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Posted: 7/7/2006 2:27:54 PM | Nice to know there are a lot of guys out there like me. I have a 4 year old and a 14 year old full time with "minimal" help from there mother. But I would not give it up for the world. They are a joy and I know they appreciate the fact that I am there for them. We have a pretty good life and a nice decent home, but I will admit there is almost zero time for dating...especially with a 4-year old. And it is difficult (to say the least) to fiond a woman able to accept a secondary role to my kids...we won't even go there  Again, for nearly two years now it has been just us three so I hardly even think about how difficult a job it is to be a single dad. But believe me, I have a much better understanding of what woman have gone throught for years and years  So my  goes out to the Dads that do the right thing...whether as a single parent or as the non-custodial parent. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 3:58:31 PM | well im a single mum to 3 kids also,tho they are growing up ppl think it gets easier,well a put my 2 hands together for u,u are doing a gr8 job as its not a easy job,plus holding down another 1 your 1 of the best guys around,and im sure there are more like u,keep up the gd work im sure u will get rewarded for being a great dad,good luck in life,liz xx | |
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Posted: 7/10/2006 6:04:08 PM | I Applaud you for taking the role of being a DAD to your children, from where I come from not many men here take that role a responsibility, many children have to grow up without Dads or fathers. My son is growing uo with out his dad and his dad wants nothing to do with him, and I feel sorry for my son, but then again it takes a REAL WOMAN like me to guide my son into the real world alone, it was very difficult at first on my own but then I began to realise that I don't need his dad to move forward, because I am a strong woman and a heck to a great mom to my son, I love my son and there's no way his dad is gonna affect this by not being there, it's his loss not mine, he thought I wouldn't make it without him. But then again I went to school completed Preparation for technology and Civil/Cad Technology with a few courses short but don't worry I will complete them, right now I am working full time as a consultant in my home town. When my term is up I will be moving forward to get further educating and get more jobs headed my way. Thumbs down to the men who do not take the role of being fathers and thumbs up to the dads who do......Muriel | |
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Posted: 7/10/2006 6:41:09 PM | | Damn I am wishing right now that I lived in tulsa, cause son your a hottie and your little princess is so cute. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2006 7:37:17 PM | single dad of 3 beautiful girls, two older ones live with one, raising 8yr old on my own since birth (hers not mine) 
hard to meet woman who want to enetertain the idea of being in a ready made family, especially if they do not already have thier own children | |
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Posted: 7/10/2006 9:58:23 PM | Ok better put my hand in the air too. I've got two that live with me, didn't plan it that way it just happened. Got a question for ya all that got dumped, "What kind of woman puts a quick fix and another man before her children?" This is what my Attorney (a woman by the way) asked me after the Ex filed for divorce. My answer, "One not worthy of calling herself a mother". "And one not worth keeping", was the Attornery's reply. The best advice I can give is to make sure you see your kids no matter what it takes, be nice to all involved no matter what it takes, and the most important thing KEEP YOUR WORD TO YOUR KIDS. They are the ones who matter the most and need the support in the end.
Thanks, An Old Fool in Idaho | |
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Posted: 7/11/2006 3:31:12 AM | | i'm a single dad to...three kids..it is hard work looking after them..but hey we can do it,were not fools ...some women just think we are...i would rather struggle than be with a cheating partner..and i'm happier now than i've been in the last couple of years...so all you ladies out there ..put your hands together and give us a round of | |
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Posted: 7/11/2006 1:21:45 PM | I've been a single dad for 14 years.....My son is now 16 and I wouldnt trade it for anything
Its not easy but definately worth it. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 8:53:34 PM | | its hard for a single dad nowadays i dated a woman and she said my kids were baggage and shes got 3!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! needless to say shes history so where you single women at that likes a man that stays connected to their children? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 9:25:12 PM | stephenl
we are HERE just have get through all the bitter/selfish women before you find us but do not give up hope! | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 1:08:27 PM | hi i am a singe dad my son is 10 we do good to gether but like to have a hole famly my son would like to have brothers and sisters to grow up with and me to the house is to boring it needs life in it and us to we are happy but somthig is mising is it you  | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 5:19:44 PM | | that is really a very lovely picture of your daughter | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 6:13:17 PM | As a single father myself I have discovered how biased the system is against men. I had a rough divorce but was awarded full custody only because my ex refused to obey court oders and still doesn't to this day. It didn't matter how much evidence I had against her I was always made out to be the bad guy.
Also as a single father I find it very difficult to start over. Being out of the dating scene for so long I find it hard finding the right person for me and my family after all my kids come first. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 6:36:47 PM | I know NOT all women do this but..................
Why do women think ALL men are like their ex's and why even bother haveing a child by a man, if after things dont work out your just going to trash him? now do not get me wrong i know NOT all women do this, but it is really sad/heartbroken how SINGLE DADS get treated. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 3:44:31 AM | To all of you that have posted: After reading this thread I would like to say that ALL single Parents, whether it be Mums or Dads are doing a fantastic job. We all have the same issues to deal with, working (I have 3 jobs), dating - SOME men think that our kids are baggage too and that we are looking for a father for our kids, - stereotypes of single mums are just as bad as that of dads.
