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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/12/2006 5:59:43 PM | | Nah, bull, its not that we don't want you we just can't figure out how to get you here through the damned puter. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/12/2006 6:04:22 PM | Sex after 40......for a women..well I cannot speak for everyone and wouldn't even try. It should be passionate ! ! !!
This is the part of my life I assumed I would not need so much at this age....OMG...I was wrong. I cannot stop thinking about it...everyone..has a potential target on their heads...lol
Well almost everyone. My EX-...has no desire and mine is in overdrive.... no wonder we are not together. He actually wanted me to get some kind of medication to kill my labito..
What the Hell is that..a man that wants his women to have less sex drive.
All ( most ) of us that fit into this catagory are still looking for that man who can keep up with a womens mid 40's sex drive...Must not be too many out there. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/12/2006 6:09:19 PM | Hey if you guys get a handle on this I sure would like to know what you came up with. My wife had a hysterectomy a couple of years ago and that was it--it was like it was shut down!!! A lot of friends who have had the same operation tell me that they have the appetite of teenagers again.
I have done everything I could think of. I have sent emails from naughty websites, I have even bought a damn Harley after hearing how it stirred some women's libido!! I just wonder if its supposed to be!! I have been laughed at, humiliated, told that she wasnt my sex kitten.
Maybe this is it?
Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks
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kasie
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Joined: 3/4/2006
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/13/2006 12:33:16 PM | I agree with you ladies who really like sex. I am not with anyone at the moment but when I am in a relationship that I feel can lead to a very long term relationship and I have love for the man I can't get enough. I don't however enjoy sex with just anyone. I have to have major feelings for the man and if I do forget it because we really have to spend some time making up for the lost time I have been going through. I am very picky though. I find it hard to believe that so many people feel that if you are a Christian you can't enjoy sex or if you don't want to be come onto like without getting to know each other and treated like a lady you must really be a prude or snob. It is amazing how if people can get past the meeting and caring part they can be so amazed. I have even had a man tell me he could not keep up with me. This was the end of our relationship because he was afraid of being shown up. Where are the men who are gentlemen but still love making love to a lady. Just because you are a lady also doesn't mean you can't really let your hair down with a man you love. I can want to make love four or five times a day and be happy.
This being alone is rough though. | |
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kasie
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Joined: 3/4/2006
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/13/2006 12:45:54 PM | very you sure got that right.
This was a great thread and Im very glad to see more women stepping up to the plate and admitting how they feel. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/13/2006 1:11:00 PM | | I don't think any of you exist in real life. You are fictional characters created by online dating site owners to give men false hope. | |
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Ainsel
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Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 60 | |
| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/13/2006 1:33:33 PM | Oh we exist! Very much so. And many have understated the truth rather than exagerated.
I hear fear in your post, sheer fear | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/13/2006 2:22:13 PM | What is so sad is there has got to be a lot less of us admitting it than really feel this way. I would love to find a man who could be as passionate and romantic and enjoy making love as much yet somewhat close to my age. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 7:48:28 AM | | The woman who are 40 and in appleton wisconsin are not out there . otherwise , I would be with her . SHE would have me all to herself . | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 10:35:47 AM | "She is in the menopause stage now and even less into sex. "
Who EVER said that MY sex drive would drop.....lied!!!
Hey, I have sex on my mind and I'm way over 40. Love the teddies, garters, heels, thongs, corset and my other things. I had no problem with touchy feely. I'd leave a hotel key hanging from a mirror, notes in his brief case to hurry home, candles, dinner on the coffee table with pillows on the floor. I liked putting balloons in the car and tying a thong to the rear view mirror. I would leave a rose in the car, pictures for him in an envelope with a big red kiss on the front. So.....I don't think it was for a lack of sex...(he wanted somebody younger!!!) | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 11:26:14 AM |
I don't think any of you exist in real life.
Oh BULL, you're problem is you live in Minnesota. Come to Ohio. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 1:09:12 PM | Oooooooh yeah . . . When I'm in a relationship and gettin' it regular - it's on my mind 24/7.
But I'm not in a relationship at the moment and it feels like my libido has curled up and died. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 2:13:21 PM | Hey Shell,
Don't be smacking us Minnesota gals. As the song goes, we northern girls know how to keep our men warm at night.
As for all of the rest, I was wondering where all of the "real women" were hanging out. Our generation was brainwashed into thinking that "good girls" don't do that. The hell we don't, and some of us are really good at it. We are not getting older, we are getting better. I think that the biggest factor is maturity and confidence.
You know the old saying, use it or lose it, and the more I use it, the more I want. I probably average 7-10 times a week, and I am not afraid to admit that sometimes I am flying solo while he watches. Get out the toys, momma wants to have some fun.
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 2:34:46 PM | | I am not trying to be stereotypical here but it seems that women 40 and older seem to have a strong sexual appetite and really want to have sex a lot. As a straight man who is 31 i have to admit I like that and maybe thats one of the reasons I find older women attractive. It seems that an older woman knows how to sexually satify a man and knows what he likes and wants. Also older women are more mature and have a tendency to treat their men with respect. Not saying younger women dont but that the way I see things | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 2:42:31 PM | Back when I was in my mid-30's I was lucky enough to a date several women in the their mid-40's, and they seemed to have sex on their minds a lot! I thought maybe it was because they were past the point of caring what others thought and were more concerned with what they were thinking... like enjoying sex instead of the BS they had to put up with when they were younger and getting the "slut" label that seems to hand in hand with an “active” woman.
Anyway, what I’ve always wondered is how a woman can just shut it off and go without sex for so long. I mean no toys, not long showers, no playing of any kind… how do you all do that?? I’m talking about younger women too, not just those who have gone through “the change”. Seems unnatural to me. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 2:56:03 PM | | only in canada sweety we frenchman love to treat a lady like she is a queen an bedroom no problem | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 4:00:07 PM | Ron. I feel for you. Your ex was probably molested at a young age. This happens to a lot of children. What that does is cause the thought of sex to be a chore, or burden that must be endured.
When a child is forced to have sex before they are ready, then the normal developement of the joy of sex is stifled if not squelched all together.
Some women/men learn to get past it and enjoy sex, but not all.
Nine times out of ten, when a person does not think about sex "ever", that is what happened to them whether they remember it or have suppressed the memory.
A person who loves this person can get through this barrier, but it requires persistence and patience, and a lot of unconditional love. it's a nurturing process. The person has to learn to relax and enjoy the feelings that the body has.
These are my thoughts on the matter. I am just trying to help. I am in no way trying to accuse or ridicule anyone.
God Bless
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 4:07:50 PM | | It's not thinking about sex all the time, it's not wanting sex all the time, it's not even finding sex for that matter....it's finding GOOD sex....ie one that works would be nice. LOL | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 4:13:47 PM | Good for you STPaulgirl. I agree with you totally. If I were in a relationship, I'd want it that often. In fact, I want it all the time, and I am in no relationship.
Perhaps I should open my range to include the 21 to 36 group of men.
I'm getting desperate.
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