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| | Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?Page 38 of 43 (3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43) | | I am a 35 yr old man, getting out of my second marriage. I have 3 kids, all boys, and all good kids. I think I could get married agian, but it would have to be a hell of a woman, that could deal with my boys, and let me be cool enough to deal with hers. Cant rightly say though till I meet that person. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2012 7:32:06 PM | | damn skippy i'm dead serious about marrying again someday. but only with someone who is serious about starting a family with me . i dont believe in having sex with someone right away because it kills the potential for more dates in the future. when i date someone several times BEFORE sex, they know i'm serious about wanting to go out with them and not just wanting to get them in bed. i've actually been dumped for not having sex with someone. so yeah i'm dead serious about marrying again someday. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2012 11:03:37 PM | Hi Leafchick,
I suppose that in the last several years you may have gotten the answer to your question.
I cannot answer for other men, but in my case, yes, I am seriously looking to get married.
My dating approach is to go out on 1-3 dates with someone. If there is no mutual desire to continue to see each other for the purpose of getting to know each other better, there is no reason to waste each other's time. But even once when the relationship begins to develop, I get a sense if we are both mutually engaging each other towards marriage. More than a few times, I came to find out that the ladies did not in fact want to get married and start a family. They were OK to just be lovers or live together. I think the question can be equally asked from both sides.
What do you think?
Yossi | |
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Posted: 3/30/2012 2:38:02 PM | Im 37 and after living a few years alone and trying to have a couple of good relationships with people that I thought were right for me. I finally decided to slow down and have a serious long term relationship with someone that will lead into getting married. I base this off the fact that I sat down one day and thought things through and it really disheartened me to know that there are people my age that are married and have children that are living a really happy (or somewhat happy) life.
Im not getting any younger and I feel that in this stage of my life, that I am really ready to settle down and start a family and feel what most fathers feel when they have their own child. | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 4/7/2012 4:42:11 PM | I look forward to being single at 60. Got plenty of nephews and nieces to spoil plus I can hand them back to mom when they get pissy.
At this age I think we have to screw ourselves up to the idea that we are going to die cold and alone, probably in pain from some geriatric disease. Try to look forward to it. | |
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Posted: 4/8/2012 8:32:20 PM | I couldn't have said it any better. I'm not male bashing or anything but please men, be honest. don't say you want a long term relationship when you really don't.
I would love to find a serious relationship but I'm not sure if that is possible on here? | |
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| Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?
Posted: 4/9/2012 9:58:49 AM | Maybe I shouldn't even answer, since I just hit the 30 mark and am a few years off from 35 (which is a milestone as well? Must have missed that memo).
I'm looking for a long-term relationship, but not marriage. I don't believe that one needs a piece of paper from the government or a church to love and be committed to someone, and I notice its usually women who say otherwise, and quickly badge non-marriage-minded men as "commitment-phobic" - so because I don't wish to sign a document that gives the government yet more control over my life, I'm not worthy of a relationship? Wow. Priceless. And closed minded.
I don't want children - my own or some other guy's - so maybe that has something to do with it.
Its possible, I guess, that my attitudes and outlook on life will RADICALLY change over the next few years...but I doubt it.
In my opinion, marriage is only good for the woman. She gets that blissful wedding ceremony that she's dreamed about since she was a little girl, and that "stability" and such that she has been craving as an adult...and both husband and wife get a few good years together (lets just assume that no kids are involved)...until there's the inevitable divorce...in which she gets her husband's money, cars, probably the house, real estate...maybe her ex will even have to shell out alimony payments (which basically means he's funding her next relationship). Yep...pretty sweet deal for a woman to get married...
Now, I haven't experienced any of this, but I've met people who have and heard the stories from those in my family to whom happened something similar (high divorce rates are an undisputed fact; I'd have better luck at a casino!). So yeah...I'm not anxious to do through my own and have some chick leave me in the poorhouse (I'm already poor enough!) | |
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Posted: 4/14/2012 10:50:43 AM | I think this idea of commitmentphobic men is a tidy little excuse to make some people feel better about the outcome vs. just facing facts that it just wasn't "it" with you and that guy.
