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Posted: 5/23/2006 12:19:26 AM | | I've found most men to be shy and almost giggly about sex. And I'm not talking about conversations that go "Oh yeah. I'd like to f@ck that one." The only people I've been able to talk about sex with, in a mature manner, are women past their twenties. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2006 1:27:34 PM | VR said:
I am also the type that likes to talk about sex when chatting with someone, but yes, it is a turn off if they start off about it in the beginning. The problem I have found is, which is getting to me bigtime .......when I do start being open and talk so freely about it, I find, with ALOT of men, is once we do that then thats ALL they wanna talk about. I have found that because of that Im starting to wonder now if I should even be so open!!!!
Bit of a sticky wicket there. Again, make your boundaries known. Tell the guy, it seems to me that your southern head commandeered all the fresh oxygen from your northern head, has distracted you to the point of devolving this conversation to the cyber-sex realm. If you have the self control to reverse the situation, we can chat some more about other topics, if not, perhaps you need to log out and see if a cold shower might be helpful or make a note in your profile that you are looking for a cyberslut. If he doesn't get the message, he's weeded himself out.
GUYS---
don't be so pushy on this issue/topic. If you find yourself communicating with a woman who shows a willingness and candor to discuss sex, it's a lucky day for you, follow her lead, but show some restraint. Be mindful that too much of anything becomes overload. Be not like a child whose social and self control skills are developing. We women raise children, we don't want to date them. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2006 2:09:47 PM | ...maybe you should stop bringing it up in the middle of church... | |
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Posted: 5/23/2006 2:11:11 PM | there is nothing more erotic than sharing fantasies with each other..not just saying, hey lets shag, but really going into detail...lovely... | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 9:25:33 AM |
Sweetie, It is not that we are prudes and have a hang up against sex. You have to realize that some things have to be left for special people in your life. If you start talking about sex to everyone you chat with or get to know it will make you feel cheap and as if you are being looked at as a person for sex only. IMO.... Sex is something that should be discussed between two people who have had the pleasure of at least spending the evenings together and getting to know each other in the intimate sort of a way.
Exactly! Men are more sexually oriented, so they want to just get to it. Women tend to think of sex as an ultimate commitment, and men think of it as something more casual. Personally, I'm turned off by a man who initiates the sex discussion. I think they should leave it to the woman to bring that up. It signals to me that sex is more important to them than getting to know someone. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 9:58:37 AM | | If I was a prude and was embarrassed about talking about sex I doubt I would be in the SEX forums as much as I am!! lol Personally it's one of my favourite topics, everyone has interesting and funny stories to tell and I love that!! | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 11:42:21 AM |
Exactly! Men are more sexually oriented, so they want to just get to it. Women tend to think of sex as an ultimate commitment, and men think of it as something more casual. Personally, I'm turned off by a man who initiates the sex discussion. I think they should leave it to the woman to bring that up. It signals to me that sex is more important to them than getting to know someone.
**cough**double-standard**cough**
What does it signal about a woman when a woman brings it up first? Hypothetically, historically, or from experience? Don't deny you know the answer even if you know it shouldn't be true.
Sex should be able to be brought up by either party at any time they feel comfortable about it. If the other party is not comfortable, the conversation starter should either pick up on that and talk about something else, or the listener should (politely) indicate that they're not comfortable with the topic at this time.
Let's leave the gender roles in the 50's, shall we? | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 12:20:14 PM | | I just wrote a proposal to my manager to have an open discussion about sex everyday before we start working on our cases. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 12:29:10 PM | I don't get offended by discussing sex, since I write porn for a living it would be odd for me not to discuss sex at any point. I do however get 'cheesed off' when men just assume they can ask what your favorite position is or do you like your nipples pinched even before a 'hello' is made.
I think in this day and age of the internet, it would be difficult not to have sex as a normal topic of conversation.
