| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/22/2008 8:03:12 PM | The logical side of me just feels like the question of interracial dating is so preposterous that it shouldn't be answered. However I'll give it a try.
My son is "biracial" , or at least that is what the world will see. My hope...my prayers are that he will see "race" as the farce that it is and always has been.
Race is and has always been a social. It's a simple taxonomic system for designating humans with similar phenotypic features. They had an excuse to believe in the bullshit because they had no proof. Today we have genetics (Human Genome Project) and further study into Mitochondrial DNA (MtDNA) that prove that today's humans by and large stem from the same lineage. There is no biological foundation for race. And it's hypocritical for a Government to claim they're fighting racism why systematically classifying every child born into the same worn out racial ideology. You can't get rid of racism without getting rid of race.
No ...I don't have a problem with interracial dating because you're not a different race biologically speaking. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/22/2008 9:34:04 PM | I do understand fully. I love black, white, hispanic, asian, doesn't matter, but non-black men love their women. They are loyal to them, and if you, as a black woman, try to talk to that non-black man, will more than likely not entertain the idea. It's unfair...because love deserves a chance...not the skin color. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/23/2008 1:00:04 AM |
I do understand fully. I love black, white, hispanic, asian, doesn't matter, but non-black men love their women. They are loyal to them, and if you, as a black woman, try to talk to that non-black man, will more than likely not entertain the idea. It's unfair...because love deserves a chance...not the skin color.
Everyone is pretty much in this boat. The majority in each "racial" category is going to have a decided preference for those that look like them and this is understandable as their parents and friends likely have a large influence on dating norms. It's just comfortable to date within your own ethnic culture.
Attraction even changes over the years. I know of more than a few women who now solely date men of color even though they have caucasian children. I guess they just got to the point where they were strictly dating for themselves and saw something beyond their own race to admire. I know black women with black children that only date Latino or white males.
If a man finds a woman he really loves then the Walls of Jericho shouldn't stop him from coming to you. If color is his hangup that's not the love of your life. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/23/2008 1:48:42 AM | Hi from New Zealand. Most of us down here are all from mixed races & have beautiful interracial children. Love, respect & laughter have no colour.  | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/25/2008 10:05:44 PM | | I think it's great! I personally think guys of all ethnicities are physically attractive; it's more about how we get along and how they treat me than skin color. I really wish that more people were as open minded, but I suppose it's their choice. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/25/2008 11:14:12 PM | | I have no problem with interracial dating. I've been doing it since I was in high school. Why??? Simply stated, because Caucasian guys were the ones that asked me out. My Black friends I'd attended jr. high with weren't too thrilled about it, pretty much distanced themselves from me. Was I hurt, yes. Did it stop me from doing it, no. Like Rick (noirpourblanche) so aptly stated in his post, I wouldn't recommend it for those who worry about what others think. Fortunately for me, I didn't. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/25/2008 11:53:49 PM | I see nothing wrong with I.R dating.. However I do feel as though Blacks get the raw end of the deal. Say what you want but the world is still a very racist place. Have we made progress ? Yes but I think even more so people have learnd to hide and control their racist thoughts and behaviors. I have friends from every backround and pretty much all of them say the same thing. " If I bring home a white guy/girl it's fine and accepted by the family. If I bring home a black guy/ girl, I'm gonna be disowned by my family. " A lot of them will even go on to say their family has nothing against black people, but only when it comes to dating...
I've dated outside my race plenty of times and I think a lot of times Black women get very offended by it. You get a lot stares and slick comments.. I honestly don't see racism going away anytime soon. As much as we want to say we've gotten beyond it.. I know we haven't. Even on POF I've seen many of profiles that say " No black men" or " White men only" " Black men only" ... Very sad .. Only if Martin Luther King was still here so he could have another dream.. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:00:09 AM | | I'm ok with interracial dating, unfortunately my family claims to be but really they arent ok with me dating in certain races. Of course, this hasn't stopped me from dating those types of guys. I don't allow for my family to dictate who I date. End of story. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:14:32 AM | Even on POF I've seen many of profiles that say " No black men" or " White men only" " Black men only"
I have seem some profiles that mention these things. I understand that some people are generally unattracted to certain races. For example, I'm generally not attracted to Asians. But there are some exceptions. If I see an attractive Asian woman, I wouldn't rule her out due to race. I do think some other people will use the word "preference" to hide the real reason why they aren't interested in a certain race. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/26/2008 8:37:21 AM | Go to census.gov and you will see that the vast majority of Black men date and marry BLACK WOMEN. This idea that Black men are being swiped up by White women at some fantastic rate such that a Black woman can't find a Black man is ridiculous and that's putting it lightly. Why do some many people suggests it? It's fine to prefer White men. Hey, the sex organs are compatible, right?  There must be a reason for this.
Go ahead and find a White man, marry him and make lots of babies. I will praise you for this. I really will :) But please do not suggest that there aren't enough Black men available to date/marry.
I have no doubt that if you really prefer White men, you'll eventually marry one and make lots of fertile healthy babies (This is what it's all about really). The key is not to limit yourself because of your perception of White men. There are plenty of White men out there that prefer Black women (or are indifferent). When one approaches you next time, and it WILL happen, remember not to break his heart because he is White. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/2/2008 11:43:41 PM | | I can sort of understand why someone would post this question but I wonder why someone would care about what some anonymous people on the internet have to say about it. I say that interracial relationships are ridiculous and I'll have nothing to do with those who blindly follow this trend. I also know that many agree with me but will not stand up and say so because they are cowards. It's their loss. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/3/2008 12:23:36 AM | ONE NATION under 1 Almighty God!
