| Does someone make sure you have something from your kids on mothers/fathers day?
Posted: 5/13/2006 1:48:38 PM | | oh twinkz.. when i was married.. 1 yr 4 our anniversary, my ex bought me a gift alright!.. he came home w/a bag full of burritos & said "happy anniversary"!.. so personally.. i would rather recieve nothing at all, then another bag of burritos!.. oh & just so yanno.. i told him 2 take them back 2 the store.. he couldn`t understand y i was upset.. | |
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| Does someone make sure you have something from your kids on mothers/fathers day?
Posted: 5/13/2006 1:54:21 PM | I don't recall anyone stating that they need to get a gift from their child(ren) in order for them to love unconditionally the ture gift they already have! I wouldn't trade my son for the world, and I don't think any other parent here would. Is it a bit of a commercial holiday... yes, but so are all the rest of them. My son tells me he loves me a gazzilion times I day and I tell him the same. I know I always loved making those little cards and gifts at school because it was an extra way of saying thanks to my mom. and I know my son most likely will too. I didn't start this thread to get into a debate about the hows and whats. I was simply wondering who out there has someone that takes your child out and get you a card or make one or whatever. I know that I will always cherish those little extras that my son will do for me. My mom still has alot of those little things that my brother and I did for her. Does he have to buy me something?... no not at all, I'll love him no matter what! BUt I know I'll love all the little things he does do too. I certainly won't not get my mom a card just because its a commercialized holiday. My mom deserves an extra thanks and I love you. And she loves the hanging basket that makes the back patio so much brighter.
Happy Mothers Day!  | |
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| Does someone make sure you have something from your kids on mothers/fathers day?
Posted: 5/13/2006 4:33:14 PM | now all you should do is teach your child the meaning of mother's day. from there, you celebrate the day any way you each choose. i choose not to receive gifts... if my son wants to do anything for me, he knows it can't cost him a penny. he does things for me all year... writes me silly notes on the fridge to start my day off nicely, does extra chores to show me how much he appreciates me going to work everyday, takes such good care of me if i've had surgery or i'm super sick, he still makes me cards and handmade gifts but not for mothers day and he even offers to cook dinner... those are just a few of the kind things my son does for me... i won't get into how generous he is with neighbors or people who need help. he does these things on random days and it warms my heart to know he's so incredibly thoughtful and appreciative.
too many kids these days grow up thinking christmas is about santa, mothers day is about mothers and the only holiday they do celebrate correctly anymore is fathers day. fathers day was meant to be celebrated as we do by giving gifts to our fathers to show our appreciation of them in our lives. mothers should be loved, respected and treated kindly all year, not just on one certain day. people have come to expect too much on these days and it simply makes me sad to see the true meaning lost. at least if children know the true meaning of a day like mothers day, they can make up their own minds as to how they will celebrate that special day. if they never know the true meaning... they simply keep the vicious, hallmark circle going and some even grow up to resent these holidays or become depressed on the holidays because they were always taught to give and get gifts.
you may not have intended for this thread to become a "debate" and i won't debate the issue because my opinion won't be swayed. i simply put the information out there and i challenge you to educate yourself and your children about the true meaning of a day like mothers day. nothing more, nothing less. | |
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| Does someone make sure you have something from your kids on mothers/fathers day?
Posted: 5/13/2006 5:46:25 PM | Looking, I see we both married the same kind of man lol.
No I don't need an expensive gift or any present at all for
mom's day. But at least he could cook a meal for me or do
something special for me on this special day.
Three yr's ago I celebrated my 1st mom's day and my 40th
b'day on the same day. I asked hubby to do something little
for me as it was extra special being my b'day and all. He chose
to spend most of the day with a friend instead of with me and
his daughter.
Anyways Happy Mothers Day to you all | |
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| Does someone make sure you have something from your kids on mothers/fathers day?
Posted: 5/13/2006 5:58:45 PM | when we seperated, my sons father and I agreed that we would buy each other stuff for occasions like chirstmas, birthdays and mothers/fathers day.
it has worked out pretty good so far... I am on my second mothers day and he has been pretty good about things.
my mom also makes sure that I get something in case (daddy screws it up) daddy has a tendancy to get mommy (me) things that he wants instead of things that I want... but such is life.
i always get my mom and my sister a little something as well from my little man.... cause they are such a big part of his life. this year we got "auntie" a gift for mothers day too.... I think she will really appreciate the sentiment.
i think the acknowledgement is an important sentiment.... that is what couts, not the actual gift. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2006 6:09:44 PM | Last year my best friend took care of me and got me the sweetest picture frame with a photo of my son and her daughter in it.
This year she told me she got me something again. I certainly love her for it
But my ex this year also actually remembered to get me a card from my son.
I have a pretty good feeling his wife had something to do with that. Although I don't know her very well it's more of something she would do/remember than he would.
Other than that. I'm hoping to go out to lunch with my own mom tomorrow...but little man is sick. So I might be home all day taking care of him.
C'est la vie
What better to do on mothers day...than to be a mother. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2006 6:27:32 PM | My mom always does. Last year my brother did I was shocked. made me cry that he would know that my son's father doesn't bother with that stuff. Every year on his birthday, easter, father's day, and christmas, I get him at least a card from our son. He doesn't seem to think that it would be nice of him to do that for me once in awhile. It stopped bothering me along time ago. Yet he would be the first to say I was selfish..lol
Happy Mother's Day! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2006 10:07:41 PM | "i think the acknowledgement is an important sentiment.... that is what couts, not the actual gift."
I think Sexy hit the nail right there! Just my son saying happy mothers day will be more then enough. ITs not about the gifts its about celebrating being a mom and spending quaility time with your kids. I know sometimes thats hard to fit in with work school and daycare and everything else that a single parent does so I think its a good excuse to take a time out and hang with your kids! | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 10:57:28 AM | Well it's mother's day and hubby has let us down yet again!
