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Joined: 1/12/2006
Msg: 51 | |
| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/12/2006 8:36:19 AM | Rule number one, if it feels good, well, stop your grinnin' and drop your linen... ...seriously people, now there are those who are making rules before you go with someone, geez, whatever happened to common sense?..society has already overburdened the world with too many rules and everyone wants to add more to the list, yikes... | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/12/2006 9:28:39 AM | | I totally agree - I obviously didn't know about the 3 date rule. However I have had some entrtaining dates where I have corrresponded for quite awhile and thought the relationship had potential - and then not heard another word from the gentleman. Some men still follow the old school thought that if they have wined and dined a woman then she should put out on that first date. I am still stunned at that attitude. If I feel comfortable on the first date - I will accept another - and quite frankly I like to know a guy and his values and beliefs before I am going to get intimate with him. Once I am intimate I stop seeing other men and will only date him exclusively. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/12/2006 2:46:07 PM | Pff rules.
If there is something there on the first date, you know and you look for a second date in hopes that it continues to move forward.
Sex on a first date is generally a no-no if you ask me. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/12/2006 5:34:34 PM | | I guess it depends how much alcohol I've had and if I am in the mood, it could very well be the 1st date!! I don't follow any rules, and save the sleazy comments...don't care!! | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/12/2006 6:58:15 PM | ^^^ agreed.
who cares when it happens? as long as its mutual. that all that matters.  | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/12/2006 8:14:29 PM | | i actually have a three date rule no body gets in the pants till at least three dates lol maybe longer but it doesn't alwayts work | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/12/2006 9:31:41 PM | I don't have a specific number of dates rule, but for me "the rule", is like this:
I have to be falling in love with the person & fell reasonably sure that
I am interested in spending the rest of my life with him. And while sometimes
the sparks will fly upon first meeting, that's very rare.
Good things ARE worth waithing for  | |
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bean2p
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Joined: 1/13/2005
Msg: 59 | |
| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/12/2006 9:36:19 PM | I dont believe in any of the "dating rules" cause everyone is different and every relationship is different...and plus....RULES SUCK!!!!  | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/13/2006 12:06:23 AM | I would like to comment on that. If I have gone out twice with a guy - usually the second date I offer to buy dessert and coffee somewhere if it is dinner AND I follow up by reciprocating with an invitation to a live theatre performance or an invite to a gallery opening and or an Entertainment dinner coupon.
During the earlier stages of a relationship with an ex I always arrived bearing several dinner coupons and offered them as choices and he never once used a coupon nor would he let me buy dinner. It was uncomfortable at first but he explained to me later that that was how he was raised and he considered coupons an indication of cheapness. He was at a stage in his life where he could afford it and rationalized it by saying he made twice my salary. He always treated me with respect. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:40:45 PM | I know when I really like someone, even have the hots for him really bad, and know that I could probably get him in the sack at least once, I just can't go for it. Cause if I really like someone, I want to do it for all the right reasons not just for some booty. And I would hope that he would feel the same way.
So if you think I really like ya, and haven't gone for the booty, now you know why!
Does that mean if we went out on a first date & you didn't like me, I would have a better shot of getting a booty call, Smiley? We're not just pieces of meat, you know!  
Sorry Smiley, I was only being silly & I just couldn't resist the twist...Or is that what you really meant?  | |
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Joined: 5/1/2006
Msg: 62 | |
| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/14/2006 11:27:53 PM | | Personally I dont just f*** women, I like to get to know a woman well enough to know she might be the one I will spend the rest of my life with, and after three dates your still just starting to get to know each other. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/14/2006 11:37:22 PM | | i believe you should go with the flow...hopefully you make the proper decision....no "rules" here...it's what you feel that should count. we are adults not kids. my two cents. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/15/2006 12:30:08 AM | | three date rule: isn't that one of those tom leykis 101 things? i think you need to make your own set of rules and boundrys for dating, sex and relationships and stick to them (dont be influenced by gimmicky talk) | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 6/14/2006 7:37:05 PM | Well, obviously due to...circumstances...my measure would be a little different, but if this really is some unwritten rule...I suppose I'm just screwed.
...and not in the 'good' way, either... | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 6/14/2006 9:05:50 PM | The 3 date rule is actually a pretty good rule for guys to keep to, and women should be glad that they do.
The fact is, if by the end of the 3rd date, a woman is still not interested in at least SOMETHING sexual with you, it's time to take the hint.
"She's just not that into you."
Unless you're very conservative or it goes completely against your personal or religious beliefs to have sex outside of marriage, I think sex is something that should be shared between people who are attracted to eachother and like eachothers company. This is something that should be settled by the end of the third date one way or the other. If by then she's still not up to it, it's time to cut your losses and set sail for new waters. She might be great friend, but she won't be your lover. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 6/14/2006 9:13:17 PM | | Ok well what if the attraction is so strong... you both are just sitting on the sidelines.. waiting to cut the sexual tension? just curious.. its never happened to me because I am a virgin... but really... "fill me in" | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 6/15/2006 6:56:24 PM | .... a virgin?
At 29..?
With kids, no less.
Well, I guess the second coming is really happening afterall. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2006 7:06:47 PM | ^^ and I have always believed that's a GOOD Thing right? heh heh heh   | |
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Posted: 6/15/2006 7:34:42 PM | I've heard of the 3rd date rule - and hate thinken the possibility of my fututre happiness is being measured by such a crass standard.
I'd like to know, respect and trust the fella enough to feel some emotional involvement, before I could enjoy the tumble thing with him. | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 6/16/2006 2:05:07 AM | Rules?!
This would just confuse me further.
But reminds me of that Owl in those Tootsie Pop Commercials.... How many licks does it take to get the center of a tootsie pop...1,2,3...(crunch) 3. | |
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Llenn
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Joined: 5/15/2006
Msg: 73 | |
| The 3 date rule
Posted: 6/16/2006 10:51:24 PM | | Gee .............. we have to date three times, no way (LOL) | |
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Avow
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Joined: 1/3/2006
Msg: 74 | |
| The 3 date rule
Posted: 6/17/2006 8:44:55 AM | @sister I hear yea... ..NO RULES
Gee .............. we have to date three times
yea what he said.
Raine | |
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| The 3 date rule
Posted: 5/27/2008 7:47:04 PM | | LOL... I just had my first date with this guy and we were joking about the 3 date rule my daughter set for me. We thought it was just a joke and deceided to google it to only find there is such a thing. This guy was very much a gentleman and I enjoyed his company very much. He however set the bounderies at 12 dates. I told him I am going to hold him to it. But we are both consenting adults and will know when the time is right regardless of any date rules. | |
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