| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/16/2007 12:17:54 PM | ...Oh the kind where he is king of the castle and I am his scullery maid. Someone I can serve and make sure his every need is taken care of.....that would give me the greatest satisfaction, that is what I want.
Merry Christmas and to all a good night.
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/16/2007 12:47:21 PM | Buy the castle and invite me to be the King and let's see what happens........
This is Christmas is it not??????? Images of sugar plums, and castles with maids galore.....lmao......  
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/16/2007 12:51:59 PM | Maggie and Mae: Ya'll really do lead fantasy lives! I KNOW neither of you could be the scullery maid. Now the Queens of the Torture Chamber???? Yep. I could see that relationship! LOL J/K.....
OT: What kind of relationship am I seeking? Just this second having a sugar daddy or even a pool boy would be good. 
However: maybe one where we both do things together that we like and not get bent out of shape if we want to do things seperately. One of honesty and respect, quiet times, boisterous times too. And one involving lots of physical activity too.
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Posted: 12/16/2007 2:06:05 PM | A relationship of comfort with someone, like you know you belong together. At this stage in life, we'd both have our separate interests and support each other in our pursuits. We'd do a little travelling and exploring. We'd be fine in each other's company or when we're apart. Neither of us would 'own' the other. We would be able to laugh at the things life could throw at us, and also be of great support to each other when bad things happen. At the end of the day we'd watch Seinfeld reruns and eat popcorn and know we were still crazy in love and then we'd go to bed and make mad passionate love!
Too much to hope for??? I think not!
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/16/2007 3:59:04 PM | This is Christmas is it not??????? Images of sugar plums, and castles with maids galore.....lmao......
.. I bet you invision all of them running around in their little french maid uniforms waiting on you hand and foot.
Oh yeah..Sire come be my King... I will await your arrival with *cough cough* bated breathe...*smiles*
...maeflowers
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/16/2007 4:03:49 PM |
Maggie and Mae: Ya'll really do lead fantasy lives! I KNOW neither of you could be the scullery maid. Now the Queens of the Torture Chamber???? Yep. I could see that relationship! LOL J/K.....
Shhhhhhhhhh, not so loud. We were saving that for a surprise. Now where's that whip and I have to borrow some duct tape.  | |
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/17/2007 9:03:04 AM | Now......if you would lose the "cough", "bated breath", "whips" and "duct tape"..........concentrate much more on the "castle" and uniforms (or lack of), we might have something in the works (as he hears the "Sound of Music" off in the distance).....
OT........I am seeking someone that can eliminate the many down to the one, or in my case, the none that can become one........
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/17/2007 10:25:59 AM | i know some very nice people who are polyamourous and some that were once polyamorous. you say you appreciate not being judged, yet you also say: "We are also, as a rule, more compassionate and passionate about our partners' feelings." thus, yuo have made a judgement about others or at least what you observed in your life, led to your conclusion. what i observed has not been the same. if anything, the polyamorous people have had as many disappointments. you also mention a "primary" partner and living alone--that makes others secondary. i have observed that unless the secondary partner also has a primary, the same old same old feelings will emerge once the "falling" aspect of love starts to settle.
of the people i mentioned above who i know and have talked with extensively and who often came to me for support just as any monogamous person would do, one did live together in a group with the others. this was a long time ago, when the "movement" was not all that common. all were exceptionally intelligent in this particular home. thus, it was sometimes hard to get under the cognitive and even into the feelings. there was a dominant female therapist who was pretty much the matriarch of the household and everyone got to be with whomever they mutually agreed and how they agreed --EXCEPT of course "her" primary partner. she demanded a lot of him, including monogamy, and he was a good thirty years younger and did what she said. there was also an agreement amongst eveyone not to go outside the group, in light of venereal disease, etc. then there was this one very tiny man who was far from good looking and he had no primary partner, despite his wondeful personality. i could just feel his pain at times. whether it would be less or more elsewhere, who knows.
of the others i know, there has always been one espousing and the other going along for it, so as not to lose the "primary" mate. these are not the same people i have met who just agree to be sexual with everyone. these are people who are attempting long term polyamory "relationships". of the few who seem okay for long duration (there are several active groups in this area), they are also "living alone" individually and pretty much "falling" in love and having sexual relationships with more than one partner--more like good friends with good sexual benefits and happy with that.
so, i've seen both supposedly monagmous and polyamorous people "falling" and having more than one mate. i've seen that living together situations are way more complicated and kind of get into more of the "landing" than the "falling". but i have not seen any more compassion or passion, comparing polyamorous to monogamous (non cheating) friends---all of whom choose to live alone. i therefore have concluded based upon my life experiences that it is the "living together under one roof" aspect where typically the falling wears off and the rest of the relationship is challenged. when people start lving together for any length of time, one may continue to "love" the other, but start to miss the feeling of the "fall". thus, there lies the trick--to keep the live-n relationship both exciting and without the partners allowing routine and responsibilities to interfere rather than secure the original attraction.
