I wont be there for you.... | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 2:00:21 AM | Saftynet: sorry to tell you but it's younger men who approach me! I look younger and am fitter than many women 10+ years younger than me, so why should I date a man who is not my equivalent?
At the end of the day it's down to personal choice! | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:15:18 AM | | You know what, if thats the case then thats fine. More power to ya, what I am dealing with are the old ladies that are propositioning me. I think thats wacked out man. And if your just talking about physical condition then you have no case at all. I know more older men though my father who could play football with the best of em on Sunday. And that includes my father who is in better shape then most people I know. I have seen just as many young women that need to pay extra at the toll bridge because they wiegh more then the Empire state building. So from where I am sitting your just not looking hard enough or taking the responsibility for your own actions. I dont for a minute believe that physical condition has anything to do with merely age, it has to do with how well your willing to to keep it up in the first place. Most fat and unhealthy people die early anyway, so what are you left with after that, healthy old people thats what.... | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 2:22:47 AM | | I think the problem here is being propositioned by people who know they are out of your league and it becomes a bit insulting that they think you would even consider them as a possibility. I wouldn't dream of writing to a man who was 20 because I'm just not interested and I DON'T think age is just a number. Perhaps everyone on dating sites needs to think a little more carefully before they hit on someone just to try their luck ......and for goodness sake read their profile first for "clues"! | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:27:43 AM | | im actually refusing to date men my age, and for that matter from my area guna get me a nice 30 yr old londoner hehe i think its the accents lol and well i like men not boys so 30s a good age :D | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 2:42:29 AM | | I think we can agree on these points electrobabe, I think ten years is a good number to work off of at your age. I dont think I want to date any thirty somethings, but thats just me. I want to stay around my age with in a few years for sexual compatibility. I think I would freak at anything older. I can even deal with a few sordid affairs for girls dating older guys, as long as its within ten years or so that aint to bad. Right now I dont want anything younger than me by any more then a year or so. I have met some nice girls on here that I want to see when I get better. But I swear the next old chick that props me I am going to lay into her like a mack truck and tell her the way it is | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:53:11 AM | | Hey Saftynet, I really do know where you are coming from and we all get messages on here where we think "Good grief, they have two hopes and one of them's Bob"! However take the satisfaction of just hitting delete as quickly as possible. Also why not put an age range on your profile to make it absolutely clear because not everyone will take the trouble to read the detail you write. By the way best of luck with your treatment, my sister's got advanced cancer and her positive attitude has been an inspiration to me and I swear it keeps the stress levels down and hence gives a much better fighting chance. She's also taken to buying very expensive clothes and spending a fortune on her horses!! | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 10/8/2006 3:06:30 AM | Okay, I just posted this in another thread...."I'm not attracted to women my age" but I think it's equally appropriate here, so I'm just cutting and pasting my post.....
I'm not attracted to women my age.
Posted: 10/8/2006 4:02:43 AM
"Granted, as a rule people look less sexy as they get older. Things get heavier, thicker, saggier, etc. I would love to look like my daughter does, she is so beautiful and gets all the looks when we're out in public! But I'm no teenager. I always hear how alike we look, but obviously I have 23 years on her.
I guess it comes down to priorities....it's pretty rare to find somebody who looks much younger than they are, but has the experience/wisdom/maturity that comes with age. So what is it you want....physical perfection or mental/emotional wisdom? Not often (not impossible mind you) to get both.
I dated a younger guy once. It lasted a few months and in the end I felt like a babysitter. Very sweet, very sexy, very immature. No thanks, never again! I take experience/maturity over youth ANY DAY!" | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 10/8/2006 4:15:46 AM | I can understand why some of the young men on this thread feel repulsed by the idea of being with an older woman. You're young and you want someone who looks and feels like you do. All the more power to you. You haven't had a lot of life experience yet and you want to stick with what you know.
But there will come a time when you will understand the charm and sensuality of an older woman. You will get older yourself and so will the young women you are attracted to now. Your sense of what is attractive will also mature and broaden. Then you will understand that beauty comes in many forms.
I would like to point out to the men who feel a need to explicitly detail why women in their prime are not attractive...not every man feels like you do. I find it ironic that you are ignoring the multitude of posts from young men saying they are attracted to older women. lol Selective comprehension, I guess. You are not going to convince the women in their prime posting on here that they are not attractive, so, give it up. lol We know our reality and we don't need you to confirm it. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 10/8/2006 6:10:11 AM | elecbabe
I do agree with you that a good looking, youthful looking woman deserves an equally good looking man. I, for one, enjoy that most women ten yrs younger don't realize my age, and i would grant you that you look younger than most women our age. However, you deem such doesn't exist.