We men get a lot of grief about not being serious about our future and our parters...we are...just as much as women are.
If you find in a relationship where you believe your partner is not taking the next step there's likely a very simple reason for that...they don't want to. Not because they're not interested in the idea or because they're stunted emotionally but often because they just don't want to...with you.....and by the way this is completely OK. One would hope that one person or the other gets to this answer sooner than later but regardless of when, sometimes it's just not working and not a failure of flaw in character on the part of either party.
I really wish we'd stop branding all men as unwilling to commit. I see it as much on both sides of the chromosome as ever.
He/She is just not that into you. It happens. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2012 5:27:59 PM | | I can not speak for all men but I think we all believe that "The juice has got to be worth the squeeze" I do know that everyone thinks they give more than they take, but sometimes you have to step back and look at "is what you are giving more or equal to what you are getting" Everyone has 2 legs, 2 arms, 2 eyes, etc but men measure things on your actions not "what you plan on doing", not on "what you think" , not on "what you say" words are cheep. Its real actions they respond to. No one wants to pay for air.... Men included... Real men all believe actions speak louder then words and will pay back kind actions ten fold. Guys who don't are not men yet. As a side bar its probably easier to find a man than changing a guy into a man. Good luck in your surch... | |
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Posted: 4/21/2012 7:46:30 PM | Ok men over 35 just me personally I dont know if I can speak for others:
I have been through a divorce. I have found only game playing materialistic or physcotic women. I dont get responses on my profile all that much and most of the women in the city I live in are attached, lesbian or not interested in a relationship because they have been hurt by guys. So to answer your question No as for me that is I dont want to get married let alone I dont even want to date. On the same coin I also dont want a one night stand F*&^buddy, freind with benefits or anything like that.
Of course I am also not a sexual person either. I dont have any sex drive at all. At this point it is better to stay celibate and single then date | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 4:22:43 PM | | OP, yes. There are men out there who mean what they say when it comes to looking for a long term partner to eventually marry. The problem is us men KNOW that playing this angle will tap into a woman's psychological instinct of seeking a mate who can provide for her and make it more likely for us to get to know them. Any man knows if you advertise yourself on this or any dating site as being on there for nothing serious, or that you're only out for sex, or that you otherwise have no clear intention of anything long term, then you are never going to land any replies. Sadly, OP, the onus is on you, the woman, to sift through that crowd for the ones who mean business the same way us men have to sift through the plethora of women who won't even reply to our messages. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 10:26:51 PM | I don't think it is quite so simple as men (or women) either want to get married or not. I think many of us in this age bracket (especially 40+) have been married and for some or many it just didn't work out or worse. So that leaves us with a much more careful approach to relationships, long term commitment and eventual marriage.
In my case I married someone totally wrong for me and spent ten years foolishly trying to make it work. I came out of that hopefully much wiser and with a far better idea of what I want and need to be happy. So I am open to the possibility of being married again if I can find someone much more compatible.
So how do you find that person and get to know them and decide whether you want to marry them? You spend time with them, have a relationship for a sufficient period of time to really get to know them and decide if you think you could spend the rest of your life with them. So what happens if after 3 months, 6 months, even a year or so you find that the person just isn't someone you can actually be with for the rest of your life? Does that mean you don't want a long term relationship or to get married just because you don't want to marry that person? I don't think so | |
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Posted: 4/23/2012 3:49:01 AM | I don't want to get married, but if the unlucky woman wanted to I would if it was low key.
I've only slept with two women and reserve it for somebody special. Once it happens I have feelings and I'm petrified I'll just end up being a notch on somebody's bedpost. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2012 4:27:49 PM | | I have no interests in getting married, but I would like to have a long term relationship. Marriage is a piece of paper. I don't need a piece of paper to know who I love and with. Just because I don't want to get married doesn't mean I want to play the field or get out of the relationship after I had sex with a woman. | |
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