| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 1:31:15 PM | I'm mixed (and I live in a pretty whitewashed area) so dating somebody of a different racial background is par for the course.
I never even thought about race in the context of dating until I moved in with some black students last semester. After my Asian mom met the landlord (a female grad student), she told me point-blank, if I ever were to date a black girl she would stop talking to me. (I'm an only child, and my mom's one of those insanely overbearing, hyper-clingy types, so I'm almost sure she was just bluffing.) She wouldn't stop hounding me about it until I told her I wasn't attracted to the landlord (who incidentally had a boyfriend, which my mom knew about). Dating any other race is okay, just not black women, because in my mom's words, "I don't want my grand-children to have kinky hair."
I'm amazed how people like my mom who claim not to be racist in one breath can turn around and bash interracial couples and not see the hypocrisy in that. Then again, most racists probably don't see themselves that way--they think they're just fine, and it's everybody else who practices "reverse discrimination" (or is unconscionably indifferent to self-evidently "unnatural" unions between different races).
I think if push came to shove, my happiness would take priority over my mother's wishes. I refuse to be restrained by other people's parochial, petty beliefs. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:10:48 PM | | ^^^ How very loyal you are to your mom to come in here and bash her . Now anyone who knows you from here and knows your family , you have just humiliated her. Sometimes you can say too much . Loyalty to your family comes before everything else. | |
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| Re: How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:26:23 PM | | I dont think actuall two people from diffrent racial backgrounds is a problem anitially its wen children from mixed race couples happen as it opens up a mine field of health ricks as the two sets of geans dont belong together and usually causes some kind of health problem!! | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:38:34 PM |
After my Asian mom met the landlord (a female grad student), she told me point-blank, if I ever were to date a black girl she would stop talking to me. (I'm an only child, and my mom's one of those insanely overbearing, hyper-clingy types, so I'm almost sure she was just bluffing.) She wouldn't stop hounding me about it until I told her I wasn't attracted to the landlord (who incidentally had a boyfriend, which my mom knew about). Dating any other race is okay, just not black women, because in my mom's words, "I don't want my grand-children to have kinky hair."
See, now this is what I am talking about. At least someone else was honest enough to confirm the "anything but black" ideologies that I know full well exists. Many races believe some messed up stuff about blacks (brothas in particular). Now as one that is seen as a black man, I can look at this of one of two ways: Love it or hate it. It is something about being the feared, anti-hero of life. The arch nemesis... the public enemy number 1. It has it's perks, but only if you know how to use it.
Now my personal opinion... race in itself has nothing to do with how attractive a woman is. The only problem is, when it comes to interracial relationships, you have to be strong enough to deal with the onslaught. Particularly if you are a black person because there is more than likely going to be AT LEAST one relative of the person you are dating that is not "black approved" when it comes to their relative dating one of those "black hooligans". Ya dig? | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 2:49:22 PM | I am a single white male and I have dated a number of African-American women.
I never dated a single one simply because of the color of their skin. I thoroughly enjoyed most of their company but as with women of my on race sometimes we really hit it off and other not so connected. It all comes down to respect for the person.
Of course when we would be out to dinner we would get the stares from people of both white and black race. I never once let this bother me. I always tried to show the lady I was with a nice time with dinner and conversation. I will continue to date other race's.
We all want the same things for the most part, someone to care for and someone to care about us. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 3:01:57 PM | I must admit I have not spent time in the south but am well aware that racial issues have not gone away in this country. I am an 'old gal' and have dated interracially for some time. One was an enduring/endaring relationship--and yes--he was younger than I. My grown sons are just happy when their mother is. The rest of the family was accepting--and not that I needed their approval. I would have been delighted if one of my sons--or even one of my grandchildren--was open enough to love the person, not the race, economic status, disability or education.
We are all entitled to our opinions and I respect that but I hope one day a generation will come when there is no more predjudice. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 3:21:34 PM | | There is nothing I can do about what other people choose to do. But I am bothered by so many BM/WF couplings that are going around in my area. (I am a black woman) And being that so many black men seem to view white women as the superior mate to them, I often think these relationships are formed for the wrong reasons. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 3:57:31 PM |
^^^ How very loyal you are to your mom to come in here and bash her . Now anyone who knows you from here and knows your family , you have just humiliated her. Sometimes you can say too much . Loyalty to your family comes before everything else
Come on, I love my mom to death. She has many, many good qualities. But I'm not going to look the other way or sweep it under the rug when she makes a bigoted comment. I'll report it exactly as it happened to anyone that asks, and I've told her that. Bigots go on being bigots as long as nobody keeps calling them out on it. I love her too much to let her get away with that nonsense. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2007 4:12:41 PM | Wow, -debs-, I am surprised that at this day and age, people still believe that somehow there is some type of genes that don't mix together. I have met lots of people from mixed races and there is nothing unusual or sickly about them. Unless you have some type of medical research to back up those claims, I suggest you don't mention this in a forum such as this.
Inter-racial dating will always be looked upon by some segment of the population negatively. I date inter-racially and have been subected to lots stares when we go out but I know what I am getting into so I don't care a hoot about it. I just will do what makes me happy.  | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 4:24:21 PM | | There is only one race ( the human race) everything else is ethnocentrism. Today as in the past there can be individual or cutural stigma place upon the two individuals. Dont live your life around what others think, life is far to short for that. Do what you want to do and the hell with what others think. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 4:25:33 PM | Halfie
Bigots go on being bigots as long as nobody keeps calling them out on it. I love her too much to let her get away with that nonsense.
https://www3.nationalgeographic.com/genographic/index.html
There is a section on this site that invites you to explore your own genetic journey. Of course if your too afraid of the truth you may want to say all the scientists are wrong.
