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onair
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Joined: 4/5/2006
Msg: 52 | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 9:46:17 AM | I only date men 40 or over and i just turned 27
My current boyfriend is 39 but meh -- hes worth bending the age rule
i just find i get along better with older men they seem to understand my drive and determination more than the young bucks looking for a lay ..
My 2 cents
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 9:47:37 AM | Sounds biblical !
Check out the old testament just barely breed-able females & 400 year old men .
I hear that 13 is legal in Italy !?
How about the USA 50 different standards if you include : marriage , which party above or below some age , has pregnancy already happened , gay or not , parents for or against ....
I don't know the answer for others . People are so different . | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 10:01:52 AM | Yeah I hear ya stud. Good thing we have evolved from the days of neandrathal type behavior. Well some of us anyway. What is the motivation of someone looking for someone of such an extreme age difference of what I mentioned??? 9 times out of 10 serious issues are involved. Why can someone not relate to others of a near age group??? With alot of guys, they are just pigs looking for a piece of young ass. Guys like this disgust me. No respect, or conscience. Just sick Bas**ards.
I thank you. | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 10:11:10 AM | Yes, spaceman, sadly you are 100% correct. And I do not condone such as you describe. As far as myself, I have never and don't encourage men young enough to be my son. Frankly, I prefer 50 and over, and have said so in these forums. And yes, I hate to see some older guy with a much younger women who wants a child and he doesn't, or vice-versa. Obviously he does not want the family life with her. That is abuse of a different kind, in my opinion.
My scenario, or rant-- guess I do have to call it that, was not about the child molesters, the perverts (male or female), and the mental abuse and long-term harm that puts on the younger one of the couple. (I've also stated this before under this same topic)
And you are right again, if you mean that those teens and early twenties aren't emotionally ready for someone so much older. I totally agree! Over 30, on both sides, to me, is the safer ground for better understanding, mutual interest, and certainly more emotionally mature.
But then, I've posted my various takes (all meaning the same) on this age thing, several times before. And I keep asking -- what is wrong with your own age group? Everything seems so out of kilter.
And my posts always weigh heavily towards the older men because 98% of the time it is they who pose this question-- those who want to date much younger, and rather than just doing that -- come into forums such as on POF to rant and bash the opposite sex in order to justify doing that. We all know that they are going to anyway -- if they can, and are not really here seeking our approval. Not really asking if it is okay, they just want the attention. The "poor me --pity me" folks, especially the older guy who claims that he can't stand women in his own age group-- never mind that maybe they can't stand him either. 
This question was that OP, this younger woman, prefers to be with older men and asks if that can work. For her, maybe it can. I can not be the judge of that or anyone else here for that matter for what ever reason. I would ask her to go into the relationship with caution, particularly if he already has grown kids and doesn't want any more and she does.
My statements are just my opinions and my right to them; and we all know aren't going to sway any one, one way or the other, anyway. For if they did, we wouldn't see this question of older/younger -- younger/older posed every single day in these forums -- thus the reason for my "ageless" post today.
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 10:45:15 AM |
...older men because 98% of the time it is they who pose this question-- those who want to date much younger, and rather than just doing that -- come into forums such as on POF to rant and bash the opposite sex in order to justify doing that....
The "poor me --pity me" folks, especially the older guy who claims that he can't stand women in his own age group-- never mind that maybe they can't stand him either.
Pretty much sums it up.
Guys, just because you WANT to date younger women does NOT mean you DESERVE to date them. Do not use Hugh Hefner or Donald Trump as examples to justify your "rights" to the young sweeties either....unless of course you are famous and have a net worth over 25 million. Then you'll be able to buy any date you'd like.... | |
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TXJEN
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Joined: 6/24/2006
Msg: 58 | |
| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 10:45:18 AM | I see and hear alot of generalizing on this site. How about everyone is not the same. Some older people appear and act younger and alot of younger people appear and act older. How about we put no age restrictions and accept each other for who and what we are "individuals".
