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Posted: 5/30/2006 11:06:39 PM | Just chirpin in here since I'm pretty new at this site...
I'm a single dad. I have 2 little ones. My oldest is almost 2 and my youngest is 3 months. My story is a long one and not particularly pleasant for me since I'm still wrapping up the loose ends to my divorce. We'll suffice it to say, Ross from Friends and I have something in common and it's not Rachel, multiple divorces, or Paleontology. I've only been divorced the one time, thank you.
At any rate, my babies are what I live for. I currently don't get them as much as I want to, but that should change in the coming months.  I should be getting 50% custody coming up soon.
I probably haven't been a single dad long enough to recognize the labor it entails or the hardship that comes from being a single parent and trying to sustain everyone, but I'll be working that out over the coming years. What I can say is that I would give anything to have my babies with me 24/7 and I'm disappointed that my ex and I didn't work out because I wanted to give my kids a good family and good parental relationship.
Having gone through my divorce, I think I've come to a new understanding of single parents, especially single dads, and believe I have a good understanding of why dead-beat dads exist. It's nice to know that there are other people out there who are willing to make a lot of sacrifices in order to do what's right for the kids.
It's too bad too many people get sucked into that dead-beat mode.
On the lighter note, I fully agree with Vinny1981 that men's rooms need diaper stations and to InteractiveJohn, keep your head up, get a good lawyer, and try to show it's in your son's best interests to stay where he is if that's the way you want it. I just went through that whole mess and finally am getting my ex to move back to the Bay Area so we can raise the kids together, separate though it may be.
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Posted: 6/4/2006 6:16:26 PM | | well, I'm here showing my hand: love being a parent and have no one else to help - so suck it up super mommy's! | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 3:34:05 PM | | Hey ghostman916...you're right...it's not quite as bias against father's as it was...but it's still disgustingly bad. I will spare everyone my story...but it took everything and them some to get my 5 year old daughter back. Anyone around Regina Saskatchewan who needs help...don't hesitate to ask. We have learnt to do it ourselves here...a much more effective solution to the insanity brought on by hiring your average family law lawyer. Hey I'm not bitter...just well educated now...lol. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2006 8:48:38 PM | | I'm a single dad too. I only have my one little boy but I love it | |
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Posted: 6/30/2006 8:57:44 PM | | well it would be nice to show up there i have been a single dad for 4 years you are very pretty at that | |
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Posted: 6/30/2006 9:20:01 PM | infernoflame
How old is your little boy?...mine is 3months old. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2006 11:27:38 PM | | Single dad - 8 and 5 year old girls. They're my world. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2006 1:00:13 AM | | Hello all, I am single dad of 52 yrs with full custody of a wonderful son for the last 11 yrs of his life, unfortunately I had to take him away from his mother who was going down the wrong trail with my son in tow. I could not sit by and watch that happen. It has not been easy at times, but when you sacrifice your own personal needs and put your son or daughter first in all things, the rewards are priceless. They were for me anyways. All of the sleep overs, camping out in the back yard, and letting them cook their breakfast over an open flame. Not to forget all of the cookies I baked for school functions, was truly the best time in my life and I will cherish those memories always. Having to be the mom and dad wasn't easy, since my son's mother hasn't been there for him, it was up to me to be both. Which for me meant my social life had to be put on the shelf for 11 yrs, and no dating at all. I'm not sure if I did the right thing or not, but it felt like it was. Any feed back would be welcomed. My hats off to all the single dads out there, your the greatest. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2006 1:05:42 AM | guys stand up and give yourselves a huge pat on the back, it must be so much harder to be a single dad, im a single mum for 7 yrs now and absolutely luv it but we are treated differently than you guys. i for one would not treat anyone any different just cos youre a guy, i personally think its more applausable and admirable.... keep ur chin up and be very, very proud!!  | |
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Posted: 7/1/2006 12:48:21 PM | i am a father of 2 beautiful boys that mean the world to me. i can honestly say with all my heart " I LOVE BEING A DAD ". that feeling is right up there with being in love. i get my kids half the time and more when i can. i gladly give up my weekends to cause the ex works. i get my kids tue,wed,thur,fri,and almost every weekend. lets keep it real single dads cause we do rock | |
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Posted: 7/1/2006 1:05:15 PM | sewluvlee
I agree with you i am a single mom (for now) of one little boy hes 3months old and is very cranky and never wants to sleep when i want to, and when im not tired he sleeps until i go to bed or lay down! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2006 1:19:46 PM | | Just a guess, but I find most people over 30 on here are single parents...like myself. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2006 6:14:00 PM | hi kaylees dad..
Can see you get on great with your daughter..
What happened to your ex?
Didn't she connect with kaylee like you did?
Can see you talk to your kid.. do the same with mine..
Women do tend to think its just men who leave kids..
and that men must be great people if they look after their kids..
but always secretly think you need help extra and "poor kid" without a mother..
