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Posted: 8/5/2005 8:29:47 AM | Hi Tryingthisonce,
I disagree with your statement 'that culture to younger women is rap music and going to Mcdonald.' This is a stereotype. Culture in my opinion is born and bred. It's either you have it or you don't. Culture also is not definitive of a person's: race or class. It also has a lot to do with exposure and education. Even when I was in my 20s and I've just now in my 30s. Going to Mcdonald's and listening to rap music wuoldn't have been my definition of culture. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2005 3:06:24 PM | In their life time women undrego what I call the "three accelerated ammortizations" which are the driving factor behind men constantly looking for younger women as women in a way age faster than men:
1. The "physical accelerated ammortization" - this is the generally better known issue - women age physically faster than men. Most women when they reach the age of 25 - 30 become physically less attractive and men refocus on younger ones. Women are quite aware of this factor and have restored to multiple solutions - cosmetics, surgery, you name it. They are just a waste of time and money as they do not make much of a difference.
2. The "psychological, hormonal accelerated ammortization". This is what is gernerally known as the critical age effect on women. What really refocuses men no younger women here is the fact that women who hit that age start to act quite inadequately and this puts a huge strain on relationships.
3. The "emotional accelerated ammortization". Each relationship leaves permanent traces on a woman and ultimately it starts to affect her new relationships. At the same time men have a very strong negative obsession with this issue and gradually start to migrate to younger women who can offer certain emotional freshness in the equation.
I realize that the concept of the 3 accelerated ammortizations with women will not receive much support, especially on the female side, but it is just an attempt to provide a systematic explanation of a well known fact - guys want younger girls. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2005 8:24:00 AM | Hi Tonik,
I can't really agree or disagree with what you say as I am still a very young woman. I think your ethnicity and your family history plays a part also in the aging process even if like you say that'women age faster than men.'As I don't know if this is a scientific or biological fact. I feel in my personal opinion most older men gravitate towards younger women because older men when they hit mid-life feel old and inadequate as a man and want a young woman to feel virile and sexy again. Younger women on the whole don't really like men that much older than them. Most older men look old-many of them are bald, out-of-shape, graying and I have heard they are not really that great in bed either. Moreover, if a younger woman takes an older guy he has to look really good for his age. Most older men when they take a woman much much younger than they are are trying to reclaim a piece of themselves that was lost a long time ago. | |
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Posted: 8/10/2005 3:00:12 AM | | If you are both comfortable being together .... then who are we or any else to say. Live you own life , foget what others say, if you are happy stay happy. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2006 10:50:33 AM | | what would a 21 yr old want with a 50 yr old man lets get real here. You have nothing in common except I am sure that you are spending lots of money on her and she enjoys that. I once dated a man close to 50 he was about 16 years older at the time. He was very nice to me and appreciated me he was gross though. I was grossed out when he tried to kiss me and his body was a huge turn off. Was like being with my dad or grandfather and was totally creapy. Lets face it the women is using you for money as it always is the case I have known of. I know of women who do that with old guys get them to buy them stuff. But they are totally grossed out when it would come to having something sexual with them. If you can find a young girl who will use you more power to you . I am sure you look like hot stuff with a young girl. Like donald trumps wife said she wouldnt be with him if he didnt have money and he wouldnt be with her if she didnt look good. To each his own. I am not into the using game | |
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Posted: 3/16/2006 11:47:57 AM | | Hey , you never know . It's all depends on the guy ( man ) or a woman . How they feel about themselves , what their life style is , how they keep in shape or willingness to look better . | |
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Posted: 1/26/2007 2:26:32 PM | I think older men are more mature than someone of my age (27) so I really prefer men 35 and older  | |
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Posted: 1/26/2007 4:12:09 PM | I agree completely, there is a stigma, "old enough to be my Dad" thing! I am 60 looking for a woman 30 to 50, healthy and able/willing to have one child, guess you would say I am a late starter. I have not had even one bite! Ha But that is life, I recently have finished caring for an elderly (99 yrs.) parent due to her death so now I must get on with life and do more fishing, although probably not on here! Good luck with the unconventional, Vangoghny
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Posted: 1/26/2007 4:12:41 PM | I agree completely, there is a stigma, "old enough to be my Dad" thing! I am 60 looking for a woman 30 to 50, healthy and able/willing to have one child, guess you would say I am a late starter. I have not had even one bite! Ha But that is life, I recently have finished caring for an elderly (99 yrs.) parent due to her death so now I must get on with life and do more fishing, although probably not on here! Good luck with the unconventional, Vangoghny
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Posted: 2/1/2007 7:39:20 PM | | We have no right to make judgement if someone's choices in a partner if the relationship is healthy and happy? If a man or woman want to date someone 1 to 100 year age difference, who are we to make eyes at the couple? Why does a younger woman or man have to be after the older's money or property? Why does the older have to be trying to relive their youth? Why can't it be two people who are naturally in love with each other for their own reasons? Once we get that through our skulls, a lot more loving and truly equal can this world become. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2007 9:31:23 PM | without being as complicated as most of those who posted, the only thing age is good for is retirement benefits
its all about how 2 ppl connect
now wasnt that simple? | |
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Posted: 2/1/2007 9:36:14 PM | how about older women younger men?