i also do know that one of the people who iis bi-sexual finds it the only way for her to deal with that, whereas another good bisexual friend of mine, just widened her scope and searched fior the one man "or" woman to be with for a long duration and of course, hopefully forever and monogamous.
so perhaps you would mot mind sharing whether you've experiened disappointments as well as successes in this aspect, as i find any choice of any of my friends to all have their both happy and sad moments. you appear happy, but what about those you have met along the way and if not as happy as you espouse, why would that be any different than a jilted person from any other relationship? except, maybe having someone else around to lessen the pain, should the jilted one decide to remain in the polyamorous way.
as for me, i want to go for the full range of emotions and to keep my current relationship fresh in the passion dept. but i also want to experience more of the domestic parts that you do not like. i find one person to be a full time job! i do get into people's feelings, as well as my own and with all the rest of life, there is no way i could handle triangles, let alone hexagons. just connecting two dots has so many experiences along the straight and narrow path to process. how we deal with health issues, how we deal with the demands and needs of other platonic friends, how we contribute to social and politcal arenas, et al. this also includes the two different exhausting nights we both either had to wake up in one instance and not sleep in the other, getting my youngest teen out of trouble. my man never wanted kids, but there he was by my side and that did not end the relationship, but if anything made it sronger. there are many other incidents like this on both ends, where we have been there for each other. then there is how we just find time at our ages to sit and relax.
right now, with my adopted kids at such a late age and only being into our relationship for less than two years with all it's ups and downs and my man being an extreme introvert and needing lots of quiet and down time, we live separately and just let our relationship evolve--taking turns at each others houses for about one third the week, my dealing with the medical aspects of my disablity and my kids and my house renovation, him working and doing all his stuff, talking every night on the phone and supporting each other or just touching base and both doing all the activities we both enjoy or "just chilling".
when the kids are not here or at their adoptive dad's or in the past, camp, for any duration--our relationship has much more time and it's a lot nicer because it is more flexible.
so, i would like to see my growing old with one person and it takes a lot of time and a lot of energy on my part and his. w/o kids it would be a lot easier and i do envision the two rocking chairs that we sit on and look out on the creek in the morning with our coffee, getting a bit more use. i am not blind to the problems with a monogamous marriage or any other marriage. if you are a loner, then i supposed either is fine. but i have seen feelings get way hurt in all arrangements. i just think when people are not living together, then it is a lot less complex. but then again, you don't get to snuggle up every night and that is one thing all else being equal that i do find a great degree of comfort doing. i pretty much know every curve, every angle, all the smells of this one person. repeated contact just seems to imprint one another onto each other's being and senses. it feels familiar and safe and i get to count on it. for me, this is a turn on in that i can allow myself to trust and be who i am with somoene who continues to know me and accept all my imperfections as they peek forth. i suppose, having had marraige in the past fail me, it is a tremendous risk to put all my eggs in one basket. but i only have so many human resources within me to allow myself to be delved into and likewise do the delving with just one other person. so, i guess to date, i have been a serial monogamist and i do believe i had time to learn from my past and time in between relationships to learn about who i am in my present.
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/17/2007 12:32:00 PM | Gee It's hard to find just one woman willing to put up with my crap let alone 2 or 3.
Besides they might someday gang up on me, talk about trouble with a capital T | |
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/17/2007 2:30:38 PM | Maeflowers:
...Oh the kind where he is king of the castle and I am his scullery maid. Someone I can serve and make sure his every need is taken care of.....that would give me the greatest satisfaction, that is what I want.
...if it is his castle, let him clean it. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 3:28:15 PM | An Open, Honest, Respectable, Loving one . .
Most say that they want a 50 / 50 type . .
I'm looking for something more substantial . . More like . .
. . 100 / 100 . . !!!
- With all the duties, Chores and Responsibliities that go along with it . . !! -
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/17/2007 7:53:52 PM |
Now......if you would lose the "cough", "bated breath", "whips" and "duct tape"..........concentrate much more on the "castle" and uniforms (or lack of), we might have something in the works (as he hears the "Sound of Music" off in the distance)
...Hey this is my fantasy relationship, I need the props.....besides if it gets too painful, I have ways of making it feel better haha
...maeflowers | |
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/17/2007 8:21:02 PM | I almost feel stupid and adolescent stating that I want a boy friend, but it's true. I've been married before and although it was a good marriage, I'm not looking for a repeat of it any time soon. I have a career, I have family and friends but what I'm missing these days is intimacy and fun with just one special someone. BUT.... I don't need to share a bank account and a mail box with him too. I don't need to see him every single night either. I like having my own space, and I think he should have his.
