| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/9/2006 11:39:26 PM | LOL @ the one date rule.... some men... I tell ya | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/9/2006 11:45:11 PM | the three date rule has been around longer than tom lykis.
i'm not sure about the rule.i'm more inclined to say 2 dates.
since i'm really,really hot,if a broad doesn't want to touch "lil wicked" on the second date it probably won't ever happen.
if you don't want to have fun,the next chick might.
k.w.
chicks hate me.even though i'm really,really hot. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/9/2006 11:58:44 PM | Is that where the expression "third time lucky" came from? 
I always heard women like to wait 'till the third date, though I've never had one!  < Hmmn, what did you read into that? insert *scratching head icon* Geez, even that could sound perverted!   | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/10/2006 12:09:30 AM | ^^^^^ well you said it silly, tee hee!
Yeah, I think it is totally up to the people involved and how they feel about each other as to the decisions that they make. No rules or regulations for me, I jsut do what feels right for me personally. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/10/2006 12:53:25 AM | | Well, I had a 3 hour rule...no heat when we meet? sheeeeeeeesh later cowboy! | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/10/2006 12:56:20 AM | | wtf,you mean to tell me people actualy went out on dates figuring they might eventually get them some....fck that...eye just get moi some.. jk .....lol..did not take 3 hours to get me some of you know who....haha | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/10/2006 7:45:41 AM | ^^^is this three date rule........with the same person? | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/10/2006 7:52:56 AM | | It all depends on the person, some people are worth waiting for while others... well sex is good and if there in a physical attraction that usually happens on the first date. If it is more an intellectual attraction I tend to hold off on the heavier moves out of fear of FVcking things up by looking like too much of a slut. Can't wait too long though because then you get stuck in the "Just Friends" hole... Although that can be good too (Women tend to have sexy friends they want to set you up with) mmmm Pre-arranged sex | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/10/2006 8:54:41 AM | I never knew about the "3 date rule"
but then again, I never needed to | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/10/2006 11:17:24 AM | as with many depends on the situation. Tom Lykis is funny but in reality is the new "al bundy" Especially this day and age, considering the medium we are on at this moment it kinda seems funny, cause the whole net thing can skew alot. I have chatted with people for hours on end before we ever met so we knew eachother intellectually and personality wise before there was any physical presence.
There is also the fact that alot of the relationships are long distance and your first date may be a weekend together.
All that being said I have found that alot of the guys i know, myself included, actually have been the ones delaying having sex. Not out of lack of desire but rather the opposite, we have all tended to get physically envolved in our relationships really quickly and then just go with it.
The problem being you have evolved no other real connections and every time you get into an awkward emotional/mental situation you resort back to the physical cause you both know what you like and can avoid dealing with things there.
Like my wonderful lady now, we started off as friends and it built into something awesome cause we knew we liked eachother as people and could relate to eachother and communicate as friends.
As a general rule, when a guy does not care about where a relationship goes (or he is young and has the wild oats effect) he will go for it ASAP, but if its something he is trying to make a run of...he will take some time and try to do it right | |
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Eric42
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Joined: 4/24/2006
Msg: 38 | |
| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/10/2006 1:08:48 PM | I don't have a specific number of dates rule, but for me "the rule", is like this:
I have to be falling in love with the person & fell reasonably sure that
I am interested in spending the rest of my life with him. And while sometimes
the sparks will fly upon first meeting, that's very rare.
Good things ARE worth waithing for  | |
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Eric42
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Joined: 4/24/2006
Msg: 39 | |
| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/10/2006 1:11:16 PM | I don't have a specific number of dates rule, but for me "the rule", is like this:
I have to be falling in love with the person & fell reasonably sure that
I am interested in spending the rest of my life with him. And while sometimes
the sparks will fly upon first meeting, that's very rare.
Good things ARE worth waithing for
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/10/2006 2:50:58 PM | | I have heard of the 3 date rule.. they were talking about it on a radio station, (dont remember which one a while ago.. 6-month-1year ago) and one guys said he had a 3 hr rule, said that if doesnt get any after 3 hrs then he is on the next. I was like You gotta be kidding me.. however his view was some dates dont last that long and 3 hrs is a long time... I am thinking they just didnt find the right person because I believe when you do it wouldnt matter how long they would do it becuase you are worth it to them. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/10/2006 7:23:31 PM | I think most of us have heard of the 3 date rule... and ya know it doesnt necessarily apply just to the men. I have gfs that have gone with it as well... and yes, some men do not put out on the 3rd date.
