| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/17/2008 4:14:23 PM | To answer the OP...
Sex in the mind of a woman over 40 is a beautiful thing.............A man must make love to a womans mind first, and then he's captivated her..........and moving right along into the act of lovemaking............my desire for sex is still there, I just want the right person now........there has to be more substance than when I was younger... | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/17/2008 4:40:56 PM |
Sex might be in the women's mind but it seems to take longer to work its way down
Then you're not doing it right! Take some responsiblity man! | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/18/2008 2:20:41 AM |  After 40??? How about it started right at 30??? LOL
Quite simply--- I love sex.... especially sex with the right lover(s). I enjoy it now, more than ever, and know that the mind has alot to do with it as well. The hardest [no pun intended! lol] thing is feigning disinterest to younger men.... Especially, the ones who are half my age--- albeit, the "ego" trap! lol
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/18/2008 7:10:23 AM | LOL......Started at 30?........good for you......
Welcome to our world of men and the enjoyment of sex.......  As we mature, we seem to blend together with those of you that think the same way, and the sex is just as good, just even better when with the right lover(s) as you stated yourself.....
The goal here is for the two genders to meet and greet, match up the right way, have the attraction and chemistry to want more and then enjoy the ride.......
Women at 40 and above may have that delusion of what to do with younger men, and of course you know that many men do as well with women much younger too. You get to be called cougars', and we get to be called midlife crisis......... .....the difference being that you want the younger men for their sexual prowess, and we might want the younger women for their youthful bodies.
Now, would it not just be better for us to find women closer to our age that have great bodies, wonderful minds, financial security, and a desire to enjoy sex as much as we do, and for you to find men much closer to your age that still have great bodies, wonderful minds, financial security, and a desire to enjoy sex as much as you do.....and can???....
I much prefer having sex with a mature woman that knows her body well, what she wants, and needs, and can give it as well as accept it........ The hard part for all of this, is to find them active enough, and in good shape to make it all happen the way we all seem to want it.....but then again, maybe that is what most women think as well......go figure........
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/18/2008 10:08:25 AM | While we're on tha subject can someone help me explain.... My wife and I have been together 22 years.. Sex was always awesome and yes I am a romantic and I would always make sure that our love making was like a three to one thing.. She would come 3 times to my one that is.. SHEESK If I came 3 times i'd be done ...
Well When she turned 40-45 ish she just stopped. She says she's always tired, (SHY-WITH-ME ?? and we are not young anymore and sex shouldn't be the way it was when were young... HELL why not ???? .... Is it me?? So now I'm on here chatting with ladies, (profile explains I have no plans to meet).. Get hot and tingly this way...
Does that happen often to ladies over 40 ??? HELP  | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/18/2008 11:58:52 AM |
the difference being that you want the younger men for their sexual prowess, and we might want the younger women for their youthful
I don't disagree with men wanting younger for their youthful bodies but I can and do disagree with your saying we over 45 gals want the young hotties for their sexual prowess. I find they don't have much! lol
Give me a mature man any day. The man who knows how to turn on that inner fire in his woman...oooh lala! | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/18/2008 4:54:52 PM | | Sorry, Kalico! I am not buying it! Read some of the other posts from the other women 40 and over. We are hitting our prime and she's not feeling it? Could be something physically wrong? I would suggest either counseling or a visit to her gyn. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/18/2008 8:24:11 PM |
Well When she turned 40-45 ish she just stopped. She says she's always tired, (SHY-WITH-ME ?? and we are not young anymore and sex shouldn't be the way it was when were young... HELL why not ???? .... Is it me?? So now I'm on here chatting with ladies, (profile explains I have no plans to meet).. Get hot and tingly this way...
Does that happen often to ladies over 40 ???
Hasn’t happened to me.
I agree with Trish, when sex or really anything just stops, there is an underlying reason. Could be physical, mental or something going on that the partner is just not aware of or even possibly doesn’t want to be aware of for some reason.
My suggestion would be after 22 years instead of chatting to strange women is talk to your SO or suggest a physical. Perhaps “chatting “ her up might be better because if she ever finds you are getting hot and tingly with other women whether it is real or just cyber then you will have much bigger problems than not getting a little “sumtin, sumtin”. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/18/2008 8:24:30 PM | Enough of the mumbo jumbo and big words and tearing them apart as far as the mind of a 40 year old woman and sex.
I want the same thing YOU do. Uninhibited, animalistic, throw me on the ground - against the wall, make me scar your back (not too bad), scream your name (or, ok, someone elses) ) curl my HAIR (hell, you can curl my toes any time) down right naughty love making.
That's what the mind of this 40 year old something is thinking about. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/18/2008 9:05:31 PM | ^^^^^^ I want what she's having!!
Thing is I don't want it just after one email or chatting in IM for three minutes. SO many guys that contact me seem to have an egg timer running. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/18/2008 11:01:09 PM | Well When she turned 40-45 ish she just stopped. She says she's always tired, (SHY-WITH-ME ?? and we are not young anymore and sex shouldn't be the way it was when were young... HELL why not ???? So now I'm here chatting with ladies, (profile explains I hve no plans to meet)..Get hot and tingly this way...
