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Posted: 4/6/2008 2:56:34 AM | yeah pooks i think we really have dated the same guys somewhere along the line lol thank god im not in perth or im sure me and him would find each other, im actually working my way thru the brisbane chapter of losers anonymous these days having fled melbourne 15 years ago 
ronda :) | |
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Posted: 4/6/2008 3:03:11 AM | IN the past I always seem to date guys who needed counselling and it seems my role in their life was to counsel them ready for their next relationship lol Pity my cousnelling diploma was used in that way.......... would rather it was an equal relationship where we helped each other
I need someone who doesnt need counselling and has their sh!t in a pile and can move forward equally with me | |
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Posted: 4/6/2008 3:04:04 AM | ^^^ sorry Rainbow for some reason I thought you were in Perth...hello...must be the extra hour I received today..affecting brain..Ill send you an alert if I get wind of him heading north...BTW Melbourne has not changed , loser wise since you fled (the ex was from Melbourne) ..wish Id gone with you !!!
Now Racy if you can find that kind of guy please let us all know via a forum cause it will be the equivalent of Melbourne winning the flag this year ( Geelong undefeated 112 v Melbourne yet to win a game 82 - today )- A friggin miracle !!! and I will be the first one asking if he has a brother !!! | |
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Posted: 4/6/2008 3:44:25 AM | i have had a couple of interactions with bipolar ppl.. that i have dated.. i say stay clear.. unless they are successfully being treated.. its not worth the emotional effort. and sometimes the mood swings are just of the charts then the weird swing in opinions, paranoia moments.. then all of a sudden ur back to normalness like nothing happened..
now i know there are alot of bi polar ppl on net... among other mental illnesses too that are going to take offence.. my opinion is based on my two experiences..
and that was enough. for me. | |
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Posted: 4/6/2008 4:21:32 AM | i have had a couple of interactions with bipolar ppl.. that i have dated.. i say stay clear.. unless they are successfully being treated.. its not worth the emotional effort. and sometimes the mood swings are just of the charts then the weird swing in opinions, paranoia moments.. then all of a sudden ur back to normalness like nothing happened..
Interesting comment mmmnicky...the symptoms that you describe are not atypical or systematic of bipolar...more in line with schizophrenia, borderline or the classic narcisstic personality disorder which is often misdiagnosed as bipolar. Bipolar is one of the mental illnesses that is very treatable because it is a physical illness due to a lack of seratonin in the brain...just like diabetes is due to lack of insulin being produced by the pancreas....and can be treated with a wide range of drugs - although really should not be mixed with alcohol/drugs. Mood swings with bipolar of course are common, something usually triggers a bipolar episode mainly great stress or shock, extreme tiredness, alcohol or drugs....the manic or depressive episode tends to last for days, if not weeks or sadly months....they do not have mood swings as you describe....because it can take days/weeks/months for the seratonin level to correct itself within the brain , their mood swings cannot be corrected in a short time - hours or days, its physically impossible even if they go back on their meds, it can take nearly a month for the seratonin to kick in....and if even if they are on their meds during a episode, their moods will last for days, thru no fault of their own as the brain tries to make as much seratonin as needed to get them thru their episode.
It is a misconception that they have erratic mood swings, in fact bipolars do not "snap" they acutally will enter either a manic/depressive state via a slow downward spiral...they will slowly go "out of control "either way over a course of quite a few days and they are usually aware of it happening if they are educated about their illness , but cannot do anything about it.....theres nothing "sudden" about their descent into their hell...
Based on my little knowledge and I am no expert, the symptoms that you describe do not really come close to a bipolar sufferer , but more like Borderline/Narcissist Personality disorder. Perhaps googling these terms and reading all the symptoms that you mention may make you form a different opinion. If I am wrong then happy to be corrected, but like you I know a great deal about bipolar...too much. | |
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Posted: 4/6/2008 2:08:32 PM | missy - been there done that - never ever again.....my ex has a collection of addictions and depression....and a rage that is truly terrifying. it took me 20 years to realize that not only could i not help but that i was actually enabling him to continue this behavoir- i was forever picking up the various pieces and apologising to all and sundry and making excuses for him - well no more!!
i wish id got out years ago but better late than never!! | |
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Posted: 4/6/2008 5:54:15 PM | the one thing ur forgetting is that a bipolar person 'addiction', its common for a bipolar person to have a drug addiction.. one of my partners was... he was addicted to pot and alcohol, they contribute to wild mood shifts.. for instance a day without pot and he was grumpy as all heck.. and aggressive.. it isn't just about the bipolar.. its also about drug addiction.
u say the disease is easy to treat.. this is where ur wrong.. it may be physically but one of the hardest thigns for a bipolar person is.. they cant admit they have a problem. it is also very common for bipolar ppl to stop taking meds when they feel good again. its not that simple.
also there are different kinds of bipolar... and of course... different degrees in severity.. i know alot about this disease.. its ok... | |
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Posted: 4/6/2008 7:27:25 PM | I think the previous poster meant to say that the disorder (Bipolar) is able to be managed (through medication and therapy).
To be more correct, it's not so much that there are different types of Bipolar, but different features within the diagnosis. eg: Rapid cycling (of moods), mania V hypomania etc.
