| Why do men use me??
Posted: 6/22/2007 9:15:53 AM | | "You taught Him how to Treat you"...Don't worry you'll Learn someday,When you've been used enough... | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 6/22/2007 11:27:49 AM | BOOT the freeloader out ultimately you are allowing this situation to continue and all the promises of taking you out dont amount to a hill of beans if he really had true feelings for you he would pay his own frieght and wash hisown shorts and socks as to your question why would he do this !"use and hurt you "its really very simple because he can!
so he is flirting with other women on YOUR computer really is yourself esteem so low that you will settle for this parasite you can do bettergo fishin girl | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 6/22/2007 11:56:54 AM | Dear Liteinside,There is a book called"Is He Really Into me?"Well worth the money to read.Written by a man............"P"
p.s.people do to us only what we allow them to do!good luck | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 6/29/2007 9:52:21 AM | | "P", I agree that we do allow men to use us, but sometimes they are SO GOOD at it that we don't even know we are being used. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 6/29/2007 6:20:02 PM | | It's not him I worry about. It's you, It seems you are in a pattern and need to re-evaluate yourself. Write down how previous relationship hurt you and use it as a tool to prevent future relationship or better yet get to know the bright women many people see, just by looking at your picture. Show people kindness and generousity is not weakness and maybe then you will find an equal. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/25/2007 4:20:07 AM | Sadly, it appears to be human nature and works both ways. I spent 6.5 years and tens of thousands of pounds on my ex. I set her business up for her, I bought her very expensive gifts, I loved her and did everything I could to make her happy. She dumped me when a lucrative directorship came up with a Microsoft accredited firm that which I eventually found out she had been sleeping with the CEO.
Keep going (not with this guy), just be careful and maybe rethink the sort of person you want in your life. In my case, I always looked for the super successful woman, be she model or business woman. Now I want someone who is family orientated. Whether that be right or wrong, I see it being the only way for things to work. You should also note that guys hate to have their other half try to change them (the excuse is this how I was when you met me), so if you don't like it, stay well clear - he's not the one for you. 5 months is more than enough time if you are genuinely looking for a serious relationship.
Rich
P.S: This has happened in all of my 3 long-term relationships, spanning 13.5 yrs. I'm only 34 and have had relationships with approx 45 women in total. I am resigned to keep looking, but will accept that I may remain a bachelor.
Chin-up, as we like to say.
Rich
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 7:18:33 AM | Maybe you should give this guy a break....I mean if it looks like a duck, it's a duck!!
I mean how many people would take money from someone, who walked up to them in the streets and handed it to them? Probaly 99.9% of you would....So if this guy is on "dating sites" he's not very good at his "cheating", and nor does he even care if you find out....So you were basiclly giving your money away to a man, that YOU KNEW WAS CHEATING ON YOU........ | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 10:28:42 AM | Msg 280 !! Yeah way to go..
Hun ( and others out there reading this post, Men & Women)
You NEED to figure out why you feel the need to FIX it. You need to stop that habit.. The person you need to look for, is the one that does not need Fixing.
Been there, done that, bought the tee shirt, then burned the mutha..
Maybe you should take a break from dating.. Take 6 months.. Find yourself.. Figure out why YOU feel the need to be needed..
Because what you're doing is longing/wanting/craving to be the "center" of his world.
Unknowingly/subcontiosly you're making him the center of your world, and hoping in return, that you become his..
Although you may not see it, that's the problem..
You NEED to get your-self together girl.. Cause you SHOULD want someone that WANTS to be with you, not NEEDS to be with you.. There's a big differance in the two.. If you look hard enough, you'll see it..
Hugs and Good Luck !!
Ems.. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 10:44:10 AM | | Fourth and Ten and deep in the shadow of your own goal posts ....... PUNT | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 10:45:52 AM | | Men use you because you allow them too, period! | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 10:46:15 AM | look with in your self!! what are you worth..men are not using you..what you allow is what you we always get !! with this guy. you no the answer aready!!