I am in the UK and instead of moaning about how there is nothing for single parents why not do something about it?
In 2004 I founded a support group called TWO HANDS PLUS and it is a lone parent support and social network for MUMS and SINGLE DADS (I have about 5 dads to 40 mums which is good considering 1 out of 10 lone parents are men in the UK).
I set up the whole thing on my own and we go on trips, have support meetings, nights out etc etc. take a look at the website (I also did myself) twohandsplus (co and uk).
It hasn't been easy (I sometimes work until 4/5am) but it is worth it to help others and bring single parents together - NOT IN A DATING SENCE though.
Basically we are all BOTHPARENTS as one person. I think we should all be sticking more together than ****ing about the other sex. whether you are a woman a man, black or which, sane or insane (I have manic depression lol) we are all doing what is best for our kids and that is something we should all be very proud of!!! I can see you all are but i really hate it when it's - the problem with women is or the problem with men is.... we are all individuals!
Each with our own foibles but all parents. WELL DONE - maybe you could set up a support group for your area and CHANGE the systems, fight for changing units, better court procedures etc etc. I am. ONE PERSON CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE! | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 10:30:46 AM | | Well guess I'll come out of the closet for ya. Im a single dad of 2..... | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 9:15:58 PM | | To be a single dad, you have to have custody of your children....you put yours up for adoption STEPHENL...message # 109 | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 10:44:05 PM | | Yeah, I'm single with a great little girl. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 10:44:44 PM | | I shall raise my hand for that one, thumbs up for all those buds out there that know my "bumps in tha road" | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 9:56:09 PM | I may not have custody of my four sons but I'll be damned if that makes me any less of a person or breaks my bond with them in any way. I love my sons with all my heart and the fact of the matter is no matter how hard I try or what evidence I can show the court I am male. That is one huge strike against me.
I know it is a bit off topic here but hear me out..... In almost every case the mother is automatically granted interim custody except in rare cases where there is proven danger to the child in a home the mother controls that the law may need to investigate to prove this is the case.
Once matters have been brought to court for custody (as long as the mother wants the child/children ) she is granted that custody regardless of the fathers request for sole custody unless there is a proven danger to the child as pointed out earlier.
This is the fiasco we call family justice and it is just another name for doing what was done for years because of outdated family roles in society. Mom is not the housewife who stays home being the typical 50's model of June Cleaver and men are not the sole bread winnerswho have no time at home because work is long and they keep a roof over the heads of their families.
My rant is almost over..... We are living in the 21st century and while our laws are ancient and rediculous in many ways we still seem to accept that its ok the way families are split up. I am not ok with my own personal agreement, because I do not have a choice of them living with me for any length of time untill such time they can choose on their own. When that day comes I will welcome them to my ..... our home.
I am a single dad and damned proud to be a dad to them boys ... custody or not.
P.S. You don't have to have the kids living with you to be passed up for a date "because you have baggage". Many times I have heard it too' Kinda looking to meet someone who doesn't have kids " or " wow 4 huh?" and that is usually the last I hear from them.
But its all good, I take pride in my kids and if someone is not willing to accept I have a responsibility to someone else in my life then I really don't need to be with that person.
Have a great day and huge props to the single dads.... all of you. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 7:39:11 AM | Personally I think the dads who are raising thier kids are amazing
Most men run and hide. As for dating well you may not get the model young thing on your arm but you will find someone with a huge heart who can love you both.
For me I don't want to be someone elses childrens mom but it doesnt mean I wont love them.I think, just the same as men, some women are scared to get close to the kids incase it doesn't work out. If I'm dating someone I don't let them meet my kids for a long time only because I am scared they will get hurt if we don't work out. I don't want to meet the persons kids right away either because of me getting to close to them. My ex is a great father and I would never let someone else take over that role from him. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 11:35:04 AM | I would love to meet a single dad I have 2 girls anyone on here from clinton twp Michigan or in the area
Jeri | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 7:14:29 PM | Was hoping to find some other single fathers for a group outing sort of support group type of thing.
I have a 9 year old and have had custody since he was 18 mo old.
I live in omaha
Withers | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 6:46:31 PM | Single Father's Rock!! They are more devoted to "people" than most of the single men...(I said most, and that is what I myself have learned through experience).
Thumbs up to ya dad's! But,...because this seems to be a HUGE problem for me in dating in general. I have adopted a little boy. Now, he is the best thing that has ever come into my life. I was divorced when I adopted him, and find that a lot of men run when they find that out. I don't get it. I now know what the single "parents" go through when trying to find someone you click with and date. Are they just assuming that I am looking for a father for him? Because I can assure you I am not. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 7:07:16 PM | "Single Father's Rock!! They are more devoted to "people"
I will agree on that lol i have notice that aswell. | |
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