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Posted: 5/15/2006 9:48:22 AM | I agree with Tee, sometimes its nice to chat to people about other things and the people i have stayed in contact with on here, were the ones who wernt pervy straight away. Sex talk is natural but i think u should know about eachother too, Surely people dont need the net to find sex, maybe they should get out a bit more
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Posted: 5/15/2006 9:50:19 AM | @Tee:
I was being "sarcastic" with that line I said.......hence the last sentance in my first comment....
speaks for itself lol
And maybe if more woman would be more open to it naturally in conversation and for some not treat it like it's a naughty word then I think alot of men wouldn't be so curious or forward with it or wondering about it so much with them.....just a thought..like i said if something is there it will show on its own | |
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Posted: 5/15/2006 12:00:35 PM | I knew you were being sarcastic awaiting...actually I made the mistake of quoting the wrong part...sowwy..
I think you'd be surprised at how many women ARE open to it. The thing is, we have a lot more to be worried about when we meet strangers, then men do, so sometimes its a good idea to proceed with caution. Not to mention, you sort of want to weed out the pervs...
C'mon lets face it, if you were trying to get to know women online, and every single woman you talk to starts off every single convo with sex, would you feel that these people were even interested in you as a person? Wouldn't it get old after awhile, over, and over, and over again? Do you want to feel like a piece of meat?? OK, well maybe lots of men would..lol. But as a woman (unless I was only looking for an intimate encounter) I'd want to know that the man getting to know me actually thinks I have a brain and is interested in what I have to say as a person BEFORE I get into any intimate conversation...I dunno, just my opinion.. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 11:43:37 AM | I think that talking about sex is very important.. Nowadays we want to know everything about another person before we committ to a relationship with them, but when it comes to sex, are we really talking about one of the most important parts of it??????
I met my most recent date online last year, we talked on the phone for weeks before finally deciding to meet, we covered all the bases I had thought.. when it really came down to it.. we should have talked about what we wanted in bed.. I want it way more than he gave it..
and when he said he would rise to any occasion.. I stupidly thought that meant in the sac... *sigh*... I also think that communicating what you want in and out of the bed in the relationships we have established will help keep things fresh.. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2006 2:54:03 PM | Showing once again that "all talk and no action gets you no satisfaction."
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Posted: 5/16/2006 4:46:13 PM | | Talking about sex is a good thing...only there are certin times to talk about it. You dont talk sex right off the bat...that is reserved for when the relationship is more strong....because we all know sex complicates everything, includeing the conversation. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2006 1:53:14 PM | why talk about it when u can DO it !! lol!
tease me then please me .. words to live by! | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 8:53:06 AM | | i think it depends on # 1. your relationship w/ the person and # 2. how comfortable u r with that person. i would'nt discuss anything regarding sex on my first encounter w/ someone, whether it's in person or via e-mail or phone. i think some things should be somewhat private and the topic of sex is one of them. also, sexual fantasies and/or masturbation is also something private, so what if it's done...does it give anyone the right to know about it? | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 9:15:52 AM | Well, I wouldn't bring it up on the first date.
Unless something else was brought up by her first.
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Posted: 5/20/2006 9:46:09 AM | I don't think that people are so much offended about talking about sex as they are scared to offend others by talking about it.
Some people get completely freaked talking about sex some don't mind it -- but if you freak someone out by raising the subject, then it's hard to get to the point where they'd be comfortable with it.
Personally, I'm willing to talk about just about anything. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 11:36:40 AM | Judging by some of the things I see in the forums (not necessarily in this topic), I think there should be more talk about sex. Now obviously, in church or at a board meeting is probably not the best place, but the ignorance of some of the people here at POF is astonishing.
If we never talk about it, how is anyone every supposed to learn about it? If we keep it all in the bedroom, or wherever else you might like doing it, and only talk about it with our partner after we're already involved, there are going to be a lot of knowledgeless lousy lovers out there.
