| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 5/3/2006 3:48:48 PM | I think if you expect something from someone just because their race or dont expect something you will always be mistakin.Now I have a thing for asian women Im sorry I cant control my manhood when it wants what it wants but I do like all other culture there just something about asian women I like , call it a fetish if you want.
The problem I have with some people is that they think being black or green or blue makes them immune to being racist and I get the feel that some time I meet someone of a different race and I sense that they're on guard and not just because of my own thoughts because when ill ask a question about something cultural just because Im interested in cultural history like art and musically wise, I'll get an accusatory response or some type of label of how ignorant i am. WTF Did I do wrong and the answer is ask a question to be more aware of someones culture because I was simply interested.Has else anyone ever had this problem, to me it makes me feel someone who is ignorant thinks im ignorant and because of that there is no defense from it.
sorry I broke my hand so I had to reedit the typos so people might understand what the hell I was talking about | |
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| Re: How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 5/11/2006 2:33:27 PM | | I totally agree with you Lost in Illinois!! We all bleed the same and we all are human--it is what is on the inside that counts not the color of your skin!!!!! | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 2/2/2007 1:58:41 AM | Personally, I would rather date outside of my race than imbread and risk the extra special bus chromosome.
I'm sure most people know what happens when a brother an sister or cousin have a kid. That's one risk I'm not willing to take.
Plus, some of the most racist people I've ever met share the philosophy of keeping it in the family.
Racism sucks, and so does that segregative philosophy.
Love has no colors or boundaries. It's all about people sharing something special with each other, no matter who they are or where they come from.
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| Re: How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 3/10/2007 6:24:32 PM | Mixed kids are good looking! Anyways, I dated an Ukranian once and it was the best! Learning each other's cultures was a blast and always exciting.
Alura, good luck with your Chinese guy. Not sure if you're into culture or not and if he keep any of his, you'll never have a dull momment getting to know each better. | |
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| Re: How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 3/10/2007 8:25:57 PM | | I think people are often very romantic about this and say Amor Omni Vincit or love conquers all. However, people of other races also have cultures. You have to make sure there aren't major problems with his or her parents accepting you, gender role expecation etc... I was just reading in this one book where the author said that there is a higher divorce rate among interracial couples, but she did say one should be open to a relationship with someone from another culture or race. Basically, go for it if that is what you want, but don't be oblivious to a difference in culture, language, or religion just as it might be tough for a secular Jew from New York to be with a religious Baptist from Tennessee after the fireworks and passion doesn't seem the same. Dating is fun. As far as Ukrainians or Russians that you mentioned, they are usually open, very family oriented, want to build families, are not sectarian or rigid about religion so open to others. If there was more openness in society, that would make things easier. I try to be cautious myself. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 3/10/2007 9:28:53 PM | Completely normal
Completely acceptable
It has gone on openly in North America for a long time now and not so openly for even longer. My great great Grandmother was a North American Indian / My great great Grandfather was a British Officer.
It has gone on in many parts of the world for a long time .... like time before Christ.
Now
This thread has been done so many times and received all the same answers, over and over, that it shopuld be dropped now.
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| Re: How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 3/10/2007 9:54:26 PM |
I think people are often very romantic about this and say Amor Omni Vincit or love conquers all. However, people of other races also have cultures. You have to make sure there aren't major problems with his or her parents accepting you....
For me, I've always thought family acceptance was a bit overrated...maybe this is a bigger deal when you're in your 20's...but especially if you don't plan to have kids of your own, my parents' opinion means little or nothing. We all have to grow up..."you can't please everyone so you have to please yourself!" As long as the two of you are compatible and can accept what differences there actually are between you, go for it.
I think cross-cultural / interracial relationships can be more interesting, enlightening, and growthful than relationships where they have the same upbringing and background as I. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 3/11/2007 8:37:54 AM | | Never really bothered me considered my 1st & only relationship was with someone who is white. My parents have no problem with it, so it makes me happy. As I see now, most of the ladies who thinks I'm good looking has been out of my race, so I think it's in my best interest is to keep my options open. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/17/2007 10:49:46 PM | When it comes to livin in the dirty south, interracial dating from white peoples perspective (in a general sense) seems to go something like this. If you're white, you're alright. If you're brown... eh, stick around. But if you're BLACK.... get BACK!!!  | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/17/2007 11:42:09 PM | | I think it is opening oneself up to a whole bunch of conflicts that really aren't necessary. I think it makes communicating more difficult. I think during periods of fatigue or stress this has a tendency to wear down a relationship. I wouldn't advise it. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/18/2007 9:43:10 AM |
I think it is opening oneself up to a whole bunch of conflicts that really aren't necessary. I think it makes communicating more difficult. I think during periods of fatigue or stress this has a tendency to wear down a relationship. I wouldn't advise it.