I'm glad that we do not live in the olden days of prudes and ultra conservativeness. I know I could never wear clothes that cover me up from head to toe just to prevent any hint of allurement. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 12:33:33 PM | Seems a lot of people here are into ORAL SEX...TALKING ABOUT!!! The old saying goes....those that talk about can't do it... Nuf said...later | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 12:35:47 PM | I do however get 'cheesed off' when men just assume they can ask what your favorite position is or do you like your nipples pinched even before a 'hello' is made.
So, "Nice shoes. Wanna ****?" would not be an appropriate way to greet you on a first date? | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 12:39:27 PM | Just having fun.... My I love to be able to have open conversation, in private, with my mate. It could be on the dance floor whispering what we'll do to each other when we get home. Or on the phone....I've had some of the best sex on the phone when we were apart. She told me I was better on the phone then in the sack...mmmm that doesn't sound like a compliment does it?!
If we can't discuss our fantasies wants, needs. How can we have a healthy relationship and honest. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 1:37:55 PM | | This day and age i am finding more and more are starting to open up about the word SEX,tis only natural to be open about such a topic but i also agree that there is a way of expressing it openly in a private setting and i believe it should be discussed between the two haveing the conversation,sex is like an open book,but it too can be a closed issue,THE END lol | |
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Posted: 3/31/2008 1:00:57 PM | have to say as a female, i dont mind at all talking about sex on here at all , i have had some great chats, with people who may just be lonely, why be coy about it !! | |
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Posted: 3/31/2008 3:54:40 PM | omg where do i begin
well heres the thing i think sex should be taked about in a very comfortable way i do and will respect people if theyfeel uncomfortable talking about it but i will never undrstand it... see i work at a ery boring job where the only thing to di is amuse ursef by having a conversation with the person itting next to u in ur cubical and most of the timr the conversation leads its way to sex... it makes the day go so much better and every one hs an opinnion about it... example: i could be standig out at the smoke pit at work with one of my girlfriend talking about how one of us got laid last night and so on and all of a sudden someone who we havent realy met (work in a big call center lots of new ppl every week) would feel the need to put in his or her 2 cents... sex is a very natural thing its good for so many different reasons... be open about it express who u are maybe u will find someone who feels the same way u do about it.... how is someone gonna know what u like uless u say it
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Posted: 3/31/2008 4:09:27 PM | | I talk freely about sex. I'm very open. I think sex is a fascinating subject. My problem is if I'm talking about it with a guy, he assumes I want it with HIM. I don't have that problem when I talk about it with my girlfriends! lol | |
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Posted: 3/31/2008 4:14:22 PM | cahotik77, there is a time and a place for evertyhing.
Sitting around with the family at thanksgiving and noticing the turkey's butt and saying, "hey, ill take me a piece of that, i like forking butt!" is neither the time nor the place.
In bed, with your lover, talking about your sexual preferences is the time and place. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2008 4:38:39 PM | To everything , there is a season......
[as officer writes out speeding ticket]
"So officer as I was saying.......
Gals always want FAST GUYS, fast lane........
cum quick, is that a weapon hidden in your pants?"
"Is your weapon ..biggerin MY weapon?"
"kin I borrow your radar gun?"
"Wifey complains constantly ...."slow down!" "I ain't satisfied yet!"
"Be a pal, stop in , bring your two GUNS thar, impress the wife!"
"Handcuffs!!"....."NOW...I'm TURNED ON!!"
"Whats..that?......solicititing PROSTITUTION??"
"KNOW ANY?" "You guys get around!" | |
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Posted: 3/31/2008 5:28:18 PM | | I have no problem talking about sex in an intimate situation. My biggest peeve is when someone askes me if I want to chat and then three sentences later is asking what size my breasts are and whats my favorite sexual position. I dont feel that is something that I would share with a total stranger. I mean really would any man walk up to a strange woman somewhere and say "hi my name is tom and yours? ......... Nice name oh and by the way what size are your breasts and what is your favorite sexual position? | |
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