For those who use religion I remind you that God is the creator of ALL life.
Learn to live in peace. | |
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| Re: How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 4:28:54 PM | | I am shocked by some people on here who think that there are genes that do not mesh well lol. Seriously read some medical books about human beings, race and species is not the same thing. I don't have any problem with dating "other races". And as for my family they don't either. I have a a son that is bi- raical and he has never had any problems with being different as some people have posted on here. I also would like to comment on how really most people today are not pure race. I myself have a history of native american, irish, german,scott, english and yes black. I imagine if every one would take that test to see what races they have in them ( it was on Oprah and pbs). This topic would not come up. Well this is my two cents on this | |
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Posted: 6/19/2007 4:31:56 PM | Otono--why do you label yourself as "white" in your profile if you have such a mixed background??
Most ppl identify their race by the most dominant gene in their family lineage.
And there are still lots of people out there who don't have a lot of mixed ancestry in their family tree. Not every black woman was raped during slavery. There are still ethnic groups in America who have very little to no racial mixing. | |
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| Re: How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 5:28:51 PM | Why is interracial dating different from any other dating? Maybe I am just colorblind... The color of someone's skin or their ethnic background never even enters into my thought process while considering if I want to date someone...
Now, if someone is LEFT-HANDED - OMG! 
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Kidding, JUST in case that's not painfully clear... | |
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| Re: How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 5:46:13 PM |
I dont think actuall two people from diffrent racial backgrounds is a problem anitially its wen children from mixed race couples happen as it opens up a mine field of health ricks as the two sets of geans dont belong together and usually causes some kind of health problem!!
I have to disagree with this, my son who is of mixed race is very healthy. | |
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| Re: How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 6:26:26 PM | I think halfie's thing is abit common I think with asain families,I believe they think it beyond just being with someone in a realtionship and putting together a family.I think they think about what connections the other family has and how well known they are among the asain groups or whatever.Also I really don't believe a mixed child would have health problems,I think its about how one of the family genes are.If some family members had a heart attack on one side than its a chance the child might have one when their older and that shouldn't come to mind what race that part of the family is.I know I got maybe a bunch of health problems from both side of my parents.My dad is mexican/indain and my mom is el salvadoran.Also this kinda comes to my mind,how does one feel about dating someone of their own race but acts more of a different race or acts less of your race? I ask this since my ex was hispanic but she acted more white and she didn't know spanish at all.I will say it was cool that I knew spanish and she didn't cuz she loved it when I talked to her in spanish  also I use to pull her leg by calling her a valley girl  . (me calling her a valley girl)-->  <---(her getting upset) LOL | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/19/2007 6:40:13 PM | Halfie it does not matter if your mom is a bigot or a racist or not. You don't come onto a public forum and say " hey my mom is a bigot and a racist", with your picture there for everyone to see .
You are airing your dirty laundry in public . This is a family matter and has no business in a public forum. If it bugs you so much talk to your mom in private ,and if she still wants to have her beliefs leave her alone. Everyone is entitled to believe whatever they want.
Don't you think there are people who know you and may also happen to be on plenty of fish. Then they see your picture and read what you are saying about your mom here for a bunch a strangers too see . Don't you think there is a possibility for this to get back to her?
You have a funny way of showing love for your mom. We should not humiliate and embarrass our family in public like this. How do you think she would feel if she saw what you just wrote for all of us on pof to see? It does not matter what our family does and believes we are supposed to stick by each other and not humiliate each other . I could say boatloads of bad stuff about specific family member ,but i wont. It would not be right. | |
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| since when does Halfie need Maryrachelle's okay?
Posted: 6/19/2007 7:01:02 PM | | Halfie has a right to speak his mind, Maryrachelle, and does not need your kind permission to exercise his First Amendment rights. And as for his mother ---- Mom or no mom ---- if the shoe fits, WEAR it! | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/20/2007 4:33:05 AM | In our family tree we have no white blood in our family. Our family is pure black and I would prefer to keep it that way. I think racial purity is important because the black race has been mongrelized by white blood; well that's how it is over here in the UK. Brown is the new black.
I am only here for the forums, yet I still get messages from white women. They are always shocked when I reply with a "Sorry, I am not into white girls" they seem to think every black man wants them. This goes to the core of white people as they love themselves so much they cannot imagine that a black person could reject them but then again I know white people better than they know themselves. | |
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| How do you feel about Interracial Dating ?
Posted: 6/20/2007 5:17:42 AM | Halfie message85
I agree, call a spade a spade, why lie to yourself or the ones that you love, be honest and tell it like it is even if you get into trouble:)
sparda9 message69
I agree in part with you as I experienced society's backlash when I dated an arab muslim at age 16 in Durban. I have suffered from depression possibly as a result of me being grounded until I ran away from home at 18. Not a lot has changed since then because when I met another arab muslim at age 41 in Adelaide then the trauma of that first experience resurfaced with how un-accepting people can be.
Kunta_Kinta message 99
I see you have a lot in common with a certain white supremist in my family who I refuse to have anything to do with until he changes his attitude. Oops now maryrachelle might pick on me – oh well if it works for you both then keep doing it. I respect the “live and let live” mentality. But then I used to believe that we could have world peace, now that’s a joke wouldn’t you say?
There is now a form of reverse racism where some black men do not want black women to date white guys. This is not helping the situation.
I hate the discrimination that exists in the world based on race or religion or gender or size. My mind is in fairyland most of the time because I cannot deal with this evil reality.
This site is not for the faint hearted and only the strong survive or return, happy fishing to all colors, shapes and sizes out there!  | |
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