| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 1/22/2009 9:30:44 PM | | I just recently got divorced and eventually probably want to get married again. Having said that, I am not looking to jump back into anything immediately. I think it's best to have a longer courtship. I think the institution of marriage can work but in my case, I didn't know my wife well enough before I married her. My guess is this is a common mistake. Nevertheless, there is no formula to marriage, and everyone has a unique story. I am convinced, however, with the right person marriage can be a wonderful experience. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 1/24/2009 1:41:45 PM | | I've been divorced for for 9 months now. At first I admitt I enjoyed my freedom. However there are alot of great things about being married that I miss. I miss rushing home every night. I miss fun weekends, short trips, just being together. It may not sound like I've been divorced very long but, I know what I like and want. I really don't want to be a regular on the dating circut. Hopefully the good lord will help me meet the next best thing! | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 1/25/2009 9:50:54 AM | If a man, or woman for that matter, has had a long, committed relationship go bad (as many of us have by now), I completely understand the "fear of commitment". I get it, because I've got it. If you spend 9+ years building something as a labor of love, and one day it's in shambles, yeah, I can definitely understand. On the one hand, you have a history of building a life with someone once (so yes, WANT long term), but on the other--wow, something went seriously wrong (in walks fear of screwing up again and being back in this boat 5-10 years from now).
For me, the older I get, the more important it is for me to get it right this time. Life's short and getting shorter. I do not want to go through the emotional/financial trauma of another long-term relationship failure. I suspect some men feel the same way. Also, while I would love nothing more than to begin building a life with someone I love, I know there are things I'm still working through. Sometimes dating other people helps me understand my role in the demise of something I wanted dearly, and I try to keep from making that mistake again--for both of us. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 1/25/2009 12:50:21 PM | | I was with my ex. for 22 years. I'm 42 now and I have a daughter that is 20. I loved being married,but we just kind of fell out of love. It was not one person's falt. It a great feeling in my mind to have someone to come home to and share your life with. Yes, I know for a fact there is men out there that still want to be married after 35. There still is so much to do and see in ones life that to do it alone is would be a sad and boring thing. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/8/2009 3:12:53 AM | | Yeah, I would definitely get married again, if I found the right one. Since I'm looking for a friend first before taking it to the next level, that's probably a little ways off, even if I met her tomorrow. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/8/2009 9:24:45 AM | | I am 37 and seriously want to get married. The only problem I have is finding someone to marry. It is hard to get married when you cant even get a date. Women say they want honesty and an all around good guy but they dont bother getting to know someone to find out. Im not saying all women do this but most women at any age still look to see what kind of ass a guy has and to see if he has a fat wallet. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/10/2009 4:46:28 AM | | Yeah getting pretty bad out there what people looking for ....vanity out of control in physical department ....is very trendy to "examine" someone physically as if they were cattle being sold or something......it's not a bad thing to stay in physical shape though...ultimately is good for ya in long run....everytime you turn your internet on there's all these headlines "how to look younger" " how to lose weight"....until society is programmed to be "perfect"....and brainwashed into thinking if your not physcially perfect your just not "in".....well...im gettin sidetracked here on the discussion......I do think there are men that will settle down if they don't get "programmed" the wrong way by society i guess to quit looking for perfection.........it may be conhabitation arrangements versus wedding ring....who knows maybe some statistician needs to go around and take a poll and ask the 35 and up men this question....i'll go look up stats on that one....lol.... | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/10/2009 12:33:10 PM | hi chirpylass yeah think theirs plenty would like to get married for the right reasons ,,, i'm 46 & the partner i have just split from was the 1st person i wanted to marry & it was for the correct reasons , well on my part , so have faith in us auld yins , we stiil dont like being adults all the time  | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/10/2009 9:10:41 PM | | Why not? but let me ask ask you a question, If you gave him all what he needs from you why he think of marriage? I think it goes like this, if a lady is involved in a long relation with a man and not married yet, she has one of three options: to wait until he ask for getting married or wait for nothing or ask and possibly he goes, lol, sorry about that but I think there is no other option | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/11/2009 5:13:52 AM | When you make bitter comments like that, I have to wonder how you're setting up these experiences with men? How are you contributing to your own disheartening experiences and attitude. If you believe that something is negative, you'll make it happen. Perhaps you're pushing and needy and that drives men off? I don't know, but it's time to examine your own role in your disappointing situations.
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/12/2009 1:50:43 AM | | i know how you feel on that! and it seems no matter what age range it is, thats what they want. i would so like to find a guy 35-45 to just settle down with and have a relationship with, i dont get why its so hard to find. yikes! | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/13/2009 4:44:40 PM | I do see what you mean. Just from my own experience and knowing other singles there does not seem to be as many men getting into serious relationships or even wanting children. It also seems that if a woman has a child they do not seem intrested. These are just things I have observed within my area and I am not saying all men are like this.
I sure do hope there are still some people out there that seek a good old fashion romance that lasts a life time. I look at people in my family that have been married 40+ years and yes there are good times and down times but they help each other make it through. I think we need to get back to some of the basics in life and also learn to treat each other how we would like to be treated. When I married my ex husband I thought it was for life until he dropped the bomb that he thought he was a woman trapped in a man's body. We live and learn right :) Good luck to all! | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/17/2009 9:12:07 PM | | There are definitely men over 35 (and over 50) who are seriously looking to get married. Some men (and women) do not do well being single; they need to be married. Those are the ones desperately looking for their next mate. Personally, I would love to find someone with whom to spend the rest of my life but am willing to wait for that special one. I enjoy my own company so I don't feel the need to rush into just any relationship. | |
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