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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/13/2006 8:52:28 PM |
Or if she chooses not to have the father in the kids life,
When paternity has been established, (the child belonging to another) you or your wife has no say in the biological Fathers rights, chances are , although he may pay child support, he will have rights in many decisions pertaining to the upbringing of his child, and if there is documented proof the child is not yours, its likely that you would not have to pay child support on a child that is not yours..... that is if you choose to end the marriage now.... but knowing this child is not yours, then agreeing to try to reconcile differences in the marriage, you are agreeing to accept partial responsibility for this child, if you then choose later on to end the marriage , you may very well pay child support on this one as well ! My advice would be to look at the overall big picture, talk to an attorney about any legal issues that may occur in the far future as well as in the present..... his rights, your rights, visitation, child support, education, discipline.... everything .... and get the attorney to put the do's and dont's, the maybe's and what if's all in writing. Good Luck to you, and as other posters have stated, you will have to follow your heart....... just dont forget to take your brain with you on this journey. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/13/2006 9:28:32 PM | there is a reason why she waited so long to tell u ......most married women tell our spouses right away.......if she is to far along to have an abortion then thats what she wanted was to be pregnant ......but when its born she can adopt it till...........
i think she knew for sure she was pregnant and it wasn't yours....like COME ON we all know who we have sex with and keep track and what the dates were.......expecially if we are on the pill......
if she felt bad and she didn't want the baby and knew it wasn't yours and wanted to save the marriage then she would of been right on it and done something about it right away.....maybe away out of the relationship in a nice way for her she thinks.......but lots of court proceeding coming her way........
u were there as a family supporter for her other kids so she figures u will do the same to this one ....until u found out its a different race....most dark men I hangout with now ........out of wedlock wanna be with the women expecially while pregnant ......don't wanna share her........i know very few dark men who have a kid and are single and they haven't married the women or engaged her.....or even moved her and the kids back to his country to marrying them and live happily....and very few of my dark friends g/f's work to....the guys look after them......
as for the family and friends they are gonna have no respect for her anymore she is married and got pregnant with another guys baby....
they might also laugh at u and say" u got to have a low self esteem to put up with her and stay by her side ".....cus in sense u r telling her it ok and she can repeat the pattern unless u tell her to get tied.....
in time not right away she will cheat again maybe.....but lets hope she is tied by then .......
sad situation to be in .......but u have alot of headaches coming your way man !!!
if she wants to go to counselling and save the marriage and adopt the baby...i'd say ok go for it.....good luck | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/13/2006 11:35:31 PM | Hi
For what its worth I would get rid of her, if you cant trust her not to go behind your back and not have a go with another man that one (or more times) how can you trust her not to do it again! She doesn’t sound like she is worth the effort! | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/13/2006 11:52:43 PM | | Be very careful here, and seek the advice of an attorney. Only you can decide what you want to do. In many states, you will be the presumed father because she's your wife. Many states will hold you to child support if you play the role as the father for "X" amount of time, even if there's proof that the child is not yours. If it were me, I would be "running" to my attorney's office before the child is born!! | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 12:06:45 AM | Wow! she's willing to end the relationship! How big of her! Come on man think with your head and not with your heart on this one. You have a daughter to think of. If you stay and allow her to see and hear this, just what will it do to her later on? Some times you got to cut your loss, love or not. And she's still seeing him? Who are you seeing? Get out while you can or you will end up paying support for the child. Too bad the child will have to pay for mom's indescretion!!! Sorry for your luck!  | |
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Joined: 3/12/2006
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 4:57:23 AM | Definitely get rid of her......
This exact same situation happened to my friend, except him and his wife are black and she cheated with a white male. He couldn't He couldn't accept the fact that his wife cheated, got pregnant, and the baby is interracial. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 6:07:00 AM |
Hate to tell you all this but in the good ol USA if they are married the court will assume the baby is her husbands and HE will get to pay child support
Not if he can prove it's not his. Since he knows it's someone else's child, and his wife can identify him, the court can order her to identify him for child support purposes. However, there is a time limit after which it is assumed he has accepted the responsibility. That's usually about a year, perhaps two. Laws depend on the state, so get legal advice ASAP. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 6:08:34 AM | | I tell every girl that I meet that if she ever cheated on me, I would shave her head and crazy glue her to the wall. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:29:43 AM | | I love it when men are really really stupid.Enjoy being a doormat.Congrats on your ability to pick winners. Animals are better at picking mates than you are. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:43:34 AM | | ^^^^^^ Why would you say something like that? Are you perfect? Doubt it. It is a sad story and who really could have seen this coming? Don't be an Ass! | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 8:54:10 AM | A new way to celebrate mother's day...air all your dirty laundry on a singles site...
