| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 3/23/2009 11:06:59 PM | I would say yes as well but need to meet the woman that i would want to marry first. Too many people jump into getting married and then wish they never did.
But i guess most people would like to get married if they meet the right person | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 3/24/2009 12:24:40 PM |
I'm just curious! Are any of you on here SERIOUSLY looking for a long term relationship with hopes of it leading to marriage?
If that dime comes my way at the right time, for sure. But, then again I've never been married, and expect that at 40ish, the meaning of the word isn't the same as when you're in your early 20's.
Really would want a companion who has similar goals and compatibillities, loves to make love, stable, sane, attractive, and want's to hang out together. Simple and easy right? Not.
When you're in your 20's you marry your high school or college mate, or some other jerk you met someplace, because you thought you were in love. Not quite the same thing.
And as far as the sex thing goes, well you can't marry everyone you meet, so enjoying a little sex along the way doesn't hurt. Go with the flow, feel the motion. Don't be such a prude, live your life and enjoy a good bedtime thrashing every now and then. Geeeeezzzzz.......
I think men knows in their little mind who they want to marry and looking for the closetest one in mind.
Does this mean:
"You thinks' (wo)mens' know's is, in their smaller than man's is little minds' is who they want to marrys' is, and looking for the closetests' is, one in minds' is."
Can someone please decipher this for me?
If I'm not mistaken, generally speaking women have smaller organs than men.
See, I always knew size really does matter.
Sorry, ya'll I had to take a poke at that one. It was just to easy to let up, for a small minded guy like me. Hahahahahaha......
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/9/2009 1:42:59 PM | I think that it's culture, specifically American culture, which is changing the traditional views on marriage. You can clearly see that years ago marriage was the "next step/last step" in a relationship; you ended up with that particular mate until the end of your days. Now that our culture has shifted to urges for self-satisfaction and immediate gratification of needs, it is not as important to have that "next step/last step".
I've seen non-traditional relationships on the rise in the 30+ community, and it really makes sense to me, especially with the Information Age and our ability to communicate with hundreds, thousands or even tens of thousands of people in a short span of time. Now that the pond has gotten so much bigger, it makes sense that people wouldn't want to latch themselves down so firmly unless the mate was exactly right.
Traditional marriages are fading out, there's no doubt about that at all. Unless we have a culture reboot, which is terribly unlikely, they're going to continue to erode our current idea of family and create one more dedicated to community, blurring the lines. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/9/2009 2:20:29 PM |
This is by no means a proposal or a desperate search for a husband. LOL
MEN .... I'm just curious! Are any of you on here SERIOUSLY looking for a long term relationship with hopes of it leading to marriage?
I'm asking because it seems all of the men (in my past online dating experiences) that say they are looking for "long term" relationships really means "try and sleep with you until someone else better comes along". LOL
What you might consider learning from this is that putting "long-term" on a site that is called PlentyOfFish rather than JustOneFish is a warning sign.
Seriously. The expectation of getting a long-term relationship on the basis of a half page of text and a blurry photograph is, quite frankly, absurd. It's like putting "NO LIARS!" on a profile in cheerful defiance of the fact obvious to anyone with two neurons to rub together that it is going to attract more liars.
The only value of a profile on this or any other site, unless it's some kind of mail-order bride thingie, is to get to an in-person meeting. That's it. After meeting and getting to know each other is when you decide what kind of relationship, if any, is appropriate. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/9/2009 5:01:12 PM | | Op men at or over 35 would like to be married, just not to a usless gold digger who can't cook or clean and looks at you funny when you ask her what she thinks about how space and time are curved. You don't have to be a super model with cooking skills like Rachael Ray and make your bed like a marine drill sargeant,or have the intellect of Stephen hawkins but my god honestly a woman can't just say to herself " well i give him sex and that should be more than enough" sex is not everything in getting to the alter. Respect,Love,Trust, Support,Understanding,Loyalty,Thoughtfulness,Consideration, are some but not all the things needed to make it to the alter happily. How many women let alone men actually have these skills, and qualities?; and you wonder why they are alone???????? Sad but true | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/9/2009 10:10:05 PM | :shrug:
I can not speak for others, but I am just as serious about finding a wife as I was a decade ago. The only difference is that I am not as willing to compromise, and I have accepted the possibility that I will not ever marry.
* I am 35 now, and I was 25 then.
