| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/9/2006 1:46:48 PM | | I will keep you updated. He is on the road driving a truck right now and I have his stuff ready. I am trying to stay real strong and keep my feet secure to the ground. "not laying down so I can be run over again." Hopefully it will go smoothly, who knows, he has a real good idea I am feed up, maybe he will make this real easy for me. I will post tomorrow and update. Great advise peps! | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/9/2006 1:48:54 PM | i to seem to always pick the flea bitten pony to look after! heck i got rid of mine 6mths ago! and i spent 3yrs tidying up after his sorry assi even paid his bills! thought it would all change when the lil lady came along, but no, but at least somthing good came out of it, i have an angel who looks up to me and ive vowed to make her happy and never date a looser again! yep girl toss out the trash!!  | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/9/2006 2:03:36 PM | | if he's still going to be a douche - put everything outside and tell him you're doing that =) | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/9/2006 2:39:15 PM | Liteinside, I see some great advice here, some of it over and over. You know what that is already.
Myself I am amazed at this happening over and over and people not catching on. As long as people won't take the committment to marry or marry and divorce there will be people using people.
I sometimes get bored and go to Matchdoctor.com chatroom and watch others. There are numerous married people that come in there. Some come in there together and visit with old friends. I see nothing wrong with that. Others are married and saying such things as "gropes ya" to the women. I've dared to ask them if their wives were to be looking over their shoulders, would they be talking like that to other women. (There are women looking too that are married) These guys will openly say that they tell in their profiles that they are just there for fun. Then have women back them up and say that they are sweet guys. Get real, do they honestly believe what they're saying? Others will say, it's only chat and you need to separate that from the real world. OK, so chat does not involve real people with real feelings? Ones just like Liteinside that have gotten hurt. I got one of these guys in a room one on one and told him that he is setting himself up for divorce and tried to get him to think about how much that would cost him. He didn't care and defended himself to the end. Worse yet is this... the same guy said "groping you" to a single woman. (A very pretty single woman) She was old enough to be his mother and yet replied, "lower." This guy will most likely end up in divorce court and get taken to the cleaners and still not have a clue. The woman may fall prey to the jerk and then wonder why he's now cheating on her. WAKE UP PEOPLE ..... the writings on the wall.
I had an experience where I was dating a lady for 3 months. She left for work and told me that I could go on the computer to check email at home. I told her no, I didn't need to do that. She told me again, so after I did a brake job on her car and her daughters, I thought why not? I'd relax, take care of emails and then make her dinner. When I cranked up the PC her yahoo messenger was already up. A man starts calling her baby and "I can hardly wait until you get here next month." I'm sold on "everything happens for a reason." So I baited him since he thought he was talking to her and found out all I needed to. Upon breaking up with her, she found it necessary to play the blame game. I was now a control freak because I got the goods on her in a totally innocent way.
We will meet all kinds people... be careful... take your time... and don't move in with them or have sex right off. When we do, we only set ourselves up for heartbreak or simply being used. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/9/2006 2:48:11 PM | my gosh, how can any person treat such dedication and caring with such disregard.
what a dream come true, just to be totally trashed.
i feel for you.
but hun, your a fool if you allow him to do that crap and get away it.
if you do.... then you are letting him "swing". it's no longer cheating.
sitting here thinking, if it were me in your spot, how much it would take of me to give like you give and thinking how totally crushed I would be.
I swear it hurts just imagining it.
I honestly think I would become down right dangerous.
I am sorry for how you must hurt.
But be smart enough not to put up with being crapped on like that. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/9/2006 3:53:24 PM | | hello how are you i saw your pic you are very pretty maybe we could chat sometimes | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/9/2006 4:01:35 PM | miscbyproduc,
another great name, I love to see peoples imaginations at work. thanks for the heartfelt feelings and understanding. It is hard, I really wanted to believe in him. It is not like he is my child. I expect mistakes from a child learning. But this is a grown man and I want him to look me in the eyes while he hands me my keys and I hand him what belongings he has here and let him know how much he broke my trust and my heart. I would rather someone steal my car than my self esteem and stomp my heart like that. I just hope that I never am on his side and hurt someone like that, certainly not intentionally. Have a great night! | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/9/2006 4:04:39 PM | givsarip,
Thank you for your insight. And yes I will take your advise for the next time. I agree this relationship began, honestly, as a one night stand on my part. I didn't know it would become this by no means. He was not a stranger to me but granted there was no courtship involved and yes part of this is my fault. I have let this continue to long and the next man in my life will have to court me for a while and won't get "it" on the first date. It takes one to ruin it for everybody uh?  Thanks for the advise and insight. Have a great evening. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/10/2006 1:52:50 AM | A woman would do all that for me AND have wild sex . I would be hers . That has not happen to me . must not be those woman in wisconsin .
