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Posted: 10/9/2006 9:06:26 PM | whoa I doubt I think my shit dont stink lol....ummm you say I still look good for my age...what is one supposed to look like at my age?
I wonder where it might read that Im ignorant about my own preferences to what Im attracted to in a man. If you read it right, I was telling you, why men wonder why Im single. I havent been single for to long...I was married once and have had several meaningful relationships....yup and they ended and I have been DEEPLY WOUNDED WITH PAIN from one of them......so saying I think my shit dont stink, give me a break. All those men were men I wanted and OMG you say I have high expectations.....ummm, well let me just tell you without spilling my private life....he was unemployed...didnt own a car .... you get my drift.
LMAO at the younger beach models....GOOD, if any man Im with would rather be with someone else then me, then I DONT WANT to be with them either.....why would anyone want to be with anyone who doesnt want them. LOL PUHLEAAAAAZE, you say you used to be like me...you are so assuming you know me at all, from just a few messages I have put on a dating site thread. I HOPE THE **** I am with someone I love and he loves me back in 3 years.....not on a dating site....PLEASE TO THE UNIVERSE....heed my call!
Thank gawd you say Im going up the hill.....great exercise it will keep me fit!
Cooldude.....lol....all my comments about the moustache wasnt about you I didnt even see you on this thread until you made that comment after the fact.....nice try! | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 3:38:42 AM | I am with you on this one...I am extremely attracted to younger guys, as they are with me. I haven't dated anyone on this site that wasn't over 35..and I have had a lot of fun! Nothing against older men..younger men are just who i prefer... | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 6:23:06 AM |
thats a very scary thought remind me to jump the bridge on my 30th birthday
fyneblackdude...lol...at least wait 'til your 40th! | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 2:37:34 PM | It's been interesting reading this thread. At least the responses to the OP. She announced what her preferences were. Fair enough. I don't fit her preferences and, to be honest, she doesn't fit mine. I'm not offended and I'm sure neither is she. She's not likely to email me and I'm not likely to email her for a date. Seems fair enough.
Far better than emailing someone that looks like a match and getting rejected. So I can't understand all the anger. She's doing us all a favor. Yeah, she puts some things in ways I wouldn't. It's her message not mine. If I had been inclined towards her, I would think she deserves my respect for letting me know I don't fit in her ball park. Her preferences are hers, mine are mine and yours are yours. POF is just a forum that permits us to attempt to find people who rock our boat at a similar level to the way we rock theirs. Anyone providing info that reduces rejection is providing a service. Anyone getting upset because they don't fit someones criteria has issues that make dating them risky. Most of us don't have so clearly defined criteria and that puts both us and those we message at greater risk for rejection. Live with it. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 4:21:48 PM | | my cousin says the same thing and she is over her 30s. She also finds that maybe most guys in their 30 + are stuck in their ways! When u do see a guy ur age they tend to be an ego highway or complete player...hehe...i have a lot of guy friends and i just know one of my older male friend in his 40's is a hottie but a player. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 4:30:57 PM | For those of us who've been around the pond awhile, the OP is known as someone who is frank and speaks her mind, with class and intelligence. (my original profile accidently deleted, was dated March '05). Fox has stated over and over again that this post was the other perspective for a thread started by a man saying the same thing.
It's almost funny and sometimes sad how people are blasted for their preferences. The height/weight/hair color/bald ad nauseum threads will no doubt continue as long as this forum exists. Thing is, you can't ARGUE someone into being attracted to you, hard as you may try. It's just a waste of time, the smarter ones spend time looking for people who's preferences they fall within. And dare I say (grabbing shield) I'm not attracted to a lot of men my age either. Not because of age, because of the mindset. Age isn't really a consideration, personality and enjoying life are.  | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 5:22:41 PM | LMAO GOTNERVE: my daughter would rather be alone then spend her time dating an older man for his money etc etc or any older man. I married a man 8 years older and it ended....I dont think age has anything to do with it. I hope your definitely not talking "the old mindset" as us women over 40..
