| | Wife pregnant from another manPage 5 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | WOW... this is a decision I think you and her are going to have to make.
It sounds like a soap opera to me.
It is a tough one.
Regardless of the baby being black or white. it is human and should be treated like any other. people adopt now days, chocolate, dark, white, it doesn't make the child any less,
You have to take time and think this through carefully
You have your other child to think about, what's in her best interest,
Your feelings for your wife, is she still cheating, your still looking so do you really have this whole beautiful marriage thing. I think the love was gone a long time ago or you wouldn't be on here. just my 2c worth.
I'd say your in one hell of a mess and not many would want to be there.
Good luck on your decision you are going to need it..
Choose wisely and put the childrens needs first. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/18/2007 10:29:19 PM | | Get rid of her! Once a cheater, always a cheater. And you would set a better example for your daughter by not sticking with someone who treats you like sh*t. This woman obviously doesn't know how to have a monogamous, long standing relationship (as evident by her multiple children by different partners). You can still be a valuable and wondeful part of your children's lives...but you don't need to put up with this crap. Once you lose your trust in someone, it never fully comes back. | |
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Zain.
| | Joined: 9/20/2005
Msg: 104 | |
| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/19/2007 10:15:13 PM | | LEAVE HER! She cheated on you! She humiliated you! You can't possibly trust her after that are you willing to raise a child that's not yours? are you insane? Dude get some balls and GET OUTTA THERE! Otherwise you're just a cuckhold | |
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Posted: 2/20/2007 6:06:47 AM | Hate to tell you all this but in the good ol USA if they are married the court will assume the baby is her husbands and HE will get to pay child support
the law varies by state but in most states there is a strong presumption that the child is a product of the marriage - however, this presumption can be overcome with a dna test. Prior to the powerful HLA testing which preceeded dna, courts were reluctant to "**stardize" a child since the "truth" of paternity was almost impossible for the court to determine. that is no longer true in the dna era. any first year law student - or the man - can ask the court for dna testing and the motion for testing is granted 100% of the time these days so if it is not his child, the laws of presumption will not force him to pay child support. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2007 6:25:26 AM | Ever heard of step-parent support??? Happens ALL the time
New York is the only state who's statute provides for step parent support obligation and even there, it requires a showing that the man lived with the child and accepted child as his own for a 'subtantial period of time' - it wouldnt apply here | |
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Cool87
| | Joined: 11/10/2006
Msg: 107 | |
| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 2/20/2007 6:28:49 AM | Dude, If she dosn't respect you enough to have an affair she isn't worth the time, Let alone she would probably do it again, Still be aquanted with her for the sake of your daughter, but I mean seriously.... Once a cheater always a cheater, Let alone if she is STILL having sex with him, Dump her ass, get it out of your system now. Not Later. Plain and simple, get over her, start seeing other woman,
Respect is a major part of a relationship, You may love her. She obviously dosn't love you, Or take your relationship seriously, She obviousy wants sex with random guys.
Sooner you dump her the sooner you'll feel better and able to move on with your and your daughters life.
-Will | |
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Posted: 4/5/2007 11:19:07 PM | Is this thread still going? yikes.............. Did the OP learn his lesson or is still being a silly cat? my question is how come you're such a silly cat, who is trying to be a dog? you cant be a dog when you don't even bark? in other words you make no sense in this post, no wonder the institution of marriage is in trouble, you could be the poster boy for us guys to stay single. | |
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Posted: 4/6/2007 3:30:04 AM | | If I was in your situation, I would leave IMMEDIATELY, I couldn't handle it myself. What a horrible wife you have, so sorry to hear these stories, they destroy families. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 8:46:06 AM | I am black and I am not racist, why would some of you people think that you all are are so pure?Blacks are not mongrals we are people not animals and we also have beautiful biracial kids . | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 10:59:55 AM | I say it's high time you looked elsewhere and she should be seeking some type of counselling to discover why she needs to look outside the marriage for reinforcement.
Unfortunately there seems to be a pattern for her behaviour and she should have discussed your marriage status and broken up with you first. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 4/15/2007 11:03:35 AM | | Leave her. She's a bad example for the kids and you will only be reinforcing that example if you take her back. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 11:15:10 AM | Gotta love these resurrected threads! OP is gone!
This thread was started 5/06-and she was already in the 2d trimester!!!! ( OP said it was too late to consider abortion).
Unless it's an elephant gestation the baby was born last fall/winter!!!