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I got some bad news for you catman. No woman would do this for you.
Because you would appreciate a woman like this and treat her very well indeed.
And, despite the predictable denials coming up on the next few posts, most women regard the man, who treats them well, as a wimp. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/10/2006 9:09:48 PM | | No problem Liteinside. The best of wishes to you! | |
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| It's just not men doing this to women
Posted: 5/10/2006 9:18:58 PM | | I agree with the folks that said that you are too kind for your own good. I've had the same exact experience from some of the ladies I felt deeply for. So follow all the advice on here, take your heart back and find someone who Really Loves YOU!!!!! | |
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| Why do men use me?
Posted: 5/11/2006 12:49:22 AM | | Always remember men are like kleenex, soft, strong and DISPOSABLE! | |
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Jemue
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Joined: 1/26/2005
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/12/2006 11:22:25 PM | couldn't agree more, you let him, if he doesn't have the decency to take you to a movie, he shouldn't be living with you.
at least make him wash his own dirty drawers......you have to soldier up!
if you still choose to see this man only go where he meets you halfway! he wants you to cook tell him to buy some groceries! | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/12/2006 11:43:14 PM | | OK all well it is a done deal. Ofcourse he made promises he will never keep but I made it clear. NO MORE! I have my keys and he has what stuff he had here. He will be gone for a couple of weeks which will give me a good break. Of course because I broke it off and haven't called him or pursued him I have gotten a few calls but let them go to voice mail. Thanks for everything and earlier felt a little lonely after working all night and home alone and went back and read these post and felt a strength of freedom. Thanks I feel good and am looking forward to a new beginning! Take care, Liteinside. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 12:04:53 AM | I am soooooooo proud of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It will just get easier and easier and one day you will have a wonderful man who respects you!!! | |
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mogrl
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Joined: 5/29/2005
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 6:04:22 AM | | does he have to spell it out for you ??He is getting a free ride so why shouldn`t he take advantage of it,you are letting him do it. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 6:18:26 AM | | Sounds like you are in love with him and see something in him that logic says otherwise. Men are looking sex....sounds like you were a part time one for him | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 11:56:06 AM | | MEN ONLY DO IT TO WOMEN CAUSE THE WOMEN ALLOW THEM TOO. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 1:16:52 PM | | But ur here too, on a dating site....why cant he be in one | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 1:21:48 PM | | Yea Liteinside!!! I'm happy for you that you've taken the initiative that you needed to take to get things back into perspective for yourself. If it gets down to it emotionally, take it one day at a time. Keep in contact with friends. I hope to hear about more positive developments. We're cheering you on! A large friendly hug to you! | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 1:27:10 PM | | Sometimes we a females want to be loved so bad we let it happen. That's not saying it's ok for men to do that to us. Men have different standrads of life for them than they have for us. If the tables were turned the men would have a fit. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 1:45:41 PM | red flags were all over this guy, I'm glad you got rid of him, if he tries to come back , remember the fact that he wouldn't even take you out anywhere and realize that in itself speaks volumes about this guys character.
you can be kind and generous and still see the best in people - just make sure you are also getting what you want/need out of a relationship.
love yourself first , so cliche but so very true. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 1:50:31 PM | | It happens to me all of the time too. I know that I'm better than that but for some reason it always happens. I wish that I had some good advice to give but I don't. You know that you deserve more, I know that I deserve more... so we need to figure out how to fix the problem within ourselves! | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 7:25:25 PM | | He sounds like a great guy to me...Hey Liteinside....are you still washing my car this weekend | |
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