| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 5/13/2006 6:22:42 PM |
Where did this behaviour come from?
I dunno..it sucks..
I called this guy...i was kind of interested...( He is not from a site)
gave him my number...and for some reason...
EEK....never mind!!
I AM NOT CALLING HIM ANYMORE!!  | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 5/14/2006 5:18:14 AM | | it should work both ways men chase women and women chase men it shouldnt be just down to the man to do all the chasing because shy men who have problems approaching women suffer | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 5:43:01 AM | | Hi White Sundayz.. I totally agree with you,there must be a mutual responsibility in this dating scene today. Women have established a new position in this world and have become very independant,confident and secure within the worlds they have created for themselves alone. They "want" a man to share their life with,they do not "need" a man to take care of them. I must admit though this confidence is attractive to most men,because they do not want needy women,however it takes a special man who is confident,has a high self esteem and is genuine that can love a woman for a long time with these attributes. Persistance does pay off ,whether a man or a woman,the uniqueness and creativity in the pursuit is the challenge,which both parties will enjoy immeasurably for a long time. | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 5/19/2006 9:58:31 AM | excellent way to put it...treble_clef
"This topic reminds me of a saying in Spanish which goes like this:
"No es el hombre que escoge a la mujer, es la mujer quien escoge al hombre que ha de escogerla a ella"...
... which grossly translated means: It is not the man who chooses his woman, it is the woman, who will choose the man who will choose her.
To me folks this means, that if you are not the one she has her eyes on, no amount of chasing will make her want you. However if she has her eyes on you, she will subtly let you know you are in the game...
Having said all that, I do find it attractive on a woman that makes the first move and asks me out, or if she asks for my number, or volunteers her number before I asked. That doesn't scare me off..." | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 10/22/2006 11:04:24 PM | Ive only ever chased one man, and I have to say It was a TOTAL waste of time and effort ( and yes I knew him and yes at times he would show Interest back )..
Mmmm I think we should tell someone we are Interested - I dont think we should play hard to get IF we are Interested ..  but I also have to say after my experience dont waste your time on someone you have to put more effort In with. Sadly Its for a reason you have to do that, you have a LOT more Interest than they do, and one day If you are very UNLUCKY they may decide to settle for you. Leaving you with a life time of being the unwanted goods to deal with. Never pretty - never healthy and ending in wasted years and tears.
I was lucky I woke up to myself before the above happened. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 12:20:10 AM | | My views on this topic are as follows. I do not mind chasing as everyone puts it. But I do like it to be appreicated. Seems to me there is too many double standards now a days.If 2 people like eachother they should let it be known to one another and get on with it. I wonder how many great relationships that could have been never even got started because people are so stubborn. The love of your life could have just walked out the door. "Say what you mean and mean what you say"! The games have to stop. | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 10/23/2006 12:55:22 AM | hmmmm
so you think its a waste of your time when the guy you chase doesnt recipricate your interest huh ladies
welcome to what men have been putting up with since the dawn of time
A dose of your own medicine may be beneficial in a humbling way
its not a nice feeling when the roles are reversed is it ? well thats the modern world now
equality means the good with the bad does it not ? ohhh but you dont want equality here it seems - you want tradition when it suits you and equality when in fact you mean "preference" when it suits you at other times.
Dont like it ?- then remove yourself from it, easy solution | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 7:44:34 AM | Well Demi , heres my view ( a mans , not all mens ) . I perfer that a woman make the first move as it clearly states interest on their part . I do this because I am all but oblivious to the subtle hints that women usually give off showing interest .
My last SO used to get mad as hell saying this one and that one were coming on to me while I didnt see any of it lol , I guess never really dating has hampered my growth of knowledge pertaining to women . What I percieve as being friendly many others view as an open door to engage in flirting and picking up a woman . I have even had women think Im gay because I didnt take their hints lol .
Peace all  | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 8:00:49 AM | | Im always amazed how women want everything in this world to be equal between men and women until it comes to the dating scene. Equal rights is equal rights, across the board. It does not matter if the woman calls or the man calls. It does not matter if the woman ask the man out or the man ask the woman out. Welcome to 2006! | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 8:09:50 AM | Men like to do the chasing... this is a fact... ignore them... and they LOVE IT... put them off... they love it even more...Its thier animal instincts to get what they crave....
I do not chase men, boys, cars, etc...
I would let you in on some secrets.. but I dont feel like sharing... well maybe with ~C~ but only cause she's cool ... and we eat the same breakfast everyday! lol less the coffee for me... but still... its the breakfast of champions!