That doesn't mean I don't want monogamy. I would definitely prefer that. My ideal relationship would be to have a man in my life that I can plan and do things with, spend weekends or just a Saturday night with, share intimacies and my bed with...and on a steady, consistent basis.
It isn't that I'm not enjoying dating and meeting different guys. I AM. It does get tiresome though. Sometimes I really want to say let's stay in and rent a movie, but you can't when you're dating someone new all the time, or just ocassionally.
I remember how great it was when I was younger and had a steady boyfriend. You get the chance to know how he moves on the dance floor, what movies he likes, what books he reads, his musical tastes, and you get to know his body and what he enjoys sexually. You always have a date for Saturday night. You don't have to always cook him dinner, pay the bills, clean his bathtub or darn his socks. :-) I'd like to be a part of a "couple" without the added pressures that living together brings.
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/26/2007 8:42:51 AM | I want a relationship where the guy I'm with takes me for who I am and not for what I can do for him. No man will ever change me, so there will be no way that they will ever even try. I'm a very independant woman and have my own life. I'm willing to share that life with the right man but he has to understand that my family will always be #1. Family is very important to me.
I want someone who is honest and truthful, can deal with a strong woman, won't get upset if I'm having a bad day and just want to be alone. Someone who can tell me they love me and not be phoney about it. I give 100% to a relationship and I want that in return. I don't want much but it's alot to me. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2007 9:00:38 AM | I've been offered this type of relationship you describe (three times now) and must tell you that I'm beginning to get a little concerned about 'what' in my profile might lead people to believe I would be remotely interested.
I pass no judgement on you or the folks I referred to, but can honeslty say that it doesn't appeal to me in the least. Primarily because I don't like to share and I tend to lean a bit on the jealous side. He's MINE...all mine and you can't have him.
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Posted: 12/26/2007 2:27:06 PM | First and foremost, I have to say thank you for making me take the time to actually think about what it is I am looking for this time around.
I know what I am not looking for; I am not looking to be a “mother” to my partner, I do not want to be the one in charge of making decisions for the betterment of the two of us. I do not want to be the driving force that propels us forward, just the back up engine when he fails or slows or he gets bogged down in the muck and mire.
I would like the ability to take my quiet moments and not have my partner feel insecure because I am thinking or plotting or even creating. When I ask a question, I would like my partner to be able to give me an answer or at least his view without that condescending look or pat on the hand. Nothing fires my fury faster than being treated like an uneducated moron. And for the love of the gods, never tell me it is for my own good and to simply accept things as they are.
I look for intellect, not schooling, but intellect, the ability to carry on a conversation and give thought provoking input. And for gods’ sakes, make me laugh even in the bedroom. Sex should be fun not a chore.
I have always viewed myself as an Alpha female, that being one who knows her position in the pack is at the Alpha Males shoulder. Men, by genetics and upbringing were taught to enter the fray first to protect and shelter. I did not burn my bra in the 70s, I simply found a better fitting one that offered more support. While others may rant and rave I can be found with my nose in a book finding a way to bring down the realm through flaws, not ruining my vocal cords or expending energy in anger (or whining).
I surmise I want the impossible. A strong individual with a mind and will of his own that respects the same virtues in me.
Ye gads, I am a wordy little shyte. | |
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/27/2007 3:26:29 AM | i'm looking for a real down-to-earth honest person. someone who appreciates me and fusses over me. i want romance. i want someone who wants to grow old with me.
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| What kind of relationship are you seeking?
Posted: 12/27/2007 3:33:38 AM |
the kind where he is king of the castle and I am his scullery maid
That sounds kinky, Mae.
Is there any chain mail or swords involved?
You need help....
Like, maybe a companion scullery maid! | |
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Posted: 12/27/2007 4:55:12 AM | a relationship where he does whatever i want him to do whenever i want him to. did i mention robert redford at age 45? ok ok....i'll wake up now. dang.
lots of guys are intimidated by a woman who is a therapist. READ my lips.... i CAN NOT read your mind! (nor do i want to) i'm not a counselor 24/7, and i don't work when i'm not at the office. so i prefer a relationship that begins with lighthearted activities and congruent emotional investment. 8 phone calls, IM's or texts in one day after the 1st date is NOT what i have in mind. deepening the relationship will happened if it's a mutual thing. so....casual to serious works for me even if its not robert. oh, yeah, i don't always have to have my way. mostly. sorta. sometimes. | |
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