age shouldnt matter but it certainly seems to me that men my age want women quite a bit younger and what does that leave for older women? If it worked both ways it would bre great
and im sure there are exceptions to the rule but mostly its older men younger women | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 3:06:26 PM | There's a time to every season. It's certainly easy enough to enjoy the company of significantly older or younger people - but it's imperative that both parties know exactly what the other is looking for. I look for a man my own age (55) because it typically means their life experiences are similar to my own. We are in the same financial range, our kids are basically out and our time is our own. I look for long term because I want to cozy up for the
'real' future. (When I was in my 20s, there was NO way I could realistically project my real future.) Today it's easy. Young women often think older men are DA BOMB. I remember my bosses when I was a 20 yr old. They seemed brilliant!! LOL They were not.
So many young men say: age is a number. It's far more than that. It's the groan you make when you get out of a car that's too low. It's having to take a more proactive stand with your health. It's real - it's not JUST a number. It's the realization that you're not going to remain youthful looking more than 5 to 10 years. So you have to gage your life and enage in relationships that don't waste valuable time.
I recently dated a man who married a woman 15 years younger and had kids with her. (He also had a kid nearly her age at the time). Now that they're divorced, she functions like an emotional 3 year old. That's not solely her fault. I feel it's also the fault of a man who interrupted her natural maturity cycle by promising her the world and left her holding the bag. All I'm saying is: we do evolve and aging can oftentimes have a significant impact on how we mature. So there is a time to every season. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 3:30:56 PM | When you refer to "psychological, hormonal, accelerated ammortization" and women start to "act inadequately" don't you really mean that as a woman hits her sexual peak in her thirties- the older man in the relationship just can't cut it anymore- so she acts out by finding a more virile, younger mate? I guess that would put huge strain on a relationship with an older, limper, mysogenistic man (with less hair than his younger counterpart) wouldn't it?
Sure younger girls are prettier- youth is beautiful. But an emotional freshness? Don't we really mean naive and needy?
I really believe two people who are attracted to each other should just make a go of it if it makes them happy. I, on the other hand, prefer men my age or younger. It's just a preference but I wouldn't be so bold or presumptous as to make a statement that all women feel this way- as this is just me. Unlike some flaming posts... | |
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Posted: 3/11/2007 1:19:39 PM | Certainly, age differences plays a role, however minor. In my opinion, there is a threshold to which either younger women or older men need to consider; greater than say, 15 years. This gap is generational and both parties need to understand. for example, I grew up during the 70's and life, we all know (experientially), was different than life for those now who are in their late teens and early 20's. The same applies to those couples whose age difference is big. It requires dilligence (and love) to maintain the relationship. I applaud those who are in such relationships. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2007 1:51:15 PM | | This is an old post. I was off the grid. Nonetheless, it appears you believe the physiological effects aging produces.... you said, "Younger women on the whole don't really like men that much older than them. Most older men look old-many of them are bald, out-of-shape, graying and I have heard they are not really that great in bed either." I suppose it is a complex issue. And since you are a very young woman, after time, you will increase in knowledge and wisdom :) | |
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Posted: 3/11/2007 3:13:52 PM | I feel it could go either way, as long as the difference isn t more then 10 yrs
I usta date a younger woman about 2 yr s( 30tys) then I dated an older woman
about 2-3 yrs ( 50tys) both had good and bad qualities, but Id be willing to
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Posted: 3/12/2007 1:04:49 PM | | I disagree with you. Some women who are in their early twenties are very open minded and looking to explore new things. For one, I am twenty four, and when I date older men, I like going to places like museums,not a rap concert, so the statement you made is a complete stereotype. | |
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Posted: 3/12/2007 5:28:06 PM | do you watch movie s that were made in the 30tys and 40tys ( Blk /Wht )
when you do do you ask question s , like are all the actors in this movie dead,
& why is it in Blk & wht didn t the have color film back then , | |
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Posted: 9/19/2007 6:11:57 AM | ??? older guy s - younger girl s / older woman - younger men
guy s girl s / women men ???? | |
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Posted: 12/3/2007 4:45:56 PM | I know quite a few extreme cases.
1. I know this woman in Brazil. She's 24, but her boyfriend is 55. Not too sure what she sees in him, but she seems to have all her expenses covered.
2. Another case in Brazil with this girl who is 29 and her boyfriend is in his early 50's.
3. My ex-girlfriend's best friend. She's a Chinese girl who lives in California and she married this much, much older guy who is a doctor. The guy is a dog looks-wise and from what I heard, he seems like an OK guy, but it's pretty obvious she married him for his money and he just wanted a young bride. They met when she was 20 and he was in his late 30's.
4. One of my best friends is divorced with two kids and he married this much younger Brazilian girl whom he met online. Out of all the cases I mentioned, I think my friend and his wife have the best relationship, but they also have the smallest age gap (still over 10 years!). | |
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