| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/12/2008 2:15:43 PM | | I don't need no Steeenking drugs, everythings AOK here. Stop with the generalizations already please. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/12/2008 3:06:25 PM | | i don't speak helpless. go ahead and talk. rant and rave, if you like. but if you lapse into self-absorption, sorry. i have better things to do. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/16/2008 6:32:16 PM | Rap:
I hear ya! The ole chassis may not be quite as good looking as it was at 25 or even 35 but by God the engine sure can purr!! LOL! Now if I can just find someone that can keep it purring and then red line it a few times  that would be nice! LOL!
Galadriel | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/17/2008 5:20:09 AM | | Think that we know how to do it better... if that don't sound to cheesy... but then it is team work... and more than just sex... it's the ultimate communication of two people who share their lives together... well there is just sex... but sex between strangers won't be anything more lustful than just that... then there is the type between two people who see it as a shared hobby. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/17/2008 10:32:29 AM | A thought...
I think (in general) women middle aged and over don't feel like they have to "prove" anything in the sexual arena... they know what they have and they know what they like to give and recieve.
But men (in general) middle aged and over sort of get stuck in wanting to "prove" themselves? | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/17/2008 12:51:19 PM |
But, men ( in general) middle aged and over sort of get stuck in wanting to " prove" themselves?
Funny, I thought they were sort of stuck wanting to prove themselves, from the time they hit puberty? | |
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| Sex in the womans mind after 40.
Posted: 3/17/2008 1:12:52 PM | As a male over 50, I'm not out to prove anything more than :
'Not All Men Are The Same' . . [III] . .
..because, contrary to popular opinion . .
Not all the Good ones are Taken . . !!
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As far as 'Sex on a _Womans_ mind' . . I find it refreshing to find one that can have an Adult conversation
without it being centered around 'Man-Bashing' !
I left my Puberty many years ago, and have learned that
- all things being equal -
..Pleasing a Lady can be even more rewarding than being pleased BY a Lady . . !!
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/17/2008 1:44:29 PM | Same here ... since I turned 50 I want sex much more and enjoy it much more.... think my hormones are playing up ?! or maybe its the hot, sunny climate.
Even importing a man from the States over to the DR where I have been living for 6 years to have some fun. Plenty of men here but not all for me | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/17/2008 8:28:41 PM | I think mine started after I had my daughter 18 years ago & had my tubes tied. Wow NO worries of getting pregnant! Then went through change of life early with no problems, no hot flashes no nothing just stopped about 5 years ago now it's like it feels so good want it more.  but now only can relay on all my toys. Most of the men that contact me are in their 60s & 70s. Men in their 50s only want women younger. Heck I can keep up with them anyday probably would wear them out. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/18/2008 3:58:40 AM | | I really don't think about sex at all unless I'm in a serious relationship. I'm surprised that so many women say they do. Once I go a month without, my body forgets about sex which is fine with me. If I sat around and thought about it all the time, I would probably have to do something about it. Even when I meet someone I'm very attracted to, my mind doesn't leap ahead to actual sex, but I may start thinking about kissing them. If I'm in a good relationship, that's when I start thinking about it all the time. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/18/2008 4:57:34 AM | oh man...it took me some time to post on this one...thinking about sex...
that's the FANTASY...where the advertising agencies and other media aim right? i don't like being bombarded by false images or expectations about sexuality or relationships. i'm not knocking fantasy...when it's healthy and edifying (and legal)...
acting on fantasy is another issue. seeing a hot guy somewhere, flirting like mad, and giving him my number just to have sex (in the city) isn't my kind of "relationship." or if i starved myself, got fake breasts, and wore mini-skirts so that my body appears like a 30 y/o is some guy's fantasy...not fulfilling a sexual need of mine, but an emotional one perhaps.
so where's the line? i know mine...and i'll play racquetball hard 3 times a week until i meet the man who will cross it!  | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/18/2008 1:55:35 PM | as a former counselor and psych teacher i can tell you honestly most women dont hit a sexual peak until there forties. the docs say its lack of fear of pregnancy but i dont really buy all that. i think women just get more beautiful on the inside and get in touch with themselves and let er rip. unfortunate thing is most guys hit their peaks about twenty years earlier and that can cause problems for the fabulous forty crowd.  | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/20/2008 3:03:50 PM | scary stuff......they think about it all the time. We used to and they didn't. Now we don't and thats all they do. Sheeeeeeesh!!! I'm exhausted, LOL!!!