I have no objection to dating men my age; so show me a man who doesn't look 10 years older than he actually is, is still fit, healthy, trendy and attractive (and yes I do like a man with a great personality and SOH as well) and I'll date him (elecbabe)
I'm not asking you to "consider" me as I don't see myself with a woman my age, but more like 10-15+ yrs younger. I am contending that it works both ways. There are men who don't look their age. My 17 yr old daughter relates to me how some of the girls at her school have told her how handsome they think I am.
You seem more mature than to suggest the opposite does not occur for men. I know for fact I don't look my age, I'm trendy, stylish and I'm definately not locked into Dockers and oxford shirts.
It's a 2 way street. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 10/8/2006 6:21:49 AM | I gotta say this thread sure is a hoot ....Saftynet is definitely in the seagull category. (just a suggestion but you should read the thread at least back a few pages to see what its about) LOL
Listen young fella, whats all the "fighting for what's right" about? Did you not read that there are filters on this site? Just put what age bracket you want to contact you and all the old ladies won't be able to contact you...simple. You don't have to get your tighty whities in a twist about it. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age....
Posted: 10/8/2006 8:30:04 AM | saftynet..I have to agree with you, I cant imagine prop a 20 yr....I would
feel like a child molester, I have been emailed by guys your age and I
always ask them why their not out with women their own age? I have
no idea why men your age email women who are in their forties....I tell
them I would have nothing in common with them...dont even like their
music. I like younger men but I pretty much go by the 10 yr different thing
I dont mind being just friends with the younger guys but thats about all.
And when I say "younger" I mean in spirit mostly...you can be my own
age and still be young in mind. The time a "old chick" props, I'd have your
mom email her back and tell "the old chick" to"CUT THAT OUT!!!"
To electrobabe...you really put people in leagues..and your insulted if
they dare to email you, knowing their not in your league....great attitude
you got towards your fellow humans...a word comes to mind, egocentric.
Maybe these "not in your league" people just wanted to say hi....
To saftynet...I know im "an old chick" promise I wont email you.....
To electrobabe.....I know im not one of the perfect people...wont email you
neither....There, both of yous have one less, old, imperfect person that
you two, wont have to worry about sending you an email. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 8:47:32 AM | saftynet, it is one thing to have your own preference, another to reveal, for all the world to see, your ignorance and lack of maturity.
Dude, only so many reasons older ladies want us young ones, Our stamina, our looks, and it makes em feel young again
Maybe, just maybe, it is attitude. I know that the younger men I date have a way of looking at the world that I relate to. Of course, that is not universal, as you have demonstrated.
probably giving em money for sex
You have got to be joking!
thinking its like a mother son thing
Never in a million years.
I can even deal with a few sordid affairs for girls dating older guys
Isn't it nice, the old double standard is still around.
and dude, these young chicks are mean as hell, beautiful, sexual in ways I cannot even begin to imagine yet.
Actually, it may just be us older ones who are sexual in ways you can't imagine.
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Posted: 10/8/2006 9:28:52 AM | | sunbirdus: I appreciate your comments, but I wasn't referring to people who are "out of my league", I was referring to the young chap who is 20 years old who would not wish to receive messages from a woman of my age or older! Hope this clarifies matters, oh and for your information I'm 43, so I am pretty much the same age as you give or take a few years. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 9:38:01 AM | I stumbled across this silly website, that has a slide show on some stars who are in their 40's heading towards 50. There are a lot of beautiful people in this age range...and it's not all because of plastic surgery and botox injections. lol So, remember that these celebs are normal people just like us. I guess the moral of the story is to not get caught up in the unhealthy examples of people in middle age and to realize that there is a lot of beauty and vitality out there, for both men and women. So you can have your cake and eat it, too. lol
http://showbiz.sky.com/showbiz/article/0,,50002-1213060,00.html
When you get to the website, click on the link below the pic of Sarah Jessica Parker and you'll see the slide-show of 40 somethings. I can actually think of a lot of people who weren't included in the slide show like Johnny Depp, Kim Basinger and Jodie Foster. Nicole Kidman will be 40 in a couple of months. The list goes on and on...
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