| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 4:20:32 PM | You have a point, Broken lady. It's just that when we speak of sex, the thought of bad sex is not the issue. We don't mention whether the sex is good, that is assumed.
So when I say I think about sex all the time, of course I'm thinking about good sex.
Geez, I gotta get off here.
Ok, time for my shower.
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/15/2006 5:37:58 PM | Such interesting posts
Monalisa - very good post and right on as far as my experience.
I was raped at age 14 and yet I always thought I enjoyed sex. BUT, it wasn't until a couple of years ago that I had a loving and trusting relationship that allowed me to heal that wound and finally let go and experience a vaginal orgasm. OMG!! How and why does anybody EVER stop having sex? Until that point in my life, I would have always chosen oral if I could only have one but that was because I'm sure that when I was raped, I shut down and vowed to 'never feel that again' whew, glad I got over that one. So at the tender age of 46 +/- I really started experiencing intercourse for the first time. Giddy UP and Holy Multiples Batman!!
mebizze _ I had one of those! My ex was climb-on, climb off, snore. Lots of sex drive but oh so very BORING!
ctrydancer I love your stuff! I like doing things along those lines too.
poly_1der Vaginal rocks, doesn't it? As far as the anal? Oh child, make sure he knows what he's doing and go for it and then go for it again, then a couple of more times just to make sure you're getting the hang of it!
stpaulgirl Me too - the more I get, the more I want.
urbanlegend1 Not a myth, not a myth, Praise God, it's not a myth! lol
So, yeah, I think about sex most of the time, and as I get older, it just keeps getting better - what a bonus! When I'm in a relationship, a couple of times a week is enough IF it's for a couple of hours or more at a time. I go for quality over quantity. I told my last boyfriend "you take care of me in the bedroom, and I'll take care of you out there" as in quickies here and there, the backseat stuff the spontaneous pull over to the shoulder blow job, bending over in a parking lot. Fun fun fun. D*mn, I miss being in a relationship. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/16/2006 4:16:39 PM |
Our generation was brainwashed into thinking that "good girls" don't do that. The hell we don't, and some of us are really good at it.
DAMN GOOD BABE!!  | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/16/2006 5:54:57 PM | Broken lady you have a point there too. I dated a guy for a while and we got to the point of making love and he was tickled because I would never say no when he wanted it. This was great to him but it did not take but a week of his on and please him and back off. Then I would hear how great it was. Maybe for him it was but I was miserable. I realized I could not live my life like this and I deserved a good relationship for the rest of my life or I would just as soon be alone. Quickly I disappeared out of his life and he is still wanting to get back together but I truly will not live my life pleasing someone else if they can't take the time and effort to make sex enjoyable for both of us. This is one of the things I have set at the top of my list in finding a special person that he has to be very very passionate and definitely know how to make love to a woman. I won't jump in bed with someone when I first meet them or anything like that but when we do get to it I want it to be someone I will be able to enjoy making love with for a lifetime or I would rather be alone. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/16/2006 6:07:36 PM | | Sex will never be good as long as one or both is keeping score, or merely using the other for physical stimulation. The novelty wears off, isolation intensifies. It is when the contact is a kind of spiritual union that sex progressively improves. Instead of two naked people with eyes shut making use of each other, you should be able to lay perfectly still looking into each other's eyes and go someplace beyond time. Then the physical is the dance to love, the music. In this union is the reward promised by lust and hungered for by the human heart. The mechanical aspect of sex is the source of sensation, its enjoyment happens in the mind, and its meaning in the soul. With or without socks. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/17/2006 1:36:35 PM | Instead of two naked people with eyes shut making use of each other, you should be able to lay perfectly still looking into each other's eyes and go someplace beyond time.
Best place I've ever been. That is the real love making, and that connection blows the sex off the richter scale! | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/17/2006 1:36:48 PM | Quickly I disappeared out of his life and he is still wanting to get back together but I truly will not live my life pleasing someone else if they can't take the time and effort to make sex enjoyable for both of us.
Did you speak up? I take no offense at direction, suggestions, tips, pointers or requests. It's been said a million times but no-one is a mind reader!
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 5:37:28 AM | | As was mentioned earlier, I sometimes think I need to check my "package" to make sure I am a female...I want to catcall at the construction workers...I sit at my desk and squiggle in my chair sometimes....the overwhelming "need" is almost physical pain....Sex over 40 is the most awesome experience...I think that is why a lot of us gals hook up with younger men...cuz we peak at different times in our lives.......... | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 6:19:34 AM | I sit at my desk and squiggle in my chair sometimes....the overwhelming "need" is almost physical pain.
OMG, I thought I was the only one that did that :-) I have actually sat at my desk at work and fantasized myself to an orgasm. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 6:51:08 AM | | I'm a fair bit older than 40, and I can tell you from my own experience that I think about sex just about all the time and have done since my seperation/divorce almost 8 years ago. Before that, my ex and I had a great sexual relationship, but obviously that didn't keep the marriage together....lol. I think that the reason we miss it so much, is because besides it feeling great (hopefully...lol), it makes us feel desired, wanted, loved and close to whomever we are with. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 7:01:21 AM | | LOL im 47 with a 35 yr old , what does that tell you about us women over 40 LOL ??Young man says he hasn't had a woman with soooooo much and wants sooooooo much and says I tire him out , hahahahaha he had to take levitra to keep up with me LMAO...men just don't have a clue , do they lol | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 7:13:16 AM | "men just don't have a clue , do they lol"
Thank you so much for the trust and the consideration!.... 
Joking...have a nice weekend! | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 7:34:56 AM | That's one thing I have to give to those older men...some of them are so damn witty.
This was hilarious:
It was Miss Scarlet in the Library with the Candlestick. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 9:00:21 AM |
I want to catcall at the construction workers
Guys with hard hats....oh wow....talk about getting a boner.  | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 9:01:26 AM |
I have actually sat at my desk at work and fantasized myself to an orgasm.
Almost made it there once OCHUN. | |
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| Sex in the woman mind after 40.
Posted: 5/19/2006 9:17:00 AM | Ouch! Now where was that embalming fluid anyway?
Oh...I'm sorry I didn't mean it that way. You are a little older then me, so I consider you an older man. Now if I would have said those geezers are quite witty. Then I would say it's time to start building you a pyramid.
I actually sat at my desk and fantasized myself into the unemployment office..
Too cute :-) And I know you didn't have as much fun as I had :-) | |
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