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 Street King
Joined: 5/25/2008
Msg: 126
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It's ok. You just should clear it with the X before you initiate.
 zangie
Joined: 5/30/2007
Msg: 127
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Posted: 4/24/2009 11:04:40 PM
Actually, my best friend did date my ex husband after the divorce...I was neither surprised or upset...I knew she had been in love with him for a long time...she asked me if it was ok...and I said it was ( though I couldn't tell her I thought she wouldn't like the outcome..and I was right about how it ended..but , she would have just thought I was being discouraging)..funny thing was, though I really was ok with it...she wasn't...we were never the same again...I think she always felt guilty anyway...I really missed having her as a friend...

I don't think it is worth the that risk, from my own personal experience...
 themancometh
Joined: 3/22/2009
Msg: 128
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 4/25/2009 1:24:18 AM
This is one of the quickest questions to answer NEVER, it has broken so many good friendships and destroyed entire social groups, so is it worth the risk NO!
 tamzin01
Joined: 5/29/2008
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Posted: 4/25/2009 1:52:06 AM
No, there's plenty of out there without resorting to a friend's ex. I would consider it a betrayal if a mate of mine went out with one of my exes, unless it hadn't been that serious anyway....but I still woudn't like them discussing me. The only time I'd find this acceptable would be in a non serious relationship that didn't last very long where I was the one to end it.
 tamzin01
Joined: 5/29/2008
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Posted: 4/25/2009 1:54:54 AM
On the subject of this, a guy friend of mine once asked me if I thought it would be ok for him to date his ex fiance's SISTER! My advice was no way!
 scatterzoom
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 131
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 4/25/2009 3:23:15 AM
OP...sure it is.
If she really ISN'T your "best friend."
 Archangel46
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 132
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 4/25/2009 5:35:41 AM
NO it is not. There are basic lines you dont cross in life and this is one.
If one dose cross it.One lacks in manners respect and not a second thought for your friend.
Keep in mind if you do this to your friends.What else will you do? One cant be trusted

go figure !!!!!
 DeagleNINja2
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 133
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 4/25/2009 5:45:26 AM
Nope, never ok.
With all the men/women in the world there's no excuse for this trashy behavior.
 Ezbthdrcy
Joined: 11/3/2008
Msg: 134
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 4/25/2009 6:00:21 AM
Never, ever ok.
 angelblueyez
Joined: 2/28/2010
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Posted: 6/7/2012 9:39:34 PM
so I'm not actually replying to this message but saying that I came here for advice on the subject as my best friend and ex-fiancee just recently met through me and there is attraction there yet they are not sure what will happen with it. I'm not ok with friends dating exes but she thinks it's ok. It's been a while since we broke up but the ex and I still talk and some lingering feelings there so I feel it would be better for her not to approach it considering how I feel. any thoughts?
 amore01
Joined: 2/14/2012
Msg: 136
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/7/2012 9:41:48 PM
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NEVER,EVER!!!!!!!!!
 moutainbreeze
Joined: 10/19/2011
Msg: 137
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/7/2012 10:20:46 PM
NO. Run away from that. You are being used to get back at your best friend. Be wise, avoid that drama.
 jmark4
Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 138
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/7/2012 10:50:58 PM
for me? no I would never do that.
 RunningFool7
Joined: 12/17/2011
Msg: 139
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/7/2012 11:43:09 PM
No...but it sounds like she date him before you did soooo, you dated your friend's ex? Right? Sorry, you suck. LOL. *beer*
 nightowl2004
Joined: 1/18/2011
Msg: 140
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/8/2012 12:58:49 AM
NO FREAKING WAY. THE END.
 angelblueyez
Joined: 2/28/2010
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Posted: 6/8/2012 3:14:59 AM

No...but it sounds like she date him before you did soooo, you dated your friend's ex? Right?


No, she didn't, they just met for the first time recently if you were referring to my message there RunningFool7
 CJinCentralPa
Joined: 2/14/2012
Msg: 142
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Posted: 6/8/2012 3:44:33 AM
LOL...yes by all means its a perfect idea...

...you can sit with your friend and talk about all the cute noises your new boyfriend (her old boyfriend) makes when you are bumping uglies and watch your good friend's face change and just imagine how much she hates you in her head.

Its not like women are naturally catty and uber competitive or anything.
 Jaimes004
Joined: 8/18/2011
Msg: 143
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 6/8/2012 9:43:43 AM
If someone does that, they were never best friends to begin with.
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
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Posted: 6/8/2012 9:45:58 AM
Is your best friend armed....member of the NRA?
 sugarcoat69
Joined: 7/18/2012
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Posted: 8/18/2012 10:45:11 PM
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.NEVER.Stay away form the ex 's
 ShelbySask4friend1
Joined: 2/10/2005
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Posted: 8/18/2012 10:55:46 PM
OMG the people on this post , is like a stroll down memory lane,lol...This post has to be at least 4 years old if not older...
 betteroffsingle
Joined: 7/24/2012
Msg: 147
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Posted: 8/19/2012 3:59:55 AM
I'm going to say it depends on the time involved. I dated a girl for over 3 years. We were engaged to be married. Ten years after that relationship dissolved my best friend came to me and asked if I would mind if he went out with her. I didn't mind at all, told him to go for it. They dated about a year or so before it went south. He and I are still best friends, no problem.
 barnbloo
Joined: 7/16/2012
Msg: 148
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Posted: 8/19/2012 5:47:38 AM
depends on how big he is.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Posted: 8/19/2012 7:43:59 AM
It could work out if both friends dated each others ex. But then again, maybe not.
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 150
Is It OK to Date your Best Friend's X?????
Posted: 8/19/2012 10:54:48 AM

I'm going to say it depends on the time involved.

I agree. Here's my factors involved:
- How long since breakup
- Single/Marital-status of best friend
- Length/seriousness of their relationship
- If he got dumped or not; pain effect
- Current state between them now

About 95% of the time it's not under consideration. 3% of the time, it's a possibility but not a good idea. 2% of the time, it's fine.

In other words, as a general rule of thumb -- Don't Do It.
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