Never give Maximum Benefits to Someone who gives Minamal Effort's
Never make someone a Priority who considers you only option
Do Give the Benefit of the doubt's
but when there is no more doubts NO more BENEFIT'S | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 1:00:55 PM | | let him go asap because as soon as he done with his bussiness you'll be out , dont give him a chance | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 1:15:48 PM | | And some men could ask the same of women..... I brought my wife and her kids from her 1st marriage to the UK, stood by her and them through thick and thin but now the going is good, UK citizenship in hand, great job etc etc etc...I'm the one being dumped. It happens both ways, I just dids not see it coming. However if the signs are there, end it now whilst it is easy...the longer you leave it, the harder it gets. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 1:27:06 PM | | The longer you stay in the relationship, the harder it's going to be to get out of it when you've really had enough. Some men seem to promise things over and over, and most of the time they won't keep up with their promises and don't realize they are doing anything wrong. What you need to do is tell him that he either starts giving you what you ask for, or your not going to hang around anymore. See how he reacts to that. If he's still doing what hes been doing to you, that shows he really doesn't care much and in that case you don't need him! There are way too many other nice guys out there to waste your time with a jerk. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 1:30:52 PM | | It is true that you are being used because you allow it, but woman of our nature....being the nurturer's that we are this can only come naturally. We want to always see the best in others, especially if at one point they truly do show a sweet, compassionate side. I agree with the majority....kick has ass out...what is he contributing to you besides pain? I know it's not easy, personally I kicked my ex out, even though I was a stay at home mother of 2 and had one on the way...I caught him cheating...and that was that....it was difficult, but I deserve somebody who is going to be an honest equal partner of mine....so do you!!! after all..were on here looking for our best friend who can make our toes curl right?!!! ....doesn't sound like you've found him sweetie.....good luck to you..... | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 1:35:01 PM | | Please don't feel bad, you remind me of myself, just hang in there and try to smile is the only advice I can give, there has to be someone out there for each of us that won't use us good luck and god bless you | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 1:35:08 PM | kick him to the curb, else hes just gonna keep hurting you, u deserve better x x
good luck whatever the outcome x | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 1:39:02 PM | | I am soo sorry to hear this liteinside.. I have the same kind of a relationship right now and guess what, He's a trucker too... I don't understand why men take advantage of women like us.. Maybe it's true what some of the other women are saying that we allow it.. Well for the past few days we've been fighting alot and i'm just tring to let him go, But then i turn around and call him or text message.. Gee that sucks.. I guess maybe It's JUST time to say to OURSELVES that WE deserve BETTER... | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 1:39:37 PM | YOU introduced YOURSELF to HIM as MS. DOORMAT and
have played your role so well!!
Basic common sense and self respect (with a healthy amount of shame), would cause one to HIDE such pathetic behaviour, ... NOT put it out in a public forum for all to see.
. Try some old fashioned dignity pills.
Sorry to be so BLUNT! | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 2:02:23 PM | its been said so many times on this post, but it is true. its because you are letting him use you. he knows he has a free ride and a mealticket placed infront of him so whats he going to do, give it up or keep playing until you finally give him up. i dont doubt he is a great guy, he just has his head on wrong, you need to put your foot down and maybe you guys can be happy | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 7/28/2007 2:08:14 PM | MY ADVISE TO YOU...IS SIMPLE AND A GOLDEN RULE.....
PEOPLE ONLY DO WHAT YOU LET THEM DO TO YOU...YOU ALLOW IT...HE DOES IT..
WHEN YOU ARE READY TO STOP BEING THE VICIM AND FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF, AND GIVE YOU EGO A BOOST....YO WILL KEEP THESE CREEPS OUT OF YOUR LIFE...
THE PROBLEM IS YOU MY DEAR...YOURE THE ONE ITH THE LOW SELF STEEM, THE ONE THAT NEEDS THERAPY, YOU NEED TO LET GO OF THE DOORMAT SYNDROME,.....YOU..AND ONLY YOU ARE CAUSING THESE MEN TO TREAT YOU LIKE YOURE NOT WORTH ANYTTHING....
THE DAY YOU STOP...WALK AWAY FROM THESE MEN...THATS THE DAY YOU ILL SEE A CHANGE IN YOURE LIFE.....YOU ARE ADDICTED TO THIS KIND OF MEN AND THEIR SELFISH ATTITUDES..
LOOK INTO YOUR PAST LIFE AND SEE WHY YOU FEEL SO INFERIOR, WHY YOUR SELF STEEM IS ON THE FLOOR, WHY ARE YOU FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF, WHY DO YOU THINK YOU DESERVE THIS.....??????........
REMEMBER,,,,IT BEGINS WITH YOU....AND ENDS WITH YOU....
START CLEANING THIS SCUM OUT OF YOUR LIFE...GET MAD,,GET ANGRY..AT YOURSLEF...SINCE YOU ARE DOING THIS TO YOURSLEF,,,YOU ARE ALLOWING PEOPLE/MEN TO TREAT YOU THIS WAY....
ITS ALL IN YOU....................... | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 8/5/2007 5:43:12 PM | You seem like an intelligent lady and a pretty one at that and if I were you,,""DUMP-HIM"" and I mean FAST !!.
He is taking you for a ""TEXAS-RIDE !!!!!!"""".I maybe wrong , but I think you have lost your confidence ? It is obvious the he is """A-TAKER,,NOT A- GIVER """"
Move on and I wish you luck in your quest.
J.P. | |
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