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Hezron
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Joined: 12/15/2005
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 5/12/2006 4:13:39 PM | | If you like your best friend more than his ex, stay away, because you'll lose your best friend if you do it. Conversely, if you decide to do it anyway, then I'd venture to guess that said best friend wasn't really that to begin with. Nonsoup4U's situation is a definite anomoly | |
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 5/12/2006 5:37:07 PM | I never have.
But, some of my friends have done it to me.
It really depends on how serious the relationship was with the fellow and it depends on the time frame too of when you did go out and how long you did with the person and how close the friendship is with the girlfriend.
If I got hurt it makes it difficult to be around the couple. It can be sort of a confusingly uncomfortable time. But I would never interfear with someone elses romances. What's not good for me may very well be very good for someone else.
Just knowing someone I've shared my most intimate moments with is now sleeping with my best friend that I've shared my most sacred secrets with kind of "OOKS" me out! Perhaps I'm insecure, but I kinda distance myself from both of them.
Your welcome to my left overs!!! | |
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Joined: 2/20/2006
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 5/15/2006 6:38:32 AM | Well, I think to sum up all the preceding posts:
If there are still feelings or still some kind of relationship, don't do it.
I could care less who dates my ex. But I have dated a friend of an ex when I lived in a small town. It's a fact of life in some places. But in larger cities it isn't necessary.
Anyone who is hurt by a friend dating an ex has still had unresolved issues. And a real friend would pick up on that and realize that dating the ex means losing the friendship. | |
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 5:02:34 AM | No I wouldn't wish my X on my worst enemy much less my best friend. I wouldn't date my best friend's x either that would surely end our friendship. | |
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:27:12 AM | "There are some lines you just don't cross and this would be one of them./"
Well..thats one way to get rid of your ex...if he goes out with his best friend's girl...ha ha | |
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:39:38 AM | NEVER! It is never okay in my books. My exwife was sleeping with one of my best friends who happened to also be our next door neighbour while we were still together, and ended up leaving me for him. They were together for a short time until she caught him with another woman. Needless to say, the piece of crap is no longer my friend.
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:51:50 AM | Well...a good friend of mine started dating this guy that once upon a time I really liked...and I wasn't too pleased with it at first..and actually thought it was 'taboo', but I guess nothing is taboo anymore! :-P Anyways, I think you get over it and if your friendship means enough with your friend you won't let it disintegrate over a guy (in our case) or over a girl, cuz thats just stupid...its like the chicken and the egg theory...which came first? In my case it was my friend, and for the record neither of us really talk to the guy anymore anyways. So all is happy, and we are still friends. :)  | |
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:16:29 AM | | i would never date my best friend's ex, nor would she date mine. To us, good friends are the same as family. It would feel like incest to me. After all, we should have developed some values since our teenage years. If the relationship ended amicably, then your friend is hurt and feeling betrayed and you lose a friend - if it ended acrimoniously, then your friend feels angry and betrayed and you lose a friend. | |
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 11:51:13 AM | ah ah nope no way!!!
totally wrong!! because even if the relationship is over, you are most likely witness to your bestfriend's feelings throughout the relationship or breakup and then it seems as you were just wishing for their relationship to end so you could have a go!! Nope!!
nothing to do with jealousy over the ex but more to do with the AXE in the back from your 'bestfriend'...
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 12:15:40 PM | I actually had this discussion with my son a while back.
My son socializes with a certain group of teens. We chat on occasion, about what is going on in his life. I've had a hard time understanding who is dating who, at present...because it changes from month to month. They're all close friends...and I can't, for the life of me, understand how they can date each other's ex. My son doesn't date a girl from that group… but, if he did….I hope that what I have taught him takes hold. For me, it's just improper.
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 2:22:49 PM | It depends on the reasons why they broke up, how it went and how they feel about each other. All lot of us in the neighborhood grew up together and hung around with each other all the time. My best friend started dating 1 of the girls in his senior year. I had wanted to date her, but she was always after him. She was 1 year younger than us. They dated thru the summer,(yes, they had sex at least once a week) then he & I went to college, different ones. His college was a 40 min drive away, mine was 1.5 hours. His was in a bigger city, mine a small town. I came home every weekend because my college was in a paper mill town and the smell made you gag every morning. She would go see him at clollege almost every Sat. nite. 1 Sat nite, she could not get her parents car, so she had to stay home. We went out that night for a couple of drinks(drinking age at the time here was 18). She told me that she was unhappy with him, but not to tell him. She would. The next Sat. she was back home before 8 pm. She told me she had broken up with him and left. (usually she would not be home much before 1 am.). We went out had a couple of drinks & I heard her side of the story. Next week, I heard his side. Both were the same, but yet different. So I asked him if he minded if I dated her. He said "Hell no!! Go for it!!"
So I did. And we had sex. And she got pregnant. Only problem was whose was it? She had sex with him just before she broke up with him the week before. She had an abortion, getting both of us guys off the hook, but we all remained friends and still are to this day. | |
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 7:20:32 PM | He is downright sexified...hotter than hot....his smile lights up a room. He is polite and very in tune with what a woman wants......he is an amazing cook, writer and friend in general.......Everytime you see him, you just melt like butter on a hot tin roof and that Rick Springfield song "Jessie's Girl" replays in your head but to match your situation.......then miraculously they break up....
She cries on your shoulder and you do your part of the best friend and assure her that better is yet to come, while thoughts of tongue wrestling with him in a sweaty, oily mess runs through your mind. You can see him in all his nude glory staring down on you, breathing heavily as he lowers his lips to yours and his manhood meets the garden of forbidden pleasure............
Ok back to reality...she is still here and still bawling her eyes out.....sigh heavily and join in on the bash fest..."girl he is an ass if he doesn't realize what he gave up...now point me to the tequila and a church, I need to confess my sins!" | |
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 8:49:38 PM | | you have to make sure its okay with the friend first, second and third time you ask. if the freind is not okay with it, you leave it alone. friend says they are okay with it, then proceed with caution. they may think they're okay with it at first but down the road they may not be. you have to decide what your friend is worth to you. in my opinion, never let a man or woman take the place of friendship. as fate will have it..... what is supposed to happen will happen. | |
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 10:48:51 PM | my sister dated her best friend's ex who was my sister's ex's best friend so they both lost all of their old friends for love.
i wouldn't have thought of such a thing in the past but now all i can say is anything is possible. you can not always stop your feelings from growing for someone whether it should be "forbidden territory" or not | |
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 10:57:04 PM | OF COURSE NOT!!! I personally think that it would be a kick to the face if anyone dated my ex...(been done), so I wouldn't in a million do it to my friends. Attractions would fade once the thrill is gone anyhow!!!
Besides, even if he/she is the hottest thing to grace your presence, you would feel like shit for the betrayal!! | |
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| Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/4/2006 11:25:16 PM | I would say yes. But then my best friends are not the kind of people who would be petty and jealous and hold something like that against me. If there was chemistry, why not?
But then again, I've never been the kind of person who feels like you own the people you date. So once it's over, anyone's fair game. If a person believes they own someone they've dated, then they probably didn't deseve them to begin with. I don't have much respect for them and hence, they're probably no friend of mine to begin with.
Peace.
-Kevin 
PS. Yes, the exception: as CityWoman said, if said friend still had feelings for the woman, I wouldn't touch her with a ten-foot pole. Friends are way more important than romance. | |
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