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/9/2009 10:30:39 PM | The problem is - in America, people(both men and women) believe in having fun as much as possible which is basically sleeping with as many partners as possible. When people reach 35, they suddenly panic " why no body is dating me, nobody wants to marry me .. blah blah.."
When you were marriageable, you didn't want to marry. Now when you realize, it's too late. This very idea of fun seperated from committment is the reason of this mess. It's too much of liberal thinking, same like market driven US economy- no control. Use and consume as much as you can, have sex with as many partners you can. No moral values, no social values.
I have no sympathy for people who spent their 20s sleeping around and repenting in their 30s or 40s. As you sow , so you reap. Why didn't you try to be in committed(marriage) relationship when you were in 20s and grow together?
One of the reason is too many choice for women, and too much independence for women today, which is not bad but they are misusing it. Instead of controlling men by demanding a committed relationship, they are freely distributing sex, only to realize later that their is nothing left in them. Then they start whinning" men are only looking for sex"; who are giving them sex? The irony is people(men and women) dont even accept that there was anything wrong in sleeping with 30,40,50 partners.
I will only say to such people that " you already used up the quota of fun in your life, now accept that you will lead a single life" God bless america! | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/10/2009 5:59:03 AM |
This doesn't describe me in my 20's because I couldn't find any sex.
There are many who were busy making their career in their 20's and are confident enough to get a nice partner in their 30s. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/10/2009 8:42:56 PM | there's no benefit for a man to get married
2 out of 3 marriages fail in my part of the country
and anything i can do by being married, i can do without being married
why sign up for something with a low success rating and then have to give her half my stuff when it doesn't work out? | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/11/2009 8:31:23 PM | Long-term relationship does not necessarily equal marriage.
Yes, I'd like a life partner.
I am rather NEGATIVE on what we call in the United States "marriage"; it does not in fact bear any resemblance to what I believe that particular thing should be. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/12/2009 4:00:17 PM | | Yes some day I will. I just wan to find a woman Ican trust again and fall in love with. Is it possible for a woman who is attractive to fall in love with a guy over 35? Why all the games. I just want to move on with my life and meet some wonderful women and hopefully fall in love again. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/13/2009 8:25:05 PM | | It's true though a lot of people did spend their twenties just sleeping around, then they wake up one morning at 31 and decide they want to get married. I don't really feel sorry for those people if they can't find someone. This is why the women that were the bad boy seekers for many years leave a bad taste in the mouth of a lot of guys. They basically wanted to have their fun but in the process they overlooked two hundred guys in 12 years that asked them out and were relationship material. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:19:49 AM | I'm blindly posting as I have not read through the thread. However, I have to say that I am looking for not simply marriage, but a soul mate, that wishes to marry me.
Oh...and I'm 37 cycles around sol. :)
Taltos | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/14/2009 1:35:15 AM | When that happnes, I hope my philosophy doesn't change, equally the person isn't after the nest-before-the- relationship attitude !!
For women, it's when the are 29-33 & single that life's attitude changes, just as much as the metabolic rate for both sexes
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/14/2009 10:08:45 AM | Isn't that like something streotype?
All men are not same as the way you are thinking...I believe you will find some people trustworthy and responsible while some are not.....lol | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/14/2009 6:44:30 PM | I’m not 35 yet, but I’ll make a post on this topic.
Despite the odds, I’m also hoping to be married someday. I’ve had one very long-term relationship that went downhill and eventually ended after I asked her for her hand in marriage.
I’ll keep trying and hopefully I’ll find that special person again someday. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:04:53 PM |
I would love to be in a long term reationship marriage itself is not a necessity
I feel the same......it's not an imperative, but I would get married again in a heartbeat if we both decided it's what we wanted to do. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/17/2009 7:40:29 AM | When I meet a woman who can be calm and sedate and also immensely enjoys sex, and likes me in my lilly white birthday suit, a man whom she prizes above all other men, when she can be sweet too and love to be tenderly, quietly vulnerable, cuddling, caressing, just enjoying the splendor of each other....
After we've had sex and played house for 2 years (which will involve attitudes toward finances and how we both feel about having children; I have mixed emotions), if we agree on every level, yes, I'll definitely propose marriage, and see if she says "yes". I have to look into the future and try to see if I feel that future is going to be wedded bliss or wedded torment. | |
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