| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:52:19 PM | Your relationship from now on is going to be different. You will never will be the same because of her action. This means you will not trust in her in the same way you did it before. If you do not trust in the person who is beside you, there is no point to be together. Forgive her and talk to a lawyer in order to protect your daughter. Your daughter will understand when she becomes an adult. If she never loved you somebody else is going to love you, as you deserve it. Yesterday was a gay in her life, today was the black gay and tomorrow a yellow one.
Use your brain to think about it not your heart. I am sorry if I am so rude. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/14/2006 7:55:53 PM | Once the trust has been broken, there is no more relationship.If she did it with
her ex and now you, how many more times will she continue this whoring around.
I feel for you and the kids involved, this is definately a touchy subject, and in
the end you will have no choice but to divorce and end it with her.
You can't live with someone you can't trust, no matter how much you love her, in
the back of your mind,everytime she's gone, you'll be thinking, what is she doing?
Knight Rider! | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/15/2006 11:14:11 AM | me personally i would wait until the child is born and then make your decision.i say this only because i have a very good friend who was in a similar predicament with his relationship and it doesnt seem to bother him one bit the only people it has bothered he doesnt have as friends anymore.
but here is a quote from shakespear that has allways stood me in good stead and it goes like this to thyself allways be true
so if you want to stay then stay and forget what people might say and if you go then go knowing you tried to do what was right.you cant spend the rest of your life on what ifs.
i ended a 17yr relationship because of an affair my partner had and i could never trust her once she had done what she did but it wasnt the easiest decision to make and i know in my heart it was the right thing for me todo even when she asked me to try again for the sake of the kids i couldnt because it would of given her carte blanche to do it again somewhere else further down the line and i wasnt prepared to live my life that way. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/15/2006 11:34:54 AM | I wouldn't be in the situation long. It would end as soon as she got done telling me, since I woulda dumped her. Unless dumping her would blow up a building full of puppies.... Other than that, it should be a no brainer.
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/15/2006 11:44:16 AM | | sorry buddy, be happy you have a beautiful daughter of your own, but she needs to go. once a cheater always a cheater | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/15/2006 12:37:31 PM | Very touchy subject here, but anyone else ever been in this horrible situation. My wife of 5 years just recently told me that she has been having an affair. She had 2 sons from a prior realtionship when we met, and we have a daughter together. Now she is pregnant and paternity test came back saying that the baby is not mine. She is a gorgeous woman who I love, but I am completly distraught. She has told me that she is willing to end the affair, but is too late to even think about an abortion. To add to the problem, even if I was willing to raise this child, the father is black (i am not racist), just can't imagine the humilation of all our freinds and family knowing was happened. I love her, but can't trust her at all, (think she's still having sex with him). WHAT SHOULD I DO???? Help!
It's clear in God's mind. The only reason He will allow for divorce is infidelity. That shows you how much God is disgusted by that behavior.
She cheated once, she'll cheat again. She had unprotected sex with another man and got pregnant. Who cares WHAT she looks like. She is not dedicated to you, she is not someone that can be in a monogamous relationship.
Normally I tell people to try and work things out but in your case you need to move on. I would file for divorce and you have every legal right to do so. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/15/2006 11:31:52 PM | no disrespect but if a black knocked up your misses then fcuk her off and then let them have her, any girl i know and i am right in saying most my friends would not touch em once there been with blacks......
i not racist but dont agree with all this ethnic mix.....if you cross breed animals like a dog you end up with a mongral..................think about it | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/16/2006 7:15:39 AM | Billy, Billy, Billy , you are so silly
after reading your post i had a paroxysm of laughter
i not racist but dont agree with all this ethnic mix.....if you cross breed animals like a dog you end up with a mongral..................think about it -billythegasman
talking about a oxymoron???? Racism Billy is based on ignorance the cure is Knowledge.
thanks for the fortune cookie wisdom though, do i get a free bowl of kung pow chicken too?
Do the great country of England a huge favour DONT BREED please. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/16/2006 7:22:29 AM | | dump her and get her fro every penny she has....First thing on your list for today is to get a lawyer. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/16/2006 7:39:32 AM | i think your full of it posting that in here grow up and move out and don't look back moron  | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/16/2006 7:53:13 AM | Actually Billy.... your not a racist but definately a Biggot. Your ignorance proves that.
Oh sure you can buy a purebread.....
But the most loving sweet gentle dogs I've ever known...
Were "mongrals".
Most people I know... have one.
