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Posted: 10/11/2006 8:08:26 AM | This thread is a direct copy of a thread started by a man. It did not originate due to the hate mail I recieve.
The hate mail and the bashing are not isolated incidents. It is a significant portion of ALL the email I recieve and about 85% of men's comments made about me, or to me, in Forums have been filled with hate.
I don't have issues with men in general. The men on this site certainly seem to have an issue with me though. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 8:16:23 AM | | I'm sorry to hear that you're getting such undeserved and negative feedback, who the fox. People who send hate mail or who make venomous posts should be banned from the site, IMO. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 8:16:29 AM | I am not sure why the age thing is an issue.
Yes women stop being able to reproduce at a younger age, but what are you trying to do repopulate the earth? A lot of men that are younger than I am, already have children and do not want more. Some don't want any to begin with. Not that I would date someone as young as 20, but one I work with one that is 20 and he has two children and doesn't want more.
As to how one looks at a given age. Some, men and women alike look their age, look younger, and look older. As long as the two involved are happy with it, what difference does it make what others think?
Same with interests and activity level. Varies from person to person. I know people as young as 16 that are perfectly happy to stay home every minute they can, and people in their early 70's that aren't home any more than they have to be.
If you are a man and don't want to date a woman that is older than you are, then don't. There are plenty that will.
If you are a woman and don't want to date a man that is older than you are, then don't. There are plenty that will.
The bottom line is as long as the two people involved are happy, it doesn't matter what the age difference between them is. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 8:33:34 AM |
I don't have issues with men in general. The men on this site certainly seem to have an issue with me though.
I don't have any issues with you, I think you are getting a disproportionate number of hate mail because there are some nutty ones out there.
You likely would get more email from more normal guys if you changed your profile a bit. You are sending the wrong message.
The message you are sending is you are looking for younger guys. If a fit 45 year old came around (and they do) you are passed up because of the message you are sending. The bottom line is you are repelling the normal majority, and attracting the smaller number of nuts.
Normal guys who are the norm, as in NORMAL are in far greater number, but based on the mail you get your PERCEPTION is all men are like the men sending you hate mail.
I get my share of nuts, too...and likely everyone...several unannounced...
How about:
"Well! I am a busy professional who just doesn’t have the time to read."…from someone out of the blue. --talk about defensive, I had never communicated with her before...and never did for obvious reasons.
"yeah, I'll bet all you read is the sports page..humf!!"
goofy, huh?
Stop taking yourself so seriously! | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 8:42:58 AM |
You likely would get more email from more normal guys if you changed your profile a bit. You are sending the wrong message.
The message you are sending is you are looking for younger guys. If a fit 45 year old came around (and they do) you are passed up because of the message you are sending. The bottom line is you are repelling the majority, and attracting the smaller number of nuts.
Actually, I changed my profile a week ago. Up until that time, there was no age or anything else on it as I haven't been looking to date from this site for over a year.
The "message" I am sending out to the nutbars is not anything I type but seems to have more to do with the fact I am fit, female and old. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 8:54:08 AM | wow,
I guess..it's a person to person thing, I usually date 15 years younger........but there are nice, fit women my age............but for me.......it's about loosing your dreams............loose your dreams.....................just walk through life.......and you're old at any age..........doesn't really matter if you're fit................if you're no funnnnnnnnnn
William | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 10:11:13 AM | whos the fox....I am tapped out. I am sorry your experience has been a bad one. I am certain the bozos sending you the hate mail are not representative of all men, or even not very much more than a very very small percentage of the men on this site.
One suggestion I can offer is maybe lose that picture of yourself...the one to the far right...the muscular one. That is not a good photo of you and is not appealing.
To actually believe all men feel the way you describe borders on delusional. I do not believe you really think this way.
Good luck to you. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 10:31:25 AM | I am done here. I have asked the mods to delete this thread. I was foolish to ever think that I could make any impact on the way men continue to maintain a ridiculous double standard about what is "appropriate".
Sorry to hear that all the 'nutbars' have to send you hate mail. I think you have accidently stumbled on your 15 minutes of fame Fox.
You do make good points and have sparked a very interesting thread. It reminds me of Tom Leykis, the radio personality, who on the surface seems to bash women with his 'dating rules', but is really making fun of the RED NECKED MEN who phone in.
