| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 7:33:32 PM | | i have been where you are helped my ex build is livestocking truck company only to find out he was jumping the fence to see the grass on the other side.i left him cause i didn't want to be his door mat anymore.i didn't everything for him which made it easier for him to do what he wanted.just remember it is not your problem it is his don't walk out of your world and into his,he doesn't desever you and you desever better. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 7:44:51 PM | Liteinside...
My opinion of this man you are with is the same as everyone else's. He's a creep and is only using you for his own self gratification. You obviosuly do indeed deserve something so much better.
I was reading this forum and saw that someone asked about your motto, so I went to take a look at what that motto was and saw a test on your profile. Took the test myself because I love these sort of things, but don't know how to get the answers? Is there a website or something you go to? I'd really appreciate it if you would let me know... | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 11:14:59 PM | | I feel for you,,I really do I have been used by women as well and lost everything and had to start over,,but there was signs and I didnt beleive them because I loved her,,I learned from my mistakes and you should learn from yours,,I wont ever ignor the bad signs again you shouldnt either,,no one deserves to be treated bad but some people are users and they leave behind broken hearts and destoy peoples ability to trust ,,some day I hope to meet my sole mate ,,and you will too,,good luck and take care | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 11:17:39 PM | I have even caught him on my computer, getting on date sites,
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Urm ....  Just an observation here but umm...Your on a dating site too ...LOL | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 11:23:13 PM | You give he takes..... and that is the way it will sta..... only it will intensify with time.
Is that what you want? Get rid of the selfish jerk before you get too bummed out. He is turning you into a doormat. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 5/13/2006 11:43:40 PM |
you let him do it..
That is the exact phrase that popped out of my mouth when I read the subject heading.
As for getting used, no he doesn't have the right to do it, but once you figure out that he IS doing it, it is YOUR fault if it continues. Sorry if that is too harsh (to you or anyone else) but it's also the truth.
Now that you know you are being used, end it if you don't wish it to continue. At the very least kick him out and stop being his mealticket and everything else. If he won't reciprocate what you've done for HIM, then he is so not worth your time, effort, or tears. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 12:40:05 PM | To be forward atleast 1/2 the men and women out there will Use people and not bat a eyebrow about it. They have no morals. And there is nothing wrong with U its them They know how to manipulate the opposite sex some time the same sex to get only what benefites Them and the hell with the other person. The only thing you can do (coming from Experence on this mater ) (to big of a heart) Is kick them to the curve and hold your ground they will try to suck U back in.But you have to hold your ground or let it happen again. And no they do not change! They hide it for a time and then start up again . A never ending cycle. And hope that you have learned to spot those kind of tendencies in people. Its hard but after being used enough You learn. Wish You luck!
Joey P. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 12:52:05 PM | | Men show love through action. Men show love by "doing for" a woman. Toss this guy and find a man that does things for YOU!!! | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 1:12:15 PM | | The problem here is deserve-abilty. You don't feel you deserve any better. Until you realize that you have to change your feelings about yourself, you will always attract the same type of people. It's good to do things for others but not to the extent where they are walking all over you. Once you truly believe that you deserve better, the right people will come along. I have probably said the same thing others have said for 4 pages. Ah well. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 1:24:56 PM | | You need to put some space between the both of you. Have absolutely no contact with him, and you will notice how much better you can breathe when he isn't mooching off of you. Face it your on a web site he is probably doing the same to other women also. Try not being so generous, you don't have to buy your friends, the true ones will be their for you. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 1:32:33 PM | Hate to say it , but if you allow your dog to pee on your leg ... don't be surprised when he pees on your leg !
(by the way .... he is a dog ! ) | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 1:34:43 PM | We allow the crap to go on because WE DO love them,we make excuses ignore the signs and avoid the writting on the wall!!I think because we cant beleive someone can do that to another person!!!I did the same exact thing in all my relationships I was married a long time and nurtured the kids and my husband 24-7 like most mothers do soo when I found myself in the dating world it just continued if I do this and this ...like I ONLY know how to do ..I will get what I need .....NOT....Its not anything you did please hear that he just wanted a soft place to fall....Those kinds of guys are men they are parasites...I ahte when I trun into everyones MOM lol I do hear u tho just with ever lesson we learn be aware and way more careful next time,if u arent getting anything out of it and your needs are not being met its just one sided and thats not what ur about you deserve a real Man ....Aaaaaaaaaaaamen amen aaaaaaaaaaaaaaamen!!!! | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 1:39:27 PM | The simple answer to the Thread Title question 'Why do men use me?' is because 'you let them'. It may sound harsh but it is true.
In your case, if he never took you out after one or two 'dates' (you should reconsider what a date means to you), then he shouldn't have been someone you 'saw' for 5 months! If you saw him on dating sites, that should have been the end of it right there. You also shouldn't care why he or anyone hurts you but rather you should consider how you handle situations like this. Pick yourself up and get the parasite out of your life immediately.
Again, people use people because they are allowed to be users. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 1:54:14 PM | Nobody can use you unless you allow it.
I would have kicked him to the curb when he first starting such disrespect.
To answer your question about why would someone want to use and hurt you.....it's because not all people in this world are good. You seem to have scraped the bottom of the barrel with this guy. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 2:07:09 PM | Boo Hoo Hoo Hoo, Here's some advice, kick his ass to the curb and wake up. You obviously don't mean much to him other than a financial crutch and probably some head! i may sound mean and like an ***hole but someone has to be blunt with you. Get rid of him and get yourself a good man...yes some still do exist. Now I will send you my bill later in the mail for this session. Good day and good luck!  | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 2:37:51 PM | He does it because he is a dog - and you let him......
Better question would be to ask yourself "why" you let him...
NEVER MAKE SOMEONE A PRIORITY, WHEN THEY ONLY MAKE YOU AN OPTION........
"Tell me who you hang with, and I'll tell you what you are."
At least that's what I think your dad would tell you. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 2:43:29 PM | YOU TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT YOU!  trade him in NOW. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 2:58:55 PM | I agree w/ the general consensus to get rid of him ~ we really do teach ppl how to treat us, and he has no real reason to change his behaviour ~ unless you do.
in his defense, getting a new business off the ground can be tiring, and he may not even be aware how much he is slighting you. by asking him to leave, he may realize that a change is needed. regardless, he has to want to do it, or you'll just fall into the trap of this occurring again and again.
be strong, and good luck. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 3:00:39 PM | Do,you Like It,you must because he is still There...
Take,the Ass and boot him out...There,are plenty of men out there that would show you the concideration and respect that you are looking for..It`s like an abused woman,you are afraid of doing somthing about what is happening to you... | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 3:23:39 PM | I just thought of a joke...
How do you reuse a condom??
You turn it inside out and shake the fuk out of it!!!....
I know this isnt a joke thread..but I couldnt resist...
holy shyte ... that's classic ... lmao
yes, stand up for yourself, does the term 'enabler' mean anything - you are better than that .. set standards for yourself :) | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 3:28:53 PM | | Because you let people like him use you like this. Don't be a doormat. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 3:41:54 PM | | dump the trash clean living is healthier you wouldnt mop the floors 1time a year or leave the dishes laying around so get rid of the garbage. | |
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| Why do men use me??
Posted: 2/6/2007 3:44:02 PM | duh get real honey gopd gave you 2 feet one to balance on and one to give him a swift kick in the a^% | |
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