| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 6/8/2008 6:43:14 PM | | I'll be 35 this year. There was a time when it would have meant the world to me to find some girl and get married. That dream didn't die quickly or easily. But that dream is dead. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 6/9/2008 6:03:12 PM | im 36 and yes I think most are tring to find that person to spend there life with
but job kids split familys how do you even begin to make a start im all over the usa and canda and hear it over and over agin from both sides of the gender line no one wants to work at it and who wants to date a man that is a push over or a women that wants to be a man not that im geting in to that for im not but that is some thing that we have become cant be in the work fild and be a women but it is some what of a truth from what iv seen and that is a lot i watch and lisen cant help seen it to much in my friends lives hop this did not wast wour time | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 6/10/2008 2:58:00 AM |
...Marriage would be nice but I find it difficult to find anyone that is truly honest and wanting a serious, committed relationship. Either that or they simply have too many issues that get uncovered over a period of time. Issues such as being hung up on an ex, anger problems, mental illnesses (bipolar is common), drugs, alcohol, etc...
For cew011473 :
I am 34/F/DX2 and Bi Polar. Yes, reading this got my attention enough to post a reply.
By reading your post it seems "instability" issues are your biggest concern. Let me give you a little insight. Not all women who have mental illness are "unstable" all the time. I was diagnosed with Bi Polar 11 years ago. The first three years I was very unstable but then through medication/therapy I regained a "normal" life. I was able to go to college and work a full-time job not to mention caring for my parents as their health declined. I had SEVEN YEARS of stability before a medication used to treat a medical condition raised havoc with my Bi Polar. I've been struggling for the last year to regain my stability.
So, here's a question for you. If you had been in a serious relationship with me during the seven years of stability, would you have broken things off because I had become unstable?
As for the original question, granted I am a woman but I do not plan on getting married again. Been there and done that. I'd would like to find my life-partner...
Brat | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:11:24 AM | I just think that some WOMEN are too obsessed with this whole getting married /serious relationship issue. Not that I wouldn't like that too...with the right person but only if it was the right person, not with any old "Mr He'll Do For Now". I was reading a mag yesterday and came across an article about Jennifer Aniston and the guy she's seeing, John Major. It was saying how she desperately wants a serious relationship and may have to dump him cos he's not showing the right incliniations. And how long has she been seeing him: 5 WEEKS! 5 weeks and already people are commenting on whether it's going to lead to marriage and kids. Brad was gorgeous, but wouldn't she want someone loyal this time around? Forgive me if I'm wrong, but if you were entertaining the idea of a serious relationship, wouldn't you want to know you were truly compatible before sweeping down the aisle.
I guess a man's answer to the above would be the same:- if it was right person and it feels right. Age shouldn't be an issue ....it just leads to people settling down with the wrong person due to society's pressure to conform.
I was reading a post similar to this on another website, where a woman stated that if a man (or woman) had not been married and had kids by age 40, then it means something is wrong with them? How about having just not met the right person? | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 6/10/2008 7:45:49 AM | Leafchick.
I have to ask you an equally serious question. Do you seriously cinsider marriag some sort of magic soloution to all life's problems.
You don't talk to guys about "getting married" you talk about "marrrying somebody special" preferabbly somebody with a name. Somebody who is not just a fashion accessory at the wedding. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 6/10/2008 8:00:04 AM | | I have met a few women who are inlove with the idea of having a wedding day, not a marriage. Do you understand the difference? My cousin got married a few years ago and a few days before the wedding his wife said to me that if my Cousin did not show up she would pull me up to the front of the church and marry me. I was glad it never happened but yes some men are looking for serious relationships and some women are just looking for a wedding day. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 6/30/2008 9:47:43 AM | | hello there i agree with you on finding the right person for both partys involved. now for the clock thing you got that right to for there is alot of kids out there that need a good loving home. so i praise you for feeling that way. adopting child is not the same as having one but can be loved the same. i have to say i know what its like to rush into getting married i was one of them yes i have 2 boys with my ex and love them dearly. now that i have been though the rushing part feeling like i wouldnt ever me married i can say i diffrrently want to be sure we both are on the same page. thanks for your honesty for theres men and women out there that would know what it meand to be honest if it hit them in the face. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 6/30/2008 9:58:41 AM | | hello there i would like to say that i also have am bipolar and that to many people in this world look at people with it as meaning mean and hateful. well for what its worth i have also learned how to be a loving kind concitred person. who also knows how hard it is to be in a relationship when you have had a label put on you. so for the ones who dont know what it is or how to handle it take the time to see it for what it really is. for theres alot of people out there that have it that function quite well having it and taking there meds thanks lot. have a great day and remember everyone needs to be loved. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 6/30/2008 10:12:17 AM | | hello there thanks for being honest about things. i agree we need to take our time and not rush it for i know i did. then i found out we never even knew each other and was totally 2 diffrent people. yes it lasted for a total of 18 yrs i feel now that i was lucky it lasted that long. so has far as the bashing goes i think it happens from both sides of the fence. for in todays society things have been put in our mind how it suppose to be. one of the biggest ones is dont marry for love marry for money and yes it happens far more then it should. if we take the time to pay atttention to how it was written in the begining we would see moneys the last thing to base a relationship or marriage on. yes its nice to have money and yes we need it to survie but it cant always buy you love. but it can cause a lot of people to live in a relationship because of it and your cant take it with you when you leave this world. forget money get in a relationship for love. thanks | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 6/30/2008 3:46:39 PM | | YES I am 35 now and looking for a long term commited relationship that i would hope one day would lead to marraige. The endless search of that one woman to steal my heart. but alass i dought if she is out there. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:05:22 AM | I am seperated from my wife, and hope that someday I meet the right person for me, i thought I already did...but I was wrong...