Don't let it get to you. (or maybe you are just putting on a show and enjoying the limelight) lol | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 10:35:57 AM | whos the fox:
I didnt have an age limit on mine as well.....cause I just want to leave it up to the Universe...cause you just never know right....
wrong thing to do...I cant believe how many men lie about their age and think they can get away with it and quite honestly WHY WHY WHY do it...a few years difference maybe, but when you go down 10 years...do you really think people believe it and then it makes one think if you lie about that, what else do you lie about.
So like you I had to put an age thing up and I didnt want to do that...I dont like to discount anyone...
BILLBUTLER: I just have to say sour grapes to you....I wouldnt in a billion years talk negatively about someones photos and tell them which ones shouldnt be on their profile...but then I live by not taking what anyone says personally cause its their issues they are dealing with and has nothing to do with me.
"The whole world can gossip about you, and if you dont take it personally, you are immune. Immunity to poison in the middle of hell is the gift of the second agreement".
"Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love"
Don Miguel Ruiz "The Four Agreements"
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| don't let looks and age cause you to lose out on life
Posted: 10/11/2006 11:22:25 AM | looks hummmmm either your your to fat to skinny or just to dam old or picture perfect but have so many hang ups you make yourself sick trying to stay picture perfect. To bad it takes
half a lifetime to realise looks are not what keeps your heart warm or makes you smile at the thought of love and kindness your life has found. It's the way the person treats you the kindness and love in their heart that counts. I watched my grandparents at their 50th wedding anniversery both old and wrinkled , hardly able to move around without help from someone but they loved one another and cryed when they kissed for there 60th. Neither of them were beautiful on the outside but the beauty from within was there for the world to see and enjoy for with them were their 12 kids and 50 something grand kids and great grand kids,
so you see had they picked who they dated just beacuse of looks and age i would never be here. Don't loose out on the chance of being loved or giving love just because of age or looks.
Look with your heart not just your eyes and the world will be a better place. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 11:46:34 AM | ^^^^Nice post ~
~OT~ Although I do think the beauty of someone is best viewed from the inside, I am just not able to become intimately involved with someone that I am not physically/sexually/chemically attracted to. I not only want the intellect/emotional connection ~ I want to grow old with someone who has a face I never tire of looking at. That doesn't mean text-book handsome to me ~ that is someone unique, yet handsome in my eyes. If we were truly meant to just be with someone based upon the nice-factor ~ in kindergarten or the first grade, we'd link to the first member of the opposite sex that was kind to us and that would be that. 55 years later, we'd still be with that person. It doesn't work that way. But that certainly would solve the age issue ~ you'd be with someone your own age within a year or two. JMO  | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 1:01:14 PM | hon, with all due respect, it works both ways. no matter how hard you work out and no matter what you eat and no matter what you do cosmetically, you'll never compare physically to an attractive and fit 25 year women. (pay attention Bo Derek!) that's not a sexist opinion, but a reality check. and you are so right on about an older woman admitting that she finds younger men much more appealing sexually than older men. i can't argue with sound logic. i'd be delusional if i said i was physically better now than i was at 25. ciao from the italian wolf-man.............................................................................lupo | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 1:49:25 PM | You'll never compare physically to an attractive and fit 25 year women.
I'm 39 and although I am considered to be a pretty woman, I know that I will never look as good as I did when I was 25. I have accepted that, it's all part of the growing older. The problem that I have is when people TRY to tell me that I'm somehow less worthy of love, or less valuable as a person because I no longer have the looks I had when I was 25. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 3:00:58 PM | BILLBUTLER: I just have to say sour grapes to you....I wouldnt in a billion years talk negatively about someones photos and tell them which ones shouldnt be on their profile...but then I live by not taking what anyone says personally cause its their issues they are dealing with and has nothing to do with me.
I imagine that you make up for lost experience by taking things personally for other people instead? Very good point about not taking things personally, I think you directed that comment at the wrong person. You are the type who would never mention to a dining companion the spinach in their teeth. Although this lady is a bit sensitive about getting email from losers who likely are jealous of her because she looks great for her age...
(and judging from many who are posting on this thread, people who do not even have pictures on their profiles--I imagine a portion of the mail she is referring to are from those types) I don't think she would be so weak minded as to take offense at a comment on a photo. In the context of this thread, where it is appears to be clear she is trying to make sense of the hate mail she is receiving (it is senseless, actually) I think I would want someone to help me out with suggestions like this.
