| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/18/2009 12:52:40 AM | Maybe the sex wasn't any good. Women want financial security from men, men want to be taken care of ,have there needs met also. Sex is a very important to any relationship, if it's no good dating, marriage doesn't make it any better. We are old enough to know what we like and don't like, if a woman is going to meet our needs long-term, not waste time with a "dud"...Sorry to be so blunt about it | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/18/2009 11:16:20 AM | | I think any guy at any age who is looking to get married will probably try to marry the 25 year old girl who also desperately wants to get married. I think its that most women want to get married while guys are more likely to wait or maybe never get married. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/19/2009 2:28:58 AM | | spooky question! ive recently met a truly amazing woman! LUV YOU SUGARPUFF! i only found this site after id spent time in hospital where i died and wasnt expected to make it through the night, my profile has always said 'friends' point bein this girl has awoken feelings which i never knew i had, so what they say about your first love is crap!lol im 38 now and ive never felt this way before, id marry that girl this afternoon! i still cant get my head around all this, not sure how it all came about but im glad it did!lol | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/26/2009 4:25:24 PM | Two of my best friends just got engaged and he is 39...they will be married in December and have been together for two years. She is 34 and she thought he would NEVER ask her (they have been together for two years) , but he did.
I'm going to be a bridesmaid too!!!!!! | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 7/27/2009 12:41:27 AM | Hi, In my experience most woman in there 30's and 40's are actually committment phobic and parcel it up in a neat little package called " I've been there and done it and now i know what i want and will not settle for less" equating to i will put so many conditions down that no man will ever stick around. Men on the other hand have had so many mixed messages over the last 10-15 years telling them about equality and being a new man that most of us have no clue what we are meant to be in a relationship anymore. Think about it woman say things like "i want to be treated like a lady" equates to men being romantic, holding open doors, buying them flowers, providing money and stability, regular love making, etc etc etc That is absolutely fine for most men if they act like a lady, dress like a lady but unfortunately in todays age a lot do not. Their language is awful, they dress like a man, earn there own money. I'm afraid neither the man or woman can have it both ways and the old fashioned roles have been so confused that no one knows where they are......
My own opinion of long term is for ever and i am actually at 42 in a difficult situation as i would like nothing more than to settle down and have a family, for the first time but it appears that no one is prepared to compromise any more in what they want. I personally dont mind what the roles are as long as they are not clouded. of course i have the added problem of finding someone without children already and also young enough (without them still being nightclub fanatics) to give time to develop the relationship and then start a family.
I guess thats why they call me mindmeeting | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 8/1/2009 8:42:53 AM | | I have found that it is rare for anyone I have spoken to over 35 to be open to the settling down and have more kids thing and many put on their profile defo not. I think some have been put off by not getting much access to their children. I do know a friend locally who always said that experience made him very afraid of having more. Dont get me wrong, the kids thing isnt a deal breaker for me, nor is getting married again but I wouldnt want to write my chance off right now of that. Many men I have come across have done the settling down and have kids thing and just want a bit of non serious female company now. A couple I have come across would love the marriage and kids thing and blatently say that. I , however, am very much a dont jump in see how it goes person. Either way, I do believe that every one is different and the search for someone who is may have its ups and downs but there is what you are looking for out there if you look hard enough and are willing to take the many knock backs on the way. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:42:54 AM | I like that.. The last; not the next.
Ditto for me.
As for being 35 or over and not looking for a long term relationship? Just keep looking, it takes all types and our type are out there, just refine your bulls**t meter!!! | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 8/9/2009 5:43:51 PM |
Hi, In my experience most woman in there 30's and 40's are actually committment phobic and parcel it up in a neat little package called " I've been there and done it and now i know what i want and will not settle for less" equating to i will put so many conditions down that no man will ever stick around. Men on the other hand have had so many mixed messages over the last 10-15 years telling them about equality and being a new man that most of us have no clue what we are meant to be in a relationship anymore. Think about it woman say things like "i want to be treated like a lady" equates to men being romantic, holding open doors, buying them flowers, providing money and stability, regular love making, etc etc etc That is absolutely fine for most men if they act like a lady, dress like a lady but unfortunately in todays age a lot do not. Their language is awful, they dress like a man, earn there own money. I'm afraid neither the man or woman can have it both ways and the old fashioned roles have been so confused that no one knows where they are......
I have noticed a lot of the I want my cake and eat it too attitude as I get older. It seems many women want to be independent but at the same time they want the traditional alpha male that will take care of them, but only when it suits them or is convenient for them.
The dealbreaker lists women are coming up with nowadays are impossible to pass, then they wonder why they can't find a good man. If you go around looking for a man with a huge list of things you want, it just doesn't work that way. I saw one dating advice person who was a woman say women do that because they are scared of getting hurt deep down inside, and they're subconciously trying to drive men away. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:00:03 PM |
I have noticed a lot of the I want my cake and eat it too attitude as I get older. It seems many women want to be independent but at the same time they want the traditional alpha male that will take care of them, but only when it suits them or is convenient for them.
I honestly don't want the alpha male type... I rather go for someone is simple, kind and a decent personality to go out with. I don't ask for much and I am not a high-maintenaince kind of girl. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:02:24 PM | just as a point of reference that might hold some water for some people.
Bill Gates didnt get married or have kids until he was 40.
given events in the news last week (guy killing people in gym) from what I can tell all "never been married" men best cancel their gym membership and never talk to a woman at the gym.
The media is such a twisted hump of twats | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 8/9/2009 6:18:57 PM |
given events in the news last week (guy killing people in gym) from what I can tell all "never been married" men best cancel their gym membership and never talk to a woman at the gym.
Yeah for real, us 30+ guys that have never been married are so screwed after that recent event at the gym. Some women are already leary of a guy that's over 30 and never married, now we can't even go to the gym to hit on women lol. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 8/9/2009 7:02:26 PM | i am thirty-seven and am looking to get married, but i have learned my lessons and have been more attentive to who i am willing to take that step with again. when i married the first time, it was more because it seemed like the next step on the "path" for me to take. when i divorced, i was thrown from the "path" and set adrift. now, the challenge for that special someone is to inspire me to get back on the "path". i have had two serious relationships since my divorce and both ended well before marriage was even proposed. truthfully, i am not as swayed by my emotions as i was once, i would like some tentative guarantees of compatibility, understanding, and respect that will not just be there in the first year, but will carry through forever.
why do i think men 35 and older seem to be hesitant to remarry? simple answer: they have stopped dreaming and started waiting. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 8/11/2009 12:47:35 PM | | that is a good question...i find men want to date...commitment is very scary...also many have come out of relationships and been burned...also many of them have been married...i have enjoyed the company of men...but they do not want a serious commitment...i want a lifelong partner...not friend with benefits...and they say women outlive men...do men not want a women to pamper them...and the men will take care of the women...come on when we are getting older ...we will need some help...medically and companionship..it is absurd...hopefully i will be lucky and meet a companion. | |
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