Sincerely... MANEATER!! | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 10/23/2006 2:50:48 PM |
Men like to do the chasing... this is a fact... ignore them... and they LOVE IT... put them off... they love it even more...Its thier animal instincts to get what they crave....
I dont chase women - period - If a woman ignores me it is a sign of no interest so I do not go any further - put me off and I will just move on
Resources are finate, time is a resource and I will not waste it on someone that likes to play games for whatever reason is going through her head.
My view of a woman that does these things is that she believes she is "all that and more" and no I dont "love" the attitude you have expressed - in fact its a big turn off. A woman can keep that shit sandwich she may be offering for herself- I would want no part of it.
I cant speak for all men but I have a belief that many will share the same sentiments as myself
I believe your approach is a good way to shoot yourself in the foot | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 5:24:09 PM | I don't "chase" men. I also won't give a salesman the time of day as I don't want to be "sold" into dating him.
I think the whole chasing concept can be more an issue of leadership. Someone has to step up to the plate and make the first move. At their comfort pace and go from there.
Or it can be like a chess game. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 5:34:26 PM | Okay, so we have this post:
I enjoy the chase, but I only chase women who make it known they want to be chased. Does that make any sense?
Yes, it makes sense as per this post:
Should women pursue men? They already do, only it's in their own way. Same for men. I think that if we look close enough, 2000 instinctual and unconsious things have happened before that first "hello" even takes place.
Women give men a signal that they are interested and the man either takes it and runs with it or runs away - simple formula really.
Again, I go back to my earlier post. My niece at age 9 kept running away from the boy next door and he would chase her. Then he would get fed up and go home. 10 minutes later, there he is again, chasing her. WHERE DID THIS BEHAVIOUR COME FROM?!! Nobody has taught her that a man needs to chase her, nor has anyone taught him, but they do it! Sorry, but I really believe some of these things are biological. I do however believe that different things can change this biology after a few years. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 8:46:11 PM | | I expect men to chase me.....sorry.... and I don't mean chase me when they aren't getting any feedback from me.... but just initiating things..... I don't care the way things "should be" in others eyes ie: traditional vs. non-traditional......... it's just who I am and I know what I find attractive and what I don't..... and if someone doesn't like it....... we aren't a match. So who cares? | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 9:36:50 PM | | Can't say for others, but for me, it ain't about being "chicken shit" to do the askin', just a matter of how I was brought up. Never went after a guy in my life, much less asked one out, even to a Sadie Hawkins dance.....won't say it never will, just hasn't up to this point. And yeah, I'm one of those NON liberated types. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 9:47:54 PM | | I love when a women comes onto me.It shows she's interested in me,I can judge how serious she is by the effort she makes,there's no stupid overly subtle womans signal that a guy typically misses when you have to pursue her if she wants you you'll know etc basicly alot of the games that usually would happen don't once she's pursuring the man.If some chicks really buy into the equality crap then go after what you want then. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 10:45:04 PM | what hasn't been mentioned here is the one fact that will never change-
sex.
it's nature's way ~
the only way a woman knows if a man is truly interested in what she has to offer other than sex is by the sincere effort he makes.
sex is also one of the main reasons women are reluctant to initiate, they don't want to be misinterpreted. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 10:54:43 PM | I hate the 'cat chase mouse' game ...it doesn't matter who the cat or mouse is. If it's a "chase", this lion is going back to his spot in the shade and watching telvision.
To hell with a chase.
I chase no one & i'd perfer to not be chased. When a man says "no" he means it also.
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 1/11/2008 8:42:28 AM |
what hasn't been mentioned here is the one fact that will never change-
sex.
it's nature's way ~
I've alluded to it twice, everyone ignores it....I don't know if I'm right, but the fact that whenever I post anything to do with biology or something along those lines, everyone ignores it. So either I'm right or horribly wrong lol! | |
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Posted: 1/11/2008 10:21:03 AM | my meaning was the psychology of sex rather than the biology- =)
'nature's way'---> biology
but the rest of my post ---> psychology | |
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Posted: 1/11/2008 1:04:52 PM | | People are to busy defending their posing views on the subject to worry about the biology of the mating game.... lol.... but I do get the jest of what you are alluding to with the hunter/gatherer theory.... me thinks of caveman approaching cavewoman pounding his fist, knocking said woman over the head with his club, then dragging her back to the cave..... | |
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