| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 7/5/2006 1:45:23 PM | | PS: I just have to wonder why you are on a dating site, and have been for almost two months, if you have any real intention of saving your marriage. Or perhaps you made the whole thing up? | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:29:33 PM | | I'd definitely consider a divorce. Would not be interested in raising her baby that came into this world through an affair. Do you want to be financially responsible for someone else's child? who cares about the humiliation aspect. Think of your self-worth. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/13/2007 10:35:09 PM | | I've known someone who was in a position similiar then yours. He decided to stay with the woman only to have her leave him to go with the father then come back to only leave again. I think once a cheater always a cheater. And whats worst there is a child involved. Love is great but no relationship can survive if their is no trust. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/14/2007 12:52:43 AM | | The paternity test came back not yours and the baby isn't even born yet so how is that possible? | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/14/2007 7:59:23 AM | She has made you question her integrity. Integrity is one of the most important things for anyone to have in any relationship.
If she was a business partner who backstabbed you and made you lose 500,000$ would you go back into business with her? Even if you had been friends since you could walk?
It's a hard question to answer, there are ALOT of things to worry about. First thing I'd be doing is getting a lawyer. If you end up breaking up with her, one will be necessary. On the other hand, as the child's paternal father, the other man can be legally required to pay child support in some places. Professional consultation is definitively a good idea - beyond that, its really a matter of who you are and weather you can make another wager on your marriage. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/14/2007 8:43:28 AM | IF this scenario is true..
she cheats
she was willing to endanger your life..(by possibly bringing whatever home)
she deceived you again by not saying so when she found out that she got pregant.
she waited so long that not having the child was no longer an option.
she's still seeing other people.
obviously this woman cares for you deeply and you and your feeings are her priority..
what was the question? You still have a question? | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/14/2007 9:22:28 AM | Sorry to hear that, I can not imagine how hurt you must feel. If you stick it out and raise the child, you are a better man than I. To me, the innocent child would be a constant reminder of the woman's infidelity. To top it off someday that child is going to realize you are not it's father, and it was born after you were married to it's mother. Pack it up and leave, that would be my decision.
If the child is born and you wait a year to make up your mind there are some states where YOU can be forced to pay support for it, wouldn't that suck big time? Be very careful with regard to what is put on the birth certificate unless you are willing to accept the responsibility for the next 19 years. It sucks because the unborn did nothing wrong, but you did not create this situation either.
She has told me that she is willing to end the affair
Wow, how very thoughtful of her!
Posts from women who will put the blame on you in 5,,4,,3,,2,,1 ... | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/14/2007 11:13:27 AM | Personally, I am pro working on a marriage but in this case, I would seek a divorce. Infidelity in Jesus' eyes is the only viable grounds for a divorce.
You can forgive her, but I think the long term effects of her affair will make it impossible to forget and trust her. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/14/2007 1:06:22 PM | | I had a friend go through this. His girlfriend was white and he was black. She cheated on him and gave birth to twins that were blond and blue eyed. He stayed with her for a few years and even told people that the kids were his. She eventually kept treating him like crap so he left. But trust me, you don't want that headache. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/14/2007 7:11:04 PM | Ever wonder why we continue to post to threads that when it seems the OP is no longer on this site?
OT: I think any man who stays in a relationship where his wife got prego from some other man is either:
A. crazy; or
B. a saint; or
C. lacking self worth. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/15/2007 1:49:53 AM | Lovesx69
I suppose you can only ask yourself if you can love a child that isn't yours.
If you're willing to help your wife raise two children that aren't biologically yours why would raising this child be any different? Does it have to do with the affair? Does race determine whether or not you can feel comfortable raising this child? Why would raising two step children be different than raising your wife's love child? And can you forgive the act of infidelity?
I think you may want to talk to your priest, minister, rabbi or anyone of religious authority for advice on infidelity, parenthood and seeking compassion for sins.
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/15/2007 11:07:42 AM | Well, I was on the other end of the stick...my ex-husband got a 16 year old girl pregnant and they had a son. I took my dignity and left. That is what I suggest you do. Ultimately the decision is up to you...obviously this has rocked your self-esteem as a man and if you are feeling like she is the best you can do, then chances are you will stay. If you man up and realize that obviously you are married to someone who doesn't know the meaning of respect, honesty and commitment....and will probably never know, then you will know you should just turn tail and run.
Obviously this child is the innocent party, so whatever decision you make as a man, don't EVER take it out on that baby. Because he/she did not ask to be brought into this world. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/15/2007 11:13:39 AM | | If it were me i dont know, there would be some furniture moving; but then again shis with child so......yeah | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/15/2007 11:33:13 AM | | I think it must have taken all of 20 minutes to dream this scene. In the off chance it is true, why are you online instead of in jail or at least far, far from the chick with a stable full of lawyers? | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/15/2007 5:07:24 PM | I would leave her...no questions asked..........
How are you ever possibly going to trust her again....and once you see this child....he/she is going to be a constant reminder of her discretions........... | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/15/2007 9:09:19 PM | Didn't I see this on a episode of one of those talk shows or was it Desperate housewives?? let me see If i get the gist of what youre saying?
You have a gorgeous wife, but she pregnant with a Black man child? but youre not racist( ok I will give you the benefit of the doubt here)
She's admitted to you she having a affair and she pregnant, and youre willing to raise this child?
You love her but youre on a dating sight, looking for friends, advice if you want a friend buy a dog
Once again you love her but you cant trust her and youre posting this asking for advice?
How can i say this............... you are either a Penis with ears, STUPID or your post was a joke, please tell me people like you dont vote?? | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/16/2007 4:08:51 AM | Cdnjackal, you crack me up.
I don't think I can add another comment. I think jackal has said it all...
Oh, maybe a couple of things...OP...
What part of what you wrote, don't you understand? Divorce her!! The trust is GONE! What she has done is a 'DEAL BREAKER'!!!
And you've written that she may still be having an affair with him. Good grounds for Divorce, don't you think? 
Why would you want to remain with a woman who has proved to you that she is so untrustworthy? If you accept not only her infidelities, but her continuation of this affair, then you are the "fool" and she will think she can do whatever she wants at your expense. I don't care what color her lover is. Both deserve each other and if she can do it to you, she will do it to him and vice versa.
And have either of you thought of the children you are raising? I feel badly for her unborn one. They are the ones I feel the most for empathy for.
Clear your head..get rid of her!!! | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/16/2007 7:30:41 AM | | I hate to sound like a meanie... but have you thought about getting a paternity test on your daughter as well? | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/16/2007 3:25:43 PM | @iron
I hate to sound like a meanie... but have you thought about getting a paternity test on your daughter as well?
Good thought ir0n...you have come up with a good point! | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/17/2007 10:24:04 AM | @ OP
See Babydoll's post above /\ /\ /\
I understand the allure of a beautiful woman, but I suspect you are being allured by a beautiful spermbank.
By all means, get a DNA test for yourself and your daughter, and free yourself of being the spermbank's keeper. You are being rapidly relegated to being an unpaid babysitter (and a doormat). Seek happiness elsewhere. | |
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