| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 10/28/2007 5:44:11 AM | | I always have been interested and always will be. Takes two to make the bargain and if you promise something for life you should keep that promise. If you are upfront about that sometimes people think twice. Why accept less. A LTR is OK as that is all I have ever had but if you believe in marriage-you should honor the concept or stay away from it. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 10/28/2007 8:35:48 AM | The important thing is that all men and women change over time. You may be young and beautiful or athletic, or sexually voracious but ALL people change over time. My takeaway has always been that people usually have a very distinct core and become more and more of who they really are-every day. Change is about becoming. Two people can grow together-forever. Marriage makes that official-it is about honor and truth. It is important to know what is possible and to look for it. Along the way if you are lucky you will have long term friendships that recognize and respect who you really are. True beauty lasts forever.
In my heart I wish everyone luck in what they seek. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 10/28/2007 7:01:50 PM | as much as i have been burned in the past and as much as the law of marriage rape a male.... I desire to be married, but i am 10000x more cautious in approaching this bond, with a whole new experience focused on answering that one question????? will this last forever?
Christopher 39 , CNY | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 10/31/2007 4:57:32 PM | See, now, I'm honest to a fault.
I'm looking to date. And when I say date, I mean I want to 'date' until I find something that either a)makes me never want to date again, or b)makes me want to stick around for the long haul.
However, marriage is absolutely out of the question. I have no desire nor hope to marry again or to get to a point in life where I am desperate enough to marry.
Like most men, I'm an EXTREMELY sexual person. But I am also monogamous in my sexual escapades, I prefer to be with the same woman until one or both of us decide to go elsewhere.
And unless the sex is astronomical, I can't imagine sticking around very long. Lets face it, sexual attraction and compatibility are a huge thing - well, for me, certainly.
So yes, I'm looking to date, and my definition of date includes copious amounts of sex, but I won't just stop everything and sleep with just anyone. The law of attraction I tell ya, it's alive and well.
Wow, that was a bit of a rant, wasn't it? So sorry.  | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/4/2007 9:12:58 AM | 
Maybe you should be asking yourself what you are bringing to the table. The only thing that separates an over 35 single male from one that is younger is that he has more experience and can usually smell trouble a mile away faster than a young buck. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/6/2007 4:16:29 AM | The biggest problem is obviously finding that special someone. Noone is going to argue they wouldn't marry someone that suited them so well that it just made sense.
That being said the problem is related to politics and the media unfortunately.
Governments setting role models like getting blow jobs from secretaries, letting things like "sex in the city" on tv. What can you expect when you got a bunch of masons running the world.
That being said men are only going to marry a woman with those old "traditional family role values" for longterm marriage. PROBLEM, not many women have them anymore. Woman have so much independance now, they run around like they are gods gift to man, screw men around in family courts, and just want you till they aren't having fun anymore.
Older men can detect these women from a mile away and know to run the other direction when they have had their fun with them. Unfortunately not alot of men can accept a low standard on what they find attractive.
The ways the law works against men for children, the way the media dictates women should live independantly by just "moving on" when unhappy, its not a big surprise not alot don't get married is it.
While I beleive the woman independance thing is great there are alot of problems with it. The high rate of children growing up without fathers now is what is causing problems. These children now growup not knowing anything about what a real family is. Now they hit 20-30 years of age in your dating range, and what happens? They repeat exactly what happened to them when they were kids.
So for the guys , how do I find the good ones as rare as they are?
Actually its quite simple, look at what they do for a living, and most importantly, how the parents raised their daughter to get a good look at what your in for. You want to look for the ones that beleive in communication, love, and respect.
Ultimately you just want this person to be a good friend. Being a good friend with a longterm partner is much more important than having to be with that "hot" girl that you want to bang all the time. Think about it realistically, no matter what girl you date, 20 years from now they are going to look like crap anyways, wouldn't you rather be raising kids with someone your good friends with! Lower your standards on whats "hot" and look for the true beauty of a woman and you'll find it.
Not to say go date an overly fat women, of course not, you still have to be attracted to her! Besides a fit woman is a better choice anyways, she will run around with the kids more, and most importantly shows she takes care of herself and hopefully take care of you one day!
If your reaching your 40;s and you still having no luck, you can up your odds by going to places like columbia, china or different places like panama in the carribean. Most of the women there have the traditional family role models and are all very good looking to as an added bonus!
Only reason to ever "wed" is for the children, do the right thing and do it with the right woman, and you'll help make this society better and you will be much happier in the longrun. Do it with the wrong woman, hold your head up man, divorce can kill men, suck it up, stay strong, and start over, no bad woman is worth your time to think about, just takes your time away looking for the good ones.
Dan. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/6/2007 6:41:34 AM | I want to get married, have been that way since the year of 25. I haven’t dated much over the years. But what I will say is that I won’t marry someone without having sex with them first. We could be courting for 6month or a year but she won’t get asked by me for marriage if she can’t commit fully to me before the ring. I am old fashioned on a ton of things but that is just one thing I won't bend on. I need to know that she is a she for one. Another is that she can handle things in the bedroom, I not to marry a prude!
