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bobby7
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Joined: 3/22/2006
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/14/2006 12:34:13 PM | Does wearing Cowboy boots count, Tiny Dancer?
I think I could find some with 3 or 4 inch heels... | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/14/2006 1:52:05 PM | | I got some old heels around here somewhere bob, want em? | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/14/2006 1:56:12 PM | | Cowboy boots is always good Bobby ... but I'm a boot-scooter from way back.... | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/14/2006 5:03:32 PM | I copied this from an advice on dating article. How much truth do we read into the article. That is for everyone to decide. This is my first post on the forum.
"I've got a great personality and a heart of gold", you say. That's great, except that you live in a world in which people judge you initially by superficial things like the beauty of your face, the slimness of your body, the clothes you wear, the car you drive, and the job you hold.
So if people find your exterior to be unattractive, you've got a tough road ahead of you. For example, if you're a 3 on a scale of 10 in terms of initial attractiveness to the opposite sex, don't expect to attract a 9 or 10. If you're a woman, forget about Tom Selleck or a millionaire. If you're a man, forget about meeting a Playboy bunny. Settle for someone nice who finds you attractive.
"Does that mean I have to lower my standards?"
Sadly the answer is yes. I know it's hard to give up fantasies of Prince Charming or the beauty queen. Just remember that it's even harder to go through life without romantic love
Why not choose a man who is younger, shorter, or less prosperous? For years women have been complaining about how superficial men are. They chastise men for overlooking inner beauty, intimacy, and communication. Perhaps single women need to look at their own superficial prejudices regarding age, height, and money.
Single men have their own set of unrealistic expectations. They tend to prefer young, slim, pretty women. These women are at a tremendous premium. They have men standing in line for them. Unless you're rich and handsome, what are the chances that you'll attract one of these beauties? | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/14/2006 6:13:40 PM | Well, now I'm confused. Was the question "are you picky" or "would you date a bald man"?
Seems like you mention dating a bald guy and men get out their ammunition and try to back us into a corner with, "Yeah, and you think you're so perfect?" Goodness.
All I have to say about this is - Yul Brynner, 1960, The Magnificent Seven, and yummy, yummy, yummy. Be still my heart. 
Or - Smart, funny, compassionate bald guy - YES
Dumb, lying, repusive bald guy - NO
Yeah, it's pretty much that simple. | |
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fuzzle
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Joined: 4/27/2006
Msg: 57 | |
| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/15/2006 3:38:40 PM |
I'm not into dating just for the sake of dating....there has to be some mutual connection or interests. If that makes me too picky.....well......
Ditto.... my thoughts exactly!!!  | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/15/2006 4:15:07 PM | Taller than me... no problem
Older than me... no problem
Chubbier than me... no problem
Poorer than me... no problem
More kids than me... no problem
Balder than me... we got a problem
(just kidding... Full head of hair here... And Sinead O'connor... Very sexy!!!)
Really though...
Don't take baths???
Owe IRS 7 figures???
Prison term pending???
EX-Husbands named Mike Tyson???
WE GOT A PROBLEM.  | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/15/2006 4:18:40 PM | | loved westernport's post- I am picky now in character & morals- I don't want to engage in anyone' else's games, dramas & dysfunctions- and THAT is a good thing- maybe I am dating "with marriage in mind" cuz I've already dated just for the hell of it! | |
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Posted: 9/15/2006 6:43:35 PM | Am I too picky? yes, I am. I am looking for a woman who will consider me, as more than a friend! I am trying to recapture the magic of a relationship in the past! I am hoping that a lady will not be totally turned off by my (recent) loss of hair in a weird pattern, and my (ongoing) loss of muscle and gain of fat! I am hoping for a lady that can appreciate my need to preserve some of the past by still riding my Harley, but also understand that another 1100 mile ride from Northeast PA to Atlanta, GA in one day might be more of a struggle! (Did it in 2004, did not enjoy it, but did it with a girlfriend of ten years ago, who needed someone to make the trip with her, and I couldn't let her do it alone).
I'll admit that I still want the ladies I knew twenty-some years ago....heck, I want myself twenty-some years ago back, too! But that is impossible, isn't it?
So....more than a friend, accept me as I am now, acknowledge, as I do, that "we ain't what we used to be", but....
I am not ready to be my own grandfather yet....please don't be my grandmother!
Are you out there somewhere? I don't think so....I've been looking for the last ten years, and you have not appeared yet, other than a fine lady a continent away, and I can't do that either.
Balding? that's me.
Under 6'? that's me.
Under 6 figures? That's me.