I like to date men my age, but prefer not to date anyone older....and DO NOT GRAVITATE to younger men lol....how do we acquire these younger men by the truck load... maybe in a fantasy.
We can ask the very same question: do younger women/older men relationships stand a chance? I doubt it....just ask my daughter she cringes at that thought. Especially since now women are educated, some make way more money then men and ummmm look way younger for their age, so why on earth would these younger women want older men.
Listen up and I can tell you from experience: older men no matter how hot they look or how much they work out....are not the same sexually as they were when they were younger(granted now there is help with viagra which is another topic in itself) and this is not by my opinion only.... this is men my age telling me this. Women my age are at their peak sexually and like it more now then they ever did.....isnt it ironic.....it just pisses me off lol!!!!!
Gotnerve...I doubt women 44 want men 21...I have a daughter 20 and she wont hear of me dating anyone younger then 35 LMAO....out of the mouth of babes...she keeps me grounded!!! | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 5:32:18 PM | | I'm not usually attracted to men my age either, which isn't really a problem because a lot of younger men ask me out. Of course, there are exceptions! | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 5:53:16 PM | WHAT does a 44 year old woman have in common with a 21 year old barely-out-of-high-school-young-male?
Hey gotnerve (appropriate name) in Tigress' defense, who said she was interested in someone who was 21? She could be talking about 30 year olds for all you know. Both you and saftynet are out of the range of maturity for most 40 year olds anyway (which is plainly obvious), so get over yourselves.
And before you freak out, I said MOST not all....however a 20 year difference when someone is 20 or 21 isn't as common for older women/younger men as it is for 40+ year old men and women under the drinking age.
Bottom line, if younger men are approaching older women, there's really no argument there. That's not your problem. No one's trying to throw a net over either one of you....so relax. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 9:55:11 PM | ewwww Arri please I hope someone shoots me out of my misery, if I ever wear those disgusting "come **** me boots" that you are so right about...I have seen them and I have also seen that pack of cougars hitting on younger men in bars. I told my daughter if she ever saw me behaving like that to smack me. What an awful thought.....
I actually make a decent income and am looking for a new car to own...and is there such a thing as kiddie bars...ewwwwwwww....I remember that when I was 19 and used to go clubbing....I remember those men your talking about.....ewwww....I hope women havent evolved in doing that...
Regarding your remark about 40+ guys...who said anything about them being losers lol...Im looking for that certain 40+ that finds me attractive and is what Im attracted to as well....I said it before and I will say it again I ADORE THE MEN who are 37-47 thats a great age group....although unfortunately they are hitting on my daughter who is 20...which gives her the ICK feeling just like I get that ICK feeling when men on POF who are 65 my Moms age and say they are 55....GIVE ME A BREAK...I wasnt born yesterday.... Oh and by the way for just that reason I had to change my mail preferences to an age and I really didnt want to do that, cause you just never know but OH WELL!!!
Also if there are any men out there who I click with and they click with me 37-47 and want to go travelling the world...let me know....it will have to be dutch though!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 10:00:26 PM |
Regarding your remark about 40+ guys...who said anything about them being losers lol...Im looking for that certain 40+ that finds me attractive and is what Im attracted to as well
I am 40+ 
But the guys that I described are losers .. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 10:11:49 PM | Arri,
I usually check out profile of some of the posters on a thread...gain a tad more insight...when replying to something they've said.
Where's your problem? Reading your testimonials... you should have already been caught in this pond. Unless.....................................................................................
You, too, have the same quirk so many of us do. The 'one' has not materialized yet.
The above was in general cuz I think some of us just might be a bit too picky.. moi included in that 'some of us'. Hmmmm. Could be. OR... we're just forum junkies and those who don't post seem out of sync with us. OR.... it truly is us who need   | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 10/11/2006 5:17:21 AM | ^^^ na ... I just hate fishing 
didn't you see that in my profile?
going back to the statement that sparked this comment, I was referring to the creep in a suit that hangs out at the kiddie bars and tries to impress young girls. If that guy sounds creepy, so do the cougars on the hunt.
