| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/18/2009 4:28:55 PM | Why does a long term relationship have to mean " try and sleep with you until someone better comes along?" Confused, I guess.
I'm not sure if I'll ever get married again, or even live with someone, but I would like to have a special someone in my life to have sex with, spend time with and holiday with, etc. I think as you get older and once you've already had the entire marriage thing, everyone realizes that you lose a certain amount of freedom when you are married...Not sure I'm ever going to be ready for that again. Long term sounds fine...Marriage..Nah... | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/19/2009 5:14:55 AM | YES!!!!!!!!!!
I am 54 and definately looking for marriage! I'm tired of the women playing games.
Read my profile if you women, from 34 to 45, are serious wanting marriage. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/19/2009 6:08:13 AM | Being that I have never been married and am nearing sixty any women that I meet would not believe that I ever wanted a long term commitment marriage or otherwise.
For me it is so trying hearing that you can't love someone without being married to them, and without the piece of paper you can just up and leave; just look at the rate of divorce. | |
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bigb34
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Joined: 1/16/2009
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/19/2009 4:34:39 PM | | Well i would like t obe married someday if there are any women who arent playing games thats a big reason it is hard now days because all people want to do is play silly high school games you either are real or your not but i wait patiently lol. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 2/20/2009 8:31:26 AM | | I was in a sittuation where I was ready to commit but she was not. So its not all on the men there are alot of women out there over 35 that have been alone so long they dont even want to commit. They feel life is better single. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 3/9/2009 1:13:51 PM | Many of the men I know are looking to get married and have a family. I would pose the same question for women. Have women become so focused on work that they have forgotten about marriage and having children?
I would love to find just one beautiful woman who wasn't afraid to say that she truly looks forward to having a family. I double dog dare you to email me if you fit the criteria. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 3/9/2009 2:02:52 PM | Hello,
I've been looking for the right one all my life. and I would love to find that specail someone to grow old with. But it seems all women want is the bad boys . not the responsable ones , who can take and treat them right | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 3/12/2009 8:27:22 PM | Been there... done that... not sure I want to do it again..
At least that's how I feel now, in the middle of a divorce.
The idea of cohabitating is weird. Even weirder is the mingling of assets... it just gets messy. | |
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DazzyB
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Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 616 | |
| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 3/13/2009 4:56:46 AM | | I've been hurt a lot in the past by my ex. At first (just after the divorce) I wasn't interested in women what-so-ever, let alone LTRs. Now that I have had time to heal and get over it I wouldn't hesitate to state that should I meet the right woman whom clicks with me, I would deffinately consider a LTR and even marraige. Just my own penny's worth... | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 3/13/2009 5:56:26 AM |
MEN .... I'm just curious! Are any of you on here SERIOUSLY looking for a long term relationship with hopes of it leading to marriage?
I'm asking because it seems all of the men (in my past online dating experiences) that say they are looking for "long term" relationships really means "try and sleep with you until someone else better comes along". LOL
You have to bear in mind that most men aren't as "all or nothing" as women are when it comes to relations. Most women won't sleep with a guy unless it's a RL or hopefully leading to one. Many men though will sleep with a woman even if they have zero intentions of taking it any further.
Confusion sets in when a woman thinks sleeping with a man is sealing the deal on a RL, or that they can't fathom that a man does want a LTR, but he doesn't want it with you...but he does want to have sex with you.
As for the "over 35" thing, that gets tougher. Many men get battered in a divorce and thus now look down on marriage. Some choose to keep the limit at cohabitation while others decide to only look for sex and nothing more. Then you have other men who maybe spent their lives being rejected and seen as "not good enough" and thus got comfortable in their singledom, so when the women "came around" they now can't trust these women, feeling like they are just last resorts or backup plans.
In the modern climate, asking a guy to be a husband and especially a father is a big step...and many men now question "what's in it for me?" They are not sure if marriage and parenthood really gives them any benefit in life compared to what it gives to women. We don't get that maternal instinct, and with divorces and dating being such a mess now, we wonder if we can trust women enough to commit like that. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 3/13/2009 8:53:51 AM | | What does marriage have to do with a long term relationship? Most men who are looking for a long term relationship are like that cus they already tried the marriage thing and have been burned by the flames of love. Someone looking for a long term relationship are very nervous about saying I do (once bitten twice shy theory applies here). | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 3/13/2009 5:39:44 PM |
"Need the one" wrote: I've been looking for the right one all my life. and I would love to find that specail someone to grow old with. But it seems all women want is the bad boys . not the responsable ones , who can take and treat them right
"Need the one", I am in the same boat as you. What you wrote was true and false: Most women do only want the "bad boys" (to impregnate them), but you are wrong about them not wanting responsible guys who can treat them right: After they have the kids with the bad boys and given the best (physical) years of their lives to that type of guy, they are more than willing to date someone like you or me. | |
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tigfai
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Joined: 12/11/2008
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 3/13/2009 6:47:29 PM | Yep well this is an interesting question...or maybe the million dolloar question...yes i am over 35 and have had back luck in finding my true soulmate, the closest ive been is engaged for 8 years but found that he wasn't satisfied with one gal and needed some on the side..why is that??? why aren't people happy to be with only one person in a realtionship?? I don't have kids and am still hoping that one day it mite happen, if not then hopefully they will bring out a store where you can go buy one off the shelf...lol..only kidding. It seems that us gals run out of time to have children as our biological clocks start to slow down heading towards the big 40, whereas the little swimmers in the males keep swimming up stream past 40 so they can take more time to find someone to settle down with. Ive had a couple of serious relationships only to end in them sleeping with another whilst being with me...Ive come to realise that maybe the universe has a bigger plan for me than being with the man of my dreams so I'll just close my eyes and keep dreaming of him I think..lol..
I do wish those above the age of 35 all the best of luck and best wishes in finding their soulmate or life partner and would love to hear some success stories rather than hearing about bad things all the time.. we all have to keep our heads high and make sure we have at least one good belly laugh each day as there are a hell of a lot worse off people in this world with a bigger problems than myself. Take care everybody. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 3/14/2009 6:12:14 AM | oh I forgot some forgive me Josh Holloway (LOST)-39, Karl Urban (Riddick), 38, and of course me , 39 just of the top of my head, Plus Keanu Reeves, 44, Johnny Depp, 43, George Clooney, Collin Farril 35 Gabriel Aubry, 44-Leonardo DiCaprio 39,
Viggo Mortensen, 47, Matthew McConaughey, 40
Now most of these guys are looking to get married but most get divorced and then remarried. Gen X, which is us duded in the 40-s/late 30's look like greek gods and hey women , nothing to worry about. Hope I could help | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 3/23/2009 8:16:58 PM |
tigfai said...i am over 35 and have had back luck in finding my true soulmate, the closest ive been is engaged for 8 years but found that he wasn't satisfied with one gal and needed some on the side..why is that??? why aren't people happy to be with only one person in a realtionship??
well, i can only speak for me...an engagement of longer than 18 months is not realistic...if you don't know by then, you'll never know...
i'm single now and dating more than one woman is what it's all about...i'm very open about it, and when things get serious with one, i'll slow it down with other women around me...
i appreciate honesty, and i'll bail at the first sign of deception...i'm finding that so many women cherish real openness and relationships thrive on the truth... | |
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