But, in my ego, I'm still 25, long hair, ready for anything or anybody, the rebel!
Funny how no one sees me that way anymore, but ME! | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/15/2006 7:21:42 PM | I agree with angelblondie, it''s hard enough finding someone on here with something that resemble morals. But I don't mind just dating or making friends. This really is too funny a guy thats heard every bald joke for years responding to this. My granddaughter had more hair than me when she was born, and I not going bald I'm just getting more head.
J. | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/15/2006 7:37:12 PM | I thought I was too picky, now I'm beginning to think I'm just not ready...
What's sadder than that, I've been divorced for 11 years and just got back into dating last Oct.! It's that or I just have not met the one for me. But I won't lead a person on just to have a relationship. It would not be fair to them or me. (as already mentioned) | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/15/2006 7:38:18 PM | People who look for reasons not to meet a potential partner are just scared and need some compassion.
People who feel superior to others because of what they call a flaw are to be pitied. Their closed mind has probably caused them to miss out on a lot of great experiences.
We all have our own ideas of what is attractive physically, and what characteristics we admire in a person. Our experiences and thinking affect what we view as standards and none of us are going to feel the same way (which is what makes this ole world interesting).
If you are on the receiving end of a pickee's over-pickiness, just shrug and move on. That person is just not ready for a relationship - it's not a reflection on you. | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/15/2006 10:22:40 PM | Am I being picky because I want someone who wears deoderant, who showers every day, clips his nose and ear hairs, and his nails, cleans up his messes in the bathroom, doesn't smell like ass, like he can't wipe good? Am I being picky because all he wants to do is have sex, watch T.V., and drink beer and/or smoke pot?
I almost got involved with someone just this week who has some of those bad qualities, then I decided that I would rather be alone then with a man who isn't what I want, which is kind, considerate, faithful, CLEAN, doesn't bullshit me and thinks it's funny, and is truthful. I really don't care so much about body types, as long as he isn't as fat as Jabba the Hut. I need to lose weight myself. I don't care about his hair, just no comb-overs please. I don't care how much money he makes or what car he drives. I've dated a few guys in the last 5 years that I met on-line, most of them seemed to be overly critical of me, picking on me, telling me what I should or shouldn't do, joking around TOO much, to the point of almost making me cry. Maybe that's why they've all been divorced. It's better to "tend your own garden" then accept qualities in the other person that you know will eventually drive you away. I would love to meet someone and have a loving, long-term relationship, but it hasn't been looks or money that turned me off, it was bad hygiene, or a crappy attitude, or acting superior then me. I've had children, I don't want another one. It's easier to be alone then to be with someone who makes you lonely. | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/16/2006 12:46:30 AM |
I'm not popular enough to be overly picky so I'd choose -3. Ooh, that's too bad. But in the spirit of open-mindedness, I guess I'll go on one date. You never know. Ya, you never know - a bald woman might fun. After all, it worked for Sinead O'Conner.
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/16/2006 3:34:59 AM |
Am I being picky because I want someone who wears deoderant, who showers every day, clips his nose and ear hairs, and his nails, cleans up his messes in the bathroom, doesn't smell like ass, like he can't wipe good? God Bless the lady who posted this- the best laugh I have had in eons! I think we may have both dated the same guy! LOL! | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/16/2006 3:38:10 AM |
I almost got involved with someone just this week who has some of those bad qualities, then I decided that I would rather be alone then with a man who isn't what I want, which is kind, considerate, faithful, CLEAN, doesn't bullshit me and thinks it's funny, and is truthful. I really don't care so much about body types, as long as he isn't as fat as Jabba the Hut. I need to lose weight myself. I don't care about his hair, just no comb-overs please. I don't care how much money he makes or what car he drives. I've dated a few guys in the last 5 years that I met on-line, most of them seemed to be overly critical of me, picking on me, telling me what I should or shouldn't do, joking around TOO much, to the point of almost making me cry. Maybe that's why they've all been divorced. It's better to "tend your own garden" then accept qualities in the other person that you know will eventually drive you away. I would love to meet someone and have a loving, long-term relationship, but it hasn't been looks or money that turned me off, it was bad hygiene, or a crappy attitude, or acting superior then me. I've had children, I don't want another one. It's easier to be alone then to be with someone who makes you lonely. Amen! I'm w/ you, sister! | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/16/2006 8:52:12 AM |
Bald can be pretty sexy on the right guy; short is never good
Since it appears I'll never go bald, I can't be that naturally bald sexy guy but, thinydancer, you've got me worrying about the other thing now!