And trust me, just from what I've seen here, there are more than enough of them around already. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 11:50:38 AM | Talking about sex on the internet, in a non-academic manner?
Damn, I thought everyone knew that bodily fluids are bad for the keyboard. 
Remember folks, always practice safe sex and wear your cyber condoms. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 2:37:07 PM | | I think people just try to hide they fellings, maybe there afaird people will look down on them. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 5:23:04 PM | Well I can guaranty you that the best way to make a good impression on most women is not to start the conversation out with
"hi my name is " " and do you like sex or is it something you just do when you have too. How often do you want to have sex. What positions do you like and what do you enjoy the most. I am just asking because My ex wife would not let me and I am not going to get in a relationship like that again" 
Don't laugh! It has happened more than a few times. This tells me 1. The person has no common sense. 2. The person has no concern for anyone's feelings but his. 3. The person is still hurting too much from his past marriage to be involved with me. 4. The person is still connected to his ex wife in more than just being hurt in the past.
I could go on and on about what it tells me but mainly it tells me NEXT!
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Posted: 5/21/2006 12:36:01 PM | | If someone is offended so easily then maybe they should leave the conversation when it begins..it's a free country and you can chat as you wish...so many people are prudes, geesh | |
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Posted: 5/21/2006 12:51:03 PM |  ohhh annuder, with your lovely smile on the face and the way you make others laugh on forums (bless you for that!), I don't think so that any topic would be too exhausting ...or frustrating | |
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Posted: 5/21/2006 12:54:13 PM | this topic is very natural go with the
flow you might learn something .If
nothing else you learn something
about the person talking..smiles | |
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Posted: 5/21/2006 1:06:56 PM | People openly admitting that they are sexual beings is difficult for most. Has a lot to do with social, cultural and religious taboos. For women especially, they are concerned with being labeled negatively. Freud's theories deal a lot with our hangups, though he wasn't always correct, many times he was on the right track.
Sex is natural, as is the discussion of it. People just have to overcome their personal issues with it. And there are those who take it too far, discussion is one thing but approaching a total stranger too get off sexually is another issue and inappropriate unless invited. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2006 1:13:25 PM | its always been an open subject in my home .
my mother was sex therapist..so more open
the better you are..
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Posted: 5/21/2006 2:08:58 PM | | i dont mind talking about sex with my partner but thats about it | |
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Posted: 5/22/2006 3:10:18 PM | one on one--Gets down to behaving like mature, responsible,consenting adults. Part of what has to be taken into consideration is what the persons involved are looking for. Sex w/o strings? When? where?, define limits, determine precautions. Dating and Long term relationship? I would think that you would talk about sex (see above) if and when you have discerned it was time to go there before going there. If one isn't mature enough to handle the practical responsibilities that go hand in hand with sex, then one really isn't mature enough to be participating in it. If talking about sex comes in the form of an unwanted advance, click and block are options. If talking about sex is handled crudely or presented hastily, the receiver can choose to click and block, jump in or make boundaries known then and there to see if the sender responds in such a way that shows respect for them.
in the forums--talking about sex can be illuminating and validating. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2006 4:17:10 PM | I am also the type that likes to talk about sex when chatting with someone, but yes, it is a turn off if they start off about it in the beginning. The problem I have found is, which is getting to me bigtime .......when I do start being open and talk so freely about it, I find, with ALOT of men, is once we do that then thats ALL they wanna talk about. I have found that because of that Im starting to wonder now if I should even be so open!!!!
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Posted: 5/22/2006 4:20:24 PM | I enjoy talking about sex, and I think more people should. It's a natural human function and a large part of our lives, no matter how far you want to try and ignore it.
It's just annoying when it's the first thing they bring up, or if that seems to be the only thing on their mind and they keep trying to change the subject back to sex. It's like they think they can initiate sex by starting a conversation with it  | |
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