I feel that if you go into a marriage not know your a fool, that is just a gamble I am not willing to take and it shows me that the marriage will be a sexless one for most of its duration. I for one could not handle that, I have never cheated on someone nor do I wish to but sex needs to be there in the marriage for it to work just like good communication. If its not there, there will be problems.
On the whole dating thing, its dating. Some do casual sex, some don't and I am ok with that either way but at some point there needs to be a decision point. I personally do not get exclusive to one gurl with dating until we are at that point of having sex then I will stop seeing other people. Until then it is dating and I will see other people which is completely harmless up and to the point of sex then that is personal. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/6/2007 11:30:49 PM | | I am a never married no kids 36 year old who is definatly looking to be married in the future. The trouble with making that happen is I have not yet found the one woman who makes me want to do that with her. To get to the alter with me is going to take a pretty long time as I wont just jump into it a week into a relationship. I will work towards committing to the whole idea a bit at a time with marriage being a ways down the road. I plan to take full advantage of the fact that today you can commit in every other way first, ie get the house car kids etc before walking down the aisle. I just want to be really sure the first time I marry will be the only time. hope this helps. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/7/2007 7:26:23 AM | | Oh, another thing on the marriage part and dating. While I would love to get married, I become sketpical on women in her 30's that want kids. It send a flag up that all they want from you is one thing. I compare this to women who hate guys that only looking for sex. Are they really wanting you or what you can do for them? | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/7/2007 10:23:46 AM | Yes, I would get married again, and I might even have children if that is what we both desire. I'm not about to jump into a marriage and think that a couple should date for a while to discover each other; this may change the initial love at first sight (lust to some) into a passion of being with someone physically and emotionally.
I don't think that there is anything wrong with women in their 30's wanting children, or posting that they want children in the future. After my divorce, I was going to get a vasectomy and my doctor talked me out of it. Two of the reasons; (1) it's almost impossible to reverse (this was 4 years ago so I don't know if it has changed), and (2) a child can strengthen the bond between a couple and their families even if they already have children. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/9/2007 8:30:06 AM | I am very interested in meeting my Ms right..I am cusious though as rhe courts can really allow a woman to rip a man apart in court and take him to the cleaners if she chooses to do so. Another issue for me is loco parentis...being fprced by the courts to pay child support f step children. That can realy make you examine if you want a relationship. It is unfortunate there are gold diggers out there and sometimes you do not find out until it is too late if you have met a gold digger or not.
I am looking for a lady with family values and someone that will work hard to make a mariage work instead of someone that will just walk away. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/10/2007 6:30:36 AM | I totally agree with iltisowner, in that there are quite a few blokes who have never married & havent had the pleasure of kids either, I for one am one of those guys. At 37, life is starting to catch up with you & you tend to start thinking that you may miss out on the other pleasures of watching your kids grow up & having fun with them, eg, kicking the ball, chasing them & whatever else fathers do with their kids in growing years.
I consider my ready for that LTR, but havent found that someone who is mad & willing enough to take me on, on the same token, am willing to try a few things out in the process as I havent had many dates or been in many relationships either (very short ones).
So, there are some legitimite guys waiting for that someone in particular, & not to mention a lot of players! | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/10/2007 1:23:07 PM | I think people are more cautious in their 30s. I hate being 38 and single but I would rather be slow and end up happy with the right man than in devorse court 6 months later and miserable.
Yes I very much want to remarry. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/10/2007 4:35:13 PM | | absolutely... in fact, that's all I'm really looking for. The only reason I'm not married now is that I haven't found the right woman yet (seriously). I don't continue on in a relationship for more than a year if I don't feel it's headed for marriage. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/10/2007 9:08:45 PM | Actually, I'm one of the few men that's looking to get married, have a family, the whole nine yards... being up front about it though, does tend to scare a lot of women away... :(
I've yet to find a woman that's looking for the same... | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/13/2007 11:22:09 PM |
... I'm one of the few men that's looking to get married, have a family, the whole nine yards... being up front about it though, does tend to scare a lot of women away... I tend to think that is the case as well. Perhaps the big question is 'If this is what you want, what have you been doing all your life??' Well, lots actually. But some people do this thing later than sooner for some reason(s). My dad was 48 when I was born, so being older and starting a family seems normal to me. Of course, in my case being married to the wrong person didn't help speed things up either :) | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/15/2007 1:51:35 AM | I would have to ask the same of the women in here are thier any lookin for long term?
I am 40 and yes i think that most men my age are lookng for long term and are willing to get married but have been hurt very badly by women. i am sure that it goes both ways.
I would would love to find a woman that would want to get married but as of yet i have not even found someone to date from here | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 11/15/2007 3:04:43 AM | after looking around me in many places and in many mediums and assesing laws etc in respect marriage as well the pond of available women
i have decided to not get married | |
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