I personally think guys can manage being single parent slightly better as most have had a job and had responsibilites outside of a family..
We might not be so into dollies and cleaning house keeping etc so our house is more often a pit.. but nothing a few hours with a cleaner or some family help wont fix..
I guess my daughter is going to be more tom boyish.. but heh whats wrong with liking bugs and stuff?  | |
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Posted: 7/1/2006 6:24:01 PM | Hey whipple,
did you ever hear what happened to the tank guy?
Sept 11 was the worst of mankind but that guy..
well I respect what he did..
I'm sure his action stopped more people getting killed.. and made China's leaders think twice.
Who would think that two bags of shopping could halt a convoy of tanks in its tracks..
Think that footage also inspired the fall of USSR by making people believe in people power again.
do you have that photo? wouldn't mind a copy. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2006 6:26:53 PM | erotic_loki
Just a question but whats that have to do with "Single Dads" | |
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Posted: 7/1/2006 7:48:53 PM |  single dad here, first post in the "forums". i have a 4 year old daughter who is with me monday morning through thursday evening. i'm then off to work friday to sunday from 6am to around 10 pm, so i do know what you guys are talking about...sometimes it does get hard working, cleaning (never ends), cooking and most of all playing. but, i do love every minute of it... to any single parent really, its the toughest "job" ive ever had. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2006 8:28:56 PM | Hey all!!
Another single dad here, He just turned 2 almost a month ago, there is alot more single fathers out there then I heard about, mind you I tend to hang out with the single mom crowd, I think any man that doesnt take part in the lives of their children, Isn't really man at all, I love being a father to my little guy ,,, and wouldnt trade it for the world, tough but good times.
CONGRATZ AND WAY TO GO OTHER DADS 
PeaCe
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Posted: 7/1/2006 8:55:23 PM | | My kids are grown...my baby is 21! I'd take a single Dad with kids under ten in a heartbeat! I miss being the big mouthed Mom in the bleachers! ~laffs~ | |
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Posted: 7/2/2006 7:20:36 PM | Hi all
Just want to send my regards to all the single dads out there. I am one myself, just went through the court stuff this year. his mother is not in his life anymore. but at the same time it probably for the best. she got back into the wrong crowd and picked up habits that I could not deal with considering that 4 years before I was there to get her life on track, and she decided to go back. but enough of my ramblings. I could write a book( i am actually thinking about it) and I am sure most of you single dads out there can as well. I would like to say also that for all you that have pulled it off and have worked so hard at doing everything for your children....My hats off to you all, your an inspiration to me in these hard times. I am a new member to POF, and because of your stories, it helps me deal with life, by moving foward. Keep on pressing on!!! javascript:smilie('')
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Posted: 7/2/2006 11:31:12 PM | | ALL THESE SINGLE FATHERS!!!! Any in IL, near Chicago??? | |
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Posted: 7/2/2006 11:33:43 PM | How come "SOME" women talk MORE to or answer a man more than they do a woman's question....is it because they are "trying" to catch the single dads eye?...or maybe thinking he will all of sudden just jump to her, because she's said some nice words here N there?....... | |
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Posted: 7/2/2006 11:44:33 PM | | BW - I'd have to say there is a hell of alot of that going on with the guys, don't know so much about the ladies though. For instance, I posted 2 threads, basically same quesiton, roles reversed, when it was the single dads time to answer, i hardly got any feedback. I know there are alot of single dads here, so perhaps if i wore a skirt they would have been happier to chat? :-) | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 12:01:52 AM | lurvaboy (hey hunnybee)
Maybe so lol but i think men now days are a little easier to please and SOME men do not demand or want alot from somebody and some men will accept someone for who they are, instead of how SOME women who will judge womenNmen from their past or how they live their life.
(PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THIS IN AN BITTER WAY). | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 3:32:15 AM | Another english single dad here, have been for 7 years. son now 12 daughter now 15.
Big thanks for my mum, without whom I do not know how I would have coped. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 6:19:04 AM | Hi,
I am a Single Dad, have been since 1994 when my ex - Wife decided to have an affair and leave them with me on Boxing Day! My Son is now 18 and my Daughter is 15. They see there Mom (not often though), well my Daughter does more so than my Son. The break up it me hard but I went from hate to contentment over the years! Now I keep civil for the sake of peace but I will never forgive even if I have to try and forget! She left him and found someone else and re-married. I haven't been able to find someone just yet but I try to no avail! I want to be able to trust again but I couldn't have any more kids again. I think my time as come to think of me now I am 40!
Me and the kids have been through a lot of bad stuff, too personal to go into, but we are still standing! We take every day as it comes! I have found that Single Dads don't get the support or concern as Single Moms do because we are men and we are supposed to cope! Let me say THAT'S NOT TRUE! Anyway respect to all Single Dad's and "Fathers For Justice", keep getting your message across, whatever it takes! | |
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