meltjs
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/11/2006 3:04:04 PM | Try this one on for size...I met a man from Germany...he was in my town for business for two months. I was at a point in my life where I was not particularily impressed by the male species...quite turned off as a matter of fact...I swore I would stay single for a year...I noticed this man from across the room and our eyes met and locked instantly. We were inseparable from then on...The long and short of it is this...I fell head over heels in love with this man in the two months we were together...Then the day came that he had to leave...and would most likely never come back...we both started to pull away from each other about a week before he left because we felt that the pain of this separation would be too much to bear...All we succeeded in doing was wasting precious time we had together. Our last night together we went out to celebrate his time here...had too much to drink and passed out in each other's arms...Oh if I could take back that last pitcher! He is now gone...I miss him with every ounce of my being every minute of every day, but ultimately I knew that he would never be a permanent part of my life...I knew he would be going home one day. Out of all of this heartache and pain, I have learned so much...experienced so much joy with him...felt so loved...Is it better to have experienced this? I honestly believe so...I would not be the person I am today had I not...Now I know what makes me happy and what to look for...the kind of values and qualities in a mate that make me happy...the kind of person I could see myself with for the rest of my life...I know he will never be replaced, but had I not taken the chance and was with him...I would never have gotten to know one of the best people I have ever met in my life.  | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/12/2006 11:06:27 PM | From The Notebook:
I am nothing special; just a common man with common thoughts, and I've led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But in one respect I have succeeded as gloriously as anyone who's ever lived: I've loved another with all my heart and soul; and to me, this has always been enough. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/12/2006 11:19:06 PM |
OK my partner is a lot younger than me - 20 years. I love her a lot and I know she loves me - more than anyone else has ever down. But at some stage we will need to break up - because of the age difference I will get in the way of her life.
It is going to hurt but better to have loved
Ok this is freaky, I read that on page 1 of this subject and then looked at his profile and it said he is 26, so that makes his partner 6 ???? No wonder he needs to break up the relationship!!!! | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/13/2006 12:14:39 AM | LOL.... Staggy....
You should of been an investigator....lol....:))
I would imagine he could be fibbing? or not giving his appropriate age...lol.... comments anyone......or open another thread....:))
Now getting back to the lady behind the blinds...... Yes.......love it is! 
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/13/2006 8:29:21 AM | When you are in love, you feel truly alive and your spirit soars. You feel like you can conquer any obstacles that stand in your way. You feel as if you are light and you can float away.
When it first happens, your confidence rises and you become intoxicated in the person's aura.
To lose it means you have lived and you have grown and that you can look back fondly and remember that at one point in your life you experienced something that was bigger than you. Indescribable(sp) almost.....
To have never loved to me means never showing someone who I really am, closing myself off to ever having experienced something new and wonderful.
I choose to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/13/2006 8:46:13 AM | | For me the difference is was it a lost due to mishap or lost due mistake. If you find out later the person you loved was a fake (married, liar, crook) then it cheapens the good things. If it is a lost due to circumstance the joy will make the pain worth itand we have those moments to cherish for life. We relive those times when we hear a certain song smell a certain fragerance go to a special spotand THATS TO BE RELISHED. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/13/2006 9:04:33 AM | Brownsugar, you really inspire me, you know that?? My friends keep telling me that I need to protect myself more, and give less of myself...I honestly don't know how to do it any other way than wholeheartedly, so I'm likely in for a whole world of loving and losing. 
We are a product of our experiences in life, good and bad...if I had shut myself off from the possibility of what could be because of what might happen (which of course, did happen) I would not be the same person I am today. And....I kinda like who I am, so how can I really regret what has happened in the past?
Life is something that is meant to be lived with colour and passion, not neutral and controlled. Sometimes it means teetering on the brink of getting hurt, because the reward can be so much greater...sometimes it means being vulnerable to another person, and hoping for the best. I just think it's better to look back on what we've done with a smile than what we haven't done and wonder what might have happened, y'know?
If I hadn't loved and lost, I wouldn't have learned some very valuable lessons from an incredible man who helped me to see my true worth and value as a person. He gave me so many gifts that I will carry with me forever, because what he gave was himself. In the end, there were more obstacles than we could manage, but I am so very glad that even for a brief time, I was intoxicated and uplifted by him, and I'm hoping he feels the same.