I have dated younger and older and to be honest it was based on maturity and compatability.
Everything would be much easier if we got rid of the age on profiles and just went with our heart. Maybe a few of us need to close our eyes to pic's and just talk with someone instead of being sooo damn superfiicial. Just my opinion. | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 10:52:00 AM | | Soooooooooooooo TXJEN. Are you telling me you would have no problem dating a well lets say 17 year old, and are you also trying to tell me this is just a number and fine and dandy? I guess I am superficial since I choose to not pursue someone 20 years younger than me. | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 11:02:49 AM | | we are not all the same. im 58 and love dancing, hate gardening sewing or pottering around, give me a dance or singing on the karioki its great im female 58 and look 40 and love to be with friends all ages. cant put everyone in same mould. | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 12:42:27 PM | the older guy who claims that he can't stand women in his own age group-- never mind that maybe they can't stand him either...justify your "rights"
OP: yes.
Maybe it's just that I as a representative active 50-year-old-body-with-30-year-old-attitude just don't go to the right places to meet someone of my own physical age. I work in a busy commuter town and if I go out for a social drink in the evenings my chances of finding a 50-year old are pretty slim. I just go to ordinary bars and pubs and predictably their filled with disposable income-wielding 20-30 somethings. Am I supposed to ignore this? Or maybe I should go down to the local center for the over 50s - if you know Woking you'll know the one I mean. Surprise.. it closes in the evening.
And actually the fact that I can hold an intelligent conversation on a variety of subjects for more than 10 minutes actually makes me more popular with younger people because the majority of their peers just talk about football and cars. Again, should I ignore this?
Also, there are no "rights" in dating - if you say and do the right things you'll get a date. Apparently.  | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 2:07:28 PM | Well Peter22, you are a Scorpio and I think Scorpios are hot, very intelligent, unique, and able to hold their own, no matter what age they are. I speak from experience and with a huge grin on my face. | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 2:21:19 PM | @charlie_girl: Well Peter22...
*LOL* well now charlie_girl, I'm not going to argue with you at all  and I still maintain that one of us is on the wrong side of the Pond! In my opinion ladies like yourself are the exception to the rule (and such a good judge of character) and long may it stay that way !  | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 2:31:47 PM |
Or maybe I should go down to the local center for the over 50s - if you know Woking you'll know the one I mean. Surprise.. it closes in the evening.
Oh? My gym is open 24-7 and that is where you would find this 50 yo. But the next time I want to date a man over 50, I'll be sure to check out the senior's centre (and the high school) | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 2:32:15 PM | | Yes, it works. My parents are 13yrs. apart . Married for 48 yrs. And my sister and her husband are 10 yrs. apart. Still married and happy. It is true women mature faster than men. | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 3:11:17 PM | Of course it can work. Virtually all the people that ask me out are considerably younger than me. They don't ask me out for any sort of status..its for compatability and suitability. Of the people I know / work with / et cetera, the most significantly happy marriages/unions have anywhere from a moderate to significant age difference. One couple in particular (I was just at the wifes birthday party) haqve a wonderful family . she just turned 27.....she is well educated and works professionally about half the time from home and the balance from her company office (she owns the company) .... they have a 6 month old and a 2 year old.....he is a commercial pilot / age 49 / and has a 25 year old daughter from his previous marriage (widower) who just adores her new siblings & family (and occassionally calls her step mom "mom" in public..just to get her wound up) ...... They all get along very well with the in-laws (who are only slightly older then him) and consider them friends as well as family. His parents and his late wifes parents are all involved and included completely and accepted & accepting completely. This is just one example of several I personally know ...... who could ask for better than that?
Age is just a number.......if the attraction is there .. physically/mentally/spiritually ... and there is true compatability .... then it is no different than any other age ....... just a number.... the prerequisites/qualifications don't change ........ just the personal restrictions that would have otherwise held someone from attaining happiness because of an arbitrary numerical bias. | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 3:12:23 PM | Hmmmmmmmmmmmm. I call it mid life crisis. Did your scientific report include new convertible sports cars for the fellas too.