I think they need a hobby.....................Does anyone know "Juan" the pool boys number | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/20/2008 5:19:29 PM |
as a former counselor and psych teacher i can tell you honestly most women dont hit a sexual peak until there forties. the docs say its lack of fear of pregnancy but i dont really buy all that. i think women just get more beautiful on the inside and get in touch with themselves and let er rip. unfortunate thing is most guys hit their peaks about twenty years earlier and that can cause problems for the fabulous forty crowd.
And thats our punishment for offering up the apple to Adam haha
...maeflowers | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/20/2008 9:52:23 PM | Well parrothead, as the mother of FOUR children, 3 of whose birthdays fall within 10 days of one another(count back 9 months and you will get my birthday -HA) NOT being able to get pregnant does a whole lot for a woman's desire. All I had to do was think about having sex and I was pregnant. I say that bc my ex was NOT all that interested and obviously we did at least do it four times. So, for all of the fertile Myrtle's like me out there, can I get an AMEN?!
OK, well, sex is soooooooooooooo amazing these days. But I am finally really in love and well, OMG he is so unselfish and amazing and he is tender and well, LASTS! and wowowowowow. I never had it so good and I DO think about him all of the time. Morning noon and night, at the store and in the car and everywhere and all of the time! We are in a LD thing and I worry for his sleep when we finally get together for keeps. I think bedtime will be REALLY early! More naps too!
I understand what they mean when they say it pops into guys heads every 2 minutes , or whatever the number is. Once in awhile I will be daydreaming about sex and get interrupted and turn red in the face! As if I got caught red handed!
What does that song say...."I like it, I love it, I want more of it!"
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 3/21/2008 4:50:03 AM | let's have the research:
According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, a woman's sexual response tends to peak in her mid-30s to early 40s. That's not to say, however, that a woman can't have a full physical and emotional response to sex throughout her life. In fact, the 1999 JAMA study found that the prevalence of many sexual problems among women tends to decrease as they age. Most people will have a passing sexual problem at some point in their lives, and that is normal.
Lack of sexual desire is the most common sexual problem in women. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists reports survey data indicating up to 30 percent of women lacked interest in sex for at least one month in the previous year. About 15 percent of postmenopausal women have decreases in sexual desire, according to The Merck Manual of Diagnosis and Therapy.
Often, sexual desire is affected by a woman's relationship with her sexual partner. The more a woman enjoys the relationship, the greater the desire for sex. The stresses of daily living can affect desire, and feeling uninterested in sex occasionally is no cause for concern. But, when sexual fantasies or thoughts and desire for sexual activity are persistently or recurrently reduced or absent, and cause distress or interpersonal difficulties, the problem is known as hypoactive sexual desire disorder, or inhibited sexual desire disorder. The Merck Manual of Diagnosis and Therapy estimates hypoactive sexual desire disorder occurs in about 20 percent of women.
The opposite, hyperactive sexual desire...fueled by fantasy...such as those in long distance relationships...will not be maintianed when the couple are in full time proximity. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 8/6/2008 3:37:53 AM |
The opposite, hyperactive sexual desire...fueled by fantasy...such as those in long distance relationships...will not be maintianed when the couple are in full time proximity.
Depends on the people involved. I am here to tell you, it will be maintained.................and is. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 8/6/2008 4:18:39 AM | If I have a man in my life and a relationship has began... I will think about sex all the time.. but If I am not with anyone. It is now and then.. I tend to put my self into other things in my life and control my thoughts towards sex.. So it all depends what is going on in your life to whether you think about sex..
Boredom sometimes can bring on fantasy thoughts, hot sun on your skin is another.. a number of things really. I'm 50 now and my thoughts are the same as when I was 40... | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 8/6/2008 8:07:18 AM | Unfortunately, that is the only place it is these days....in my mind! Arrggghhhh! Sometimes life seems a tad bit unfair now doesn't it?
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 8/6/2008 2:30:02 PM | Absoluately, that is why I find any way to do it. Yet, men I am very, very picky. But, love it. Yes, women think about sex even if they say they don't. (unless health issue).
There is much more to us than sex, but yes, sex is a huge part of a relationship. We are human after all.
We don't have to prove ourselves any more and we do consider much more in life now. I am sure there are some that don't just as some men do not. | |
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