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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/14/2006 1:12:19 PM | Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Ahhh, that cliche. Depends on how and what you lost.
(1) You fall in love with a woman, and had a relationship going for a while, but she had to move 1000 miles away, to the only place she could get her dream job. Essentially, you had to part ways, and you knew this beforehand... you keep in touch, but both realize that you can't be together, and have to move on -- then YES, it is better to have loved and lost. It might even be gained back in the far future, who knows -- but it's easy to deal with and you can move on with great experience and knowledge.
(2) You fall in love with a woman, as a relationship blossoms, it is seemingly perfect. You begin to live together, but she travels a lot, you sometimes feel you are emotionally chasing her, but when doubts ever get too high, she comforts you and your love is always there. Then, you find out she has a husband and two kids living out on the other side of the country, and when you catch her cheating on not only you, but her husband, in your bed -- she tells you to get the hell out of there until she's finished... then after an obvious breakup, spreads rumors about you being gay, and writes a best-selling book about you being a stalker. Then NO, it's better to not have loved at all, in the case!
(3) You fall in love with a woman quickly, but start things off slow physically... Great connection, a true, passionate love blossoms... then after 3 months, after finally getting to the point of total intimacy, you find out she has a PENIS, and her real name isn't Victoria -- but it's Frank. Then NO, it's better to not have loved (that one) at all!!
AND NO -- these aren't based on my experiences! lol Just had to use extremes to make the point that it's not a good romantic cliche to think about -- it can be a true mistake to have fallen in love with the wrong person -- but some situations can be a great building process in the game of life. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/14/2006 2:38:29 PM | NO NO NO
I totally think that mess is a full LOAD!
I've loved and loss and I know when I looked back that I didn't need that mess, and surely would have been better off without it.
It doesn't depend. A relationship that ends is a waste of time, and there's no if ands or buts about that! | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/14/2006 5:22:00 PM | | I agree 100%^^^^^And far as the learning experence....What being hurt is a learning experence..Give me a friggin break!!!!!!For the people that state going from relationship to relationship....Well whatever floats your boat..I could never live like that...What a waste of time...What is ironic these people go from one partner to another(LIKE A MEAT MARKET)Then claim they are learning...WOW!!!!!Then they come up with stupid logic.."I do not need a man"...But want a man...Pitiful....JUST PITIFUL!!!!!!!I do not need a car,But want a car..I do not need money,But want money..I do not need a job,But want a job...I do not need love,But want love....ETC......We live in a world with alot of confused people....It is a shame!!!!And after of what i have seen and hear i will pass on it | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:11:28 PM | ^^^^^^hate to say this..but your heart seems to be close to anyone...so sad... smile hun..lifes to short. being hurts no fun ...an i am sure it takes two to tango...in a relationship both are to blame...not just one...if we are so quick to blame them for it all...then it shows were not responsible for our own wrong doings. no ones perfect. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:30:00 PM | | I think it would be better to never have loved at all. Still better to not even be able to feel that emotion. When you are in love and you are with the person it is wonderful, wonderful beyond words, but if they do not feel the same way, and it ends, it is also horrible beyond words. Even worse if years later you still feel the same, and no one you met can remotely come close to that person. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:37:42 PM | I don't know anymore, I don't even know if I can love anymore,I don't even know
if that lock can be broken loose anymore.
I am so burried in darkness that I can't even cry when I am sad. I think I am in big trouble. I wish I would never have loved, at least then I'd be the out going person I was
once before!
Knight Rider!  | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:42:55 PM | | i think too, when u come right down to it, what choice do any of us have. if we dont take that chance we are doomed to a life of solitude devoid of real emotion. We take the plunge and the risk and possibly the hurt that might arise, but its in our nature, and thank god it is, we are driven to love | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/14/2006 8:20:07 PM | Golly, yes I believe it IS better to have loved and lost than never to have loved.
I had a 10-year relationship with a man (who I met through the personal ads BTW) and I experienced love for the first time ever in my life. It is an incredible feeling! I had been in two-other long-term relationships and obviously were not in love with either gentleman. On relationship I was far too young to understand or make that determination. Love is something special and I know I am still in love with him, and will carry special feelings in my heart for him until they day I die even though they have been out of my life for 2-1/2 years. I have been on my own for 4 years.