I saw that scientific report in playboy too. :P Oh and I only look at it for the articles. | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 3:14:13 PM |
haqve a wonderful family . she just turned 27.....she is well educated and works professionally about half the time from home and the balance from her company office (she owns the company) .... they have a 6 month old and a 2 year old.....he is a commercial pilot / age 49 / and has a 25 year old daughter from his previous marriage
I bet that you would not be nearly so thrilled with a 49yo woman who was married to a 27 yo man. Funny how it is only acceptable if it is a man with a younger woman. And don't give me that bs about how men get better with age while women fall apart after 35 either....because believe me, I have seen very very few decent looking men my age. | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 3:28:06 PM | My mother married a man over 20 years younger than her in fact everyone she ever went out with was younger than her, i think it depends upon the person and how mature you are. Their are also some people who do not accept their age, they are fearful of getting older.
Its weird but now i am forty i am finding some men in their fifties qute attractive, and at one time i would not have even looked at a man in their fifties. Even some men now in thier sixties i find attractive. I think as you get older you naturally find people older like yourself attractive.
Jeremany Irons says he finds his wife more attractive now she older than when she was young, We have this thing in the media that you have to be a certain age and look a certain way to be attractive. Its a load of nonesense i find men around my own age and older much more attractive. | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 3:47:47 PM | | those women wiht hugh hefner are only with him because of his wallet nothing else. They don,t love him, if he lost him money you can be sure they would run a mile. They are all using each other. Hes in it for the sex and his ego. If he was ill and lost his money would they care for him i bet not. Love is priceless you cannot buy that. | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 4:19:02 PM | @who_the_fox: 49yo woman who was married to a 27 yo man. Funny how it is only acceptable if it is a man with a younger woman ... seen very very few decent looking men my age
Liz Minnelli and David Gest ? Although there was only seven years between them.. and can you define "decent looking" ? | |
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| Older men dating younger women --- does it work??
Posted: 7/2/2006 5:06:33 PM | I believe who_the_fox is a little bitter ........ but to clarify for anyone who may have "interpreted" what I wrote to "their" disfavour ...... I would not have a problem accepting a 27 year old man with a 49 year old woman. Have I seen it? ...... maybe not those numners exactly, but not far off from that ..... and as far as people in their middle ages not looking very great .. ???????????? ..... well .... beauty is a relative thing and is different and unique in perception by everyone .... but! ... there are a great many people who have reached a point after 35 (some much younger) where they do seem to let themselves go. Why? I have no idea .....
As far as being asked out by the younger ladies ...... I am not ugly, but I am under no illusion that I am blessed with movie star artificial good looks / but I am in good shape (have not seen a gym in 20 years, but I am very, very active).... so I must be okay to a degree ...... and in the same note ...... I see many ladies of my age and older who are realy quite strikingly lovely ladies (I do work with several I can think of immediately / some single / some with families{one with 5 kids at home}) ..... ladies who constantly turn the mens heads, long before they would even glance to someone younger. I have seen ladies in their late 40s and early 50s who could pass as being in their late twenties /early 30s ... who have not had any surgical modifications or enhancements and who just work hard and live well. No special diets or excersize to fend off gravity and time. They could easily (and a couple have) attract and keep a much younger man. I see no problem with that and I have not seen (or at least noticed) anyone who did have a problem with it.
I have been out with a lovely lady who is considerably younger than me, and had men make comments about what a wonderful/lovely/whatever date I had, but if I was closer to their age I know the same people would make the same complimentary remarks.....and since I am just comfortable financially, and most of these ladies are at least as comfortable and some quite wealthy .... I don't believe anyone percieves it as being after my money (or lack of). I just live well. I stay active. I love life and truly enjoy people and the diversities of each. I am very outgoing and genuinely care. I dress well (have to for work) and I smile all the time and at most everyone. I see the good in people and life and I enjoy sharing myself with others.
So . as I said earlier .... the age is just a number.......everything else counts much more. | |
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