So I guess in a way, while that person may have left your life, you never really lose them....so I guess lovin' is the only way to go!  | |
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annaa
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Joined: 5/13/2006
Msg: 38 | |
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annaa
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Joined: 5/13/2006
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/13/2006 11:11:52 AM |
Then again, it's better to know what good music is supposed to sound like.
Even if you never hear it again.
Thats kind of contrary. You could always forget.
Got a short detour away from the conversation here...
Wade Davis and his friend were once in Columbia. This was about the time that
a book came out called 'The Secret Life of Plants'...Wade and his friend had a big laugh razzing this book and its premise: that plants had a reaction or response to music, like
a Mozart Effect or something.
And these guys are lifelong biology.ethnobiology "students"...
anyway, I forget what his pointed barb was, but it had something to do with
his saying at the end of it: "Plants eat sunlight".
I think he was saying in a way, if there was a supposed effect of music on plants...
this was hardly the most worthy of mentioning as towards being "the" most
spectacular of awe-inspiring attributes...
but anyway...just making conversation here. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/13/2006 11:15:24 AM | Thats a good one about TV. I found that when I had to
go without the TV for any given reason whatever, I didnt miss it worth 2
cents. And that was for months at at time. I suppose I think I
am unique, even though plenty of ppl feel the same way. Ciao peeps
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/13/2006 12:13:22 PM | | I agree with you wannabe ..you do learn from them and i dont beleive that being alone avoiding the posibility of getting hurt again makes you happy bitter maybe but not happy..Ive been hurt many times and i refuse to let that get me down..I mean they cant all be the same right???? so get back out there hun ... | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/13/2006 12:51:43 PM | | I totally disagree about that...I think your better off not to give love if it is going to shatter your heart.....Personally i gave up on the concept when my heart was thrown down the toilet......As far as learning...If you have to go from relationship to relationship to learn..Then that is you...You must have a heart of stone......Personally if i have to be with somebody to learn..Then i would be in bad shape...I could not be with someone if i do no know what i want..So what is the point....You see with a attitude like that is how people get hurt..Then again in todays society people could careless.....It is all about me attitude and what i can get out of it....So i can see why so many decent people choose to stay single...To many people think you are suppose to learn something from somebody else...Personally i gave up 10 years ago..i got better things to do to put my soul on the meat market...You might could say i got my pride...I will gladly let the next person play the frigin games of the world!!!!!!!! | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/14/2006 4:47:52 AM | | No i didnt say you learn from the last person,i said they cant all be the same ,,if i thought you learned from the last person i would think the same way as yourself and say forget it they are all in it for the game ,,but i dont beleive they are :)I mean you learn from the mistacks myself i learned to trust my first instict and trust that something doesnt feel right ill not question myself and ill move on.. your on this site so its a start right??? Just start out as friends and if things work out for you great if not no harm done.. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:37:03 AM | To lose someone you really love is the worst feeling anyone can ever experience in life than to have never loved at all. But, to have never loved at all is a very sad state to be. The pain of losing someone is greater than never having loved anyone. One must really love someone to know what love is. Having never loved at all denies someone that experience, the joy and happiness that comes with it.
If you lose someone you may need a lot of time to heal. Time heals all wounds. But you will always remember that person. You will have memories to look back on, that, ironically, will help you to forget the suffering and see only the good times you both had together. You will love again, because you know how.
On the other hand, never having loved at all is a condition that denies you the experience of knowing the joy and pain of loving someone. It's a condition one should try to overcome but you will need patience and learn to recognize the opportunity when it comes. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/14/2006 12:31:05 PM | Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
^^^ yes...better to love then not loved at all....always remember ..leaving situtations in good terms is much more effiencent for yourself...this way you have no regrets...an every relationship is a learning process for ourselves. live an learn..thats what lifes all bout. i dont regret any situations in my life but have learnt many things from them.... our lives are ours to live...its the choices we make.
staggy....thats so sad..then your not living life to the fullest an happy....you stop yourself from loving others....an opening your heart ...also experiencing new things that comes your way. lonely life at the top...lol | |
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