Personally, who cares when you get intimate with someone? It can be the 1st "meet & greet", the 1st date, the 5th or the 20th date... dont 2 consenting adults do as they wish without anyone else judging them on it? you arent a bimbo/mimbo, slut, whatever names are out there. Youre human. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/11/2006 12:28:09 AM | Interestingly, I was discussing this with some male friends this evening...one said that he adopted the 3 date rule years ago because he felt he needed to know if the woman was actually interested in him, or just the fact that he was paying for their nights out.
Another piped up and said he felt the same. How are you going to know if the woman is interested in you, or just wants the free ride? At some point, if the man is paying, there has to be a point of reconciliation, does she like you because of you or not? Became a financial discussion all of a sudden. Perhaps they should just do the dutch thing, then not an issue? Aren't most women now independent enough they want to pay their way, or at least contribute?
Brings up so many more thread ideas...lol | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/11/2006 12:37:20 AM | ^ Holy doodles! How much does a prostitute cost? 'cause if it is less than 3 dinners shouldn't you just go for the sure thing?
This is why this woman pays her own way!
(funny how tonight I read both the most brilliant post and the most asinine post) | |
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Posted: 5/11/2006 12:50:18 AM | Lol...I agree...I was amazed that their conversation became about money...that had never crossed my mind...I thought it was all about the 2 individuals involved and their morals, standards, upbringing, religion, parental influence, peer pressure, social attitude, opportunity, current status, etc.......
anyone else have an opinion on that? | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/11/2006 12:50:19 AM | I know many men who resent women who, over time seem to be there for "the free ride".
I have met only a few women like that over the years and sex was never an issue. Some would on the 1st, some on the second. Some never got the chance at it. The only common thread between them was that the seemed to be willing to trade themselves for the cost of an evening out.
Most of my LT relationships have been with women who at least offered to contribute  and I salute them as independent and courageous women. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/11/2006 11:50:00 PM |
As a general rule, when a guy does not care about where a relationship goes (or he is young and has the wild oats effect) he will go for it ASAP, but if its something he is trying to make a run of...he will take some time and try to do it right.
I think this is the general concensus. If either people don't care about the long-term aspect and just want to get some booty, they'll have sex asap. But if you really like someone and want to see where it may go, you'd probably want to slow things down. I know that is how I feel. But everyone and every situation is different. And just because things got hot and heavy on the first date doesn't mean things won't work out between the two. Depends on how well they know each other, how much they like each other, and if they are looking for the same thing.
I know when I really like someone, even have the hots for him really bad, and know that I could probably get him in the sack at least once, I just can't go for it. Cause if I really like someone, I want to do it for all the right reasons not just for some booty. And I would hope that he would feel the same way.
So if you think I really like ya, and haven't gone for the booty, now you know why! | |
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MdMac
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Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 48 | |
| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/12/2006 12:53:44 AM | I look at a date as a movie, dinner or a walk in the park. A chance to talk and get to know the other person. Not a chance to score a piece of tail. Once I get to know the person and decide that it is time to go further, then maybe sex can start to be considered. If I'm thinking of being intimate with someone for the first time, I don't take them to a movie and hope they want to come home with me. I plan to make it worth their while. Candle lit dinner, wine, soft music, sappy movie and being alone. Create the right atmosphere and remove the pressure. Hoping that they will come home with me or taking them for drinks so they are less resistant is the easy way out. Anything worth having is worth working for.
My previous relationship started with sex on the first date and ended 11 years later. Not because we had lots in common or had the basis for a lasting relationship but we had great sex. Before we realized that that was all there really was, we had kids, a house and bills. This time, I'm looking for a woman I want to be around even if sex is not included. There is alot more to life than just getting your rocks off and I can take care of that myself if truly necessary. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/12/2006 1:06:07 AM | Not to mention how awkward it is the first time you are intimate with someone. Yuk!!!!
Maybe we have just tooooooo many rules. Let things happen naturally. Life if short. Have fun but don't be stupid. And don't forget to get your medical checkup after each relationship! | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/12/2006 8:02:21 AM | hmmmmmmmm....the 3 date rule huh.....well 3 dates can happen in one nite....u meet for coffee...thats date one...leave and drive around the block and then go to the coffee place and pick your date up and go for dinner...thats date number 2.....after dinner leave and drive around the block and pick up your date again and then go to a movie or show....thats date number 3......then whatever you do after well is up to you  | |
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