Only if you're so weak that you value the opinions of others above your own, and bend under pressure from people who arent worth spit to conform to some bullsh!t that only gives a select few a warped sense of happiness.
Nobody tells me who i can or cant date. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/18/2007 2:20:18 PM | That is a good point. I guess it just depends if you have the mind to want to deal with the crap all of the time. True.... a racist white man is not going to like a black man any better if he just "sticks with his own kind"..... so what incentive does theoretical black man have NOT to date white women? Or any other kind of woman, no matter what the racist men in their group think. Ya dig?
What, are the racist men going to give a black man a pat on the back and say "Hey, you're alright kid" just because he sees that he has a black woman? N**ga please!  | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/18/2007 3:16:21 PM | I dont care what race any woman I want to date is. If we connect and share somethings in common and want to learn about what we don't and start a great relationship then whatever happens happens. As far as letting other people determine who you date it doesnt matter its about you and your SO not anybody else. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/18/2007 3:58:04 PM | It's a non-issue.
After the basics of attraction, connection, and generosity of spirit, I care more about intelligence, similar education, socio-economic status, as well as stance on ethics.
I only wound up dating outside of my race once, a Chinese man with whom I had a short relationship. Didn't make any difference to us, and no one else ever mentioned it. This was over 20 years ago. I can't imagine anyone caring in this day and age.
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/18/2007 4:06:56 PM |
I can't imagine anyone caring in this day and age.
Trust me, they do. Especially when it comes to blacks. Most other races have already been accepted as a psuedo-white race anyway. They have recieved their honorary badge of whiteness.
Blacks have always been seen as "the others". In any case, most interracial relationships aren't a huge deal in society, so long as they do not involve blacks. I have already understood this knowledge. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/18/2007 4:17:19 PM | | Honestly sparda I think you just need to move out of whatever town your living in cause almost every single post you make is about race. Try living somewhere where it doesnt matter and try just being happy with whoever comes along. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/18/2007 9:00:48 PM | Blacks have always been seen as "the others". In any case, most interracial relationships aren't a huge deal in society, so long as they do not involve blacks.
I'm with FTMN90 here, I think you need to move out of South Carolina.
Here in the DC metro area no one looks twice at a black/white couple, or any other combination for that matter -- interracial couples are everywhere.
The DC area has had upper middle class, and down right filthy rich black people for a couple of generations now. Lots of high profile couples in this area are interracial. Some of the more promiment: one Supreme Court Justice (Clarence Thomas), a former Secretary of Defense (William Cohen), and the former president of the DC board of education (Peggy Cooper Cafritz, now divorced from Conrad Cafritz). It's evolved to the point that when these folks are interviewed, race isn't even a question. It's humdrum, business as usual around here -- whether you're Secretary of Defense or a cab driver.
Now, if you're asking me would I date a rapper? The answer to that would be no -- but it wouldn't matter if it was Eminem or 50 cent. It's just not my thing. The men in my life have always come with an education, direction and a business suit -- but as far as skin color goes, whatever you happen to be wrapped in is just fine.
PS to efchen: I'm not sure where you learned biology, but you should ask for a refund. Animals aren't a different RACE from us, they are a different GENUS and SPECIES. Please educate yourself before saying such ridiculous things -- or was this a poor attempt at satire?
BTW, long ago it was found that all races of humans have identical DNA, with very minor differences in genetic makeup accounting for the difference in appearance.
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| Re: How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/18/2007 10:54:26 PM | | I'm pretty Captain Kirk about interracial dating... so what if a woman has 3 breasts, 1 eye and is colored green... as long as she's kind, sweet and interesting enough, I don't really care... | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 7:02:13 AM |
nik, that seems a little bit of a put down. Good enough to f*ck, but not good enough to date?
I assume this is what you're referring to here :
Well I usually date white guys,but feed my sexual appetite with black guys!
I wanted to respond to this comment myself but never got around to it.
I have to point out jacobite, that with this statement, Nik has actually proved she's NOT racist in any way shape or form !! Why?? Because she's honest, brutally honest and doesn't feel bad, nor should she, about her own individual preferences. I applaud her for that
My own physical preference is for black men and, knowing them as well as I've learnt to over the years, I'd say most of them would feel complimented by that statement rather than insulted by it. And, before the bashers arrive, I'd like to remind you that I said "MOST" and not "ALL" !!!
Well done Nik for having the balls to tell it like it is | |
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