I am not going to bore you with the feelings but it keeps everything in perspective for me. If I meet a partner that is compatible and we live happily ever after well that would be grand, but I am not living my life expecting to fall in love as deeply again. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/14/2006 8:26:59 PM | | It is true that being in love awakens our senses and for some reason we see things like if we were looking with someone else's eyes but I have decided that I do not care for this. I gave up on this 8 years ago and I have pursued my goals of developing my professional skills and later on maybe I will open up the doors again to love. In my field of work I can see the economic hardships of hooking up with the incorrect person. Some people tend to rush in. I say take it really slow and let things progress without any hurries. At this point in my life I would say that having loved or not having loved it is all the same. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/15/2006 2:15:47 AM |
Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
^^^ yes...better to love then not loved at all....always remember ..leaving situtations in good terms is much more effiencent for yourself...this way you have no regrets...an every relationship is a learning process for ourselves. live an learn..thats what lifes all bout. i dont regret any situations in my life but have learnt many things from them.... our lives are ours to live...its the choices we make.
staggy....thats so sad..then your not living life to the fullest an happy....you stop yourself from loving others....an opening your heart ...also experiencing new things that comes your way. lonely life at the top...lol
Yes it is a lonely life.....I'll agree with you there. But given the high probability that love won't last and all that's left behind is bitterness and heartache, I'll stick to avoiding it in the first place. I've been hurt once, many years ago when I was still at school and I don't plan on testing the water again. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/15/2006 3:19:37 AM | | For the poster that claims it takes 2 to tangle....Well that is on case to case basis....So that is a lie....Sorry i will not take respnsbity for someones eleses lies..And never will...If you can control someones elses actions..Then i must say your good......But it is typical that society blame the innocent bystander...I can understand why so many commit suicide....It take 2 to tangle is not always true....have you ever the word TRUST!!!!!Well obvously tou have not...When you expect someone to honest...And because of ones trust you believe what they say...If cannot believe..Then what is the point of trust.....But that has long been flush down the toilet years ago for me...I could careless about finding love...I gave and gave and gave.....just to get frig over...OHH!..But according to society it is my fault....Well i do not have time for it anymore...I am better off..I got better things to do with my time to get friged over... | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/15/2006 4:39:07 AM | | This question as presented is an objective one. In real life, however, it is subjective. Whether it is better one way or the other depends on the circumstances, that is, in the case of having lost. Than never to have loved at all can only be true after one has died. Love is always a possibility to anyone who is open to it. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/15/2006 5:08:41 AM | It is when your heart and mind are open.
Often at the end of a lost love some reside in the dark. Closing the door, and pulling the curtains shut! Then one day they open the curtain a wee bit and some light shines within. Each day it opens a little wider letting in more of that glorious light. Then one day the door opens, and that light is invited in. You soon forget what it was to be in the dark, and relish in the light of love that you once felt was once lost.
Always leave the curtain open a little to let the light in. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/15/2006 11:55:41 AM | trust issues...so many carry this. i been with a few guys with that problem an i tell you..i am the most honest..trustworthy an loyal person anyone can meet...i was with the ex 27 yrs.....should count for something....but because of their issues....i was drilled...questioned....an more...he couldnt trust me....talk bout frustrating and drove me nuts...i cant be with anyone if they cant trust me...not gonna justify every move i make ...an with my assuring them..never helps anyways...theyre mind is made up. anyways turns out those guys couldnt trust themselves....and they were the ones who werent trustworthy or loyal.
bitter an resentment...is a sad way to be living a life....takes to much energy. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/15/2006 12:55:52 PM | | I know people are born that way...Society has nothing to do with it..It is all brought on theirselves....yes honesty and being loyal really goes long ways with most people..I know it worked for me.......Life is so peachy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/15/2006 1:55:02 PM | There comes a time when you just have to just jump in...right?
I was beginning to think maybe I had never loved at all...now that's sad...awwww.
and maybe I had become the jaded one....holding back with all my fears. You just have to let go. Well now where the heck is he??? lol, now that's my problem,  lol.... | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/15/2006 3:03:48 PM | fears...cant let them run your life...unless you enjoy misery... hes round baby girl...
i had to do alot of changes in my life...i once was like this one time....then i sat an analized my life...pretty patheitic if you ask me...so work i did. so what i dont have a partner....but when i started to trust myself an love myself...life became alot easier to live again. so one guy cheated on me..not my problem is it that he cant be loyal....an another went nuts...not my fault he has anger issues....an etc. lifes hard enoughn as it is...why make it any harder for the remaining years we have left. we all screw up...let it be a lesson...were not perfect...but perfect in most eyes..lol
and staggy... i know you got a heart...cant hide it...lol...
try changing your pattern thinking...gawd hard thing to do but if i can do it..you can too..go from negative to positive thinking..no matter what...be amazed at the results..an how lifes is much more peaceful. | |
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| Is it better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved?
Posted: 5/16/2006 12:46:22 PM |
and staggy... i know you got a heart...cant hide it...lol...
try changing your pattern thinking...gawd hard thing to do but if i can do it..you can too..go from negative to positive thinking..no matter what...be amazed at the results..an how lifes is much more peaceful.
Damn, my secret is out! | |
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