As a man, it is only fitting to criticize certain members of my own gender for their behavior ... before criticizing certain members of the opposite sex for theirs. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 5:38:15 AM | I find the idea of dating a man young enough to be my son creepy. The same is true of a man on the hunt. If you could have fathered the girl, she's too young for you. lol
And honestly, when I meet a man in his late teens and early twenties, I feel more maternal than sexual. It doesn't matter how good looking he is, I want to protect not ravage him. Strange how our sexuality barometer changes over the years. Maybe this is a gender thing, because most women I know feel this way. I'm not sure if most men have the same paternal urges kick in with unrelated young women. I don't know. Do you fellows? | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 6:39:03 AM | I have to wonder about the men who refer to me as "muscle bound"....if you can look at a LITTLE woman like me and make that comment, it says a great deal about your physical condition (or lack thereof).
On topic though,
THIS THREAD IS A PARODY !!!!! IT WAS DESIGNED TO PERHAPS MAKE MEN STOP AND THINK ABOUT HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT WOMEN. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW I PERSONALLY FEEL ABOUT MEN!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 6:43:23 AM | my cut off is 28.
I am not a parent, so I do not know what paternal feels like, but do notice I tend to give advice to youngsters based on my experience at their age, info like put away 50 bucks a month in a no load mutual fund and when you are 50 you will be a multi millionaire.Drink in moderation. Don't use drugs...
(did I really use the word "youngsters"?)
Not that they listen. Not many of us did!
THIS THREAD IS A PARODY !!!!! IT WAS DESIGNED TO PERHAPS MAKE MEN STOP AND THINK ABOUT HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT WOMEN. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW I PERSONALLY FEEL ABOUT MEN!!!!
hey! Cut it out! you have made this statement way too many times. I believed it the first time. Now you just sound defensive. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 7:09:37 AM |
hey! Cut it out! you have made this statement way too many times. I believed it the first time. Now you just sound defensive.
I just wish that more people would stop to read before they start to type.
I find it very fascinating that I am getting bashed for seeking a fit man who is a max of 10 years my junior up to my own age and yet men request women a MINIMUM of 10 years younger, fit and with a D cup and not reap any of the same comments about having unreasonable expectations.
Stop and think about that for a moment. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 7:24:32 AM | I just wish that more people would stop to read before they start to type.
It should be noted I am not bashing you, simply stating you are beginning to appear to me rather defensive since you have made this parody statement many times.
My ideal would be around my own age. I think it is a ridiculous notion that you make the generalization that MEN...not some men, or a type of man, but men...request women a minimum of 10 years younger. In a perfect world she is between 39 and 47, in good shape, and as long as she is healthy the stereotypical D cup is not a requirement either. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 7:33:53 AM |
My ideal would be around my own age
You are 46. If 39-47 is around YOUR own age, then late 30s to 50 is "around my own age" too.
I have yet to see a man get bashed for referring to a woman 10 years younger as around his own age, yet men have been very quick to dissect my profile and call my requirements "unrealistic".
Oddly, when I get bashed in Forums and my mailbox fills with hate mail, I start to get a little testy. Call it "defensive" if you wish.
I am done here. I have asked the mods to delete this thread. I was foolish to ever think that I could make any impact on the way men continue to maintain a ridiculous double standard about what is "appropriate". | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 7:41:18 AM |
You are 46. If 39-47 is around YOUR own age, then late 30s to 50 is "around my own age" too.
I am not making a big Ol issue about dating within a normal age range. I don't even have a specific age limitation on my profile.
I don't see anything particularly wrong with requesting ages within your age range. I do see you getting upset at a very relative FEW men who have as you said sent mail to you...and responding to that with your original post only to come back later with less than intended results and making it a big deal about now it is all a PARODY.
You look great for your age. Don't let a few creepy geezers allow you to get out of sorts. They are just jealous, likely. Jealously is a sign of weakness and they feel stronger for bashing you. Who gives a rip! I can tell you they don't represent all men, a majority of men, or even a small portion of men out there!
Clearly you have some issues.
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