| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 2/23/2008 9:00:30 AM | | Alright. This is all around confusing to me. He showed the initial interest in me. It took me a while to realize, but eventually I did. He still pays attention to me and stuff, but I usually have to initiate any contact over the phone, but he usually initiates contact in person....I don't get it. | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 2/23/2008 9:07:45 AM | A guy who is interested in a girl will definitely do the chasing. It is a turn off for me when I see a girl chasing me unless I am really into her which is usually quite rare.
Definitely agree with this post. Women constantly site articles stating men are wired differently than women....This is a difference. Men have testosterone and are aggressive by nature...They go for what they want and they don't take kindly to any other man trying to take it away.
IMO Seriously, once a guys been burned by THE woman he loved, it's hell trying to move on. A woman says, good riddance. I don't need it. I can make it on my own.... | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/11/2008 11:37:14 PM | | OK. Here is my take. I have allot of both male and female friends from all different ages, cultures, and backgrounds and I feel I have a good grasp on the whole "chasing" thing. Expecting men to approach, woo, and sit outside her window with a white horse and a guitar singing, "you are so beautiful to me" is a cultural expectation that many woman assume is the general way relationships should work in our society. It is normalized so when something is normalized, it is automatically assumed as "the way things SHOULD be". However, when you assume, something SHOULD be a certain way, you ignore what actually is. You start to think in either/or terms instead of recognizing the variety of ways human beings behave and the combination of emotions that can change at any moment. We are not a homogeneous group with only one personality type but more of a combination of traits, attitudes, and cultural traditions that has been shaped by history and genetics. One man might do well at chasing women but another may not. This influences whether or not he will do any chasing in the future. Other men may not have to chase at all and just have, "that certain something" that certain women want, whatever that is. I have one friend who has many woman "waiting" for him and he takes advantage of it because he can. He can chase or choose not to. It doesn't matter because the women want him no matter what. Other men may be shy and introverted and may need some time to get to know a woman. He might be confused by her "mixed signals" and might look elsewhere or give up all together. Some men, like most of my friends aggressively pursue every woman they are attracted to indiscriminately. With those odds, they eventually find a woman. However, they might not stop at just one unfortunately. They get good at approaching and seducing women so it turns into a "game" for them. They think, "Hmmm, I wonder if I can get her, she is cute." They are used to women saying yes to them and their confidence increases. I am sure many woman do the same thing when they are approached by allot of men and are very desirable. So my point is, men and women who have many options don't have to chase as much and those that feel like they don't may need to engage in more patient communication without the "games". Who really knows except the people involved which is why communication can't be ignored or lacking. I have found that people don't communicate in the initial stages and it all falls apart. In a game, one wins and one loses. Relationships work well when it's a win/win situation. Both people win when egos are checked, honesty is volunteered, and humility is appreciated. | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 2:34:08 AM | | Chasing men is not something I ever do, if Im interested in you and make it known, that should be enough and making it no need for me to chase you. men that want women to chase after them are insecure and only feel desired but not for any relationship. will not waste my time like that. It we like each other, then lets move foward and cut the bullshit. | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 11:48:17 AM | | I don't think chasing men usually doesn't work well Men by nature are hunters and like to prusue Whatever happened to women playing "hard to get"?? it's probably gone with the wind.............. | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 11:55:23 AM | I doubt any guy would get turned off a woman he was interested in should she suddenly decide to take the initiative.
" Hey Joe, what happened with that woman you were into ? "
" Well, she came onto me and it turned me off big time "
Yeah, right.
As far as playing hard to get, I hope it's gone with the wind ! A hard to get can get lost . A childish game IMO. | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 12:05:27 PM | Hmm...To me no guy is worth chasing... there are way to many men out there to be doing that anyways the guy is suppose to chase the girl been like that since the caveman... | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 12:11:03 PM | Has anyone ever noticed that women tend to celebrate the changes that shift power into thier favor, but hold tightly to traditional views that favor them, as well. The rules for interaction between women and men have changed with the financial independence of women. (I know that this doesn't apply to all women.) Women who played hard to get 30 years ago, play impossible to get now, or easy for a lot of men to get. When I stopped chasing women, I started catching more of them. It's getting to be more like fishing these days. Put out the right bait, and they'll bite. The best ones seem to run like hell's fires are licking at their heels if you chase them. Show a little disinterest, and they will hook themselves... or not, based on whether you have the right bait for them.
Oh yeah... Cavemen physically chased and took the women they wanted. The strong (Physically) took what they wanted. If you want a guy like that, the prisons are full of them. | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 12:12:18 PM | | I think the way women chase is different, but yes, we do it. We flirt, we make ourselves available and approachable... and allow them to think they are doing the chasing. It's a win/win. | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 8/27/2008 1:24:03 PM | I dont chase. I like to be chased. If I feel like Im doing all the work, making all the effort, showing all the interest, I will drop that guy faster than you can say "Buh-Bye".  | |
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| Men who like you to chase them
Posted: 10/7/2009 4:50:54 AM |
Any guy who makes me chase him will, in the end, be dropped.
These men are only interested in feeling desirable. They don't want a relationship with you.
Its not any worse than when the average woman does it. | |
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