What if I shrink (gasp!)? Would I have to buy some six-inch stiletto heel boots to look tall and re-gain my manly sex appeal? There must be a better way. Don’t those things require a garter belt and stockings? Hmmm.
Maybe bungee jumping would keep me tall and sexy.
It's hard to be a fish these days.
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/16/2006 10:56:50 AM | | Most people on here, I would have to assume ,have a whole life of activities outside of this and probably don't have the time to get to know everyone they might be interested in. I think we have to be picky to a certain degree, but realistic too. A couple of months ago I had one pic that I guess made me look much younger than I am. There were all these emails from men quite a bit younger etc, flattering, yes [ now I'm not saying that I'm against a younger man lol, these men were alot younger.] but when I honestly looked at it, I decided I did not want to make contact with them and be a disapointment to them. So I reset up the pic section. Honestly this has been a tricky thing to do, lol, I did not want to post the worst one either, I guess we'll live and learn and hopefully all have fun with this ... | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/17/2006 5:03:38 PM | | I've had to become "picky". After twice settling for less than I could have had and getting burned both times I have little choice. | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/25/2006 8:44:34 PM | Have to agree with 1itt1emac here.
With both of my previous marriages, I "settled" thinking that with time, all those niggly little problems that woke me in the middle of night would be solved as time went on. Was I ever wrong! Of course, there's always room for leeway and don't expect any man to have everything I'm looking for. However, the first time I got a mamas boy who pushed away from his mother but always went to her for just about everything anyway and the second time an alcoholic who hid his addiction so well, that I did not really notice it until we'd been married 1/2 year and I was pregnant with our daughter. Course it didn't help that I drank with him too (although not as much) while we were dating.
Our counselor told me that it was possible to hide something like alcohol addiction and pass it off as being "just a few beers to relax" not knowing that a few beers equaled about 12 beers. Despite losing his family (my daughter and I), having to go into rehab because he slugged his supervisor at work and coming in drunk to work as well, he has STILL NOT acknowledged his addiction. He was diagnosed last year with Hep C and a rare blood condition (not AIDS or anything he could pass to us.) I know Hep C is a communicable condition but both daughter and I are okay.
So while my profile looks terribly picky, I think after the eleven years of hell with my second husband and the three years of looking after a baby qualifies me to be a little more picky than I use to be, both for my and my daughters' sake. While I realize that I could be alone longer than some of you here, I'd rather be safe than sorry. | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/26/2006 6:21:42 AM | Being bald is not a "flaw", by the way. Its a genetic, male pattern baldness trait. My hair has thinned and I actually like it thinner. My hairline practically met my eyebrows at one point like some kind of monkey and now I have a nice, big, shiny forehead. Anyway, the idea of a "flaw" is about things, not people. Its got nothing to do with love or maybe I should say, everything to do with love because if you have love, those things cease to matter, if you dont have love, they matter a great deal. I have to say that the biggest mistake I have made in my life with women is involving myself with someone based on their looks ....sucker for a pretty face ... you never, EVER come to love someone because of their looks, its just their looks you love ...but when you love someone, you do come to love their looks because thats the person you love. Its funny to watch younger people here, or the older and naive ones, get all in a huff over looks, like watching people all driving off a cliff ....funny in a sad way after having been there, done that.  | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/26/2006 6:27:48 AM | Westernport, you seem to condemn people for the very standards that you also hold as well. I was married to a very beautiful woman the second time around, someone that literally stopped men in their tracks in the street, and our first year was great because, of course, I was so happy that I landed this prize. After our first year, as she alienated me from my friends, my family, and was in the process of making our family miserable due to her various character disorders, I COULDNT STAND THE SIGHT OF HER. SHE LOOKED UGLY TO ME. I wished and wished I met someone who was plain in looks but sincere and sweet and genuine in her heart and mind. I made a terrible mistake ...all over trying to land someone because of her "looks". I dont know how old you are, but let me tell you something: go for the plainer looks and the sincere woman.  | |
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| are u too picky?
Posted: 9/26/2006 10:50:06 AM | i know i am not too picky at least i dont thinks so ..i do think bald is terribly sexy especially with facial hair mmmmmmmmmmmm anyhow as long as a guy makes me want to respect him is a gentlemen yes we came to the conclusion there are still gentlemen out there jsut have to find one or have to get one to notice me .....must be tender yet strong passionate etc.......... you see the list isnt that long most relationships requirecompromise.....there are some thigns you just cant though.....in the meantim you just wait and live your life to the fullest...........happy fishin......... | |
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