I have had several occasions where someone has suggested similar to me and was rather appreciative. As I type this I wonder why I continue posting on this thread, and as I type that question I have my answer. It is truly a parody. Highly entertaining.
Although puzzled why you would accuse me of "talking negatively about someone’s photos", when it is clear I have good intentions by being helpful. If she had poor spelling I would have pointed that out to her as well, as I do anyone that I might come across on a discussion forum. I think the spinach in the teeth analogy stands for itself, and no other comment is necessary.
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Posted: 10/11/2006 3:18:15 PM |
you'll never compare physically to an attractive and fit 25 year women
Most 25 year olds can't compare to a fit 25 year old woman. lol
i'd be delusional if i said i was physically better now than i was at 25.
This is so subjective. I like my overall package better today than I did at 25. Sure, I was in better shape but I didn't have the kind of presence that I do today....and by presence I mean elegance, beauty, confidence, sensuality, wisdom, wit and humility. Maybe some of this is because I was 25 in the 80's and had big hair. lol How can you take anyone seriously with big hair?
I will not compare myself to 25 year olds today. What's the point? I won't compare myself to 65 year olds either. Where I've been and where I am going is incidental. I'm interested in where I am. Honestly people, I just don't see being in my 40's as a curse. I don't think it has diminished my value or attractiveness as a human being one iota.
And singlesoutherngent: I loved what you had to say. I want that kind of love. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 6:14:40 PM | Honestly people, I just don't see being in my 40's as a curse. I don't think it has diminished my value or attractiveness as a human being one iota.
I agree...40s are the prime of life for either sex. The curel irony of life is once we truly understand the depths of which we truly ROCK we also realize how short life is, and how much time is left. | |
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| I'm Not Attracted To Men My Age.... *
Posted: 10/11/2006 6:22:00 PM | Some women over 40 get offended when I explain to them my reasons why I wear my mustache.
***Okay, cooldude, why do you wear a mustache? | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 6:37:08 PM | | When it comes to love and relationships, really is age and I admit USED to be a hangup for me, at one time, not a hangup but every younger man that I'd even given any time to...well just didn't work out. Same thing for long distance...and yet, after MY bad experiences, my obstacles...who am I with and happier than I've ever been or dreamed of being? Yes, a younger man, and it is an LDR. When I think of him, which I do a LOT I don't think of him as younger, or long distance. Naysayers, go for it, have your heyday, I only think of him as the man I know I love that loves me. It's that simple. | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 7:37:40 PM |
Typo on that...I haven't dated anyone on this site that WAS over 35.....MY BAD!
And these are the same women that were FREAKED OUT about dating a guy that was 25 when they were 18... thinking the whole idea was "creepy".
So explain it to me ladies... why are men that are 20 years younger so appealing when you get to be over the hill? And what do you do when the guy you're seeing has more interest in your 18 year old daughter than in you?
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Posted: 10/11/2006 7:41:25 PM | ^^^^ explain it me techguy, why would a 28 yr old who supposedly doesn't like "older women" keep coming to this thread and posting? 
Hmm, do you have more interest in being noticed by an "older" woman than a woman your own age-who probably hasn't read or posted on this thread. Inquiring "over the hill" minds would really like to know? | |
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Posted: 10/11/2006 8:55:36 PM | ^^^^ explain it me techguy, why would a 28 yr old who supposedly doesn't like "older women" keep coming to this thread and posting?
Hmm, do you have more interest in being noticed by an "older" woman than a woman your own age-who probably hasn't read or posted on this thread. Inquiring "over the hill" minds would really like to know? (curvesallover)
 
I see someone left the damn window open again and the seagull came flying through, squawkin, flappin his trap, and sh!ttin on the carpet again.
Techguy, I haven't been here for a while, but you reallllly are diggin yourself a deep cavernous ravine , here. If you're not interested in older women, why the Fvck do you insist on repeating your claims here? Does it offend you in some way, that a woman wants a younger man? Haven't you the balls to start a thread on how you prefer younger women, and see if it draws attention? You're like a child who's found that even negative attention is some attention. | |
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Now, obviously I'm not-I have yet to encounter one person who has accurately guessed my age-most guess between 12-15 yrs younger than I really am. 