Present diagnostic convention says that there are two types: Bipolar 1 and Bipolar 2.
I also think, that in the next few years the diagnostics will reflect a greater recognition of Borderline Personality Disorder, which is commonly mislabelled as Bipolar 2.
Bipolar is a mood disorder whereas Schizophrenia is a thought disorder.
A personality disorder is a learned set of coping strategies.
So, Bipolar and schizophrenia are organic disorders, personality disorders are not.
Either way, a diagnosis of either, or any other disorder, doesn't license one to be a jerk. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2009 4:19:13 PM | Emotionally disturbed 'friend' (who I now suspect secretly wanted to be a partner) ...
- would lose his temper at the drop of a hat, for no predetermined reason
- accused me of ignoring him if I didn't email/call him for 2 days
- had pretty much *tantrums* when he couldn't make others agree about something
- everything was always someone else's fault
- people were on his back, out to get him, etc
- jobs he lost were due to others' bad attitudes and how they didn't like him
- nobody understood him .. blah blah blah
- would assume this post, if he saw it, tho' I mentioned no names, is all about him!
.. the absence of stress is palpable now that I've cut ties. I could not tolerate any further bullying. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 5:11:38 AM | I have still never had one of these.
I think im probably the emotionally disturbed one in my partnerships....nothing diagnosed or certifiable though....just a little peculiar.  | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 6:43:11 AM | ^^^^ lol. I said to my friend once, "you know I have been looking at all my intimate relationships and have come to the disturbing conclusion that the one common denominator in all of them is ME" Arghh.
Brother is barking mad BP...and agree with Pookie on this one...it does not mean they are violent, nor uncontrollable tempers...it means in his case that he can cure cancer, nicks fighter jet planes and hacks into the defense force system and then he is just plain down, miserable to the max and ashamed of his behaviour and he does take the drugs but it only moderates the most severe. LOVE YOU MY BARKING MAD BROTHER JUST DON@T PHONE ME UP AND TELL ME TO LISTEN TO SOMETHING AND THEN EXPECT ME TO JUST LISTEN FOR AN HOUR BEFORE COMING TO TALK AGAIN>>>SHEESH. One of my most sensible, down to earth, definately non drug taking (except medication) functioning, amazing mum and gfriend is BP. When she goes off, which I have only seen once in 14 years of knowing her, she returns to a little kids, likes to play card games, colour pictures and hates reading....AWWW bless. NEVER EVER EVER known her to lie, lose her temper, go berko or otherwise. Tis the schizos, BPD, narcissist who meet the word NO and it doesn't change and just plain voilent sh*ts that do that.
BPD interesting...these people actually take on a personality to fit the company, situation etc, there are no delusional states etc, unless you count that they tend to believe their own lies even though they know they were lying. These people I fear...really fear...lying two faced, manipulating ar£eholes...personal experience here, slightly jaded and SO I SHOULD BE.
Ex...well...yup diagnosed paranoid at early age ie 19. I stupidly dismissed it...BIG MISTAKE... definately BPD too, think I have done quite well to have recovered my sanity which was never on the median line of average.
BP runs through my large extended family and it is full of artists, mathematicians, medical etc...lots and lots of very intelligent people. BP does not phase me much. BP1 and BP2, yup very different, BP2 tend to be ok or depressed, function reasonable well and rarely to never have hypo or hyper manic phases. Women in our family joke we are bi polar tri harder to fit in. I am not average but I would never want to be...far too much fun being bohemianoddly clever clogs with a bouncy brain.
For anyone who is unsure I recommend a superb group that helped me in just one session work out it was ex not me that had BIG TIME PROBLEMS. A.R.A.F.M.I. It is a group for carers of people with mental illness. I cannot recommend it high enough, it saved my life...literally. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 10:15:33 PM | I really feel sorry for well adjusted individuals that hook up with someone only to find the person they have just grown attached to is emotionally disturbed. It must suck. I have a great deal of sympathy for someone in that situation. That's why I don't date as I wouldn't want to put anyone in that position.
Only one thing really puzzles me about those well adjusted and sane people out there and I'd love to hear from anyone like that who can answer my query.
So, can you tell me please... what's it like? | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 10:40:31 PM |
So, can you tell me please... what's it like?
Really really boring, which is why I only ever date insane people now, the sex is way more exciting and no need for cheating, what with the multiple personalities an' all. Obsessive compulsives are great for doing house work. Tourettes syndrome is good if you like someone who talks dirty and kleptomaniacs are great for keeping the house hold budget to a minimum. Those with Münchausen syndrome are probably the best though, cos they can generally get their hands on some really cool drugs. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 11:30:46 PM | ^^^^^^ smartar$e
Hmm a OCD kleptomaniac with multiple personalities...if I am lucky I will get jewellry four times a day and a clean house. Seems fair. Now how to subliminally bring that to being on my profile.....I might be some time.
The tourettes I can handle myself. SOD OFF!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/8/2009 12:30:25 AM | I'm a magnet for bipolar (2) and/or "highly strung" depressives (3) over the last 30 years and I think I've finally caught it!! (I'm really hoping they were like that before they met me!)
Hey Julian, that's even funnier coz it's true! | |
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