Our daughter has been waiting almost a week to go shopping
with him for a B'day and mom's day gift for me.
It's not about the gift it's about doing something special for
her mom. Me and my girl are going to spend some time with
my mom and sister for the special day. And yet again it's me
making the planning for the day. | |
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| Does someone make sure you have something from your kids on mothers/fathers day?
Posted: 5/14/2006 1:13:47 PM | ^^^^^^boy can I relate to that! Hubby came home awhile
ago and gave my girl a gift to give to me. She was so upset
she wouldn't give it to me. And although it's a nice gift she did
not pick it out. So now he just left to take her to buy me a gift.
It's kinda funny cause now he's spending more than he had planned
because he had to buy 2 gifts lol. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 1:36:01 PM | My son always makes something when in school but when he comes home my ex always gives it to her new boyfriend...sad but true...(my son lives with them)
He is almost 10 now and I havent had anything in years...
He tells me he made something for me and then home its given to someone else...
Not his choice but he too young to do anything about it. But then he still makes something later for me anyway...
Weird eh? | |
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Posted: 5/14/2006 4:03:01 PM | I've been divorced for 3 years now, and my ex hasn't once bothered to get something from the kids for me for Mother's Day, my birthday or Christmas. However, I won't stoop to that level, because the kids want to make something for their dad, so we'll send him a card, and send him something a little special. I do have the kids mostly full time, so I guess that's his logic, and I wouldn't trade one minute of their time for all the cards and presents in the world! Besides, the school and my mom step up to the plate, and my kids are always making me little presents anyways. I have the greatest kids (when they're not trying to kill each other...). I'm a very firm believer in karma, however... | |
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| Does someone make sure you have something from your kids on mothers/fathers day?
Posted: 5/15/2006 8:46:58 AM | | It is so great to see I a, not alone on this. My ex the first time after splitting got me something from OUR son, but now that he is in a new relationship and has another child he told me last year that it isn't his responsability to buy something for me! It isn't from him but from his son. When will guys get that. And to all those guys out there that are the mother and father a big hug to all of you cause you are the best and it doesn't matter if the gift is $100 or from the dollar store the point is that it is from our child and they picked it out, but the best gift of all is the hugs kisses and the I LOVE YOU that we get out of the blue for no reason except for that we are there always for them and love them and that they know with out a doubt!! | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 11:22:05 AM | Well this year for Mother's Day it was my daughter's weekend with her dad. We have joint custody but she lives with me and he sees her every other weekend and one month during the summer. This weekend he was moving and she said that was why he could not take her to get me anything for Mother's Day and I was okay with that. What I did get for Mother's Day though was a home made "magazine" that she started in school and finished at home. It was so cute! The cover was TIME Magazine and it stated that I was the Mother of the Year! Inside she had written some stories about me and things that I do that makes me a wonderful mother. It was so very sweet and I will cherish it always! Sometimes the best gifts are gifts that dont cost anything at all. Just a little time and some construction paper. I love my littler girl so much! OH by the way, she is 9 and is my only child. She means the world to me!  | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 1:30:44 PM | | Since "need" is the word I used, I must assume that you are refering to my comments. I certainly am not debating anything. I am not implying that you or anyone else said you needed something. What I said and meant was that "I" value my children and I certainly did not say that you or anyone else does not. My children spent Mother's Day with their father. I received a phone call which they both initiated and it put a huge smile on my face. It is the little things that mean the most as I am sure you will all agree. Sorry for responding to this thread! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 10:24:36 AM | For most of the years it was me. I decided that if the ex wasn't going to bother teaching my son, someone had to. My family is my son & I so there are no aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc. It wasn't easy. I think one year I didn't bother at all but I felt I was doing a disservice to him. If no one else is going to teach him to respect and honour his mother than his mom has to. Now at 13 we fight very regularly, which is normal, but he's got mother's day down!
Yes I always prime him for father's day, the ex's b'day and xmas. He also has to give to friends, help neighbours with small chores and give to charity; his particular favourite being the homeless guy outside of Blockbusters. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 10:27:38 AM | I actually always seem to have my girls on Mothers day.....
and as much as I dislike alot about my ex......
I had my girls make her a card......
then when we were out taking My mother/Nana for a late lunch
my oldest asked if she could bring mommy some tacos....cause she loves them....
I said yes....
then of course they saw some candles in a small store after lunch and
wanted to get her 1 each....and I said yes
the point is.........I may not get it in return.......but....
when my girls want to do somthing nice for their mother....
exspeacially on mothers day......who am I to say no......
p.s.
I must admit....When i dropped off the kids....the girfts and the tacos.....
i couldn,t help insinuating that I may have put something speacial in the tacos...
and that the kids should not eat them.....only her..........lmao
she knew I was kidding........I think........lol | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 5:32:28 PM | My son painted me a beautiful finger-painted picture... all over the floor  thankfully, SOME got onto the paper. It was such a nice gift, he also said "Cookie mama!!" His first real sentence! And he's only 8 1/2 months old.  My idiotic step-father wrote all over my beautiful mother's day paining  and expected me to not get angry at him. He was all "but YOU made it!" I didnt, I simply came up with the idea... put my son's hands into some fingerpaint and let him go wild with some paper. Oh well. There's always next year. And besides, its not the gift that counts to me, my son said a sentence!! I'm so happy! lol
I gave my mom a ring with her birthstone in it, and engraved on the inside, it says "Love you forever; Mandy and Tony". She also went to new mexico for a much needed vacation. She's coming back tomorrow~! She'll have a welcome home banner made my all of us! FINGER PAINT!! YAAY! lol | |
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