but until then, I will enjoy whatever life throws in my direction. I believe its time to start looking forward instead of backwards | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/1/2008 10:46:05 AM | Hey there, I know how you feel. I am looking for a women to have a serious and life long relationship but my problem is that there are to many guys out there just looking for one thing. I am not one of those guys. My other problem is that my looks are not the greatest, but I am a very nice person, I am honest, I am trust worthy, I am reliable, I am faithful, I am funny, I am very good with kids, but that is not good enough.
I have heard women talking around me who are very pretty, almost a goddess to some guys talking about their ex boy friends, that they cheated on them, or beat them, or do not respect or treat them the way they want to be treated. Any beats that that the guy she was refering to is really good looking? | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:49:05 PM | | I find this thread kinda funny since I have known a fair number folks that have been divorced that have said no more....I am sure few in their 30s were looking to get married or else they already would be, but rather waiting for the right person to marry... | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/5/2008 10:00:52 PM | Am I looking seriously? Yes, or I wouldn't be here today. I don't care to hang out in bars, I don't work around any women, and I can't find anywhere that women with the qualities I seek mingle.
Can the same question be asked of the ladies? | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:33:58 AM | Well, Leafchick, let me say it this way: when I meet someone who can truly be my best friend as well as lover and confidant, someone who has my back, loyal, faithful, someone who is with me through thick and thin, who loves me for who I am, not what I have/haven't got, (all of which I can offer in return)................then I would look seriously at getting married. As it is, however, all I've come across is game players, women looking for the bigger and better deal, windowshoppers, users, perfection seekers, and others like that. Oh, I am sure there are some women who are serious about finding their man, but I suspect those types rarely stay on the market long if they are realistic/reasonable in their expectations and truly look at the guy and how she and he can complement each other instead of just what's in it for me-me-me.
I'll be serious about marriage when someone like the best friend type comes along.
Oh, and by the way, I don't sleep around either. Just to make that clear before I get called a bedhopper. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:44:00 AM | From what I've seen marriage is overrated & leads to nothing but trouble.
I don't understand why don't people just live together & be happy. Marriage causes nothing but problems. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:46:30 AM | | Sure, I would love to get married again. To have the sense of commitment. The Family, having that one, the Soul mate finish your sentences, your thoughts. Yeah, it would be nice to be married again. And in doing this it would be my last time for all the right reasons. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/6/2008 2:27:45 PM | Simply put for myself, yes.
I am NOT here for any other reason. Men like me do exist. We are just tired of getting slapped around in games and tests by women that are never seriously looking for the same thing.
I also wonder if there are any women here taht are looking for a long term (i.e. marriage) relationship when see so many that have issues and gross paraniona in thoer profiles. Tell me if this is not true. Ladies read you profiles! Half of them are extrememly undecided and the other half are so set in their demands they could work for the IRS or Rev Canada. Take care and remember hope is the killer of the soul, visit a pyscho ward and see all the those that lost.
Stephen | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/6/2008 2:50:04 PM | okay . . being 35 and recently divorced. Im not sure getting married is the right thing. But I also believe in the happy ever after and damn skippy if it comes along Im hopping on the tran. lol  | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:02:55 AM |
From what I've seen marriage is overrated & leads to nothing but trouble.
I don't understand why don't people just live together & be happy. Marriage causes nothing but problems.
QFT
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/7/2008 8:42:38 AM |
From what I've seen marriage is overrated & leads to nothing but trouble.
I don't understand why don't people just live together & be happy. Marriage causes nothing but problems.
I totally agree....sans the living together part. What's the point of marriage anymore? I don't know, and I sure as hell can't answer the 10 divorced friends I have when they ask. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/7/2008 2:05:49 PM | | im over 35 and im looking for the long term to turn in to marriage im not looking for someone to sleep with like you said here-------I'm asking because it seems all of the men (in my past online dating experiences) that say they are looking for "long term" relationships really means "try and sleep with you until someone else better comes along". LOL we are out here choose wisely | |
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