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Posted: 4/15/2007 11:30:11 AM | Nope, never had that sort of thing happen,however that would not stop me from advertising in the local newspaper about her being pregnant by another man and that it was an interacial pregnancy. Then I would contact my lawyer get custody of my daughter and kick that **** out the damn door.
Then hunt down the s.o.b. that knocked her up, and beat him within an inch of his worthless life.
Be carefull not to use the n word or someone will say its a hate crime and your screwed! Just dont say anything and beat him down. Regardless how "pretty" that cheatin **** is, do you want to take a chance on getting aids or something?
I cant even believe you wrote and ask for advice, if it were legal (or you could get away with it) I would say shot her while your at it! Good luck, I feel sorry for your daughter and all the problems this will cause her and her kids and the fact that you have to tell your family what that **** did. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 11:46:13 AM | | No one can tell you what to do.....I am sure you have thought about all the different outcomes ,that can come about...it's up to you to decided what you are willing to, or able to put up with. ..... I myself would take my child and leave....your wife doesnt love you if she will go out and cheat on you...I don't understand why anyone would want to stay with someone that doesnt love them enough to stay faithful....cheating on your spouse is the best sure fire way to lose custody to the other parent....Judges just don't like that kind of behavior in a custodial parent. Good luck with which ever way you choose to go....and being a single parent isn't all that hard...scary sometimes but...better than putting your child thru the stress of trying to stay together. Once again GOOD LUCK. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 4/15/2007 11:55:05 AM |
originally posted by cdnjackal :
Is this thread still going? yikes.............. Did the OP learn his lesson or is still being a silly cat? my question is how come you're such a silly cat, who is trying to be a dog? you cant be a dog when you don't even bark? in other words you make no sense in this post, no wonder the institution of marriage is in trouble, you could be the poster boy for us guys to stay single.
Haha, you rock, man! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 7:11:16 PM | Two words:
Divorce lawyer
...and get a mmmmmmmmeeeeann one. She deserves to be put through hell. Not only for messing with you, but for the drama with her (and your) kids. Goodness man, think of what this will do to the kids...and get real mean. I mean so downright angry that you want nothing more than to move on and to protect the kids. That will make you strong. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 7:37:05 PM | | Been there done that. Married Twice. #1 8 years married, she got pregnant 5 times, 6 children, 5 miscarriages. Then I found out I'm shooting blanks because of a surgery I had when I was 3. My Dad knew I was shooting blanks but never told me. Why didn't he tell me? Answer : He was the father of the twins. I found out because my brother in law told my Mother. Dad had the big one. He was 55. I tried to take her back (what an idiot) but she moved in with 7 guys. #2 Married 19 years. She got pregnant by a big ugly bald guy. He promised her the world. Wined her, Dined her, then she found out he was after my/our money. He figured she would Divorce and He would marry her and he would get everything I /we owned. His mistake was that he liked to beat her up. She talked me into taking her back. I did. 2 weeks later I caught her again. This happened several times. If they do it once they'll do it again. Take my advice. The first time they cheat you will never trust them again. Everyone says Love is the most important thing in a relationship. That's a lie. TRUST is the most important thing. If trust is gone the marrige will never be the same. Even if you still Love her you will never trust her ever again. A marriage without trust will not work. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 8:00:00 AM | Well, it depends on the circumstances on why she had an affair, if you was working too much or something that kept you from giving her attention, that normally leads to cheating.
I would give my wife a second chance if i was working more then i needed to (ie. working 7am-12midnight every night), but if she cheated because she saw a very tastey person to do it with, then she was be so divorced and ditched before she even said a single word.
But you whatever the reason, you should blame the unborn child, it isn't his/her fault. | |
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| Wife pregnant from another man
Posted: 4/20/2007 6:41:03 PM | I don't want to sound harsh, buddy, but you've got to grow a pair and get the hell out of there. If you stay, you'll feel completely castrated your whole life, especially every time you look at that oh-so-obviously-not-yours child. Take your daughter with you, and never look back. Do NOT continue to let this woman cuckold and emasculate you. I know it's hard, because of all the feelings of attachment, but you've got to do it. It's like a bandage over a wound that's festering and infected. You've got to rip that sucker off no matter how much it hurts, or it's going to kill you. And if not for you, do it for your daughter. Do you want her to grow up to like that? It's all too likely if she stays with her mother. Do it. Be a man. You'll be glad you did.
Feel free to write to me if you want to talk more. I'm here for you, man. | |
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