The mixed breeds. Funny how we can bring a family pet into our homes and love them no matter what. We do not wonder about the "racial mix" with our pets but our tolerance for humans mixing is seen differently.
Thing is Billy, when I grew up in Great Britain... "mongrals" were a word we used for retarded or mentally challenged children.
Should we completely discredit "those" people too?
Food for thought!! | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/16/2006 8:02:21 AM | WHAT SHOULD I DO???? Help!
Well if you were smart, you'd kick the b!tch to the curb. It wasn't the first time and it will not be the last, and it would seem as she has little regard for your feelings. Just looking for some poor schmuck to pay the bills. Face it....... you married a cheater who refuses to keep her legs closed.
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Witchy | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/16/2006 8:15:59 AM | As for him paying for it/the child he wouldn,t have to the father would have to pay
Teresa...... what freaking planet are you on????? Ever heard of step-parent support??? Happens ALL the time.
No. 1 the child will be living in the home, of course he would have to pay. Just as this guy pays for his own and his wife's other children from a previous marriage. Last time I looked.... kids aren't cheap, raised my own and she is anything but cheap.
No. 2 what makes you think the father of this child will even stick around and be responsible??
Take off those rose colored glasses and come down to Earth. This poor guy will be screwed both financially and emotionally if he chooses to stay. It takes one he!! of a man to be given that particular bowl of lemons and he makes lemonade. Don't think the op is that man.
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Witchy | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 5/16/2006 8:33:35 AM |
I tell every girl that I meet that if she ever cheated on me, I would shave her head and crazy glue her to the wall.
Well that's certainly big of you Vin..... my ex said he'd just straight up kill me. Good thing he has no idea where I am.
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:20:31 AM | | Well I, for one, AM a racist. I wouldn't care so much that she's still doing the nasty with another guy and that she's preggers from him......but the fact that she's doing it with a black guy would freak me out. I'd kick this worthless broad to the curb right away. Yassah.......so nuff. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:31:28 AM | | Been there. She left once she found out. Of course, dragging me into banckrupsy in the process. I knew it wasn't mine but she was hoping. I helped her out a lot since the father denied everything. She wanted to come back but I refused. I was always there for her tough but as a true friend. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:40:25 AM | | Well I would say if you think that she is still involved with the man who she had an affair with I would leave her. If you think that you can work things out with her I would go to a councilor. As for the child is she willing to give the child up for adoption? If not and you are going to work things out with her than you need to adopt the child, face up to what she has done to everyone, and let the chips fall where they may. Who cares what anyone else thinks. By the way if you are married why are you on a dating site? I would guess that she is not the only one stepping out. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:48:45 AM | | I would go to counseling to try to figure out why I was attracted to women who had so much baggage who ran around on me. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:50:57 AM | I think that it's a no brainer here............Take your daughter, and get going.
You say you love your wife, but she obviously doesn't love you, or she wouldn't be with other men. Furthermore, if you really love your wife, WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING ON HERE ???
Give your daughter a good life, and teach her good morals that she may not learn from her mother.
Put the cheater to the curb !!! | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 7/5/2006 10:08:56 AM | No brainer here folks!
If it were me in that situation,
I'd RUN for the door (forget showing her the door) and as someone else said,
the only way I'd be talking to her is though a divorce lawyer "peroid"...
The "cheating" IS the deal breaker from my standpoint(#1 no no in my book!) game over, next! | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 7/5/2006 12:32:46 PM | "If that was me, she would raise that child herself and I would be talking to her only through a lawyer."
I have to agree with the above comment. Ordinarily, I think divorce is a last resort, but as Bugs Bunny would say, "Of course you know, THIS means war!"
And here I thought MY life was all ___ed up.
Cut your losses and bail. That's all you can do now.
Other than that, I can only say....better you than me, dude. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 7/5/2006 12:42:52 PM | how pitiful for the children in all this mess of a
drama and lie filled relationship between a man and woman. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 7/5/2006 1:33:15 PM | | You have a tough decision to make on one hand you have the woman you love, on the other you have the woman you love's adultry and her unborn child that isn't yours. The question you have to ask is: if she loves you as much as you love her would she have been sleeping with this other guy anyway? Your the only one who can make the decision. However as some previous post have stated most women would have kicked the guy to the curb for cheating, so why is there a double standard for the women who cheat? But in the end the decision is yours and I hope you can live wich ever one you make. I do agree though that it sounds like you have somewhat made up your mind in your wording. Again Good Luck. | |
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