And we all need see this as a non issue these days...
Freedom to choose who U want to choose
regardless of nationality, ethnic origin or race...
The more we unite, the better the world is for our kids!
I do not want my kids to see the ugliness I had to see
and certainly none of things my parents or grandparents
had to deal with...
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/3/2008 4:46:57 AM | "I say that interracial relationships are ridiculous and I'll have nothing to do with those who blindly follow this trend"
Trend? If that's the case then it's a "trend" that's been going on longer than you've been living. And unfortunately muted, regardless of what you may think, there's not many people on this earth that aren't "colored" with another race. And for the record, scientists have proven that all of civilization started um where? Iraq, Iran, Egypt...depending on the report. All places where white isn't the predominant color my friend.
"I also know that many agree with me but will not stand up and say so because they are cowards. "
Actually they're probably wiser than you are because they realize that a public dating forum such as this is probably not the right place to spew such nonsense. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/3/2008 5:03:30 AM | One thing I hate to read from the e-mail I recieved " I love Asian women" Can they like me because of me and not becuase I am Asian? Its not the race its the chemistry when you meet a person. My 2 sons married 2 wonderful caucasian women and I never did question them about the race. My 2 cents OP | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/3/2008 5:09:38 AM | | I agree with afashionlady. Civilization started in Africa. We all came from Africa. Many a great civilizations were not white. Egyptians, Mayas, Incas, Nubians, India, China ect... all great civilizations with plenty of history and culture, none of them white. The problem is that some people still show much ignorance. Myself being of a different ethnicity, if dating someone who stereotypes me right away that's enough to say later dude, you need to learn some history. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/4/2008 12:06:51 AM | never ceases to amaze me how behind the times the USA is. In my country every second couple is people of different races. We dont even bother uses such stupid words as inter racial and bi racial. We just do it. I have a dark skin mum and white dad, and look how freaking handsome i turned out! As for white men not liking black woman; let me tell you, that is not true here. White, black , brown, or mixed like me, we LOOOOOOOOOVE sexy black woman.
In fact I will deliberately seek a person of different race, or mixed, because to be perfectly frank, Im not into boring same old same old.
life is for living, exploring and enjoying, and the thrill of cultural merging is a God given blessing for us all. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/4/2008 12:10:08 AM | Word up to that, hotfun 2. In New Zealand, we just laugh at all the stooopid american movies where they struggle to show couples of differnt races as couples, and when they do, they act like its a big deal.
It just stinkin aparthied mate, in another form. Everyone should just forget this whole discussion thread, get out of your fear zones, and go grab yourself a honey of a different race.
makes life exciting | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/4/2008 6:08:59 AM | A person's racial/ethnic background never plays a role for me in dating.
Hard to believe such questions are still posed in this day and age. It's a sad testiment to how little we've progressed as a society. I believe questions such as these stem from racist beliefs and intolerance.
When I was younger, I was acutely aware of the racist attitudes I witnessed from those around me. I can't explain what affected my viewpoint on the subject, but I made a conscious effort to not contribute to fostering those attitudes. I don't see people in terms of their racial/ethnic background or makeup; it doesn't tell me anything about the person. I have to invest a little more than a passing glance to know what an individual is really about. I live my life without "color lines" and raised my children the same. There are no references to people based on their skin color.
I can't change the world all at once, but I can change me.....that's all any of us can do.
just a few thoughts from a girl from WV | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/5/2008 2:46:40 AM | | I love/hate this question,,,, I'm Inuk (read Eskimo) and live in BC, so whomever I date will be Caucasion or what have you...... I just feel accepted for who I am, no matter the race, that's just the way it is! Skin color has no meaning, it's the personality, personality is what shines through! | |
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| Re: How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/5/2008 9:17:28 AM | My pal was visited by his future kin.
They had nothing but good to say,including"a hi-5"-less stress... caucasion/Korean divorce.
Friends of colors we never saw-any/all. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/5/2008 6:28:41 PM | I don't have a problem with IR dating. Like previous women have said, I have simply had more non black men approach me recently and because of that, I find myself more drawn to them.
I was definitely brought up around that "strong black brother" mentality but have grown into my own (way of thinking) and although I can appreciate a strong black brother, I can also appreciate a strong white man as well. I just think the place in which I live, it's hard to now find what I am drawn to. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/5/2008 6:44:35 PM | Is this a joke??????
Its 2008 people...WHO THE F*CK CARES ANYMORE?!
My God! We are talking skin color here???????? WE ARE ALL HUMAN!!!!!
ALL OUR BLOOD RUNS RED... | |
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| Re: How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 7/5/2008 6:48:21 PM | Read my profile..... I never gave any thought to it but for some strange reason I am drawn to find a nice Western INDIAN, AMERICAN!!!!!! Gal. I met one and fell in Love... But things have not worked out....... Yet?.... Read the prayer on my site I wrote last year..... She met all the items to a "T".... Any body know a Beautiful, 50 to 70, Black haired American Indian GAL??????? Tell her to "email" me.....Bob   | |
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