1. Do not get online on a singles site while married and have kids..
2. Do not use a stupid handle like lovesx69 and expect sympathy..
3. get a life.. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 12:25:11 PM | | well i had a similar situation, I was deployed to iraq last year, i was married and while i was gone she got pregnant. honestly i didnt blame the man she is at fault and i kicked her to the curb, i suggest you do the same | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 12:44:31 PM | OP
If this is true, then i strongly suggest you leave her immediately , a cheater is a cheater, its not gender specific, If it was a man who cheated on his wife and got another woman pregnant, most folks on here would be calling for hanging his nuts from the tallest tree and then proceed to cut his Chicken off and feed them to the gators? no.
Its time to ask the waiter for a reality check its over, get out while you still have your dignity. | |
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Joined: 2/20/2006
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 5:59:18 PM | Hey OP,
have a few guys you may want to talk to
not the exact same boat , but very similar in ways!!! | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 6:16:09 PM | START TO DREAM BIG :
If it were me, I would retain a lawyer Monday morning, and file for divorce based on adultry, and get the upper hand, and win custody of my own child, and settle for half the equity of our home.
START TO DREAM of walking your daughter to school in a sane peaceful environment without some SICK hot woman inviting men home to bang her giving you AIDS and STDs.
(1) Win divorce in 30 days (because of adultry)
(2) Win your daughter back (because the woman is over run)
(3) Win the equity to buy your own separate home to raise your daughter (a matter of a few pencil scratches on a paper and the money gets transfered)
(4) Check myself for STDs and start a sane environment for my daughter and me.
SAVE YOURSELF AND YOUR DAUGHTER. (dont' worry about her, she will sue the pants off the fathers of the other children and get a great monthly child support and more ! She will thank you in the end. Hey and if you still want to bang her she might just let you in the back door but wear a condomn. Man, this is why I got a vasectomy. You just get your daughter and get the heck out so she can't ask for a penny from you, because soon she is going to be over run and send the other daughters back to the other father and nail you for support based on spousal and child support and hogs your daughter while raising this new guy's kid too. YIKES, THIS IS WHY YOU HAVE TO GET THE UPPER HAND MONDAY MORNING. This is your mission if you chose to accept it.) | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 6:32:36 PM | | OP joined the same day he made this post. He is looking for a woman but yet claims to love his wife... WTF Paternaty test on an unborn WTF you people are so gullable!!!!! | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 6:38:04 PM | The woman could boot you out and keep your daughter and ask for spousal support and child support . Can you imagine how that would feel ? Think about it. Guys going in and out of there like a swinging door wiping their thingys off on your drapes and your daughter is getting no attention and you are burdoned to death with massive support payments.
Now and only now is the time to strike by retaining a lawyer Monday morning and getting your child and investment out of there and having an upper hand and a clean slate. I bet you have it in you to save yourself? | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 6:38:11 PM | Courts differ from state to state.
(5) Never trust her again..killerdog.I am only expanding..
(6) Get a blood test for HIV
(7) Realize..in life and love..NOTHING is guaranteed...tragedy and pain results in strength. We only see it later in life.
(8)..keep your portfolios close to heart..take her name off of your investments.
(9) The most important thing..and I say this again...killerdog is on target...win your daughter back.
Sanschele | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 6:50:02 PM | | Holy crap!! Cut your loses dude! Show yourself a little self respect!! I wouldn't be walking around my neighborhood with my chin up if this happened to me. I'm genuinely sorry that this happened to you. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 6:58:36 PM | i only have one thing to say once a cheater always a cheater
ive been threw this they cry and will do anything for you to take them back and once you do they do it all over again
i have 2 kids with her and poeple say the last one isnt mine
i was there when she came in this world and ill be there for her till the end
she calls me dad and thats all i need
i thought of going for the test but i think it would hurt her more than it would me so i wont go for it
and for the mom she cheats on her new man like you couldnt believe like i say once a cheater always a cheater
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:45:36 PM | | As blunt as this may sound and as hard as it may be to do in reality dump her immediately. Find yourself somewhere else to live and someone else for a partner. She may be gorgeous to look at but she is not trustworthy. How kind of her to tell you she is willing to end the relationship after she has been pregnated by her bit on the side. She may even be genuinely remorseful at the situation and having second thoughts, but life's a **** and the time for her to think about the consequences was before she allowed him to chat her up and bed her. If she had not been made pregnant she may still have been seeing him. It sounds like shes still seeing him but is considering ending the affair. You end it now and move on and just put up with the pain it may cause. In the end you are whining over a situation that can only get worse. DNA can be taken from a child or any living thing, otherwise people could murder a child, deny it's their child, and get away with murder as they would be untraceable or unidentifiable. If the black father doesnt want anything to do with the child then you will be lumbered with the child and it's upbringing. Not the childs fault I know but it's the parents duty to bring up the child, not yours. If he does want to be part of the childs life he will be around you and your partner for many years to come. Stop letting your heart rule your head and be clinical about it. You will have less pain in the end and finding a new partner will help to ease the burdon in time. As you say yourself, you cant trust her at all, and that is not a relationship from your point of view. It is self torture. Pack your case now or regret it later. | |
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