Does that happen often to ladies over 40??? HELP
....Hmmm not sure what you mean? Does what happen? Are you talking about your wife become disinterested in sex after turning 40? if so, your just unlucky....cause most women hit their sexual prime around that time...and if its the latter....well, its never happened to me....I mean, getting all hot and tingly talking to the ladies 
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:29:02 AM | Wow never thought I'd get so much reaction on my post.. WELL I guess I had it coming cause women naturally assume that a man cannot communicate. We have talked about it at length, spoke to professionals, there is nothing wrong physically or mentally with either one of us.. I'd like to add tho that sex is only one part of our partnership and we are still together cause in all other aspects of our lives we are totally compatible.. In the living room chatting with coffee, the kitchen cooking together, our walks, and sporting events like golf, 4 wheeling etc....
Instead of finding fault and picking my question apart All I want to know is if that happens... We also have friends and are watching their marriage crumble and we both are wondering if it could happen to us... YES my wife knows I'm on POF... It's no secret... DUH! | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/19/2008 11:12:55 AM | hi i was married twice and sex to me was just a reproduction machine id rather go with out then turned 40 i statrted feeling very horny and wanting sex and trying diffrent things with my husband wich was brilliant but not long after we parted an d got divorced coming up 6 yrs now and i still get the urge night and day wanting a guy but too fussy on finding mr right but god do i miss it yes indeed lol feel my body clocks gone wild is this what they mean life begins at 40   | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:32:13 PM |
there is nothing wrong physically or mentally with either one of us..
Nothing that's been found thus far. Don't give up yet, keep working on a way to get back some of what was lost. Yes, as people age, their preferences and tolerances can change. Maybe she's ready for long body massages instead of headboard shaking.
It kinda sounds like you have now experienced what most men get after a year or two with a new wife---suddenly the "always available" fountain of sex and sensuality shuts off like you forgot to pay a bill or something!
I agree with the women that something physical is amiss -- she may be reluctant to admit it since it means so much to you, and she's never had a problem before. Could be she hopes some difficulty will just go away on its own.
On another angle, it also sounds like she's been "born again" and after some discussion/indoctrinations by fellow churchgoers she's been convinced her prior sexual ways were deviant and so she's trying to shut down completely.
Good luck!! | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:59:16 PM |
Then you're not doing it right! Take some responsiblity man!
It was a joke believe me I know how to knock a woman's socks off and a few other items of clothing..
Its hard to get to home plate when the women wont even come out to make a pitch. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/19/2008 7:27:00 PM | | DUH ! were looking in the mirror when writing this... After living with the same person for 22 years there isn't many secrets left to uncover... DERERTBRO.. how long was your last relationship ??? and what were you hiding ??? | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:00:25 PM | Instead of finding fault and picking my question apart All I want to know is if that happens... We also have friends and are watching their marriage crumble and we both are wondering if it could happen to us... YES my wife knows I'm on POF... It's no secret... DUH
...Just wanted to let you know that I was not trying to find fault or pick your question apart...just having a little fun ...maybe you should re-read my response and you will see the laughing emoticon? Anyone here knows that I am not a mean or vindictive person. Sorry you took it that way.
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:46:23 PM |
After living with the same person for 22 years there isn't many secrets left to uncover...
Kalico: I am not talking of a secret kept for 22 years. I am talking about a change in character or physical health that is recent and led to her disinterest in sex. Just because they have visited professionals, does not mean they have discovered what caused her change. It's possible she knows, but hasn't accepted it or wanted to discuss her issue, and has evaded the professionals' attempts to help.
As smokers and dieters can tell you, just wanted to make a change or admit there is a problem is a big step. The whole issue for the OP is that he doesn't know why she's acting differently. Maybe SHE knows, maybe she doesn't. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/20/2008 8:38:32 AM |
A man must make love to a womans mind first, and then he's captivated her Yet if I have no desire to captivate her--because I have no interest in possessing, either by charm or license/paperwork--I guess I have the green light to skip the mind and plunge right in to other parts? | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:35:24 PM | | sex with older women is so much better. im always up for it witht he older ladies, they know what they want between sheets | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:55:03 PM | There are hundreds of ladies schadenfreudian....that would welcome your green light to get down to business...Lol
That is just another aspect of lovemaking...the frenzied tear your clothes off and get on with the hot sex! I thought the topic was sex in the woman mind after 40?
AND......I merely responded to one part of that.....because in my opinion, making love or having meaningful sex all starts in the mind........and isn't the mind a "terrible" thing to waste? Slow and easy still gets you there just as good as fast and frenzied......you do remember the story about the tortoise and the hare?
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:06:26 PM | | Thank god for B.O.B (battery operated boyfriend) & my shower massage or I would have no sex life. Pathetic! It's hard to find a monogamous man in my age group to date! The pizza delivery guy is looking good lately! HMMM, wonder if he would mind getting kidnapped for a couple of days? LOL! | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 2/20/2008 6:34:45 PM | I agree with blondblueyed!
Why do men want to jump right in! Just becuase our hormones are changing doesnt mean we arent still looking for Mr. Right | |
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